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00:00 Attachment Styles are not Psychobabble
00:28 What are Attachment Styles?
00:52 Why are Attachment Styles Important to Know?
01:02 Who and what are Fearful Avoidants?
01:16 Fearful Avoidant Attachment Style vs the Secure Attachment Style
02:10 The Fearful Avoidant vs the Anxious Attachment Style
03:19 The Fearful Avoidant vs the Avoidant Attachment Style
04:09 The Fearful Avoidant vs the Fearful Avoidant Attachment Style
04:50 Knowing Attachment Styles is a Powerful Tool in gaining Self-Awareness and Understanding of others
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Do you ever feel like you're saying all the
right things, but your partner seems to hear something completely different? Or maybe you have a friend who withdraws whenever
you get close, or a coworker who's a master at pushing your buttons? It might not be you; it might not be them...
it's probably attachment styles. Although this may sound like psychobabble,
it’s not. Today, we're exploring the complex world of
attachment styles, specifically focusing on fearful-avoidant individuals. So, what ar
e attachment styles and what do
they even mean? Imagine attachment styles as your personal
communication blueprint, formed in early childhood but affecting you even today. Attachment styles shape how you connect with
others, how you handle conflict, and ultimately, how happy and fulfilled your relationships
are. It’s just like smashing that thumbs up to
show me that you like this kind of content. Ever feel like you want connection but keep
pushing people away? Well, you're not alone, but it may
feel like
it, so let’s see what we can do to help you out with that. Fearful avoidant individuals crave connection
yet fear intimacy and rejection. This creates a "push-pull" dynamic, making
relationships challenging. Let's explore these dynamics through real-world
scenarios. The Fearful Avoidant attachment Style vs the
Secure Attachment style Imagine Maya who is a fearful avoidant type
who meets Ethan who is a secure attachment type at a work event. Maya and Ethan are enjoying a conversation,
l
aughing and sharing stories. Ethan tells Maya that she has a great sense
of humor. And asks Maya if she’d like to hang out
sometime. Maya smiles and says “Thanks, you too. Sure, we could do that... maybe.” Secure individuals like Ethan feel comfortable
with intimacy and express interest directly. Fearful avoidants like Maya initially find
Ethan attractive but may hesitate to commit due to fear of getting too close. Although Ethan expresses interest, he doesn't
pressure Maya. He understands she m
ay need time, respecting
her boundaries and creating a safe space for her to explore. The Fearful-Avoidant vs the Anxious
Now imagine David, an anxious attachment style type. He starts dating Katie who is a fearful avoidant
type. David is showering Katie with affection, while
Katie seems distant and avoids eye contact. David says, “You're amazing, Katie. I am so happy to be with you.” Katie just mumbles, “Yeah, me too.” Later, David texts Katie, Hey! What are you up to? Miss you already! Katie r
eads the text, feels overwhelmed, and
then avoids responding for several hours. Anxious individuals like David crave constant
reassurance and closeness. This can trigger the fearful avoidant's need
for space and independence, leading Katie to withdraw and delay communication, causing
confusion and frustration for David. Clear communication and understanding each
other's needs are crucial. David could express his desire for affection
while respecting Katie's need for space. Katie could communicat
e her feelings of being
overwhelmed without pushing David away. The Fearful-Avoidant vs the Avoidant
Let's see how Sarah the fearful avoidant interacts with Liam an avoidant on a date. Sarah and Liam strike up a conversation, keeping
things light and non-committal. Sarah asks Liam what he does for fun. Liam responds by telling her that he likes
to travel and explore new places. Sarah says “Cool. Me too, sort of. But I mostly keep to myself.” Avoidant individuals, like Liam,
often prioritize inde
pendence and downplay emotional connection. While this may initially offer comfort to
the fearful avoidant Sarah, it can also lead to a stagnant and emotionally detached relationship. Although Sarah and Liam seem comfortable initially,
their reluctance to engage emotionally can ultimately hinder the development of a deeper
connection. The Fearful Avoidant vs. the Fearful Avoidant
Finally, imagine both Emily and Mark who are both fearful avoidant. They may initially find comfort in the shared
ten
dency to avoid intimacy. So imagine, Emily and Mark, they’re watching
a movie together. Both seem hesitant to initiate physical contact
or deeper conversation. Emily awkwardly tries to hold Mark's hand. Mark gently pulls away and tells her maybe
another time. While this dynamic can offer temporary comfort,
it ultimately restricts both individuals from experiencing the full spectrum of intimacy
and emotional connection in a relationship. So hopefully you’ll see that attachment
style theory isn't
just psychobabble. It's a valuable powerful tool for gaining
valuable self-awareness and understanding that doesn’t require labeling yourself or
others. It's about learning and mastering communication
tools to build stronger, more fulfilling relationships
so you can find your happily ever after or at least a much happier communication ever
after! So, ditch the confusion and unlock the communication
superpowers hidden within your attachment style and watch this video next
that can add more sense
to the communication that is or should be happening in your life. For more life-changing mindful communication
content make sure to join the mindful communication revolution by subscribing, too! Remember, understanding yourself is the key
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Comments
Dealing with the fearful-avoidant attachment style is a matter of first accepting that is the way someone communicates, this includes yourself. Check out https://youtu.be/Cl2rukBvWRY to learn more about the different Attachment Styles.
Emotional nightmare. Meeting every week or two weeks (she was always busy and never had the time for me). Never got to meet her family, never been hugged, cuddled, intimacy close to never (I always had to initiate all, I never felt being truly wanted). She made me feel worthless and completely unimportant. I have a safe attachment style but enough is enough. I'm bailing out to save myself and not to go crazy