I often spent so much energy trying to convince myself to do the thing or figuring out how to do the thing that I didn't have enough left to actually complete it if something became urgent enough I'd kick into gear everything else fell away while I finished a paper or scrambled to get to class on time the things that were important to me but never became urgent like finishing my novel learning to meal prep I just never got to them there were explanations of course I must be lazy maybe I didn't
actually care about this occasionally I was convinced I was self-sabotaging most things in life require you not only to
do things but also do them consistently and motivation for me was anything but consistent so my efforts rarely paid off what I learned ADHD brains aren't motivated by what's important in fact many of our most important tasks are ones that ADHD brains find viscerally painful to do the ones that are lengthy repetitive or boring there's even a term for a tendency to escape and av
oid the distress that a delay causes us delay aversion this is my book I wrote this book and it's now available for pre-order everywhere books are sold
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If you haven't already, I highly recommend getting a narrator to make this into an audiobook. Not that the message isn't important enough to focus on, but I know that I will have trouble even starting a self-help book unless I know I can listen to it while doing something else. Not that you have to cater to me, but I'm excited by the idea of the book. So, simply making what I hope is a helpful suggestion.
As a "gifted" youth, school taught me early on that actually finishing things and doing them well was "rewarded" with more work. More painful tasks. Still trying to fix the damage.
This really feels like you’re reading my life story. I can’t tell you how seen your videos make me feel. And yes, please record it as an audiobook
Ok but…, HOW DO YOU DEAL WITH IT?! I have never related more to something said on this channel. THIS HAS DESCRIBED ME PERFECTLY AND I NEED A SOLUTION 😭😂
Very proud of you finishing it!
Hooray! I’m so excited to get your book on audible!
Getting motivated has always been a huge struggle for me and it's gotten to the point that it's not just important tasks I need to do but even my special interests are stressful to me and I actually feel physically sick getting started and doing a hobby like gardening and decorating with Christmas lights. Basically I can't enjoy anything anymore, I've been on disability the past year. I'm agoraphobic also and can't leave the house but also need to get out sometimes and then I get overstimulated going out, I have ADHD and autism and both disorders overlap and fight against each other.
I’m not diagnosed with ADHD, and I don’t know if I have it, but this spoke to me.
Yaaaaaaay!!! 🥳 This is so cool, I'm so proud of you, I'm excited to read your book 😊😊
Just pre-ordered on audible :)
Heck yea!! That’s awesome❤
Congratulations on your book! That’s AWESOME!!!
now just make it into an audio book that's limited time and on "sale" for a short period that should get a few of us to buy it. jokes aside, nice, congrats on the book, it looks dope
Thank you so much for the clearly readable/visible cc❣️😊
Back in college, my professors hated me. I hated me. I didn't know why i couldn't do better. They probably didn't care. I wanted to do well, I just couldn't get myself to keep up. It ended up being such a waste. I wish I knew then what I know now, about myself. But it never even occurred to me back then. Not knowing my condition, not being able to even put my struggles into words. Just...wasted my twenties. The loans still had to be paid off. They didn't care either.
The statement "maybe I didn't actually care about this" rings so true to me. I have said the same thing to myself. I feel so confused with myself sometimes.
You should do pregnancy related videos
Can't wait to receive it in March!!
I'll get around to getting it for sure! 😉 Is it coming to Kindle as well?
I actually just got my diagnosis yesterday, and I'm 50! Oy vey.