How to Love an ADHD Partner

talk trying to make your point heard. But the conversation just seems to get worse. then, worst of all, your partner So how do you learn the tools to finally, if you're new. If you're new here. My name is Chris. I'm this. Alexa, stop. Alexa, stop. a conversation. Believe me, I've spent a large portion of my life failing at this, And if you're a fellow and if you're a fellow ADHD, it can to us. And if you're a fellow ADHD, it can happen to us much easier than most. So I'm going to go step by step

. So I'm by step process. You can use each time to make clearly, without lecturing. But there's But make sure you keep watching, but make sure you watch the end, one rule that is crucial to making these steps work. first up, make your point. So the thing to do is make your point. A lot of people think that we have to build up to the point. to a final point. You know, a lot of mistakenly that you have to pave the way with evidence Yes. The very first thing to do is to make your it is make your cl

aim first then work your way backwards. So. So how do you make your claim? So how do you claim? So how do you make your claim? Well, it's easy. One sentence, one point. is being said, not the details. This is a really, really step. Most a lot of to a lot of meandering talk, finding the reason for talking. But The second step is to give is simply backs up your very first point in a very clear and concise way. And this actually covers one of the key. And this actually covers one of the four relati

onships Girls, a video on. Check out the video. And this part is crucial. It's actually and perform this step is really, really crucial because this is one being a good teacher. If you want to learn a little bit more about So an example of this could be. And then the third step, and then the step is to use examples. So relevant examples. is where you add to illustrate Giving one or two very simple examples helped to add credibility saying. But they need to be short, but they need to be And this

is kind of like starting the story and this is kind of like starting and this is get lost in a conversation because you listing out all of these examples, but you're not actually making point. So the person So your partner is listening to you thinking, Where is this point going? to say? You're just giving a load of So a really bad example of this. So really bad example of is and this is where you can fall the trap of So let's say. A lot of conversations can go this Well, you never do. if you can

. So if to justify the point, I don't I don't feel like I do forget to do the dishes. feel like the jobs are. Yeah, well, we'll work on the examples. that so leave a comment below. If this is one of the habits that you do too. this many, many times in my life. Leave a comment I know that I've done this many, many times in my life. Leave a comment below if this And then as we start to it's important to go back to the beginning. So this is where you simply restate your and simply restates it. This

closes up the loop this closes up the loop of what you're trying to say. reminds you, it simply remains and yourself of the point that you're making. But this is not where you stop. If you stop here. here, this will still seem a lecture. No matter execute it, no matter how short it is. You're missing crucial step. So before we jump in that crucial step is, do want more tips, advice and strategies on ADHD then I invite you to sign up to my weekly newsletter. So before is. So before we jump in to

what that So before we jump in with that, if you want tips, advice and strategies on ADHD and relationships and dig into the tools that myself and other fellow ultra normal myself and other fellow ultra normal members use every single day. If you want in the description below. Click on the link in the description below to join us and take the next step. of this is to approach every conversation with curiosity. step is simply This is the most crucial step. This is where for your partner's though

ts. So you present any thoughts or up the floor to opinions or other ideas what you may be then it's a lecture. You're not asking for feedback. your partner says a bunch of opinions that you place as facts and you don't open up the floor to any other perspectives. One of the key things to remember is happens on the receiver's terms. So no matter how well you communicate be filtered through what they from you and their interpretations. So you can't just that that you're open to hearing all the pe

rspectives. this is where you allow your point of view to be And this is important. This is, again, one of the key relationship skills. You the expert because we're simply with your with your points of view and how they fit in with your which is one of the four key relationship skills, which again, talk about in the video, which I linked to above. a good student is one of the four key skills, so make sure you do check out the video, a link to it in And this again is one key relationship skills.

So make take a look at that video next. If you want more information on that and if you do want skills, tips and strategies on ADHD, relationships the channel. Thank you, as always for watching and see you in the next video. Thank you, as see you in the next video. So let's take a look an example. So let's take a look at a So let's take a look at a couple of examples. And oftentimes and oftentimes it can devolve into long rants that not only you off topic, but continue that not only get off topi

c oftentimes it can devolve into and I get it. You know, oftentimes the intent is not there lecture. And, you know, I get it. The intent is there to lecture. is simply to try to explain your point. This actually causes called