Deep Dive into Energetic Medicine for Your Essence Quadrant

Hi and welcome to Style Thoughts by Rita. Today we're gonna talk about some really deep topics and I'm really offering a poetic contemplation of very deep themes, but I also believe that it can guide you into some really concrete actions. So before we start, I wanna really ask you to take a moment and think about does style really add positivity to your life right now? The style you have, the clothes you wear every day, what you have in your closet, is it actually giving you energy? Is it giving

you confidence? Is it giving you joy? Is it giving you things? And if you're not there, what's the problem? You know, what is it that's standing in your way? When I ask that question, you probably start thinking about technical things. For example, I haven't quite nailed down my color palette, so that's why I'm not happy. Or, oh, you know Rita, I can never find like tops that look at, and don't get me wrong, these technical questions, the technical aspect is super necessary for style and there'

s a lot to learn there, but it's not the whole story. There's also a really big personal aspect to it. This aspect is not about whether you're able to find the summer sandals that you need. It's about whether you see yourself as someone who's allowed to wear healed sandals on a casual basis, or it's about how much time you allow yourself for shoe shopping, how many things you allow yourself to try. It's how you decide which summer sandals actually feel best for you, the ones you purchase. This i

s the side of style that's basically not about the execution as much as it is about the vision. It's about seeing yourself as the creative director of your visual identity, seeing yourself as the person who gets to make all the decisions. And this side of style, the decision making creative visionary side is extremely emotional. It's colored by our beliefs about ourselves, about the things we've been told by others, layers and layers of social conditioning and our fears and traumas and hopes and

dreams. So it's heavy. And if you're watching this video and if you're here on my channel, it's because you know this and I know that you understand that to find personal style, you really need something more than just kneeling down some flattering silhouettes. And whether we like it or this personal, this creative side to style is quite emotional and challenging to work with, but it's also really necessary. And after working with hundreds of clients, I am so confident in saying that this perso

nal, emotional visionary side is severely underrated. And we must talk about this side of style more because it's an important and really efficient path to solving many style challenges. Even the things we think are tech. So as you know, I approach style through the lens of my own style system, the style key. There are four keys and each of them corresponds to their own way of viewing and using style. So if you missed the overview, I'm gonna link some videos below explaining the different style

key approaches, what I call the style logic. So each style key has their own logic, their own way of working with style and with the emotional side of style. But we're all regardless of the style key, working with the same issue, which is basically saying no to ourselves. It's the issue of shutting down our impulses, of ignoring our instincts, doubting ourselves, being too hard on ourselves and not giving ourselves space to experiment like big themes, right? But all of these themes, all of these

habits block the discovery and enjoyment of your unique authentic style. Cuz let's be real, there is no right answer. No matter what people try to tell you, there is no system of body types, no archetypes, no shapes, no trend guidelines that's gonna tell you like the right way that can give you really important information. So valuable understanding. But the end product, the style that you create, the outfits you actually choose to wear every day always has to be yours, right? It has to be some

thing you decide and create and to best celebrate your unique beauty, to best create that personal style, we all need to become intimate with our own needs and with our own tastes. To do that, it's hard, it's difficult, it's not easy like, and we have to go through a lot of experimentation. We have to make mistakes and we have to remove limitations on ourselves. This work is really, really big. That's why I'm so obsessed with it because actually discovering your personal style requires a tremend

ous amount of self-exploration. It requires a lot of personal growth at it's literally life-changing To go through that process, not to achieve it, but just even to commit to discovering that for yourself is really life changing. So we are all on this path together here in the Style Thoughts by Rita World and whatever style key you are using, we are all on this path together of saying yes to ourselves, to the whole process of finding the best way to enjoy and celebrate our beauty. But the differ

ent keys each have their own approach. So I've called these energetic medicines, but I also really like to call them healthy habits because I think that sounds sweeter. Basically, it's a concept, it's a perspective, it's a way of approaching style, which is really effective for each quadrant. So it's a theme that you come back to over and over again. And in this video I'm going to each of the themes for each quadrant. But you wanna watch, you're definitely gonna relate to things I say to another

quadrant, especially just depending what's going on with you. Cuz as I said, we're all on the same path. So I want you to take it all in and I want you to work with whatever feels and empowering to you right now. So let's start with the energetic medicine for the moonstone key. That's the write down quadrant. Your theme, this healthy habit is exploration. If you remember the moonstone approach in my system is all about taking, kind of going out, gathering inspiration, influences, motivation fro

m the outside world and then adapting it to yourself. Creating a style that supports you. Exploration as a theme gets you directly into this process. Exploration is defined as the action of exploring an unfamiliar area or as the thorough examination of a subject. So it's about novelty variety, whether because you're trying something totally new, like oh in your dress shape or you're going deeper into a familiar topic like oh, experimenting with five different worries to wear your favorite eyesha

dow palette. So why is exploration so important for moonstone? Because you have a tendency in the opposite direction towards restriction. I really don't dunno why this happens, but it's just what I've observed over and over again. So I feel really confident. This is like a key struggle for you. You tend to say no to yourselves through the process of elimination. You're like, those colors definitely don't work. Okay, that is steady cuz definitely not for me. No, no prints, no patterns, no fus, no

. And this jewelry is way too much. And it's not just about the types of things you wear. Actually this elimination is also the way you approach that. You're like okay, no I need a super minimal wardrobe. Like I, I can't have this, I need a piece of aesthetic, I can have pieces that don't fit it. It should only take me five minutes to get ready in the morning. It should, you know, like limiting. So why you do this? It's because you perceive some sort of stress or inefficiencies in the style or y

ou're just not happy and then you respond by trying basically to eliminate the negativity. And I wanna, I've be nuanced here, limitations are really helpful, right? It's not the problem. But the theme of your style struggle is that these limitations often go way too far. So in search of like the one solution, you just say no to more and more things. You take away more and more and in the end you just feel really constrained. That's the problem, right? If you took away and you're really happy, th

at's great. But for a lot of people what happens is you're just constrained with a few possibilities. You've eliminated so much. But there's no like that feeling of satisfaction or like success, that peace of mind that you expected, it never arrives. That's the thing you take away and take away and take away. But the joy never comes. So the issue is that all of the restriction promises to help you land on a solution, but it doesn't really take you there. So bringing exploration into your style j

ourney helps you turn this process around. It helps you approach the style process through the lens of curiosity of seeing opportunities out there. Not as a puzzle you need to solve, but rather something to be experienced of remo. Like it's to remove pressure of finding answers and it's instead to come back to the process. This is a beautiful self nourishing, it's kind of this like awakening where you're like, wait a second, why did I decide that jewelry isn't for me? Who says bracelets never wo

rk on my arms? Do I actually really feel that? Do I always feel bad when I'm wearing a bracelet? And I'm not talking here about like dumping everything you own, buying a hundred new things, total anarchy. I just mean choosing a direction to explore. Like, oh, I wanna be more daring with color or I'd like to feel more put together. These are big themes that you can stay with for a while and you don't, again, instead about buying stuff, maybe you buy a colorful jacket and you observe how it change

s all of the outfits you already have. Or maybe you're like, okay, I'm gonna experiment with easy hairstyles that look a bit more polished because I, and you're like, ooh, maybe just a simple twist with this clip feels dressy. Or today's the day for a 20 minute kind of princess hairstyle. So it's just about exploring some sort of specific topic, getting in touch with your needs on a daily basis and learning to listen and use style to actually help you. So the nice thing with exploration as with

the other healing themes is it gives you permission to feel good about the process. You don't need to be getting everything right. Your exploration does not need to be yielding results. You don't need to like rush to the answers. You can just ask yourself, am I experiencing something unfamiliar? Am I trying something new? And the answer is, yes, green light, you've already succeeded. You can already feel great about yourself. Now let's talk about the energetic medicine for the ruby key, the left

down quadrant. Your theme is indulgence. Indulgence is such a loaded word and I really love that for you. One of the definitions is similar to permission, which is the behavior or attitude of people who allow themselves to do what they want or allow other people to do what they want. That sounds really nice, like freedom. But indulgence also has a history of religious use overtones. So another definition is like the act of doing something you enjoy, but it's thought of wrong or unhealthy. And I

really like that because it captures so much about what you struggle with, that if you do something that you enjoy, you always gotta feel that guilt, shame and that feeling that you're bad like, oh I love this roomy dress that feels so good on my body, but ouch. It also makes me feel guilty cuz I know it doesn't flatter my body. Or like, oh I just love wearing this strappy top that shows off my shoulders and arms and collarbones. But ouch. I feel guilty about looking sexy and the message that s

ends to people or like, oh I love how these colors look together and these textures makes me feel so playful and so creative. But then ouch, when I look at my friends, there's the shame of like, am I supposed to be dressed in elegant neutrals? You know, you, you know what I'm talking about. These are all the different ways in which we make ourselves wrong and we make our taste wrong and our impulses wrong. So that's why for you I recommend the habit of indulgence. Indulgence is kind of feeling t

he ouch, but the questioning it like, wait a second, why is this a bad Kayla? I don't like the feeling of makeup on my face. Who said makeup is necessary to be professional? Like okay, this perfume is so womanly and sensual who said that? Because I'm a mom, I'm only supposed to use light and breezy sound. Indulging yourself lets you confront all these messages in your mind and to interrogate them. And I'm not, don't wanna put the pressure on you to dismantle I believe you've ever received at onc

e. You know we're gonna take you one step at a time. But remember that for the Ruby Keys style is all for you. It is all about how it makes you feel, how your clothes physically make you feel, emotionally make you feel. How you connect inwards to yourself. You're not here to serve others with your style. You're not here to please them, to impress them. That is primarily for you. You know, the rest is just a wonderful bonus that we love. And you taking the route of indulgence is what helps you gr

ow. So let's say you've been scared of wearing like clashing colors too loud, you have soft coloring, you're not like allowed to do that. But then you give yourself permission, you're like, ouch, this isn't flattering and I feel bad, but actually bright orange and green and red make me feel alive and glowing. Like who cares if it's not a hundred percent with my com? And then eventually as you enjoy the colors, you're like, okay, you know, maybe I don't love these right near my face cuz then I fe

el like my face isn't as visible, but I love these colors and I want to bring them into my accessories, my shoe into my prints. You know? So this road into doing the wrong thing is actually what helps you find the truth of you and your style and you find a way to incorporate the colors that feel really good for you in a way that genuinely feels good for you. By letting yourself experiment instead of just instinctively avoiding the bad thing, that's the power of the indulgence. Okay, now we're go

nna talk about the sapphire key. Whose theme is luxury? So first of all, luxury is often associated with cost means um, a state of great comfort or elegance, especially involving great expense. But I mean it more like this other definition, which is a luxury is something that is pleasant to have or experience but is not necessary. The struggle for sapphire is often similar to Ruby. It's about withholding the things you really want from yourself. No, no, no. But the story is different for you. Yo

u're so likely to get drawn into the story about why you don't deserve the things you want. Why you can't have that, how the things you want are impossible, unreasonable. Give it up. You might have like a vision for the style you want, but you're like, okay first I'm gonna lose weight, I'm gonna change jobs, I'm gonna move to a new place, I'm gonna, the kids are gonna get older. I'm, you know, the reasons like the to-do list before you get to actually work with your dreams is forever. Working wi

th the theme of luxury is a gentle nudge in the opposite direction. Rather than taking on the burden of like proving to yourself that you're worthy or you know that you need these things, you want luxuries like, okay, but what if I don't need it? What if I just want it? What if I gave myself as much of what I want? And what if I let that process unfold? Working with luxuries, the process of looking for ways to pamper yourself and to give to yourself something more than the minimum. And this is n

ot about custom meat. Gucci counts, okay? It's so small as buying the SATs and pillowcases to keep your hair smooth, making sure you have that time in your busy week to do laundry. So your favorite top is available. It's wearing the nice outfit on the day when you feel like you look frumpy, right? You don't need to deserve to look good. You're allowed to look good even if you're feeling bad, it's getting like your favorite body oil, even though it's expensive, it's trying on three outfits in the

morning instead of settling for the first choice cuz you know you have enough, it's taking like the 15 minutes to do your makeup, even though that time like could have been used otherwise. It's finding a beautiful way to store your daily jewelry or your perfume even though like, oh, it can just stand there. It's packing three pairs of shoes for a weekend getaway instead of challenging yourself to like match your partners little backpack. It's really about giving yourself permission slowly, allo

wing yourself something more and getting used to treating yourself with kindness and generosity. This is a theme to come back to over and over and over again. What feels like it's off limits to you? What's impossible? What are you not good at enough for? What's too much for you? How can you give yourself that thing? As long as there's some small way you can extend this generosity to yourself, you know that you're on the right track again, you're already succeeding just by taking the tiniest step

s to feel so resistant. Finally, let's talk about the medicine theme for amethyst, for left of quadrant. And that theme, that's excitement. Excitement refers to an emotional state marked by enthusiasm, eagerness or anticipation in general arousal. It's like you think something's gonna happen but you're not sure what or you know what's gonna happen but you don't know how it's gonna go. This word always makes me smile because that's exactly the energy this key brings into the world. You have a rea

lly strong energetic impact on your environment and there's always this element of tension, of anticipation, like the unexpected, like how's this gonna go? And because this is your gift to the world, it's fundamental that you learn how to give this gift to yourself and to savor it. You might feel dismissive of this idea because it sounds so emotional and not results oriented. But too often, like people using the amethyst key get caught up in this desire to the results to get the positive attenti

on or at least no attention because like people are obsessed with what you wear. So you might style yourself in really neutral soft outfits cuz you just wanna avoid any notice or discussion of your outfits. Or you could be really dressy and performative but always seeking to like cater to your audience and you're like, yeah, they'll like this. And whether that's, you know, wearing the colors your family likes or endlessly searching for like the most flattering shapes, this process is a process

that where you lose your authentic core in the search for the most successful look. And your style is not meant to be about creating the piece about making sure you only get compliments sometimes, like go for it. But overall is that meant to be about expressing something from within, about sharing something about yourself with the world and who we are inside? All of us, it's just not always easy for people to receive or to accept, right? This isn't just an amethyst thing in general, but it's not

your job to make other people comfortable and it's not your job to make sure everybody loves your outfit. Your role is to show up and authentically share yourself with the world. That's the thing style really means to you. And that process creates the feeling of excitement for you. So I want you to use that feeling as a guide. And this is true wherever you are in your journey. If you're just beginning to see the amethyst key for yourself, you might feel stressed enough, like enough glamor, enou

gh drama, et cetera. But all you need to do is enough to feel excitement and follow that thrill of the unfamiliar. Then you think how it makes you feel. It could be the smallest thing if you've never dared to wear colorful lipstick. If you've never dared to wear more than two pieces of jewelry, you're never dared to like create a small color pop. This is already very successful, very exciting for you. It doesn't, you not need to like become Rihanna overnight impressing people with it. Just start

following the threat and eventually it will lead you to exactly the right level for you. And likewise, if you've been on nostalgia journey for a long time, you still, the excitement theme is still there for you. Cuz you might feel like your style is like good and yeah, it feels a bit stale often. Like you're like playing at a role, maybe you're wearing clothes that were right before, but now they don't. Though. You can look through outfits and ask like, okay, which ones bring out that excited s

ensation? What makes me feel that feeling? How can I recognize when it's present? And just doing this quick check-in can help you realize what's been shifting inside you. Like suddenly like, oh you know what? These slip dresses are not exciting anymore. They were before, but I actually don't really like showing my body in that way right now. So wherever you are on this style journey, excitement really helps you know that you're on the right track and you can always feel good about yourself when

you're sad. So these are the energetic medicines for each style key. And I would love to hear about how you implement these in your real life. If you relate to multiple ones, I just would love to hear your experience for many people. Also, I know that the whole concept of style, feeling a certain way of thinking, that you could be like aiming for like exploration or luxury or excitement. It's just really new. It's a really new concept cuz we're just used to thinking about styles, like find this

flattering clothes, like kind of get this thing done. Okay? But it doesn't need to be like that. It doesn't need to be so oriented on the flattering success. We each get to set our own intention with style. So if you want some more guidance in this like concept of claiming your own vision for style, really recommend my video about style, autonomy. It's gonna give you a lot to think about, to check it out. Okay? And I'll see you next time. Bye.