yeah I I kind of want to um you know be a moderate
voice but also end the crybaby epidemic we we need to do a lot better because you know if
you're sitting there and you're counting all of the ways that you're victimized then it's
going to stop you from being able to achieve things in your own life I want everybody to
be empowered I want everybody to be a warrior and I want everybody to succeed in their
life and we can't do that if we're crying about microaggressions all the time that don't
really matter if you don't pass work hard on passing and then someday you'll pass baby that
that's what it comes down to at the end of the day hey everybody I caught myself a good one
today this actually this is really going to be so so tremendously educational as well as really
refreshing uh I think for not only myself but I think for a lot of what people think about the
trans uh community and I think that this person I value them coming to me and wanting to have
the conversation because
most people in the community don't we're very one-sided it feels like
so anyway with that I just want to thank everybody for watching and really supporting my channel and
you know I watch it grow it's crazy and you know I I just can't get these kind of guests without
you all supporting me and my voice out there so so so thanks so much for subscribing liking the
Bell thing all those kind of crazy stuff so with that I'm going to introduce nalia and um nalia is
somebody who reached out to me
from the internet and she's a she's a a trans influencer and she's
out there doing the work too we have completely opposite opinions is why I love having her on
today and um I think we're going to get into a very awesome conversation but before that I'm
going to have her introduce herself and then we'll do a little background with her and then
we'll move forward hi nalia thanks for joining me hello I'm so honored to be here Buck thank
you for having me the first thing I wanted to say to you
as soon as I came in here is hi Daddy
so oh wait I change hats my daddy I just I want you to know that I love you I have known of
you for a very long long time I think you are a Trailblazer and I think it's very important for
all of us to respect our elders I've only been at this for two years and you've been doing this for
a very long time and you've been extremely good at representing yourself and us and it doesn't
matter what differences of opinion we have I think it's important for us
to pay homage to the
people that came before us you have oh that's so sweet that means a lot to me thank you because
you know I get I get raked over the cols in this community but you know that does mean a lot to
me and you know I the work I've done is for us and that's what people seem to forget is that I
I I did it for us not for me most necessarily but and now things are changing different Community
different things and you know that's okay so I I want to know a little bit about you firs
t before
we move into a discussion and tell me a little bit about you know where you come from and your
transition and all that yeah so I'm a 32 year-old um transgender woman from Columbus Ohio um I was
raised Muslim and I grew up in in a predominantly Republican area I think Ohio in general is a swing
state but there's a lot of red um and there's some blue and so from a very young age I was able to
relate to multiple different kinds of people uh without compromising myself and as soon as I
graduated I um decided to move to Arizona same sort of situation Arizona has mostly been red
it is sometimes blue it's blue in the cities and so again I'm in a situation where around
conservatives I'm around liberals and I have to represent what I actually believe and I started
blowing up on Tik Tok at around this time last year uh because there was a lot of anti-trans uh
laws that were being proposed I felt like I should say something about them and one of my videos went
viral and it's b
een a ride ever since wow that's congratulations on that friend that's a big deal
uh I know that I you know Tik Tok I can't you're younger than me a lot younger than me so you know
I'm I get that cranky old man [ __ ] I'm like I can't deal with this stuff I got a family to take
care of and [ __ ] but you got the young spirit and you can be in there so good for you friend I
think that's very important so so you grew up in Ohio and you grew up Muslim yeah and so um are
are you still Muslim to
day do you practice are you I would say I'm like culturally Muslim similar
to how a lot of Jewish people are culturally that that's right 100% and so was it difficult for
you as a as a Muslim uh transitioning totally like I I don't speak to most of my family they
don't believe in the entire situation it's kind of backwards in some ways because in where I'm
from in Bangladesh and countryes surrounding it India and Pakistan they actually recognize
transgender per people as a third gender and
so there's some sort of acknowledgement but my
family and the community is like oh my God not one of ours turning out this way well it's usually
that anywhere right like when I was a gay woman my parents were like ah no we can't have a gay
Butch daughter please yeah it's I think that doesn't really necessarily translate to just any
space I think all people and who have an lgbtq uh son or daughter it it it it's difficult for a
lot of people right and and not just necessarily what religion yo
u are but I think it's just hard
for people for uh for for to have a person from our community and it's sad because it's really
shouldn't be that way I think once they see people like me and you that's why it's very important
to me to be a not a representation but to be out there so that people can see I live a Beau it
seems like you live a beautiful life we live great and yeah that's what because I think today we're
seeing some crazy stuff that is making people get scared that they don't w
ant their kids to to be
that if that makes sense agreed yeah and that's why um representation is important whatever that
means to you representation is important when it comes to these types of situations because we you
know back in the day people would think you're gay oh my God you're G to get AIDS and you're gonna
die and you're just uh you know you're hanging out in the toilet having sex that's what actually
people thought it's so yeah in you remember I'm 61 so I come from a very differ
ent I think you were
giving me like 404 45 at most do you date people half your age of course my wife is TW my wife is
20 years younger than me oh get it right on so so so so with that did you have a problem when you
were a child did you struggle at all or anything with your gender I think we all did I mean I I
knew since I was very young that I was destined to be a woman I just didn't know how it was going to
happen I remember being like five or six years old being like okay when I'm going
to turn into a girl
now when is that going to happen and just waiting for it toen um I you know as I got older much like
you I was like okay this gay stuff I guess isn't that bad so I I did that for a few years but it
always bubbles up you know if you suppress it oh no it totally does so so you did live as gay male
for a while there and that didn't work clearly I yeah I lived that way I loved it I I mean my
parents got a double whammy cuz I didn't come out to them for until I was like 26 2
7 and then
by the time I'm 30 I'm like actually woman now so it was like real bad yeah I mean but you look
amazing actually you look Fant nobody would ever know that you were trans they wouldn't no thank
you that's very kind I I started my journey with ffs so I kind of went backwards happens because
I'm like I'm not about to be clocked in these streets please well I mean I I would consider you
a transsexual I know that's probably not how you identify but I would most definitely say that
yo
u know so did you during your transition so how did you start your transition did you just go
to a doctor or did you just decide you needed to do it um I always knew I was able to do it I was
making good money and the financial services my job was very stable and it was just a matter of
like jumping off the cliff I didn't want to be you know in my twink body but with budding nipples
basically so I didn't want to go through like you know the therapy at first I did do therapy but I
didn't wan
t to medically transition starting with hormones because that just has a lot of effects
on your body that I don't think look good and so that's what most people should do for the sake of
insurance for me I'm also very impulsive and so I just kind of calculated like if I go overseas and
get my ffs done first the rest of my transition will be comfortable because people I won't be
as visibly trans and I was right about that wow that's actually interesting I don't think I hear
very many people
talk about that way but it's a smart way to do it actually because yeah you
you're not getting that you know cuz it's hard for us people out there to know that especially
during that period when you're transitioning right going from male to female or female to mail you
there's a weird I can speak for my it was a weird kind of um morphing that I looked weird I things
were happening like it was just really a lot and people say things to you I think I'll be honest
I think it happens more for m
ale to female than female to male a thousand per. I think that female
to male you know you guys grow into um your bones and stuff like that we have to shave things off
and so it's it's a little difficult 100% different I will always admit that is much easier on some
level easier as word I guess really I don't know if that word really works but it's just different
it's like I grow a mustache and beard cut my tits off dude I work out at the gym you know I know
what you have to do I'm very awa
re of that I've been around trans women for 30 40 years right so
I'm very aware of the journey and I think again why you sit here today we can get into that and
why it's a different experience for you than for me and why we have different opinions because
I I see it from a different Vantage Point than you right so we're gonna I think that so so I
think I mean if you have anything else about your background I just kind of want to know where
you come from and you know um um how you got to whe
re you are today and being a trans so how long
ago did you transition I was uh it was two years ago where I got my ffs wow you're just killing it
you're killing it thank you awesome good for you um I'll have a nice big rack by the end of this
year too you know honestly if I could have gotten the bottom surgery I would had a nice big one too
right on the thing we can choose it yeah I mean why not if you can do it you should do it that's
how I look at it yes that's the one great thing about b
eing us we get to choose we want to look
um so let's let's just get into some conversation here and I think um let's see I saw a video how we
met how you and I met was I responded to something you had um posted on your page I didn't even
know you right so I randomly just take stuff and and um and and respond to it and I think it
was about homosexuality and transphobia was it not it was yeah oh gosh my old brain is working
wow and so I think I responded to you in the in the sense I pushed ba
ck on you a little bit that
said that well there's also homophobia because you said there the homo the homosexual Community has
transphobia in it and I said well yeah and I the transgender Community has homophobia in it I think
is what I said and I think we need to discuss that too so so let's talk about that a little bit what
what was it that you think is more is transphobia coming out of the homosexual Community um
I think that there's like a big wave of you know gay marriage was legalize
across the country
in 2015 I think there was a enormous wave of gay people who performed a little bit of a grift
where they started to really align themselves with conservative operatives which I understand
if you have some conservative values which I do as well um you want to go along and be with your
community but the problem is a lot of them in my opinion started punching down upon transgender
people some of it we deserve some of it we don't deserve and um you know forgetting that in th
e
big picture ultimately when the conservative you know Bible Thumpers are done with us they're gonna
go right back to them yeah right I mean I I hear you I have a lot of friends who have become more
conservative in in their and again I I wonder to myself sometimes is and I used to be like when I
saw what was it called it's called the um what is it called the something House Republicans they're
the gay law Cabin Republicans and back in day they were here too and I was like what how can you
be
a conservative and be gay like I completely but as you get older your your values do change I'll be
honest with you and your morals things can change you just see things differently I think lived
experience um makes you have different opinions and different ways of be I would say that my even
my own values have become a bit more conservative as I got older married have a kid right I I I a
total Family Guy like I just have a different way than I was 20 years ago so with that being said I
do think there are more older gay people who have become much more conservative in their thought
process and I think they also see things that they didn't see prior to what's happening today
in the trans community and I I think on some level uh that they are seeing things that are scaring
them and making them upset because I feel like they feel as if people somehow they're they're not
all the rights that they did fight for which I was a part of that are somehow being duded in the new
Trans
space now I'm not going to necessarily agree that that's happening but I do think some things
are happening with our community that is scaring me because we shouldn't be fighting so much we
shouldn't do you know that's what they want from us nalia you know that right they want to divide
me and you they want me and you to hate each other 100% so so that's why I also say I think from the
trans Community I see a some homophobia com coming there calling gayon AIDS ridden [ __ ] stuff
like that
I'm like what you can't say that to a gay man like I I fought around the time I was
around the AIDS epidemic my friend I lost all my gay male friends so I have a lot yeah it's it was
horrifying I'll tell you no I will never let that go from my brain so you know I think that the
fight was different then and then today there's this idea that the trans people are taking the
rights from the gate people and the gay people are taking the right but I don't necessarily
think that that's actually t
rue I think we're seeing things from different Vantage points and
we're not having what me and you are having right here a conversation and trying to understand the
other side does that make sense yeah and I I don't want it to come off like I think that's a general
thing about gay people I think I was just make a video responding to some things that I I saw
but yeah you know trans people are not without with impunity for everything that they do and I
think you and I agree to that and somebo
dy needs to check some of the people in our community it
might as well be one of our Premier Elders I do it as well there's a lot of transgender people
that do it I think that with those gay people that are more on the conservative side a lot of
whom I respect um you have to make sure you're putting your energy in the appropriate place
like you can have um those conservative values but just understand that what's happening with
the transgender world right now is a manufactured social outrag
e that people are utilizing to win an
election so don't jump on so hard on the bandwagon be strategic thank you for saying that 100% we are
being used as a political Pawn One whatever side you're on whatever you believe about trans we as
trans as lgbtq we are being used I I mean I see it and I can't believe that our community on some
level doesn't see it and that's dangerous it's just like everything else people say to me all
the time you're a bootlicker you I don't side with anybody I do n
ot side with anybody but myself and
my own sense of what I believe I'm you know me I'm very outspoken I I don't care what you think about
me I'm entitled to say what I need to say as you are right but that's the problem I think that's
happening in our community you and I get silenced some people in the community might not like you
some might not like me so they want to silence us because we're not on and I know I watch you you
don't necessarily s with all the narrative of the community as I
oh no disagree with a lot yeah why
it's important so me and you don't align 100 % but I'm pretty sure we have agreement on other things
but that being said both of us should be able to say the things we need to say without feeling
like we're going against our community yeah that's missing and I think part of the reason why um it's
happening like that I I learned about this through observing I really like um watching rupa's drag
race and I noticed that there's a lot of hate that happens on
the queen Pages after they you know go
on that show or whatever and what I thought was happening was that you know maybe our community
as a whole is extremely toxic and maybe some of it is I think a lot of people that are putting up
the hate comments are Anonymous children and so I think that a lot of those same type of people
are Anonymous going online and cyber bullying and a lot of us are not realizing that the people
who are co-opting the conversations about being transgender are people
without a lot of life
experience and that's a problem you just hit it I think we're agreeing on a lot here that's
kind of weird that too so so that being said see what conversation does people you you have
this idea about somebody people have all kinds of ideas about me you know that and then after
they sit with me at the table they're like you're not anything like that I'm like because you cannot
people you cannot listen to what other people say about other people you have to have a conve
rsation
with that person like actually listen to that person and give them some Grace to to explain
themselves before you make judgments on people and I think you hit it on the head we have too many
trans young people who are just coming on this space with no experience like you and I have and
then just speaking over us and and saying things that do not in any way shape or form represent
me as a transsexual person or the average trans person I feel like all of us are very most of
the trans
people I know in real life are very reasonable they're humble they are kind all of
that stuff I think when you get on the internet you see a different beast and I think a lot of
those people are people who um are not socially skilled enough to maybe do that in real life so
they do all of the hateful stuff and the weird stuff on the internet oh now you hit it right on
the head because now we have Tik Tok right which is a complete [ __ ] show as far as I'm concerned
for young people and my k
id isn't allowed please dad let me have nope dude I'll buy you whatever
you need you want a PlayStation we're not doing Tik Tok kiddo just so you know no because I do
think it influences on a uh not on a positive space and then I get attacked on there constantly
by 20-y olds I'm like what I I literally was doing this before you were even born like you know it's
okay it's okay honestly now it's okay not to agree with me it actually is but it's not okay to say
that I'm transphobic or that I'm
a bigot or that you know I'm ruining the community it's just not
okay to say that to me I won't I won't tolerate that um so so with that I think the next thing I'd
like to discuss actually is trans kids because I do think you and I have a complete different uh
we are in complete different agreement we are not in agreement on that particular thing so why don't
you tell me a little bit about what you feel about trans kids well uh I want to take this from real
life example so I think in the l
ast year we have seen uh Dylan Mulaney and other trans people like
her be extremely maligned by the soci by media and social media and I think part of the reason is of
course how you present yourself but the other part of the reason is that Dylan was a non-passing
transgender woman she looks amazing now you'll notice that the bullying has died down a lot
we don't bully people like Kim Petrus or hunter schaer or Jazz Jennings Because those people were
fortunate enough to start their transiti
on early and people don't even notice that they're trans
and so when you take away a child's ability to have that opportunity then you put them in the
same camp as a Dylan wany you know somebody like me you know I've experienced plenty of a bullying
in my life as well because I've always been super feminine so when the parent the doctor you know
the child and you know various medical authorities say that it's a Parent's Choice to help their
child with that part of their life I think that's
something that should be respected oh great and
I I you know so great I I love what you're saying there it's very compassionate it's very empathetic
I get it we were both kids who dealt with whatever gender stuff was happening to us remember I grew
up in the 60s though totally different right I still I never I don't consider myself a trans
kid I consider myself a tomboy I didn't even understand what any of this metant now that being
said I do agree that it would be amazing if kids could do
this and it would and the problem that
I have is my research on it and watching what is happening to the kids who did take this particular
let's call it luon okay because that's what they're using for puberty blockers right now luon
and the the kids and the young people that I have interviewed or had discussions with who have been
on this wish they never were put on it and wish that they had been given the opportunity to sort
of go through the puberty and live and then make the choice on th
eir own so I have to hear I have
to listen to that it's very important for me how I can make my choice whether this is good or bad I
I think it is a caseby casee basis number one I I think across the board saying trans kids I don't
think that's fair because I don't think a child who says I'm a boy is necessarily trans I think
that they might be playing we know we have to be honest about this we know kids play with gender
they they I'm around Kids all the Time Around 11y old boys I I coach I
have a son I kids come over
to my house and play and not one 11y old boy says they're trans so I'm like this is fascinating
to me but what I want to say is that just in my research alone I just feel like we're going
too fast and doing that to children that might regret it in the long run and if you notice you're
coming from a different space okay so what we said earlier a trans woman would benefit more from this
than a trans man do do you see what I'm saying can easily get rid of all the f
eminine stuff by taking
testosterone and removing our breasts where a transom has to go through a lot of situation to
get rid of the Mask so I complet understand why it's being said because if you notice more trans
women are pro puia blockers than trans men more kids that are on Pub blockers did you know this
happen to be young girls not yeah I did know that but I've never considered this perspective before
so that's really interesting yeah so so this is why I have an issue with it right no
w I feel like
we're in a very very touchy space right now when we start messing with kids and I'm going to tell
you remember where I come from so in the 80s we had a thing called nbla it's called National
Association of manboy love right and they tried to connect to the gay community we all freaked
we were like get away you know we we've always been very uh what's the word I'm looking for very
much pushing back on kids joining in on us if you understand what I'm saying the minute you bring
kids into any situation everyone's going to freak so I feel like we've put this trans kid think too
much on a pedestal and people are looking at us like we're insane touching children that's what
they think actually and yeah none so this stuff is not reversible I don't know if you really
understand the damage some of this stuff can do to it young person in reality I understand
why this would want to be done to a child like not reality and I guess in the that space But we
have to understand
that we for me I just don't think we have enough research to to to think in
the long future how will this affect a child's health right I hear you on that I would say that
we got to look at proportion at some point so I think there there are I have a lot of compassion
for people who detransition it has to suck at the very least I mean I would never want to I don't
ever want to come to that conclusion by myself so I have compassion I think they're they're valid
um but I think that's when we
want to start looking at statistical data because for every 1D
transitioner there areund hundreds of you know transgender people who want to transition um and
the leading medical authorities like the National Institute of Health and you know the you know uh
pediatric societies they are all asserting that the puberty blockers are not damaging they kind
of put things on pause now I'm against believe it or not I'm I'm against people having surgery
before the age of 18 however the caveat is M
it needs to be all children for every one myectomy
that a transgender female to male child has there are 17 to 20 girls getting boob jobs I'm against
discrimination so you need to make sure that if we're Banning these things it needs to be banned
for everybody not just targeting us and then finally I will say you know there aren't that many
children medically transitioning I think in 2021 Reuters reported that it was something like uh 18
,000 or something which is like 3 400 per state so it
's a small amount of people I don't think the
right thing is to ban I think the right thing is for us to invest in better ways to understand if
a child is truly transgender instead of banning everything see we're in alignment right there
right there because because I thought you were 100% all about but no look like I said earlier
if this actually could help but I believe too many these kids are not trans and I think a lot
of them are being shoved into the space because I know I'm in La we h
ave the children's hospital
here okay the LA Children's Hospital was the first place to start pushing the puberty blockers onto
kids we have Dr Olen here which I pushed against her and I know a kid who did start at five and I
became friends with the family because I really wanted to watch this kid is fine he's actually
he's a female to male right he seems to be doing great at 17 now but the problem I have is the
parents made that choice not the child and this could possibly be a problem whe
n the child grows
up and maybe because we see this happening with d transitioners all of a sudden they're like um
I'm not really a boy I'm really a girl and why did I do this and how come nobody pushed back on
me this is why I feel like it's sloppy right now I don't feel we have a solid structured space
and understanding when you start giving a child medication they're medicated for life right I mean
you know it's not easy this is not easy I've been on this 31 years no yet 31 years it's not
easy
I will always tell you I wish was born a man I do not want to be trans I wish I was born a man I
don't wish this upon anybody you and I both know it's a struggle daily it's a struggle and that's
why I'm very open about when I say that like of course I want a young person to have everything
I have it changed my life but I also want to make sure that they're making I I really going to tell
you that I don't believe it's reversible I do not believe those Purity blockers are reversible som
e
of the damage that is happening so for example I I I interviewed bana do you know bana Ivy I think
I don't I'm not familiar with her oh she's awesome actually I would love to introduce you to her but
anyway she she was on puberty blockers at she's a male to female pu blockers at 12 hormones at 15
and then at 17 she had the vaginal surgery at 22 the vaginal surgery closed up total of nightmare
has never had sex never even felt sexual she said the blockers removed all sexual thoughts from h
er
she's never even had a feeling of sex that's the the third person on perod blockers that I spoke
to that said that to me that's sad that you know I'm big on sex by the way both of us I mean sex
is amazing we how can we take that away from a young person that is that's part of exploring who
you are and then she actually said if they would have just left me alone maybe I maybe I'm just
supposed to be a gay man I was like oh [ __ ] at 22 she's saying and now she looks like you you
you neve
r go back to being a man ever ever you you can't sorry but you might you would be a very
feminine you would get teased and it would not be good yeah I I see that I would say that you know
one person's complications can't be used against the rest of us so you know I think 10% of people
in this country regret having kids I mean do we stop people from having children just because
of that I understand I have compassion for the transitioners and I think you and I are definitely
in agreement ther
e need to be a little bit more more uh Medical gatekeeping but I do not think
the people that are proposing laws against us have good intentions towards adults or children
well that's because you and I aren't being able to speak to these people okay that I'm going to
tell you because we do have Nuance I can already tell you that me and you have Nuance the people
that keep being asked to the White House to or have an agenda they are they are completely have a
one track mind they think all ki
ds who say they're trans are trans they think anyone who says they're
or trans I fully disagree with that but these are the people who get to talk to the representatives
so then now the conservatives think we're all like trying to trans everybody that's what they think
they do think that and it's crazy they definitely do think that they do because they're not speaking
to people like you and I who are like nope actually I mean I don't know I think that's how
you feel right if just because a
kid says they're trans does that make them trans oh absolutely
not I think you need to they need to explore those things and they need to talk to a therapist
and they need to you know maybe spend some time socially you know if you want to wear a tutu or a
baseball cap maybe do that and see how that makes you feel I agree with you I think that um in the
trans Community we also need to get rid of the idea that the minute that somebody thinks that
there's something is that's when the world nee
ds to completely cater to their every whim I think
there's a little bit of entitlement that we have right now as a community that we need to fix and
it'll make some of these conversations a little bit more easier and more credible that's right
but me and you get blocked from that you know that cuz we're not the representative that they want
to have out there and the the community so I'll tell you real quick I was I I used to speak all
over the world I was like doing so really great and then
the community is blocked you know don't
bring Buck to speak I spoke at every university in the United States pretty much right and all over
I was you know whatever then all of a sudden this new thing came in and don't bring buck in he's
transforming and I got invited to speak at this big event and these three I'm not even going to
name them but they're very known trans people who just said don't bring buckes transphobic I'm like
it's about Elders it's literally about elders and you're you'
re GNA block my that's when I'm like no
this is a fake Community it's fake it's wrong they won't have people like you and I who can sit at
the table and disagree and walk away completely fine but I don't know why they don't want us to
have opposing opinions do do you I it really it that hurts my feelings to hear you know you could
say a lot I've watched a lot of your content I don't agree with a lot of it I agree with a lot
of it as well and um there's almost there's very few things that yo
u could say to me that I would
just completely throw you away for just because you've done so much for the community you an icon
in the community and I think that there's a lot of Elder trans people that have opinions that
younger people would not like that does not mean we throw them away that means we treat them like a
community have the conversations agree to disagree and you know may the best opinion win you know
we still can we don't have to work on the same side all the time but I don
't think there's any
NE necessity to be cruel and it doesn't work by the way for us to divide against each other and be
mean to each other like it doesn't help anybody um act as a team we need to find the common ground
between all of us and try to work with that and I think that's a lost art oh see you're you're you
get it we we are from different Generations it's always been like that I don't care what community
you're in go talk to the old Muslims and talk to the new Muslims I guar fuckin
ge you different ways
of being for sure and it's like with any Community how I do have more conservative values and I do
see things that people in this community might not see because my vantage point is 31 years right
it's a different vantage point doesn't mean I'm right doesn't mean I'm wrong it just means I can
say I don't feel comfortable with this I think we should re-evaluate this and we should have these
but to actually block voices in the Community because you don't like what they'r
e saying says
to me it's something else is going on here they don't want to have sort of different opinions but
because they only want the world to see one way of being yeah I I kind of want to um you know be a
moderate voice but also end the crybaby epidemic we we need to do a lot better because you know if
you're sitting there and you're counting all of the ways that you're victimized then it's going to
stop you from being able to achieve things in your own life I want everybody to be emp
owered I want
everybody to be a warrior and I want everybody to succeed in their life and we can't do that
if we're crying about microaggressions all the time that don't really matter if you don't pass
work hard on passing and then someday you'll pass baby that that's what it comes down to at the end
of the day there you go you heard it right there this woman puts a lot of work and effort I know
don't think I don't know what you put into it I do I've been around a long time I watch all my
trans with my friends work their asses off that says something to me that means you're willing to
do the work in order to coexist in the world right I coexist in the world because I want to I want to
pass now being passing is considered transphobic I'm like what yeah isn't that the end goal that's
the end goal yeah there's insanity and that sort of thing I feel like comes from a lot of young
people that just want to be uh reinforced with who they are just listen you're you know in God's
eye
s everybody is equal but that doesn't mean we're going to have equal outcomes and we need
to be okay with that and we got to work for the things that we want thank you thank you I swear to
God man the kids need to hear stuff like this but but here's what's happening Tik Tok Instagram
insular they're in a balloon they're in like a total insular space and then I you know don't
listen to bck he doesn't know what he's talking about they say that so that they won't listen to
me or to maybe even
you because they don't want them to have their own that's what it scares me
n I'll tell you it scares me because the kids are very easily influenced you and I both know that
they're so easily influenced to say well you don't need to have dysphoria to be trans you can just be
trans so when I see these kids they are struggling they aren't trans they're struggling with other
stuff like kids do right but then they're shoved into this trans space and which makes them even
more lost it makes them
even more because they don't fit for reals but they're trying to fit in
in that space and I we're doing such a disservice to Young People by just handing them the keys to
be trans without any like handing them the keys to the car without giving them driving lessons that's
what we're doing I think we we could definitely benefit from more education which is why I think
it's crazy that so many people are trying to block um knowledge of transgender people on the
internet and in schools and jus
t not talking about it at all is not going to help it's not going to
suppress anything I think I I agree most people I like your usage of the word transexual I think
you and a couple of other prominent um transgender people use it I used to not like it but the the
fact of the matter is there is the people who are on medication have different political interests
than people who are not we're being harmed the most and a lot of the um stuff that's being
used to harm us is coming from people wh
o are not truly trans like for example I was watching
a video on Tik Tok today of a girl talking about Sparkle Sparkles pronouns frog frog pronouns have
you have you seen this girl before yeah I probably have she gets shared on all of the anti-trans
pages and I'm like if you're going to make fun of us at least get the trans people right she
is not one of us that's the problem you know I do those little reaction because I can't stand it
these PE you know what I'm GNA tell you again I keep ha
ving to tell everybody I've been in this
[ __ ] for a long time those people there's a lot of you and in no way shape or form do I want
this to come off as mean or or or dis respectful in any way shape or form crossdressers are valid
transvestites are valid these people are totally valid but they're not transsexual and they're not
transgender and what I see now is I do see a sort of different type of person coming in that is more
of a transvesti which again no no hate at all but that's not
transsexual that's not me I'm not a
crossdresser I'm not somebody and I'm not even AGP now I know I I how do you feel about the AGP
thing what is AGP again okay AGP is autophilia and and oh right right so it's a love of self which
is more of a crossdresser and more of somebody who wants to be a woman for the more fetishized
part of it for more of like I'm getting off on having boobs and I'm it's sexually arousing again
no hate that's completely okay for for that right I've been in the I've
been in the sex industry
for a long time around dominat I was married to a dominatrix a lot of those came to see oh yeah
that's all other sorry but you know they used to come to see her totally that's a chapter in my
book by the way so so you know I've seen them I I know them I'm very familiar with them and so
I see them now coming into the trans space and and so so I think this is also causing a problem
now yeah I think it's making people think we're like that when we're not like that we l
iterally
have dysphoria I don't know how we're ever going to get straight people to understand that like
that's my issue with conversation because they are not us and I I want to repeat you I love
non-binary people I love transvestites I love everybody but now what what made me come around to
the way that you use the nomenclature was the fact that in Florida for example they um put a law into
place that barred 80% of transgender adults from having their medication did that affect anybody
b
ut the transsexuals and now they're banning adult Healthcare or trying to in multiple States
including Tennessee and Missouri and places like that and that's affecting us we have different
political interests I think that right it's really really hard to get people to understand that we
are fundamentally different than um people who are AGP or non-binary but and I can understand why
people would lump us into the same category but it's it's harmful and I I I really do not know
how to educate
people in a way that's nuanced and doesn't hurt everybody in the process I really
don't know you hit it right on the head look we're losing our medical space adults are losing and
what I told you before I said it I saw it noia I saw it the minute we bring children into the
picture now they think we're perverts and Weirdos and we're transitioning children and if you stand
back and take yourself out of the trans Community though we know that that's not our intention and
look in it looks like
that it actually looks like we're freaky weirdos who are taking kids and all
pedos and it just looks like that because of some of the people who have latched on to us and when
you bring kids into it so I said it we're going to lose all of our adult space because of the kid
thing and here it comes here it comes there's that's very legitimate um but I think my response
to that problem is some of your response but I think we need to get more aggressive in exposing
who is actually attacking th
e children it's happening more often in schools in churches most
people I think it's like eight out of 10 you know people who are attacking children are are straight
men so there's a a transgender woman I follow on uh Tik Tok that's in Florida and she's an older
lady that will sit there and she will every week go over who was in the news for attacking
children for real and it's always a straight man or religious man or conservative man I don't know
if backing up from the kids thing I unders
tand why you would want to do it and I also have that
impulse as well but I'm like it's all [ __ ] we're not doing that to children we're not doing that to
children so bu en llarge and sometimes you know I think that if one person in our community misstep
missteps it makes the rest of us look back that's not fair we need to attack smarter I don't want to
shrink down and not be strategic and getting what we want they're and they just but I'm always
honest right I'm always honest to everybody
especially when I'm I'm adopting a kid now and
I I'm like I'm now it's not a problem they're like oh wow that's awesome your trans and I'm like
whoa things have changed right would you would you say that do you mean like you're in the process
of adopting another kid right now oh we got to talk about that at some point too oh yeah for sure
it's a thing it's I'm 61 and people are like are you going to adopt at 61 I'm like you know what F
off I'm not old like people are like whoa you're 61 I'
m like dude look at me like I'm I'm I'm going
to be the stay-at-home dad cuz my wife career is just skyrocketing so I'm all about being to stay
at home next thing you know there'll be the baby here with on our next interview congratulations oh
thank no I'm super excited about it um so so yeah I mean I do really think that the anti-trans laws
are coming down hard because some of the fools in our community have just made people think we're
all that way right so instead of them looking why do
you think I keep myself present friend I don't
need to do this you know that I built an Empire I have an Empire honestly I have a great life I
have everything I've Ever Needed I've been lucky enough to build businesses I'm I don't have to do
this I could easily but I need to do this because I care about you and I also care about the young
people who really do need to transition but now we're having people transition who should never be
transitioning and taking those spaces from actual real
trans what about all the young girls who took
their breasts off and now are like I'm not trans those could have gone to actual real kids young
people who have dysphoria and you understand my point there that's because we have Loosey Goosey
uh not even laws just anyone could be trans anyone yeah I I think as a community we need to maybe
work on some guidelines and discuss them and have disting voices but what I can't accept are the
people who are who are coming down and trying to bring that
stuff from a religious standpoint I'm
like okay AG you know I might think that there's an imaginary woman inside of my head you think
that there's an imaginary man this guy that's telling everybody what to do and that we shouldn't
exist no that's right I mean come on we have to exist I that's why also 31 years there's not a
lot of people like me especially trans men not a lot and it's why it's important and you being a
young transom your presence is extremely important because also because
you're very well spoken you
know your [ __ ] and you know that's why don't we have more representation from people like you why
do we only have representation now I know you said that about Dylan that's fine but to me Dylan is
also one of those sort of Clowny making fun and like that's why people don't necessarily take
us seriously because those are the trans people that are put on pedestals right Jeffrey Marsh her
all of them what is making people look at us in a really and not me and you
I I love Dylan I think
Dylan is a lot of fun I don't know her but and I think I do think she's good representation in
some ways but Jeff Jeff Marsh yeah I I struggle with that one I'm like some of those videos where
you're talking directly to children like I don't think he's doing anything malicious but I'm like
yeah Optics do Optics matter they do matter they do matter do matter and um more of us need to step
forward and try to make a platform I think that's the antidote to this to see mor
e diversity in
transgender people and good representation I think is going to help us all it's going to help us all
and and instead of the community being so insular and also so you they're like sort of picking right
this is the person now Dylan I don't know Dylan like I don't really care about Dylan right I I
I just don't I look at Dylan as an influencer on some level and that that's how I just look at it I
don't think that that I've never seen that person ever say anything political I don
't think they
have any of that's not their space their space is to be jumping around and having fun go for it
whatever you need to do my friend that's the new world social media and influencers that that's how
it works but why is Dylan going to the White House and representing us when Dylan transitioned one
week ago or one year ago and doesn't necessarily have the experience like you and I have why would
they bring Dylan to the White House yeah I think lever Cox should be the president of a
ll the
transgender women she's amazing and when she was in the Forefront of transgender issues we were
getting rights we were getting TV shows you know we were getting more access and we need to be
strategic about that stuff so I totally agree with you I mean no diss to Dylan get your coins
I'm happy for you but I think that you know when when the world pays attention to people like you
or lever Cox Janet mock it it really humanizes us to a lot of people and we were doing very good at
the
pr game for a couple of years and then we got real bad and then we got real we got Sidetrack
Tick Tock I'm not even kidding no I'm friends with all of th those women and they're amazing and
they're beautiful and they've done [ __ ] ton of work for this community and if you notice they
sort of took a backseat and and because I think they also see things they're not happy with and
they don't they're transsexual I think they also identify as transsexual women so so they want to
look like women
they want to be a woman they want walk the world as a woman they don't want people
to see them as a trans person and that's the new thing I see I think a lot of people identify as
trans you see the difference I don't identify as trans I identify as a male and I wanted to what
we used to call a sex change right I wanted to transition to live my life male not to be trans
and so I think what's happening now is there's a newer generation of people that are taking
this on as a identity and not
necessarily as a medical condition I agree it is a if I were
a child I could see why that could be used as something to be like I'm special and I can see the
perspective of like that's fine be special explore whatever but we need to pump our breaks before we
do anything crazy so I am in favor of um Medical gatekeeping in some capacity but I think that
should be done by medical associations I don't want anybody religious driving it because I just
don't trust their intentions that's with anyt
hing thing right religion is your own personal choice
it is not something that we we we have we have to take on right like I don't have to be a Christian
I don't have to be a Muslim I don't have to be anything I don't want to be right so it should
be so you're right I agree this is one of the problems I think is that we brought children
transitioning to the Forefront of our whole trans space trans kids are kids trans I'm like
what you don't understand people outside of us are seeing that we
're transitioning children
and it makes people really and also it should be a very private space you know what about when
these K what about look at me and you we walk the world as men and women we don't walk the world so
much as trans I I I just speaking for you but what about when this kid gets older and then his whole
face is plastered over the Internet by his parents yay I have a trans kid and then they just want
to be a normal kid but now they're a trans kid and everyone knows who they
are from tickt from
the parents yeah I I don't think we should put that sort of stuff on a pedestal it's extremely
hard and it Canad people to bullying but where I disagree with you I don't think we're focusing
on children I think the people who are trying to attack us are focusing our children to make us
look bad I think they're doing it intentionally well they are they are 100% they are but but we're
giving them the ammunition you you you understand a lot of people are not helping is I w
ill agree
with that a lot of people are not helping I always try to when I'm talking about this issue I always
make it very clear I don't give a Ras patootie if a if a transgender child ever transitions again
I don't care I'm not around kids I don't want to be around kids etc etc my but my point in doing
all of this is I want families to have Choice with their children and safety and Guidance with
their doctors and psychiatrists it's really a a a freedom of expression and our ability to man
ifest
ourselves it's really about that it's not about I care about kids I I really don't no no I agree
I agree with you every parent should have the opportunity to do what they need to do I'm very
much about parental right but so so then I want to know how you feel about this idea that the state
can take your child away from you if you don't transition them I don't like that idea I think
that there's a few states that have some laws that I find very iffy I think California being one
of the
m oh God I'm here so I yeah so I I want to be careful with that I I really think that if we
talk about this issue in terms of parents rights that's going to create the best outcomes and I
think that uh parents should be in the no when it comes to their transgender children and the
state should not be able to take your child away I mean we got to protect the family for sure wow
I'm big on family thank you for saying that I do think some of the stuff that comes out of our
community creeps me
out like oh stay get away from your parents they don't understand you what
you can't say that to a kid also schools here in California can like literally transition your
child without telling the parents so they have one name at school Tommy and their name is at
home and then they are like totally walking that's also confusing to a child that is and then
teaching the child not to tell their parents that they're doing this at school that's teaching CH
children how to lie to their parents it
I can't get behind a lot of the stuff that California does
but I also don't think California is reflective like the crazy [ __ ] that happens in California
you know don't don't take that stuff and then be like okay well people in Ohio need to do this too
I'm like leave California needs to be treated like an alien I love California but it does it's it's
no it's a mess here I'll be honest you know I'm a liberal I'm an actual liberal I really am I'm
not a conservative I'm not rep contrary to w
hat people believe oh you're a what do they call
me you rightwing I'm like what I'm an actual Li I never got that impression from you and I
think that's crazy and you know it's funny a lot of people um I went on Brad Palumbo's show I like
him he's so nice yeah I love Brad he he's great he like branded me as a liberal and I was like damn I
haven't heard that about myself in a long time if you go on Tik Tok tot they are calling me a total
Republican I'm like okay whatever I don't care about l
abels you know but you I mean you have such
such really more much more liberal things than I think even myself that's CRA it's because you're
saying things they don't like what they're hearing right yeah it's a it's a shutdown it's like
calling you a boot licker or whatever they pick me they call me pck me all the time blah blah blah
I'm like wow really I mean I'm not in junior high school people like aren you an adult calling me a
Pik me like this is so absurd I caught people Boot liggers
and pikm too but you would never be on
that list I was like he was fighting for us when it was real hard so I would never yeah I would
never I don't like when people um disrespect you regardless of how you feel you know you could be
I I come from an old school type of family so you could be a lot crazier and I would still respect
you but you're you're totally great so right no because we have to show this is so important my
God thank you for stepping up to the plate because maybe this is go
ing to make some more trans people
say Okay I want to have a conversation with [ __ ] or even with you right like we we need to have we
should created like a round table with all of us who but it's hard because people don't want to you
seem to be more willing to have the conversation I think some people get very mad and then they
immediately get shut down and they can't continue the conversation well you can't have a debate with
somebody like that and it's not fun and you know it gets all t
he clicks on social media and stuff
like that but I I would love to do a round table where we're discussing stuff like this I don't
want to walk away from people I respect and feel like I've injured them in any sort of capacity and
that's really what my values are about and that's what your values are about too and it's not about
putting on a show we're doing our advocacy in our own way but I want to be respectful of the people
around me to the extent that I can well that's why you will be
up there and you will be something
if you're not already and you will get across the message to people people in the world and so
you're coming from this side I'm coming from this side we're going to meet in the middle that that's
how I look at these kinds of things you can say all the things you need to say I but our ultimate
goal I'm pretty sure our ultimate goal is to help trans people get into a space to live a beautiful
life like we do and that's always been my ultimate goal all the wo
rk I've done all of it and for me
though it's always been about people who can make these choices as adults I'll be honest I do not
think a young person can necessarily understand the longterm again I have 3 years of this it
hasn't been easy and it isn't easy and there's times where you are like [ __ ] man I have to wake
up every day and see this body like I just wanted to be a man like yeah this sucks and I I think to
your point like I'm not going to die on the kid Hill that's I'm nowhere
close to that I think it's
one of the things that I'm passionate about it I want to talk about it I think it's an important
conversation but it's really about the liberation of people to be able to manifest themselves and
really their best life without discrimination we all want the same thing we just disagree on which
method we're going to take to get that's right there a beautiful point you just made we we we all
want the same thing it's just different methods of getting there but we're n
ot going to get there
while we're hating on each other right we're not going to get there I've never in my years of being
this way have ever seen the trans community be so hateful towards each other I've never never I'm
not kidding ever and I do think it's a younger generation like we were talking about earlier that
just think they can come in and say these things and you know the fact that they say you don't need
gender dysphoria to be trans is very hurtful I'll be honest to you it hurts m
y feelings because I'm
like nope actually you do and actually that's why I told you the difference between somebody like us
who is medicalized and then they call I don't know if they ever call you true scum but they call me
true scum what yeah what is that yeah what is that see it's all fun in games until our our medicine
is getting taken away so you know again like I I didn't ever like call any transgender person true
but you know two 3 four years ago when I was in my non-binary kind of ph
ase I also felt like I was
like well why is there such gatekeeping of being trans now now that medication is getting taken
away I'm like oh you know and that's what people like you knew the entire time so that's like it
I learned and hopefully we can teach people and that's what I want to do with my platform I'm
talking about what they're doing to transgender adults in multiple States and this is kind
of what we've been talking about the entire time oh my God you cannot take medicine away i
t
will it will actually kill us and it's not okay we are adults we can do whatever we want that's
what that's what being an adult is so the minute they start touching our medicine uh-uh I will
not tolerate that I need it so do you and don't you dare make me go back underground because
you know I had to do underground early on oh yeah because I couldn't get testosterone you know
I would get a prescription from my doctor go to the pharmacy the pharmacy of like what do you need
this for I'm l
ike what it's a it's a they're like no I'm not giving it to you oh wouldn't give me
my testosterone because that the guy behind the counter was a Christian or whatever and he was not
okay with a woman taking testosterone so I I think the powers that be that are really there's a lot
of moderate people that have concern for children but the powers that be that are really coming for
transgender people what drives me crazy about them is that they legislate us out of existence and
then pretend t
hat we've never existed in the first place and that's what they're doing again they're
getting rid of that you know children adults whatever and then in 10 20 years when people
are too scared to be visibly trans they like what trans people there aren't gay people here
there aren't trans people here it's a complete farce and I really upsets me It's upsetting it's
it should upset you should piss you the [ __ ] off I'm mad we cannot let this happen and so I'm tell
you that I do blame part of t
he community for this it's like [ __ ] man we fought the elders before
me we fought to get to a space where you could actually use Insurance do you know how what a gift
that is and these people don't even understand the I didn't get insurance everything you see here has
been out of pocket work three jobs save to get my top surgery I mean I can go on and on I don't want
it to sound like I want you to Pat me on the back I'm just telling you no I will Pat you on the back
that's big that's your
that's what your generation did you were a big part of that I will Pat you
on the back for that that's really people don't understand that but I get it I work in insurance
so I and guess what that's what they are going to attack that's exactly what is really bothering me
that's right they're going to take it away from you they're going to take it away you're not going
to get your top surgery paid for you're not going to get your hormones paid for you're not going to
be okay as a trans pers
on because everyone's going to take they're going to literally call this a
farce they're going to call it a farce they're going to say that you are choosing to be trans
because these kids are now self iding so you see how that's hurting us we're not choosing this this
is literally who we are we're suffering and for us not to suffer we need the medicine but those kids
who are self and saying I'm trans and then two years later going oops I made a mistake you don't
think that's that's killing
us yeah and I I where I have a lot of agreement with you I think that I
place the blame on all the stuff that's happening on the people on the right I really do but it's
not like we we don't take any sort of ownership and that Bo bothers me too that's right we have to
take some sort of ownership over the way that we present ourselves the way the spokes people that
we choose and I think a lot of the community wants to take 0% and that does not work for me no thank
you for saying that you kno
w I work I worked in the pornography business for many years I don't
anymore but that being said oh God it's thank for your service by the way right on so but you know
I have to get it's like gum on the bottom of your shoe it's like I it won't come off and I'm like
what people use it all the time against me even people in the community I'm like what that was
an adult space I create adult entertainment right like what are you talking about so I guess my my
points being is they're going to fi
nd any way and every way to for them to point fingers at us that
were perverts that were weirdos that were doing you know what I mean like this is sick like so so
that's the problem and why we can't just have one form of of of of people sort of um representing
I hate that word so much us and putting us I do I just hate it because I don't want anybody to feel
they represent me they do not but you know I think one voice or one type of voice is being sort of
a it's being Amplified we need tran
s Excellence to be out there as well we we get a lot of people
who are um talking about our struggles and there's a place for that but where are the transgender
girls doing big things there's a lot of them we got to advertise them a little bit more because
that's what will connect People to People right no no 100% you know like when when lever was out
there and even Caitlyn Jenner whatever you feel about her there there's people that have been in
the Forefront of and putting themselves out
there on it and really showing the struggle and that's
why I keep telling you that there's some people in this community that have infiltrated us who are
not like me and you and who are more fetishizing you know when a when a trans woman starts saying
I have my period And I have period cramps and I'm that is insane they must really freak you out
it's weird it is weird and I make fun of people like that too I'm like stop saying that that's so
like that's that's crazy weird so you don't think
now everyone's like oh they're just a bunch of
[ __ ] wing nut crazy people of course yeah that's right totally it's like me saying oh I'm shooting
sperm out of my vagina what they would actually have to lock me up yeah I I and that's why like as
protrans as I am I can't help myself from making fun of some of the stuff I think we have to as
Elders we have to have we have to make fun we have to put people in their place and we got to utilize
you know what however we can teach people we have
to do that too and so I I think it's important
for us to how do you do that on the internet how do you do that as a personality on the internet
I think you know we have to be critical in public sometimes as well well building our platforms and
sharing our platforms and and coming together as people who don't agree on everything but agree
for the bigger picture and I think that's really where you and I stand for the bigger picture of
making sure that people who are transsexual really do hav
e the means and way to get to this space
and not struggle right I don't want anybody to struggle I want them to have a beautiful awesome
life if there really are trans people but we've had a lot of people getting hurt who shouldn't
have ever been pushed into this space right because I think gatekeeping which is not a bad
word by the way gatekeeping is not a bad word it's an actual really important word but I think a lot
of people in the community were like gatekeeping I can just be TR and t
hen that just opened the
floodgates you know I've interviewed over a 100d transitioners wow yeah I noticed that there were
a lot on your page yeah before because and to say you won't get your breast back because again it's
all mostly Youngs and I'm like you will never get your breast back you will if you get a Hy you know
they're doing hysterectomies on 16-year-old girls like what yeah you think a 16year old girl could
make that choice not to have a baby like no what about when she's 25 and
she's like oops I decided
I wanted to have babies not anymore that happens yeah I mean you know it's it's a [ __ ] show
friend but you're awesome I think I think thank thank you so much for spending time with me here
today and willing to have I don't even think we really have that many different opinions no I
didn't think we would I watched a lot of your content today I'm like yeah yeah there's there
AR that many differences here so but I will say you are a legend this is a bucket list mom
ent for
me so I cannot believe it's happening and I'm so thankful that you exist and I appreciate the work
that you do oh you're a beautiful human my friend oh we're friends now we're literally friends I'm
going to send you number and then um to La we'll totally hang out or I go I go to Arizona too are
you are you more Phoenix area yeah Phoenix area excellent excellent I have a lot of friends there
I should connect you with um so so with that thank you nalia very much do you want to say any
thing
before we leave maybe to you have something like you want to just say out there yeah I think that
as a community we can disagree and we could have a conversation and we can find our common ground
and we could still do what's best for us with that Common Ground we need to be strategic the
infighting doesn't have a place in strategy and we need to focus on strategy right now so everybody
who's watching please think about that a you're lovely you're a lovely human you are you have a
goo
d heart you really do and I think that you only want the best for us out there and so thank you
for really doing this this evening it means a lot to me it does and also I want to let you know I
really like connecting with the younger generation because it's important I also get other ideas you
know I'm always willing to change my mind I am I'm not hard lined in my thought process it's how I
grow to be this person by always sort of changing my mind or seeing things so so with that everybody
please leave beautiful comments she's awesome follow her you have a channel right yeah it's a
transgender Insurance on YouTube and then it's Tran allytics on Tik Tok and um I'll put it all
in the description is that t I'm like how do you spell that so I'll leave all her information you
guys can reach out to her if you want and we leave her some beautiful comments and follow her Channel
and let's help raise her up as well and this this way we create a more loving more respectful
Community fo
r all of us in the world so I'll see you guys on the live on Wednesday and thanks
so much for watching I appreciate you all so much
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Today's lovely guest is trans woman (mtf) TikToker Nalea Akther and we have a civil debate, or discussion if you will, about some hot topics amongst the trans community and beyond. Tiktok, mtf ftm opinions, gender, puberty blockers, kids transitioning, detransitioners, you name it haha. Nalea was a wonderful guest and I am grateful for her time to sit down and talk with me!
1:03:33 It’s wild that I can’t get a hysterectomy with 3 children because my doctor “doesn’t want me to regret it” if I end up wanting a fourth child but a 16 year old with no children can just get a hysterectomy without having any children at all. That’s so wild to me.
Oh no not this person. Nalea really needs to address why they called Marcus an 'Uncle Tom', a derogatory term used against black people, why they felt the obligation to use that in their tiktok when addressing him :(
Thank you for having the courage to sit down and have a civil conversation. I'm a straight female and I truly appreciate the honesty and integrity you put behind your videos. This is the kind of re-education so many people need.
Some don't want to pass because they get off on reacting to people "misgendering" them.
the problem that i have with her saying (paraphrase), we should let kids have treatment to change their sex, to protect them from being bullied while they're in the processes when they're older, feels like she cares more about protecting adults from being bullied than worrying about the actual welfare of a child.
Lol Dylan not passing was not the reason everyone hates him...
ok Love Buck, but not the other person in this video that insulted both Blaire and Marcus in her tik tok, and she supports children transitioning.
She came on friendly enough, and threw around some ideas. When it came to the trans kids and puberty blockers….no. Not all Trans women feel the way she does, but I definitely notice (As a Trans man myself) and as your brought up Buck, It's mainly Trans women who are into the idea, and I get it girl stuffs harder for y’all but they need to get out of the (I wish I could have done or had X when I was younger.) Blockers have caused harm to young trans women, and are mostly impacting our FTM side of the community. If I were being honest most of the drama from this community as a whole stems from “Trans women” and “Non-binary” people, they just need to take a step back and get with the program.
I hear you both say straight people don't understand. What we understand is you are taking a perfectly healthy body and disabling it and claiming you have a right to put these costs on the taxpayer. Your body will not die without these pills or surgeries. Therefore, these surgeries can not be classified as life saving. The broken mind is different from a broken body. I think people who say they are trans and want to live like that need to accept they are still their biological sex. The truth hurts sometimes. Just because it hurts doesn't mean we shouldn't be honest about it. We all have problems. Being trans is your problem. Being ugly is mine. We deal with our problems and live on.❤
If my parents gave in to my desire to be what I wanted to be, at 6 years old, I'd be Batman . Children should be allowed to grow into themselves so they more fully understand which direction they want to take their journey. (Team Buck)
I am not trans, but I am a lesbian, and I get mistaken for being heterosexual all the time. That I don't 'look like a lesbian', I don't pass as one. It has never really bothered me because it doesn't change the fact that I'm lesbian. And most of the time it isn't meant in a malicious or harmful way. It's just how we humans are programmed to think, I'm still a minority. Political correctness has killed free speech. People have become so afraid to speak out when they see something morally wrong. Afraid of being canceled, excluded, harassed even. So now there are very few people who are giving any push back to this whole trans phenomenon. I'm sure big Pharma and its investors are quite happy about that..
I don't know if I agreed with Nalea on many things, but it is great to hear different opinions and viewpoints in a civilized, friendly discussion! Very happy to view/hear this lovely guest, and would like to check back in 15-20 years to see if she has changed her opinion on things. People do!
Honestly, seeing this woman ..makes me think, "Oh no, not her again!" Buuuuuut I'm willing to watch and see if my mind is changed.
Thanks for this civil and open-ended conversation. It takes courage on both sides. ❤
We do change with age no matter what our sexuality. I was a wild hippie child, still fairly progressive but the world is much more nuanced than youth have, who have not had our lived experience.
what I saw of Mulvaney makes me doubt that this person is a transwoman, something feels off with that one. And without filters and make-up that person gives off a total male vibe. Plus, I think Mulvany doesn't get so much attention anymore is because people got fed up with it all.
Yeah, no. I pass on watching this one. She showed her true colors, when she came for Marcus calling him a "trans uncle tom". He mainly critisized her for being on board with 'transing' kids in Brad's video. Her vibe is really fricking off imo, watch out Buck...
Hey Buck! I remember back in 2006 I worked at an adult retail store for the first time and I learned about you. Fast forward... I still work in adult retail lol but was so thrilled to find you on YouTube doing your thing. You truly are a pioneer and an "OG" and you deserve to be heard. You have a lot of hard earned wisdom and I think what you're doing is very important for young (TRUE) LGBT people. Keep it real always ❤
I wonder what Nalea will write on her socials the next few days. I hope she wont give Buck the marcus treatment