Here are some clever ways intelligent people deal with difficult and toxic people. Toxic people seem to thrive on drama. Many of them derive satisfaction from creating chaos everywhere they go. While others are completely unaware of the negative impact they have on those around them.
As annoying as it is, dealing with toxic people is something we just have to confront from time to time. It can be tempting to give toxic people the same treatment they give to others, but of course, that never works. That’s why it’s imperative to understand the psychology behind toxic behavior. It’s also important to realize that toxic behavior directed at you doesn’t always contain ill-intentions, anger, or resentment.
One of the best ways to deal with difficult people is to use techniques that are commonly practiced by intelligent people. Yes, toxic people create drama and chaos. But, you don’t have to let them ruin your day, or your life. Practicing the techniques outlined in this video will allow you to handle difficult people more effectively.
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Brainy Dose Presents: 15 Ways Intelligent People Deal With Difficult
And Toxic People Toxic people always seem to cause unnecessary
drama. They’re often the driving force behind a
conflict, they drive down morale in the workplace, and they negatively impact the emotional well-being
of those who have to deal with them. Some are blissfully unaware of the negative
impact that they have on those around them, while others seem to derive satisfaction from
creating chaos and pushing other people’s butt
ons. The worst part is, that it can be tempting
to give toxic people the same treatment they give to others. Of course, this never works. They aren’t capable of much self-reflection,
and turnabout only makes them see themselves as victims. The best way to deal with difficult people
is to use the following techniques, commonly practiced by intelligent people. Number 1 - Set Limits Complainers and negative people are bad news. They wallow in their problems and they want
others to join in, so that
they can feel better about themselves. People often feel pressure to listen to complainers
because they don’t want to be seen as insensitive or rude. But there’s a fine line between lending
a sympathetic ear and getting sucked into their negative emotional spiral. You can avoid this only by setting limits
and distancing yourself when necessary. Just think of it this way: if the complainer
were smoking, would you sit there all day inhaling the second-hand smoke? Probably not. You’d distance yours
elf, and you should
do the same with complainers. Number 2 - Establish Boundaries This is the area where most people tend to
sell themselves short. They feel that because they work or live with
someone, they have no way to control the chaos - this couldn’t be further from the truth. Once you’ve found your way to rise above
a person, you’ll begin to find their behavior more predictable and easier to understand. This will equip you to think rationally about
when and where you have to put up with t
hem, and when you don’t. If you let things happen naturally, you are
bound to find yourself constantly embroiled in difficult conversations. But if you set boundaries and decide when
and where you’ll engage a difficult person, you can control much of the chaos. Number 3 - Ignore In Some Cases Now, before you put this strategy to work,
consider a few factors. You have to learn the dynamics of ignoring
a toxic person. A toxic individual craves attention all the
time, even when it’s an occasion to
celebrate another person or their accomplishments. They will get loud, and they will interrupt
other people. That said, if you choose to ignore them, make
sure there are plenty of other people around, because sometimes, if you’ve been submissive
to the toxic person for a long time, and you find yourself alone with them, then ignoring
them will not work. You can only ignore toxic people when you
are in public, because in public they tend to hide aggressive retaliation, so they are
less likely to
become angered for being ignored. Number 4 - Don’t Share Secrets With Gossipers Toxic people will share deep secrets with
others just to seem momentarily interesting, and they will frequently judge or gossip about
people behind their backs. If you meet somebody who does this, do not
be fooled into thinking that they are gossiping with you because they like you or trust you. They will just as easily betray your trust. Toxic people will often talk to you about
someone, in the hopes that you will a
gree with them. Then, they will go and tell the other person
what you said. This creates friction between two people,
leaving the toxic person in control. It’s a divisive and manipulative method
of gaining friends or power in a social group - don’t fall for it. Number 5 - Recognize And Ignore Insults Toxic people love to insult others, and they
do this in a subtle way. People like this, will attempt to disguise
insults with compliments. They will say things like “I’d never have
the confidence to
wear that.” Or “You do well when you try”. Although these may sound like kind statements,
they are dropping little seeds of doubt in your mind by putting conditions on your capabilities. Learn to hear the truths behind the veil of
compliments, and then ignore them. You will know you have grown, when you actually
laugh at what they say. But just be careful, because laughing tends
to make them angry. Number 6 - Allow Liars To Trip Themselves
Up Toxic people will often lie compulsively,
not just t
o others, but to themselves. They will often perform mental gymnastics
to convince themselves that their lies are reality. Recounting a true event is relatively easy,
but lies are actually very hard to keep up. Keeping track of a bunch of made up stories
is difficult, and liars end up exposing themselves over time, by contradicting themselves with
other lies. Number 7 - Don’t Fall Prey To Pity Toxic people use pity, as another form of
manipulation. They even make their victims feel bad for
final
ly standing up for themselves. Intelligent people are able to recognize self-pity
and the unique way that it’s used by toxic people. I’m not saying that it’s horrible to feel
sorry for yourself at times, but what I AM saying is that toxic people use this as a
way to regain control. They will continue to blame others for all
the issues in their life, as long as there’s someone willing to listen to them. Avoiding self-pitying people and refusing
to justify their apathy will stop you from being suc
ked into their world of self-perpetuating
failure. Number 8 - Stand Up To Bullies While most decent people will help the helpless,
defend the vulnerable, and assist those who need it, toxic people prey on anybody they
consider to be weak. It could be somebody who’s a little shy,
socially awkward, or even somebody who lacks physical prowess. Toxic people will bully and take advantage
of anybody who they think won’t stand up to them, which is why it’s so crucial to
stand up to bullies - not just f
or yourself, but for others around you. Standing up to bullying is perhaps the most
important way of handling a toxic person. Number 9 - Stay Aware of Emotions You can’t stop someone from pushing your
buttons if you don’t recognize when it’s happening - maintaining emotional distance
requires awareness. Sometimes you’ll find yourself in situations
where you’ll need to regroup and choose the best way to move forward. When it comes to dealing with a toxic person,
it’s very important to assess and
know your emotional state. This way, if you are really on edge, you can
avoid contact - rather than being pushed into a reaction that you will regret. Number 10 - Focus On Solutions, Not Problems Toxic people are often the first to place
blame when something goes wrong. They do this to free themselves from having
to make any effort to right the wrong. It’s very easy to hate stuff and blame people,
but it’s much harder to make changes. Intelligent people will dodge the power of
a toxic person by
looking for a solution to a problem, rather than just focusing on the
guilty party. When you help to make something right - whether
you had anything to do with it or not, it shows that you are compassionate, protective
and loyal – and this will always beat toxic people. Number 11 - Squash Negative Self-Talk Sometimes you absorb the negativity of other
people. There’s nothing wrong with feeling bad about
how someone is treating you, but your self-talk can either intensify the negativity, or help
you move past it. Negative self-talk is unrealistic, unnecessary,
and self-defeating. It sends you into a downward emotional spiral
that is difficult to pull out of. Make a conscious effort to avoid negative
self-talk at all costs. Number 12 - Spend Time With Loyal Friends It’s important to develop a strong support
network of loyal and trustworthy people. Intelligent people know that they don’t
have to be everybody’s friend, and not everybody is deserving of their friendship. In turn, they rewar
d their friend’s loyalty
and trust by showing that it works both ways. True friendship and fidelity is one of the
rarest and most valuable commodities you will ever have in life, so don’t allow this to
be corrupted by toxic, negative and untrustworthy people. Number 13 - Don’t Waste Energy On Pointless
Conflict Some toxic people have a need to start conflict
with anybody who is willing to accept their invitation to argue. Even worse, there is often no point to the
arguments that toxic people sta
rt. There is no desire to have a healthy debate
or to come to a consensus – and intelligent people are quick to recognize this. Your best response is to simply disengage
or to ignore the attempts altogether. Number 14 - Stay Goal-Oriented Toxic people can be very distracting. They can cause you to lose mental and emotional
focus when they create drama or cause problems. Do your best to shake it off. Instead, keep steering things back to your
goal, or the problem that needs to be solved. Toxic pe
ople are many things, but most of
them are not stupid, and once they realized you are unaffected by them, they will typically
back off. Number 15 - Remember The Right To Be Happy It is fully within your rights to be a happy
person who associates with emotionally healthy people - regardless of whatever reasons a
toxic person has for their behavior. While it’s nearly impossible to ignore what
others think of you, you don’t have to compare yourself to others, and you can always take
people’s opinio
ns with a grain of salt. This way, no matter what toxic people are
thinking or doing, your self-worth comes from within. Dealing with toxic people is something we
all have to confront in our lives from time to time. These individuals seem to find a way of worming
their way into people’s lives, and creating drama and chaos in order to manipulate others
to suit their needs. But, you don’t have let them ruin your life
and hinder your progress! Implementing these techniques will allow you
to handle
difficult and toxic people more effectively, and decrease the likelihood of
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Comments
The worst thing is when the members of your close family are toxic.
someone told me I was ugly and I responded with "thanks, you look great today!" the look of regret on her face was priceless lmao
To deal with toxic people. I have learned to NOT take things personally ; to always think that whatever the other person says or does - good or bad - is a reflection of themselves and has nothing to do about you.
-Establish boundaries -Ignore them -Dont share secrets with them
What I learned is Happiest people don't have the best of everything they just make the best of everything ♡
1) emotionally disengaged from them 2) minimum conversation 3) ignore them
Surrounded by toxic people can lead to anxiety and depression on long run, especially when u are a sensitive person
When it comes to friends, focus on quality not quantity!
Cutting connection to my toxic best friend is the best thing I did in my life. No more anxiety just peace of mind ❤️
I agree with this video 100%! Toxic people cause drama and chaos. That's why I keep my social circle VERY small now and I'm much happier!
I have learned to ignore them and distance myself from them and they will eventually back off. Don’t give anyone a satisfaction to ruin your day. They don’t worth your time. Life is too short to be unhappy.😁💕
This kind of stuff needs to be taught in schools. Knowledge is power. I had no clue my ex was a gaslighting narcissistic psychopath. Life skills!
Toxic people can make you toxic too. Best to avoid them when you can.
I was friends with 3 toxic people. I decided to be alone than to be with them. I found a group of healthy friends. I am very happy and relieved today Edit: it's been a year since I wrote this comment and I really didn't expect to get any attention but I am glad for the people that responded and for everyone that took the time to read everything (the silent majority) 😂
LOVE THIS! YOU FORGOT ONE 8. DON'T ALLOW TOXIC PEOPLE TO MANIPULATE YOU INTO THINKING YOU'RE "THE TOXIC PERSON NOT THEM" BY GETTING ENGAGED IN THEIR OWN SELFISH NEED TO CREATE A GUILT TRIP ON YOU!!!!
Someone once told me "A bully is actually a coward" and it was some of the best advice that ever helped me, I wrote it on a piece of paper and put it in my pocket- used it to stand up to them and then there came the day that I didn't need it anymore!
I have toxic relatives in my immediate and extended families. I do my best to keep physical, emotional, and spiritual distance. My inner peace and my spirit deserve to be in equilibrium. 🥰🙌🏾🙏🏾🎯❤️
I have learned that when family member(s) are toxic, always make me feel bad, I put myself first to maintain my dignity and sanity. I don't retaliate yet I keep my distance as much as possible. If they call every now and then I am cordial but soon as they start gossips, insults, becoming negative, etc., I end the conversation quickly.
Stay away from anyone who can't say anything nice about anyone. Just stay away from them.
"Toxic people always seem to cause unnecessary drama" absolutely right statement my mother does this which i don't like.