Let’s dive deep into a question that plagues
us all: Why can’t we forget our hurts? Why is it that even after we've asked Jesus to
forgive and done everything in our power to forgive those who wronged us, we still
can't seem to shake the pain and memories that haunt us? Let’s find freedom right now.
Forgiveness takes a special kind of strength. It's about releasing someone from a debt they owe,
even if they'll never repay it. It's a divine act, and a conscious decision that takes
willpower
and God power. But here's the thing - just because you've forgiven
someone doesn't mean you'll magically forget. But don't worry. Sometimes, holding onto memories
of pain can actually be helpful. It can teach us valuable lessons, protect us from future harm, and
remind us of just how much we've overcome. Still, we can't deny that the lingering pain
of past hurts can be a real problem. So what's the solution? What can we do to
resolve the pain of hurts we can’t forget? Step 1. Realize that f
orgetting is
subjective, depending on how often the situation or person stays in your life.
For example, you may forget the bully who tormented you in high school because you
never see them again after graduation, but you may never forget the sting of being
bullied. On the other hand, you may never forget that your spouse cheated on you even though you
have forgiven and have also reconciled with them. Step 2. Stop picking the wound. The Bible says,
“You will keep your friends if you forgiv
e them, but you will lose your friends if you
keep talking about what they did wrong.” We simply need to beware of how Satan wants
us to reopen our scabs. So we put a lock on the door and set the alarms so when our
thinkin' becomes stinkin', we can remember to change the topic. It’s no different than
changing the topic in any conversation, and our choice to change the topic can
be as simple as saying, “Thank you God.” Step 3. The quote, "The first to apologize is the
bravest. The first to
forgive is the strongest, and the first to forget is the happiest,"
highlights the importance of apologizing, forgiving, and forgetting in our lives. It
suggests that those who have the courage to take responsibility for their actions and
apologize are brave. Forgiving someone who has wronged us takes strength and letting
go of past hurts can bring happiness. The problem is that forgetting is often
the most difficult part of this equation. Our brains are wired to remember
negative experien
ces for survival, but dwelling on them can have a
negative impact on our mental health. While forgetting may not be easy, it is a skill
that can be developed over time. To summarize: We can start by 1) choosing to not pick the
wound, and 2) by deciding to be thankful. This takes practice. As we have learned in
other videos, forgiveness happens and frees us – more than the offender - when we release
ourselves from our need to be repaid. Because we’ve decided that we don’t need to collect
an
ymore, suddenly we are the ones who become free. As much as all this makes logical
sense, the emotional problem remains that most people have trouble with both
forgiveness and forgetting. That’s why we hope you’ll pick one of these two
videos to watch right away. Let the freedom of forgiveness grow inside you and
discover a new level of joy in your life!
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