A Black Woman's Guide to Anger

your anger wants to protect you your anger wants  Justice your anger shows that you are human that you are sensitive that you have hope and a better  expectation than what currently is Hello beautiful people and welcome my name is Alicia reice and I'm  so happy that you are here and today we're going to be talking about anger apparently everybody  in the whole wide world is allowed to be angry except for black women we know this we know that  when people want to disrespect black women one of the

first things that they say is you're angry  if a woman expresses her passion or her frustra or her sorrow right the first thing people do to  Discount black women is call them angry first I want to shout out Marissa price thank you Marissa  price and I got a chance to hang out last week and she gifted me this button of Audrey Lord now  Audrey Lord is one of my favorite authors so far um she has written this book that I have  fallen in love with called sister Outsider and towards the end I'm goi

ng to share some uh some  of her writings with you to express how she feels about anger but the first thing I want to say is  something that I've written and so I want to sh that with you your anger wants to protect you  your anger wants Justice your anger shows that you are human that you are sensitive that you  have hope and a better expectation than what currently is so anger could anger not anger is one  of those emotions that people judge as bad and I have a problem with that because anger

just like  sadness or sorrow or Joy or frustration or hope all of these feelings are valid and all of them  have their time in place could it be that anger is a place of hope could it be that anger that  you feel angry because you know what could be versus what is right and so the first thing that  I wrote down in my journal was I am angry because I am kind my anger shows my kindness my anger  shows that I care about people and I feel like it should make anyone upset when we see someone  being h

armed or ridiculed or dragged through the mud right anybody who is being treated um unfairly  like it should call us to anger because we are kind because we care about people right and so  we like to flatten anger as if it's this just this like onedimensional emotion when really  anger is a layer of a lot of things anger is like an onion right like we see the whole thing  we say this is anger but what is underneath right anger I would like to say is even a pearl right  anger is a jewel to me ang

er is something that is so precious because it could be used for good but  like it starts with an irritant right we know that oysters to to create pearls um organically oysters  might have like an irritating sand uh granule in their in their flesh and so they build this like  this hard shell around that sand and then that's how you get pearls right I think that anger for  black women are pearls or something so precious that could be used for good and for beauty but  because black women are often

put to the sides and seen as less than human we don't get the right  to be angry black women don't get the right to be angry unless our anger is used for somebody else  but we'll talk about that soon so under underneath of my anger what is there there is sorrow there  is despair there's righteousness um there's care there's concern there's hurt there's empathy fear  a desire for justice a desire for repair right kindness at the center of my anger is kindness  humans have complicated feelings an

d I think that sometimes we again use anger to shut people down  to say they're just an angry person when really this person is a hurt person this person is a  is a marginalized person um this person is a forgotten person this person is an abused person  right and we instead of looking at the situations surrounding their anger the situations that make  them angry in the first place we look straight to them and say you're a problem because you're  making all of us uncomfortable when we should be

uncomfortable right I think that again we've  gotten to this place where we are so like focused on ourselves we're so like individualized that we  don't we don't care about other people and other people's plights we don't even care about how our  existence and the way that we move throughout the world affects other people right we love to be  ignorant to the harm that we cause we like to be ignorant to the harm that's around us because  then that would call us to action if we are made aware of t

he ills of the world then at some point  we become responsible for what we are or are not doing and So to avoid doing those things to  make it better we just determine that people are angry and angry people don't get Justice  angry people don't get kindness angry people don't get Grace especially if that anger shows  up in a black woman's body we know that from personal experience black women are often seen  as a few a few archetypes right the Angry Black Woman the bitter black woman right and a

ll of  these things are very ugly in their description because it dehumanizes her it takes her Humanity  away no one wants to talk about why she's angry we only talk about the fact that she is angry as  if it's a bad thing and it is not a bad thing in the in the world's eyes black women don't get  to be angry because black women don't get to be human black women don't get to show up as a full  human black women are only seen for what they can provide for other people right like in the eyes  of m

en in the eyes of the white gays right black women are seen as people used to get their message  ahead their things ahead right so even when I talk about people love calling black women angry but  when injustices occur who are the first people they call on when things happen who do they look  to if we are too quiet in their mind black folks and specifically black women so they own so they  they honor they honor the fact that we have anger that gets things done that gets things moving  when it's

beneficial to them but when a black woman calls back her anger and her power as  something sacred to be used for herself then we're deemed as inhuman you know what I'm saying  as something unhuman right so anyway it's only helpful our anger is seen as helpful and lovely  when it's convenient for other people when it doesn't Rock the Boat too much when it doesn't  disturb other people's peace when other people don't feel called to action right that's the only  time that a black woman gets to be a

ngry but when a black woman speaks about everything like all  the things that are wrong with the world oh shut up black women like you're just bitter blah blah  blah because they're using that to silence us it's the same tricks different year same thing we know  that when a black woman is called difficult for me it's code for me when people say that black  women are difficult I I feel a way because I'm not quick to judge a black woman as difficult but  if she's difficult because she's trying to

do what is right then okay what's the problem if if if if  the difficulty is her fighting for what's right of course it's going to be difficult for people who  don't want to do what's right like who is calling her difficult and why what is the situation  around it because people are too comfortable with calling black women difficult because  we know that that seals it for them once you label a black woman difficult it's over it's over  whether professionally relationally it's a kiss of death tha

t a lot of people use to be able to  silence black women right but I will be difficult I don't mind being difficult I said I won't I I'll  be difficult if it means my anger reminds you of your Humanity like you're uncomfortable because  I'm angry because of something you did to me good good you're supposed to be uncomfortable you're  supposed to be uncomfortable and consider like huh what could I have done differently or let's  have a dialogue let's discuss let's try to find common ground but pe

ople don't want to do that  people don't want to be wrong right so anything in the way of people being right in their own eyes  they're going to see as difficult they're going to see as a burden they're going to see as like  a bitter a bitter angry black woman when really this black woman just wants Justice or reparation  or repair so if me being difficult remind you of empathy and your Humanity if me being difficult  gets me the results that I need and want and desire so be it I will be difficu

lt right and if  it makes it more difficult to be complicit with harm for you then good we should like there's  a level of comfort that we have here in the west where we are able to shut off any bad news  like we're able to turn off the TV we're able to to close our phone or scroll to some other app  we're able to be anywhere but Anywhere But Here we're able to consider other things which is  not necessarily a bad thing but sometimes we become apathetic our comfort turns into apathy  we don't ca

re about other people we don't care about other people so we to conserve energy  we will say that somebody is difficult without considering like actually what's happening here  maybe maybe she's not being difficult maybe the system is corrupt maybe the system is wrong from  the start maybe the way that we operate things can be like you know scaled back and built up again  right but nobody wants to consider that because nobody wants to be bothered that's the problem  and I want to say something t

o black women black women we have to understand that the world does  not see us as human and I wish that we would stop begging for the world to see us as human because  they have made up their minds they've dug their heels into the sand and and have decided that  we are not human right and this is scary this is scary especially when we're going into Fields  like the workplace or we're going into the medical field right we're going to go get service and  to go you know um deliver children or like

go in for an OBGYN appointment where people don't  really care about our bodies and and the way that we feel and the way that we show up in them or  how our bodies operate or how the trauma that we experience impact our health right like there are  people who are out there like set on discounting black women because they don't see us as human  and it's scary and I understand the the the call that we feel to like convince other people of our  humanity and in those situations yes advocate for you

rself advocate for one another like scream like  hell Raise Your Voice like do what you got to do I don't care if they call you angry right because we  need safety we need justice so when we when we go into the world we have to go into the world sadly  understanding that this world that I'm going into this field probably doesn't see me as human and so  sometimes we expect people to label us as angry so then we get try to get ahead of it right we try to  be like oh I don't want to rock the boat t

oo much I don't want to be difficult I don't want to you  know I don't want to say too much because we know that that the pressure is on us unlike any other  gender and race to be anything but difficult like if we are at all difficult or inconvenient right  if we raise our voice and demand hey actually can you go back and recheck this can I get a referral  for this thing right we're seen as difficult people literally like sigh and roll their eyes  like them doing their job for us is a problem so

I walk through the world very aware that the  world does not value me does not value me and I also understand that I don't value the world I  don't the way that West operates I don't value how this world operates and so I understand that if I  am going to be something that pushes against the system then I probably won't be as supported as  I want to be by the outside world however there's a whole bunch of angry black women who are out  here like lighting it all up setting it on fire burning it

down to rebuild or building their  own things right there're they're black women building birthing centers or black women becoming  duelist shout out to tea time Beauty like seeing the disparities right in the birth in The Birth  Community like oh actually let me let me meet that need and and it's amazing because like even that  like that can be sourced from anger because at the heart of it anger we keep saying like anger is  a second emotion right it's a secondhand emotion what is underneath of

that anger that sorrow that  empathy that that fear and so when we feel like I am I am empowered to do something or to tell  someone about it I'm going to use this anger for fuel and so I don't see anything wrong with  that I see nothing wrong with the black woman being angry if it means saving lives including  her own right not like black women's anger keeps being used for other people's profit black  women's even even with the talking of black women the disparaging of black women you're still

using  black women's likeness and their passion and their fire for gain you're prostituting black women  you're pimping you're pimping black women and their likeness for money and fame right like or  attention or whatever the heck you're seeking but yes like you have to honor and recognize that  the black woman is sacred because y'all can't keep your mouths off of her you can't keep your  eyes off of her you try your hardest to control her and condemn her and to shame her but what if  black wom

en were unashamed what if we knew all of that that the world sees us as this and even  still we show up and we take up space if we can if it's safe right what if black women were  unashamed of being them what if black women said to each other you know what we don't fit in  this and good we don't fit in this awful society and wonderful because at the root of a black  woman's anger is love it is love it is care it is righteousness who wouldn't benefit from that  medicine anger can be medicine can

be medicinal anger can heal anger is like fire I liken it to  fire right because it feels fiery to me um anger like you can feel the the the heat rise in your  body you can feel your blood pressure raising you know like you feel like sometimes you sweat or you  raise your voice it's just a heightened emotion right fire can be used to burn down things fire  can be used to burn someone fire can be used to be destructive absolutely but fire can also be used  to clean fire can also be used to heal f

ire can also be used to disinfect to cook right to warm  there's so many benefits to fire but the problem with the fire is not the fire itself it's how it's  being used right so even with our anger there's nothing wrong with your anger there's nothing  to fix if people are calling you an angry person maybe you just haven't found a way to really  like use that anger for your benefit and the benefit of others because what happens is we're  told to not even touch or see our anger as sacred and so w

e run from it we look down on it we hide  it we suppress it right and there are uh there are physical mental like there are consequences  severe consequences of us bearing our anger and we're going to get to that to that in a second but  when we bury our anger we turn away from it like we should be ashamed of it and so we never learn  it we never listen to it and we never learn how we can use that anger as medicine as something to  heal right as something to heal Society heal the body heal our j

ustice system as something to bring  equality and Equity right and righteousness it's it's it's so frustrating to me because no I want  to stand in the middle of the street and scream and cry but this world the West is telling me be  polite be quiet be ladylike sit don't you want to be like me passive aggressive and like lowkey  burning up in Rage but swallowing it and dying slowly like me no I don't no I don't God gave me  my anger to use God gave me my anger to light some stuff on fire to clea

n some things to burn some  things out right to disinfect some things that's what my anger is here for not for you to feel  comfortable my anger is not here for you to feel comfortable my anger is not here for your comfort  and that's the thing black women are seeing as people to be here for people's Comfort if we if  we talk about a lot of us like have a history of being of our ancestors being enslaved right  their very being was sent here to bring comfort and ease to white folks who own them a

nd other  folks we're going to whatever to people who own them right to people who said they owned them they  didn't own them but people who enslaved them like their whole being was here to bring convenience  to other people and people have not changed their mind about black women so of course everything we  do is going to be too much of course it's always going to be too loud of course we're always going  to be too opinionated of course we're always going to be too masculine of course we're alw

ays going  to be too angry because they never saw us as human so I need I just want you to sit with the fact  that you being called angry is not your fault it never was there's nothing wrong with you everybody  should be angry and you being angry is proof that you still are in touch with your humanity and and  you're in touch with like the nature of what you know is right and wrong that's a beautiful thing  not everybody can say that not everybody leaves here unscathed with their emotions intact

you  know what I'm saying because some people close off their emotions because it's too much to bear  I understand it sometimes the weight of the world is too much to bear so we pretend that it's that  nothing's happening we we we cope with things we get along with things and even how people have  turned cope into like a phrase to be insulting it's like we're all coping you calling you you  saying someone's coping is how you cope with whatever they're saying it's weird but like that's  we're do

ing the best that we can to survive right and if you have capacity touch that anger get  around people who are angry like you right like I think there is so much Beauty and honesty and  anger and anger so even though the world doesn't see you as human remain human anyway don't let  them take your Humanity away don't let them rob you of your humanity and your kindness don't and  your love and your rage all those things make you human all those things uh show that you care you  know so the benefit

s of Rage what are the benefits of rage right Justice Seeking Justice a lot of the  movements a lot of the acts that were passed were were started with anger like this is not just this  is not right how do we seek righteousness in this how do we seek reparation in this how do we seek  to make this right again right A lot of it starts with anger or frustration or sorrow or empathy  right so the benefits of Rage Justice Seeking Justice peace seeking peace I'm tired of y'all  blowing each other up

I'm tired of it I'm tired of y'all shooting each other up over stupid stuff  I'm tired of it right I'm angry about that and in being angry about that let me seek let me seek  ways of Peace A Kinder Society a Kinder Society is created when people are angry enough to change  it right Improvement on anything everything can get better we are not at the like final stage of  anything I mean it could feel like it but we're not at the final stage of anything as long as we  got breath and we hear we can

always improve and so it Grieves me when people are always talking  about like oh well that's just the way of the world that's just is what it is nothing is ever  is just what it is everything is always changing everything is always moving and also where is your  imagination you're don't insult yourself like this like this is all there is this is all that will  ever be when has that ever been true everything is always changing why can't we change things for  the good why must why must we give up

our hope and our dreams and set hope to the side and allow  evil and just like evil things make way and eat up everything right people talk about rage like  it's a sin it's a gift it's a spiritual gift rage is a spiritual gift the church the workplace it's  never convenient like everybody will always say like this is not convenient to talk about right  now this is not the issue when is it going to be the issue there have been a lot of um protests  that I've been seeing lately checking the time

there have been a lot of protests that I've been  seeing lately um where people are protesting uh in you know government buildings and asking for  ceasefire on Palestine right like ceasefire right and at every one of these Junctions especially  here in the DMV it's always like this is not the right time or the place what do you want us to do  some what do you want us to do about it speak do something don't sit there with your hands in your  pockets like you don't have no power we voted you into

a position of power and you're not using it  for power you're using it to make other people comfortable I have thoughts on our government  I'll keep them to myself for now but you they can do something if the citizens who literally  have no power like you can do something like they say like oh well no one's going to no one's  going to listen to you being disruptive that's the whole point honey the whole point is to be  disruptive the whole point is to wake us up to the reality of the world we're

sitting here  in this bubble of delusion the angry people the people holding up the signs the people caring  the people lighting themselves on fire right like ooh such a such a heavy thing to sit with right  such a heavy act what what a decision to to get like what what was a process to make that decision  all of that comes from Rage and anger and despair and sorrow and caring about other people just  generally you know what I'm saying but they're making it seem like you're a weak person you're

  out of order for busting in here with your signs and your messages with your signs and your  messages asking for people to stop killing people this is a rough time we're living in I I  really don't get it I don't get it um who does it serve to swallow my rage that's one thing that  I asked myself who does it serve to swallow my rage not me not the people that I care about not  even the people who don't want to hear my rage me leaving you in this bubble of like nothing  matters everything's fin

e when the world is on fire like why would I leave you in a burning house  house to die alone like if if I'm in a house with somebody who is pretending that the house is not  on fire and it's on fire they're in danger right somebody has to sound the alarm somebody has to  get the people out of bed some people somebody got to wake the people up or else you're going to  burn in that house what is the difference what is the difference of somebody coming in and saying  hey your house is on fire and

what do they say to them this is not the right time get out of here  with your with your anger and your rage too much energy calm down like that's that's the reality  that people want to live in it is an act of love to listen to someone's anger and help them to  relieve it it is an act of love to listen to someone's anger and then to help them relieve it  right that is love that is care that is justice so if a person comes to you and says someone  stole my wallet we'll use that as an example is

it my job to be like stop being so angry  you know God's going to give you what you want don't don't make a big fuss of it like no like no  you're you're putting the weight of everything on the victim here right what would be better is I  am so sorry that happened let's let me help you cancel your cards I'll take you to the MVA or the  DMV depending on where you are to get you a new license um let's go back to the place and see if  anybody's found it like that's how you help not by telling them

to shut down and be quiet it it is  an act of love to behold someone's fire and rage and care enough to try to do something about it to  try to at least to at least hold them to at least affirm to them that yes things are things are  upsetting that yes something is wrong right not trying to convince them to not be angry that's  not love that's you trying to make your life convenient for you like that's not love that's  not care meanwhile they're burning up swallowing fire burning themselves up f

rom the inside out  because they have no safe place to express their anger no safe place to like metabolize their anger  to confine that fire in places that are beneficial because you're telling them that anger itself is  wrong a way to Joy can be through anger working through anger you can get to Joy and you get to  Joy right you're joyful for the people who walked with you through this fire who held your hand  through the fire who showed you how to manipulate this fire to use it for good right

and a joyful  experience at the end when reparation is found when things are made right and just right and new  like we can get to Joy but first sometimes we have to go through our rage and our anger sometimes  we got to tear everything down off the shelves we got to see what's here and it's a mess at first  right it's messy it's inconvenient we're stepping over things it just feels cluttered but when you  see everything you have when you see everything there then you can make an educated opini

on or an  educated uh decision excuse me based on what you see but if you never see it if you pretend that  it's not there it's just going to be taking up mental space in the back of your head it's going  to be eating away at your body right right so the way to a more joyful and open and happy life is  sometimes through rage and anger and it sucks nobody wants to be angry being angry is not fun  right being angry alerts is to something being wrong um in in a way that we've been or somebody  else

that we've seen has encountered Injustice right so being angry is not fun right the process  of even working through anger sometimes is not fun confronting people dismantling systems starting  over burning things down making pivots like that is difficult but on the other other side of that  is Beauty on the other side of that is Joy on the other side of that is love you know so yes so  anger can be very frustrating to deal with but it is our teacher just like you have a car with a  lot of thing

s on the dashboard trying to tell you what's wrong with your car your anger is letting  you know you've been wronged in some way something is not fair something is not right you know what I  mean and we need that because we live in a country where we're constantly being gas lit our anger  is reminding us of our Humanity because this this culture wants us to lose our Humanity wants  us to lose touch with the fact that we know what is right and wrong this country gaslights us into  thinking that i

t's us we're the problem we don't know what we're talking about our anger reminds  us girl you know what you're talking about I don't care what none you might not be able to name it  or put your hand on it but you know something is wrong you know something is wrong it's hard being  an angry black woman when your anger is swept away and discounted because it's assumed that this is  your original default so maybe black women have a lot to be angry about that was my response like  it's annoying to

be a black woman in this culture and have nobody believe anything you're saying  because they think we're we're born angry let's pretend that that's true right let's pretend  that we're born angry does that mean that there are things to be angry about that black women  are angry about like what exactly are we saying so let's say that black women have been angry  since childhood that means there are things that are enraging in our life since childhood shout  out to Mera price did a video about bl

ack girl depression and how our depression symptoms show  up very different than other people right and so some people might be saying that a black woman is  angry when really she is worn out she is depleted she is depressed she has no capacity she is at  capacity when you're at capacity Let's Pretend this bottle is full right and I like to use this  example so you're at capacity right anything that jostles you you're going to spill over it's going  to be overwhelming it's going to be too much r

ight but if you have some space I can shake this around  in a top and I can shake this around and nothing spills out cuz I have I have capacity I have  margin a lot of black women don't have margin a lot of black women are living on their margin so  yes if you say something sideways to a black woman if you talk to her when she doesn't want to talk  to anybody because she's stressed out you might get an attitude if a black woman is depressed but  she is not given language for her depression nor i

s she allowed to be depressed because who was  going to take care of anybody right because it's often left on the black woman to do everything  of course she's going to come off as angry of course she's going to explode like black women are  human I don't understand like I don't understand you give black women the weight of the world  you constantly tell black women they're ugly they're not enough that they are you know the  worst of the worst and you expect black women to take it on the chain a

nd be like okay fine  great it doesn't work that way black women are humans with feelings and you're not upset that  a black woman is angry you're upset that a black woman is holding you accountable for what you did  said didn't do that's that's the real Pro again that that this whole system is so abusive this  whole system is abusive telling us that we're the problem and we're the problem because we won't  shut up and go along with it maybe black women are prophets maybe black women know a bett

er way and  y'all just need to listen to them maybe that's what's going on because What's Happening Now  doesn't seem to be working doesn't seem to be working very well some of the stress comes from  oppression the world telling us to suppress our rage I will not rage in ways that are comfortable  to you that's that's one affirmation I wrote down I will not rage in ways that are comfortable to  you when I go to the place when when people are showing up um protesting these these government  offic

ials in these in these buildings they're not asking for your permission I don't know if you  know what protesting is they're not asking for your permission they're not asking hey do you  like us is it okay if we can we can we squeeze in here with our with our signs and our is this no  like that doesn't make any sense like we're trying to wake you up we're trying to wake you up and  so I will not rage in ways that is comfortable to you I will not burn myself to death trying to  make you comfortab

le I will not swallow the rage that you have given me that you have inspired to  make you comfortable that doesn't make any sense that doesn't make any sense I'm not doing that  in way I'm not here to make you comfortable or to give you peace that that's not because if you're  at peace with the subjugation of others or the domination of others or the destruction of others  that's not peace that's like that's you being a stist that's not peace man that's apathy that's  not peace like we got to st

op calling things what it's not peace for me is knowing that people  are well right and I do have like internal peace but I know that other people are not living  peaceful lives and I can do something about it and so I try to do something about it right  um my rage is not here to make you comfortable but to inspire you to consider and change and  that starts with you being uncomfortable so yes my rage my anger a black woman's anger will  make you uncomfortable because that's the point and if you

're uncomfortable how do you think that  black woman feels why are you centering yourself in anything right like why are they centering  themselves when we're the one that's angry and they like to do this they like to play victim  to to situations that they created they could be anybody put they for whoever like it could be  white folks it could be black folks it could be your cousin and them like but we know those people  who like to push buttons and make people upset who violate people and dis

respect people and then  they want to turn around and be like stop being so angry calm down stop being so mean and no I  won't calm down you not upset enough right cuz my life is not a joke like my rage is not a joke  my rage is a sacred fire my rage doesn't have to cause harm but it will cause discomfort that's the  point like it makes me uncomfortable right and it causes me to act sometimes I feel the passion in  my throat I have to speak I have to say something like it's uncomfortable for me

cuz sometimes I  don't want to speak sometimes I don't want to be involved but I can't not it would be selfish  of me to not do say something if I feel called to do say something right my rage is medicine  your rage is medicine your rage is medicine it inspires healing from a sick world right and we  have benefited from other people's rage like I talked about earlier all the ad like all the Civil  Rights all the Civil Rights protests like we have benefited from other people's rage sister Outside

r  I've benefited from this book and I've benefited from Audrey Lord's rage and I cannot wait to  read her words about rage because I felt this way and and to me Audrey Lord is an elder to me  like she is somebody that I look up to she's no longer here um but with her writings I feel like  I'm being mentored right because she's giving me language for what I've always felt but she's so  eloquent and basically like there are uses for rage when I read that essay I felt seen I felt  like somebody ge

ts what I've been trying to say I mean granted she wrote this like a long time  ago I'm benefitting from her rage from this book I'm benefiting from her sorrow her experiences in  life I'm benefiting from Bel hooks's experiences in life I'm benefitting from like so many I'm  looking at all these authors that I have on my bookshelf like so many of these people wrote  books because of their discomfort because of their sorrow to reach back to help other people like  me people they will never meet r

ight like we've benefited from other people's rage right writers  and revolutionaries radicals went off the Angela davises the Gil Scott Harens right like like those  those are the people that we look up to and we the Malcolm X's that that we wear on t-shirts and all  these other things but we don't honor their rage Martin Luther King is somebody that that I hate  seeing used in media because we always paint him as like this docile and peaceful no Martin was  angry when when Martin passed his he

art had aged past the age that he was he had a lot going on  right he's not there are some things but let's stay focused right like the the majority culture  paints him in a way that is so uh dehumanizing because it it takes away his rage and he's his  image and his likeness is being used to try to keep black folks in check but we benefit from  the revolutionaries and the radicals the people who were brave enough to express their rage some  of them died from their rage from from from the work in

spired from their rage right people that we  benefit from even today and I'm forever grateful for them and I use them as permission slips I  use them as a model I use them as as a mentor this is what happens when you put your rage to  good use this is the be these are the beautiful things that could happen when you honor your rage  and your anger this is what is possible like this is what can happen like this is the Beautiful  thing about rage like these are are the people that I'm looking up to

and we should be looking up  to again like a lot of nonprofits in in the area like I live in the DMV area a lot of nonprofits  are started from seeing people being treated like unfairly seeing people being unhoused seeing  people not having access to fresh food right like these things make should make you angry that  systems are set in place to literally cause harm and destruction to people it should make all of  us upset and we should all be doing something to try to make it better something o

r linking up with  someone else who is doing it right adding our fire as fuel to their mission adding our fire even  if you don't want to be on the front lines can you donut donate money donut donate money to that  person on the front line you feel me like can you send them an encouraging word and being like I see  you and and I'm scared to speak out but I'm I'm so grateful for you please don't stop do like people  need to hear that because all day long they're being told their anger is disgusti

ng it's sinful  it's inconvenient that they themselves are whole being doesn't matter doesn't matter everybody gets  to be angry and fight for their thing except for black women specifically I was going to say black  folks but black women specifically like because I even had to pause about that because even within  the black community black men still don't see black women as human so a lot of times we just out  here on our own you know what I'm saying any who any who they want us to be ashamed o

f our passion  and rage and lull us into complacency and apathy respectability they want us to prioritize their  respectability politics above our own Humanity above our own lives they want us to bury ourselves  in that fire they want us to shut up they want that fire to consume us so they have so they can  stop hearing our voices and our complaints and our frustrations they want to lull us into  respectability but we are not angry enough why is it always on the harmed person why is it  always t

he responsibility of the harmed person to remain respectful we talk about respectability  why is it always about trying to appeal to people who are monstrous to people who are evil why are  we trying to appeal to any Humanity in them they obviously don't have any because they created the  system you feel me respectability is not going to get us nowhere CU they don't respect us period  it don't matter they respect us as as long as we make them comfortable they respect us as long  as we don't rock

the boat as long as we don't Center our humanity and our experiences whenever  we Center ourselves and our experiences they get uncomfortable we know people like that whenever  you Center yourself here they come with like here they come with something to like try to Humble  you or bring you down and then they get upset with you for being upset no no no more Nas noas  they want us to be ashamed of our passion and rage and lull us into complacency and apathy and  respectability and respectability

it's a lot of passive aggression that happen passive aggression  is how they get along it's like everybody's playing a game of pretend like you're not going to  outrightly say that you hate me but you're going to create systems to remind me that you hate me  you're not like they do so much work you're not going to tell me that you don't value me or  my presence at your um company or your office you're just going to underpay me and overwork  me right or bully me out of that situation it's never

they're not direct and I think that a lot  of like white folks call black folks aggressive because black folks are generally direct black  folks gonna tell you what they what they feel what they what they got to say they're not going  to [ __ ] foot around the issue right they're going to be blunt and direct with you which is  Honorable and beautiful but because they are so passive aggressive and they like to do underhanded  stuff they like for their evil to not be so in your face they're going

to make you the problem  that's it they're going to make you the problem because you dare speak out because you dare be  brave because you dare have self-confidence like that's how this game is played so you're not going  to this game you're not and I and I honestly I'm I'm torn because I understand the appealing right  because lives are being lost for women not seeing being being seen as human black women not being  seen as human but on the other side I yearn for a day where we don't have to pr

ove anything  to these people because they not going to get it anyway they not going to get it anyway and we  can show better than we can say right we can say all day long but they're not they're not taking  our word seriously you know what I mean and I wish that we would stop I wish we didn't live in a  society where we like we had to plate and you know play small and stroke Egos and be respectable when  people are dying why do I have to be respectable for telling you to stop killing people apa

thy  won't save us you pretending not to be angry won't save you you hiding your rage won't save  you we need to alchemize our anger into medicine love kindness Justice healing which we do you you  don't you don't get you don't get kindness Without Anger you don't get love without rage they're  all lovers rage is a lover anger is a lover is a love emotion it's not a negative anger is a  love emotion because your anger loves you when we feel angry when somebody wrongs us right we  know that our a

nger loves us and our anger wants Justice and righteousness our anger wants us to be  honored and to be valued and seen and when we are not those things or respected right then our anger  Rises up because somebody's doing something wrong to me so even like this as I'm learning to like  love myself more or learning how to love myself there are inklings there that I do love myself  even when I feel like I don't love myself yes you do yes you do because when you get angry when  somebody treats you

wrong that's love that's love when somebody stands up for someone else that is  an act of love and care and kindness right but we need to alchemize our anger not ignore it not  pretend it's not there not look down on it use it for goodness we are powerful and they know  that they know that that's why they don't want black women to feel our rage because they know  that if we put our rage together we going to put that into medicine that heals the world honey the  world black women are not set on t

rying to destroy we're trying to destroy the systems for sure okay  black women are upset because we want people to be treated well we want people to be loved we want  Justice we want righteousness we want Equity we want we want love and care that's why black women  are angry that's why black women want a fair shot but like all like that's why I'm just like so  um inspired by all the black women that I follow right on my journey um here's a prime example Dr  kimman Dr kimman um has a channel Dr

kimman is on Mission and Marissa price are on Mission to and  also other black women by the way are on mission to save black women from toxic jobs because of  the harm that they've experienced on their job so this is what I mean right that anger that they  talk about the being unseen the being forgot about or used or exploited or you know they um they  talk about coming in and how they use you as a diversity hire but actually we don't care about  your your um your ideas you're just here to fill

a placement right that feeling that feeling  is hurtful and harmful and it inspires anger and rage and what have these women done with it  they're putting on a whole they're putting on a whole Summit to help black women get free from  toxic jobs start their own jobs be inspired by other black women who got free who are healing  right like that's what I mean using anger as medicine and not just for yourself but for other  people that's what black women have the power to do and it's beautiful to w

itness because black  women can be healing their own stuff going through their own stuff and one thing they going to do  is bring black women with them that's one one thing black women will do right and I don't know  if it's like the best thing but we all we got we know that and so when we are awakened to an idea  we share it like just like this video I'm sharing with you hoping that you will befriend your anger  and not despise her anymore not be enemies with her anymore not see yourself as les

s than anymore  because some person who was out of touch with her own Humanity calls you unhuman like calls you  anything but human for being angry anything but holy anything but sacred right so that is that is  the power of our anger the power of black women's rage it's amazing so yes you want a black women  to be loving and kind and generous you don't get any of that without Rage or anger you don't get to  cut black women in half and tell them what parts of them are holy and sacred and what pa

rts are  not all of them is Holy and sacred all of them was given to them to be used for love for medicine  for care to bring righteousness to this world like you don't get to have it your way like women are  not here to be fashioned into ways that you want them to be women are here to be powerful and to  be purely and holy themselves not who you think they should be they come already fit with who  they are we we learn to hate ourselves we learn to disrespect ourselves we learn to distrust  ours

elves and even our anger right we learn to make enemies of parts of ourselves and wonder  why we feel so fragmented and broken and broken off right because other people have taught us  to hate those parts of ourselves but what if we actually what if we actually encouraged those  parts of ourselves if we sat and just listened to our anger what would your anger say what would  your anger say would your anger say I am so sorry that that those people keep harming you and I  hate that they keep harmi

ng you please use me let me fight for you what is your anger saying  I'm so tired of people being mistreated and not caring about people being mistreated let me give  you words use me for your voice use me in your music use me in your art use me as fuel to tell  the truth like what is your anger sit with your anger today for a second anger what do I'm sorry  that I that I have dismissed you and have ruled you as Unholy and as not sacred and fearful I'm  sorry that I have rendered you like unnece

ssary I am so sorry talk to me what are you trying to  tell me what do you need to say what do you need to say yeah yeah they want us to be ashamed of our  passion and rage they want us to be ashamed we we have nothing to be ashamed of nothing nothing  so again why don't they want black women to feel rage because they know we're powerful we're  going to change some stuff we're change makers right they're guilty a lot of people don't want  to hear about your anger because they feel guilty it coul

d be that simple right or they're they're  being complicit in something happening um it's to be a Marissa us this phrase a truth tell to  be a truth teller and to be someone who stands up for people who are either too afraid to stand  up or people who don't value you like standing up for people who other people don't value right  it's going to cost you people will fight you people will drag you down because people are more  comfortable with their complacency than they are with Justice and change

because it would Inspire  them to make change people are comfortable people are comfortable not caring and being apathetic  so you bringing any attention to to True issues like it's going to bring people to you to try to  shut you down because some people feel guilty some people feel like they were complicit they know  will'll burn this whole thing down they want the system to keep going we want to destroy it and  build something better okay so they're going to protect it and and ridicule you a

nd use the names  and you know what I'm saying like whistleblow and all these different things that are very cowardly  like passive aggression is so cowardly passive aggression is so cowardly underhanded things  backhanded compliment so cowardly say it with your whole chest say what you mean but you can't say  what you mean what you mean to say because then I got you so you have to create these Illusions  like the culture we live in creat creates like these these twisted and like augmented and l

ike  what is the word I'm looking for like manipulated realities that are not real but that they're  having us live in to make them comfortable we know that another world is possible shout out to Trisha  hery right we know that another world is possible another reality is possible but they don't want  us to dream they don't want us to create they don't want us to speak out because they know that  we'll burn all this down and make it harder for them because they then have to be a just and kind  a

nd thoughtful and they don't want to do that they they don't want to do that um will'll touch rage  the reason why they don't want us to to befriend our rage is because they know that we will touch  rage and remember the pain that we tried to forget there's a lot of suppressing that we do as black  women to get along because in order to survive sometimes we have to sometimes when we really face  and confront all the things it's overwhelming it's overwhelming it's too much it's too much and so  w

e're just trying to get along so they know that if we touch rage the rage that we we're taught  to forget the rage that we learn to push to the side and ignore and to not see if we touch that  rage will be activated we will remember we will literally remember ourselves put ourselves back  together and that can be a very intense experience right but I think that it's a very necessary  one it's a very necessary one because it reminds us again of what we forgot that medicine that  goodness that lov

e that Justice we been walking around in halves and in fractions trying to be uh  seen as respectable trying to be seen as human to people who don't want to see us as human who don't  want to see us as enough our efforts should be put elsewhere building our own thing where we don't  have to depend on living in a fantasy world and their fantasy like literally is destruction and  death that's their fantasy that's that's their fantasy when we know that our fantasy if if we  have unlearned and our u

nlearning like white supremist culture if we're unlearning um you know  competition and like the dog eat dog world ethics of society of the society we live in we know that  the world that we want to create is beautiful and just and harmonious and healthy and vibrant where  everybody gets to thrive where everybody deserves a chance you feel me like but they don't want  that they want it for them so they want us to buy into their narrative and their limitations  their perceived limitations they cr

eated limit because there are no limitations they just create  limitations they create scarcity they create the idea that things are scarce when they are not they  are in fact abundant abundant and also they've dehumanized us right like black women aren't  allowed to be angry because we weren't seen as people our introduction to this country was not  a Humane one right our black bodies for those of who have enslaved ancestors like myself like our  black bodies were seen as tools not people they

were seen as tools they were seen as vessels to  be used to bring forth somebody else's idea or somebody else's wealth right or wellbeing like  the bodies that created my body were never seen as a human so for us to have emotions for some of  them it's it this sounds wild but for us to have emotions to some of those people like it's like  mind-blowing to them like what you got feelings I thought you like this because we're living in  like we're living under subjection and like oh that's just the

way of the world that's just how  things are are it's interesting people's mind are interesting but yes but rage is the beginning of  Hope let's let's bring let's Circle it back right rage is the beginning of Hope rage is love rage is  kindness rage is care if we use if we were paying attention we'd all be angry if we cared we all  we would all be angry if we loved we would all be angry about something maybe you're not angry about  everything maybe it's too much to be angry about everything but

all of us are upset or angry about  something and all of us have something that we're angry about that we have swallowed and pretended  that that it's not there for the comfort of other people for the sake of Our Own in for the sake of  our own um sanity and well-being right like for the sake of not being not wanting to be perceived  as an angry black woman because we're so afraid of that title we will pretend to be okay with things  we're not okay with we will receive service that is subpar be

cause we're afraid to speak up we will  not get the pay that we want because we're afraid of being black B or um or even like a raise right  we're afraid of being dismissed and being seen as difficult and therefore being put on the list to  be like bullied out of our jobs we're afraid of our anger because when we when we share our anger  it is met with some sort of like repercussion it's met with some sort of like dehumanizing act  ridicule right embarrassment embarrassment but it is the beginni

ng of Hope and humanity and  Humanity ity like maybe you're not wrong maybe you're not losing it maybe maybe we all need to  lose it maybe we all need to like there's a lot of suppressing I feel like the human race does  to pretend that we're okay there's a lot of like there's a lot like when I think of like the human  brain and how it wants to protect us there's a lot of protecting our brain is a lot of shielding our  brain is doing nope Noe NOP no no no too much too much too much what if we li

fted that yo what  might be birthed from that what art might be created what changes might be made in the world  what love might be shared these are the things I dream of and hope for we try so hard to avoid  anger as black women but we all need an angry stage black women need an angry stage black women  need a chance to lose it we need to go to a rage room we need to go to the woods to shout and cry  and scream we need to break some stuff up punch some pillows we need to express our anger in ou

r  rage every black woman needs an angry phase every single one and I feel like when we when we reach  that angry sometimes like that fire that I talked about that fire of our rage burns up anything  that is not pure that fire and rage burns up anything that is fake and false and then now you  have a more purified version of yourself because you've been through the fire because you've been  through the fire and you are now in touch with your soul and who you are and what you expect  what are the

standards right like you're a whole new person every black woman deserves an angry  phase and it's not just because of that right it's also because if we don't have an angry phase  or an angry stage we could die we could die we're talking high blood pressure we're talking diabetes  we're talking high cholesterol right we're talking mental illness we're talking fibroids right we're  talking stress induced illnesses and diseases in our bodies because we refuse to acknowledge the  anger that is tr

ying to keep us safe that anger that you feel at your job is not the anger to  swallow and pretend it's not there that anger is the inspiration to either fight for equality  at your job if you have the capacity or find some place else to go or not give them your all  something in between right whatever you decide that's what your anger and rage is there for not  for you to keep swallowing it every day feeding yourself poison and fire every day thinking  you're not going to get burned like there

are psychological ramifications for swallowing anger  too depression anxiety and again I'm going to put Marissa's um video about black girl depression  below because it's really informative really eye opening and really important for black women  to understand how their mind their psyche their things work like it's not a one-size fo all we  have a different understanding and background than a lot of people here in this country and  so things show up differently and they should be honored and car

ed for and cared for yes so so  holding in that anger and rage is harmful that's my point it's harmful um you get depression  anxiety right um emotions that turn into bodily pain or physical pain right I know people  who have who have autoimmune diseases because of stress in their life I know people whose lives are  completely changed forever because of the stress in their life like your anger you have to you have  to in order to be to I want you to I want you to process your anger because I don

't want you to die  I don't want you to get sick before you realize oh I need to get myself together something's not  right you don't have to you don't have to die angry like you don't have to die because you are  at war with your anger right you don't you don't have to become ill because you refuse to listen to  the anger that is trying to save you I don't want that to be your fate I don't want that to be your  fate and I'm I'm going to include a um I'm going to include a psychology today artic

le below as  well it goes more in depth about like the effects of holding in our anger and what that can do to  our minds and our bodies and our souls and our Spirits your anger is not a vile thing your anger  is an appropriate response to Injustice to people being uncaring or unkind or dismissive disruptive  or IND disrup disrup in a bad way like um not Progressive right like ruining progress like being  dehumanizing being mean and evil like your anger is not the vile thing the vile thing is th

e thing  that caused your anger like that is the thing that is wrong right or how you understand something  that's happening um so like or even like reminding you of things that happened in your past and your  anger not wanting that to happen to you again like your anger is not the enemy the enemy is the  thing that caused the anger in the first place and so like I said earlier a lot of people call  on black women's anger when it's convenient for them they'll be like how come black people haven'

t  spoken out on X Y and Z where are the black women at oh black women have to save the day again so  we're allowed to use our anger for you for your benefit but black women are never allowed to use  their anger for themselves because black women are never seen as them theirselves black women  are never allowed to belong to themselves they are only seen as a tool and that is another way  that black women is are being used as tools their anger is not held as sacred their anger is not  held as som

ething that is beautiful and like holy their anger is is something that people tap into  something that people take take from right to push forth their issues and their problems but when but  black women are always seeing like oh we'll get to that in a second just wait just wait just wait  right so we put everybody else's issues in front of ours and we get buried underneath even I'm  going to say this even with the black lives matter movement right feel however you want to feel about  the moveme

nt the intention behind it I support not a lot of black women got the same uh got the same  amount of attention and care and consideration nor Justice and so even black women using their fire  and their rage for black men and their well-being you still go online today and you see black men  spitting on black women CU they never saw us as holy and sacred so black women are still being  exploited for the beautiful things that they bring into the world including their anger that  they want us to fe

el bad about having why why are you angry go deep ask why I keep saying this ask  why at least seven times okay let's see somebody cuts me off in traffic why am I angry about that  that person could have got me into an accident they put my life in danger because they want to  get to where they're going fast enough why am I upset about that because they think that I am  an NPC they think that I don't have places to be either right they're not taking in consideration  my life my time like my safet

y why am I upset about that cuz that means that you don't see me  as human I feel dehumanized I feel disrespected I feel like you don't care about my sacred life  right or I can also be upset that we live in a society where people feel like they have to rush  to work because if they don't get to work on time they might get fired so they can risk their lives  and lives of other people trying to get to work on time because they're scared their boss is going  to fire them for being five minutes lat

e for Being Human right like so there are different again  there are layers to our anger we just have to reach down and listen to them and take note and  figure okay what can I do maybe in that I can't do anything about that person cutting me off right  but I can breathe let me let me I can acknowledge that that was um that was an act of harm I'm not  going to Gaslight myself I'm not going to I'm not going to tell myself to get over it I'm going to  feel my feelings and be pissed off and process

it and get to the heart right and then I'm going to  refill my will I'm going to get around people who do make me feel seen who do allow me to be human  who do allow me to vent right I might cry who like I'm going to do whatever I need to do but I'm not  going to pretend that I'm not angry just to get along just to be the bigger person just to be a  good Christian whatever you want to like whatever people are you know saying to be respectful and  like that person didn't respect me I'm not I'm n

ot chasing him down I'm not shooting their person's  tires I'm not cussing them out right like but I'm upset and I'm allowed to be upset and you're  allowed to be upset you're allowed to be angry like I said anger is an appropriate response to  harm Injustice ice lies theft unkindness all of it your anger is not wrong sorry plant your anger is  not wrong your anger is not wrong your your anger is alerting you to something else that is wrong  black women are always pressured to be nice and respec

table and pleasant and not intimidating  and so we play this this patriarchal game of like I am just a docile woman I am oh I am not a  threat to you or what like like we we do all this playing around whole time your interview was like  girl I'm pissed stop playing with me you know so like like our anger is looking at us like tell me  how this is working out for you tell me if this is getting you what you want and what you need  being respectable being respectable so earlier I said Audrey Lord o

ne of my faves she has a book  called sister Outsider and in that book she has an essay called the uses of anger women responding  to racism so this essay is about women of color specifically responding to white women and I say  woman of color cuz she says that but also she is a black woman so she talks about her experience as a  black woman as well like responding to white women who do that to her right why are you so angry why  are you so upset calm down can you say it in a in a less aggressiv

e manner can you not talk just  about black women can you also talk include white women no no no she cannot so anyway so I'm going  to read some excerpts from her essay just like thought-provoking things that like resonated with  me like and I have a whole bunch of highlights and stuff so here we go uses of anger responding to  racism so one thing um that she wrote is women respond to racism her anger right she's talking  about her anger my response to racism is anger and it's Justified my fear

of anger taught me  nothing your fear of that anger will teach you nothing also that was so profound to me my fear  of anger taught me nothing and your fear of that anger will teach you nothing also so then in her  essay she reads she lists a bunch of examples of how people have pissed her off essentially in  the space in the feminism space um and just in general in academic spaces and places so one  of the examples she gives is I speak out direct I speak out of direct and particular anger at an

  academic conference and a white woman says tell me how you feel but don't say it too harshly  or I cannot hear you black women we all know what the why are you being so aggressive calm  down stop being so masculine why are you being so intimidating we all know what that feels but  because we're blunt and straightforward and we don't [ __ ] foot around and play them games right  you see me as aggressive she says but it is but is it my manner that keeps her from hearing or the  threat of a messa

ge that her life may change and this is exactly what I was talking about earlier  they're not upset that you're upset they're upset that you're calling them out and they don't want  to change and they don't want to see themselves reflected in the anger that you're expressing  so she says everything can be used except what is wasteful you will need to remember this when  you are accused of Destruction so when you are angry you're going to be accused of Destruction  but everything can be used incl

uding our anger women of color in America have grown up within AIS  within a symphony of anger at being silenced at being unchosen at knowing that when we survive it  is in spite of a world that takes for granted our lack of humanness and which hates our very  existence outside of its service and I say Symphony rather than cacophony because we have had  to learn to orchestrate those furies so that they do not tear us apart Audrey Lord so they do not do  not tear us apart we have to take all that

anger all the ugliness of the world and make it into  something beautiful and something that we can live in so it doesn't destroy us and Destroy everybody  else either those of us who did not learn this difficult lesson did not survive and part of my  anger is always is always libation for for my Fallen sisters so I am angry and I speak out of on  my anger for people who couldn't could not speak out about their anger for people whose anger  consumed them for people who are too tired to speak ou

t right for people who gave me my voice to  speak out it is not the anger of other women that will destroy us but our refusals to stand still to  listen to its rhythms to learn within it to move beyond the manner of presentation to the substance  to to tap that anger as an important source of empowerment our anger is an important source of  empowerment I cannot hide my anger to spare your guilt nor hurt feelings nor answering anger for  to do for to do so insults and triv trivializes all of our

effort guilt is not a response to anger  it is a response to one's own action or lack of action and that's exactly I know for a fact that  I am sacred and everything about me is sacred including my anger it is the world around me that  is convincing me that my anger is Unholy or it is um inconvenient or ugly or um demonic even it is  not my anger that launches Rockets spends over $60,000 a second on missiles and other agents  of war and death Slaughters children in cities stockpiles nerve gas an

d chemical bombs sodomizes  our daughters and our Earth it is not the anger of black women I love this because like we love  calling black women angry black women are not tearing down the world black women are not bombing  people black women are not like leaving people out to starve black women are not creating conditions  under which people cannot survive or Thrive like y'all like they make black women's anger the enemy  because black women is the black women's anger is the enemy of the oppress

ion it is the enemy of the  oppressor and their their ideas and their systems that's why they hate black women that's why they  hate black women's anger because it's medicinal it's healing it will destroy what is evil so one  last thing I said I said I will not die in early death trying to make those who hate me comfortable  you get change from the angry people you get a blessing from the angry people it is not our fault  angry people's fault it is not sensitive people's fault kind people's faul

t loving people's fault  black women's fault it is not black women's fault that you don't get it and it's not our job to make  you get it either it's our job to use our anger as medicine not trying to fight for you to see me  as human but for you to use my anger and put my energy and effort into things that are actually  like beneficial I don't need to go back and forth forth with you about my Humanity or about like  my my um my right to live I'm no longer ashamed of myself I'm no longer ashamed

of my anger and  I see my anger as something so beautiful and so sacred I see my anger as like as a guardian as  a guardian you know your anger wants to protect you your anger wants Justice your anger shows  that you are human that you are sensitive that you have hope and a better expectation than what  currently is your anger your anger shows that like you are a Visionary you are medicinal like you  are a blessing you are human you are enough so how can you alchemize your anger right like I sa

id  go to rage rooms I went to a rage room my husband took me to a rage room and that was let me tell  you something that was one of the best things I ever did I was sore afterwards but I had a lot of  anger pin up and I needed to get it out of me so breaking things in in a room that is like secluded  and safe and that I'm kept safe um was amazing um singing I've created a whole album called rage a  whole EP about you know talking about um working n to five jobs and still being broke and just tr

ying  to survive or like people being mean um or like people being trolls in your life like trying to  impede progress like I've written music about the things that I felt like I'm I'm not going to just  swallow my rage and my fire I'm going to process it talk about it find safe spaces to talk about  it I know as a black woman we don't really have a lot of safe spaces to talk about our anger  or things that that uh that bother us because a lot of people don't care but other black women  get it e

ven if you just want to talk into your phone get some words to that anger get some eyes  on that thing get to the root of that thing why am I upset about this because I promise you it's  not silly I promise you there might be some sort of like underlying thing underneath of your anger  you might think that you're angry about something is silly but when you get to the heart of it it's  legitimate it's legitimate don't discount yourself don't discourage don't don't disrespect yourself  like that t

alk about it in safe spaces talk about it and connect with others like said there are  a bunch of black women online right now talking about a lot of things that are upsetting them and  that's what I love about like Tik Tok and YouTube and like the beautiful side of social media  because it can be very ugly but the beautiful side of it is that there are people who have  language to what you feel that maybe you didn't have there are people who are putting you on game  there are people who are sha

ring their own wisdom their own Journey right there are people who are  helping other people out so that they feel less alone you know find those communities speaking up  about injustices even if you're the only voice in the Rome maybe you don't feel informed enough  maybe you don't feel like you know I don't know like you're brave enough but in your own way like  Rec even recognizing it to yourself is a big deal you reminding yourself that is wrong that is  wrong at some point that that reminde

r of your Humanity that fire is going to pop up in some  way there's something that you can do you can call someone you can maybe you can help people  protest that if that's what you feel or maybe you can create something that is that is healing  and that is a bomb to the angry Soul right like something you can do something all in all I just  I just want you to know that like you're beautiful that everything about you is beautiful and enough  it is sacred it is Holy it is a gift and we need your

anger your anger needs to be recognized and  to be processed your anger needs to be listened to and taken seriously um I think about mothers and  how you'll you'll see video videos about women whose children fall under cars and they will  they'll gain like Garner the strength to LIF that car up and to set their children free they  talk about like Mama bears right women who are very protective of their young very protective of  their people right that protection that beautiful display of Love um

and value right is made by  Angry women or or fearful women or whatever like hurt women scared women like these we are so  powerful and the world knows it and I just want you to know it and not see yourself as an enemy  but as a friend as a love as a great addition to this fabric like this quilt of the world an  important puzzle piece and nothing you do is too small um nothing nothing you do is too big you're  not to anything you are you you have always been you and you has always been enough s

o I honor  your anger I see your anger I love your anger I love you and I hope that you are learning to  love yourself I'm learning to love myself myself and my anger um and I hope that you above all just  learn to accept yourself to see yourself as a good thing because you are you have been always and you  will always be a good thing like I said I made an album album called rage and if you want to check  it out I'll put the link to the album below um I really love this project you know usually

I'm  making music about like oh love and light but I really like you can't have love and light Without  Anger you can't have you can't have Love Without Anger you can't have light Without Anger because  light shines a light on light illuminates Ates what is wrong what you going to do pretend you  didn't see it what does love do love acts love calls us to action to make right what is wrong  You Are Holy you are sacred you are Divine and I'll talk to you all in the next video hope you  enjoy the m

usic I hope you enjoy your day later