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How To Tame The Toxic Self Talk Beast! - Gday Gorgeous Podcast Episode 6 With Amanda Jane Clarkson

How To Tame The Toxic Self Talk Beast! Once I made a personal commitment to empowering my life instead of trying to live with conformity...desperately wanting to be liked and loved for who I was, I began to realize that for things to change first I must change. This was a hard pill to swallow I admit...but I was so sick and tired of being sick and tired. I would look in the mirror and really beat up on myself...wasn't pretty enough, wasn't popular enough, wasn’t smart enough, wasn't born into the right family, failed everything at school, didn't fit in for whatever reason, I began to realise it was little wonder my self talk was beyond toxic! At times it was a wild beast! I would blame everyone else for the way I felt with no real understanding of how to change my thoughts. Once I began to learn how our minds are conditioned as kids from our parents, guardians, school peers, teachers, religion, government and especially environment and back in the 70's TV...I could see how I was kinda taught to believe and speak and act as others did....monkey see, monkey do situation. I also discovered and could see that, these same thoughts that I had from early childhood were not exactly helping me live my dreams. In fact, year after year, my life was the same. Same attitude, same types of friends, same experiences and same results...but I wanted more than that...don't you? For me, I had decided that my future was far too important to leave in the hands of my old ways of thinking and acting. Unless I did something about it, how could I expect a different result? How was I going to live the dream...for me it was all about FREEDOM. Being in control of my own life and doing the things I dreamed of since I was a young girl. Of course, over the years my dreams and goals had changed, but not the underlying yearning for FREEDOM to live life on my own terms not somebody else's! Especially society and conformity; that just was not for me. With the help of my many mentors (and this is what I do in my coaching) the first step is to love and nurture SELF so that you can tame the wild beast that is your toxic self talk ladies!! Here's a couple of empowering ideas and ways with which I was able to gradually kill off that toxic beast...remembering it was years of conditioning and years of habitual self talk that I was transforming, so my motto is one day at a time, one step at a time. I would look in the mirror and point out the positive aspects about myself, the fact that I had eyes that could see, ears that can hear sounds of nature and all sorts of amazing things, I had hair that I could color and change any time i felt like it, I had hands that could touch, caress, pick up things, I had legs that ran fast when I needed them to, and I thought about how miraculous the body is and how when we go to sleep at night our body continues to work and repair itself. I know some of these topics are heavy, I know that they might also be hard to take in, but I promise you it’s worth pushing through if you want more from life. If you want more from this amazing gift we’ve been given. Each week I will share a story of my journey, occasionally I will have a guest who can also share their story, and can’t wait to get to know you better, along the path of this new journey we are going to take together. Make sure you Subscribe to my Youtube channel and please also download the podcast where ever you get your podcast and I would be forever grateful if you could leave me a favourable review, if you like my message and lessons. Be Bold. Be Courageous. Be Fabulous!” With Love & Gratitude Amanda 😘🦋💝 ________________ I WOULD LIKE TO INTRODUCE YOU TO MY LIFE’S PURPOSE We call it G’day Gorgeous Select… which is a community of women who love, support, encourage and learn together in a safe and caring environment. “G’day Gorgeous Select” Gives You The Community, Support, Love & Confidence to Succeed in All Areas of Your Life It’s a place where you are… Empowered, Valued, Listened to, Understood, Praised, Encouraged, Guided, Accepted, Loved, Coached, And rewarded Yet G’day Gorgeous Select is more than just a community. It’s more than just a membership. It’s a world-wide movement of women dedicated to living their dreams no matter how big or small they may be. https://www.gdaygorgeous.com/select ______________________ INTRODUCING MY GROUND BREAKING BOOK... “From Frustrated To Fabulous” An inspirational Guide For Women Who Dare To Live Their Dreams... Order your FREE copy now & discover…​ The truth that will set you free from a world of frustration & how you can create your life by design, full of laughter, success & joy by someone who's walked miles in your shoes https://www.gdaygorgeous.com/book ____________________________ I also hang out on Facebook with thousands of my followers, let's catch up at... https://www.facebook.com/GdayGorgeousTV/

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[Music] [Applause] [Music] g'day gorgeous you're listening to episode 6 of the get a gorgeous podcast that empowers women for life today's topic how to tame the toxic self-talk beast this empowering podcast is created by me Amanda Jane Clarkson best-selling author and author of my newly released book from frustrated to fabulous and inspirational guide for women who dare to live their dreams and I'll share more and I can get this book at the end of the podcast I'm also an international inspiratio
nal speaker entrepreneur and wealth and lifestyle coach for women globally and if you're a woman who craves more from life you want more certainty more clarity and more confidence to create and live your dream life by design not by default nor desperation then this is the podcast that will absolutely help you go from feeling frustrated in any area of your life to feeling fabulous successful and more prosperous in these seven areas your love health relationships money vocation happiness and perso
nal growth and I can promise you that this podcast is going to be raw real and very relatable as its based on real life experiences life lessons and results and I'm talking about the good the bad and the downright ugly so be sure to have your journal ready because you're going to be taking notes plenty of aha learning some life lessons and a nice cup of tea because I always have a cup of tea with me water will be here for the next 30 minutes together so all I'm asking you gorgeous is to have an
open mind and open heart and come with me on this grand adventure come with me on this journey of self-discovery because what I can share with you today what I'm about to share with you I am sure you will relate in so many ways and as a woman speaking with another woman I believe I've probably walked in your shoes thousands and thousands of miles especially talking about today's topic on how to tame the toxic self-talk beast now going on with the story if you've been following me in the last few
podcast you'll probably heard a little bit about my background a little bit about my story of how I grew up in a place called Tasmania town called Launceston Tasmania is a small island south of Australia where I grew up in an everyday family one of five children and I had quite bad self-talk toxic self-talk now I want you to put yourself not in my shoes but come with me on this journey and ask yourself the question what was my childhood like did I have the same thing going on because I believe
that pretty much most women have it going on in fact I believe all of us do and men as well men have their own healthy dose however I can only speak from a woman's point of view and what I went through and I know how debilitating my self Toxie talk got and it turned into what I call a real beast within me it was raging it was angry it was resentful it was pissed off at the world it was pissed off with parents it was pissed off with the school she went to she was pissed off and how life had turne
d out for her now once I had made a personal commitment to empowering my life instead of trying to live with conformity trying to fit in with everybody else desperately wanting to be liked and loved for who I was I began to realize that for things to change first I must change however it wasn't always like this and I want you to come on journey with me I want you to take yourself back to your childhood or your earlier days or the past maybe even the present ask yourself what is your self-talk li
ke do you have a beast within you I remember myself toxic talk was debilitating it was really holding me back from living my best life it was holding me back from being all that I could be however I didn't even realize it my beast that was inside of me from when I was a young kid growing up trying to find my way in life my beast was angry I was an angry Kid I was resentful I was agitated I was peeved off with other people my parents I was blaming my teachers the school I went to everything that
I saw on TV because I couldn't work out why I wasn't living the life that I'd always dreamed of I hadn't had the guidance I hadn't had the tools I didn't have the knowledge and the understanding and so even though I had moved away from tazmania I was now living in Queensland in Australia on the Gold Coast with my family had moved up as well and I had started to go from job to job to job in fact 33 different jobs is what I had growing up to the age of 29 years of age I'd had 33 jobs and throughou
t those jobs I had learned so much I was always knowing what I didn't want in my life but not knowing how to achieve all that I did want in my life and that is the question that I would ask you have you had that experience all those feelings of knowing what you do want but not knowing how to achieve it not knowing where to start not knowing where to begin and through discovery or first of personal empowerment or self empowerment I realized that I needed to have a really good look myself think ab
out how I was talking to myself and I have to admit girlfriend that my toxic talk my self talk was pretty damn ugly I would look in the mirror and I would just start on myself I would not feel pretty enough I would not feel intelligent I would pick myself to pieces body wasn't the right image the body wasn't the right shape it wasn't the right look you know my boobs were big enough my bum wasn't this right shape or wasn't that shape like honestly I would pick myself to pieces can you relate to t
hat in any way do you still do it now even today I still do it however back then it was really in a bad space and so I realized that if I wanted to change my future this is what I started to discover if I wanted to change my future I really needed to get a handle on that beast and I have to admit it was a hard pill to swallow when I was taught through my many mentors that if you want to change you've got to look at yourself you've got to look in the mirror and ask yourself a few questions if you
want a different future can you go on doing the same thing day in day out expecting a different result can you continue talking to yourself the same way expecting a different result and so I started to take notice of the things that I would say to myself and I've got to admit you know I would talk to myself in ways that I would never speak to a friend I would never speak to a child you know have you ever done anything like that you know lost your car keys and beats beat up on yourself called yo
urself an idiot call yourself stupid sworn at yourself I mean that was the story of my life and it publicly started in my childhood not feeling good enough not feeling confident and in a previous podcast I talked about being the Wallflower at school how I was never picked on a Friday at the school dance the boys down at the south school would come up to our private school I went to a private Catholic girls school and we'd have to line up against the wall and the boys would pick the girls to danc
e and almost without fail every week I would not get asked to dance and so you can only imagine how I would feel I would feel so small less than dirt have you had any experiences like this I hope feel less than dirt I would feel really ugly you know had zero confidence no self belief and because I had that in my early childhood days I carried those same beliefs into my teenage years and then growing up you know I talked about in my book how as the kid I wanted to be free I wanted to be a million
aire but I didn't even know what a millionaire was I've never met a millionaire for a start and my parents certainly didn't teach me anything about being a millionaire and yet I had this language going on in my own mind because for me I somehow linked being a millionaire to freedom that's what I truly wanted to do as a kid find freedom live life on my own terms run away from my problems run away from my past get away from the people who I've believed made me feel small but what I realized as yea
rs went on that I was the only one that could control how I felt about that how I felt about my past how I felt about myself does any of this make sense for you thinking back to your childhood did you have any of those same experiences going to school can you remember the day where you felt small or less than dirt or didn't get asked out or got left behind in a group of friends or wasn't included in something and you started to beat up on yourself thinking that you weren't good enough one and yo
u know smart enough weren't pretty enough or tall enough or just wasn't the right fit and you know this can really have an effect on us well it certainly had an effect on me and so over the years you know even up until my 30s where I had my epiphany that I spoke about in the last couple of podcasts where I realized that for things to change first I must change that I had to begin taming the Beast that beast that was wild with inside of me always looking on the outside and I believe that that wal
l was just what I'll call my back covers that was my protection from the hurt that I felt as a child so the things that really helped me tame that beast that was within me that self toxic talk that was really helping me go nowhere in life I was beginning to realize that unless I changed the way I felt about myself how could I expect others to look at me how could I expect others to listen to me how could I expect others to see leadership within me they couldn't and so the work had to begin with
me and so doesn't matter what area of life whether we're looking for love great relationships more money a better vocation which is the job career or business more happiness more personal growth so what I want to share with you now is a couple of empowering ways and ideas that I was gradually able to tame that beast within me that were I called the self toxic talk because wouldn't you agree that if we don't learn to tame the Beast Within how can we create a life of more joy a life of more abunda
nce a life of more fulfillment it starts with the person in the mirror and that's ask your friend so here's a couple of things that I did that if you want to get your journal and write them down this may help you as well because I always say it doesn't matter where you are where you've been all that matters is where you're going and so where you are today is absolute we perfect and I can say to you from my heart to yours that this for me has been a journey of transformation a journey of self-dis
covery and a journey of patience what I realized is to create the life that I've wanted it didn't happen overnight but it started with one small step at a time and I believe becoming empowered and learning to tame that toxic talk that we all have going on to the best of your ability is a major step in moving forward to living a life of more happiness peace and harmony and so here's what I did I wanted to learn to appreciate myself and it wasn't easy because right up until that I didn't appreciat
e myself so I got a journal and I made a commitment to myself that I would write out 200 things that I loved about myself now putting yourself in my shoes or maybe you're feeling this as well if I suggested to you could you write out 200 things that you love about yourself how would you feel about that would you be going oh my goodness I can't even think of five or would you go I can easily think of 200 and write them out instantly well I don't know how you feel but I remember when I committed t
o doing this exercise it was one of the hardest things I have ever done because I didn't like myself I certainly didn't love myself and all I could do was find fault when I looked in the mirror and so I push myself I made a commitment that I wouldn't stop until I got 200 and I gave myself 7 days to write them out and so to make it easy I looked at the 7 different areas of my life and so I could find some things that I loved about myself in each of the area so if you want to do this exercise it's
such an empowering exercise you can get your journal and you can write out the seven areas which are love health relationships your money your vocation happiness and personal growth and ask yourself what are the things that I love about me in each of these seven areas and like me you may find this really difficult you may find this really easy but when I actually did the exercise I push myself I really began to see myself in a different light I really began to appreciate who I was as a human be
ing I believed that I had something to offer I could see more self-worth I could feel my self feeling lighter more uplifted more energetic more vibrant and so I push myself through and it was such an empowering exercise to go through and I really hope that you do this exercise because for me it really started to change the way I spoke to myself and I was able to catch myself more easily when that beast would start to come up from within me I was able to tame it and say hey that's a little bit ha
rsh there Amanda think of some kind of words think of words that are more empowering words that are more uplifting to speak to yourself about you know if you don't learn to love yourself how can you expect the world to see more in you than you see within yourself and that was the lesson for me that what they were the words that I'd keep telling myself Amanda if you want to go out there and make a difference if you want to go out there inspire empower and impact other women other people and help
them be the best that they can be it's got to start with you how do you speak to yourself and so I would start to fill my mind with more empowering words empowering thoughts and over time gorgeous what happened is that the disempowering thoughts that were so habitual from childhood so ingrained in my psyche but surely just like a beautiful garden I began to weed those disempowering thoughts and words out look I'm human like all of us and sometimes they come back and but these times I catch mysel
f more and my catch myself and I haven't got such a garden full of weeds I've got more what I like to call flowers and that's my bigger howl lesson for you today and I hope you're writing this down in your journal and I hope you're resonating I hope you're feeling the rawness of the truth that I'm speaking and all I have is my journey my experience and my results to share with you but do know that if I can do it so can you if I can make the change so can you if I can find more love for myself an
d who I am as a human being and as a woman so can you and yes it was hard at the beginning but it got easier and easier and easy and so what I do I'd stand in the mirror and I'd ask myself what are all the positive aspects of myself and my life and I would just say you know wow I have eyes that can see I have legs that can run fast I have ears that can hear perfectly I have hair that grows and I can color it and do all different things with it you know there was so much to be grateful for I'm gr
ateful that I've got life I'm grateful that I wake up in a warm bed every day I'm grateful that I have water to drink fresh clean water there are so many things to be grateful and so what happens is over time from my experience that the more you keep looking in the mirror and finding things to love and appreciate because what you appreciate accumulates the more empowered and the more strong I began to feel on the inside which started to radiate on the outside and people would say to me Amanda wh
at are you doing different you look different you're acting different and all that happened was my self-talk was becoming more empowered instead of disempowered I was taming that beast slowly but surely day by day the more I worked on me the more my life started to transform my life started to change in small but wonderful ways and I believe it can be the same for you as well and so maybe even write down in your journal as I'm sharing this story with you as I'm sharing these words of wisdom base
d on my experience and my results how does it make you feel as a woman do you feel within you that you could do this exercise and start to tame that beast that you probably have going on with inside of you as well I mean we all have it this is not about making anybody wrong or anybody right it just is it's been my experience and all like can do is share it with you and hopefully inspire you to take some different actions inspire you to decide and commit to the beginning of a new chapter of your
life transforming your life so that you can live your life by design not default and certainly not by desperation and so the next thing I would do is write down in my journal if I'd run out of things to say about myself I would think about all the compliments that I used to get from other people or get from other people that I once pushed away because I didn't feel worthy of receiving them and I would write things down that other people would say about me that I couldn't see within me and I star
ted to come up with different words like Amanda's friendly Amanda's positive she's enthusiastic about life she's open to having a go she's open to learning she's honest she's trustworthy she's efficient in her work she's funny sometimes she's daring nurturing understanding and so girlfriend I believe you all these traits as well I believe you have every one of these traits within you as well but sometimes we are so hard on ourselves we can't even see these things within us and so these 200 thing
s you love about yourself that I hope you write down in your journal if you run out of things to say write down what others see in you that perhaps you weren't accepting because you didn't feel worthy and so over time what happens is you really start to blossom you start to feel a little bit more confident about yourself you start to have a little bit more clarity about who you are and where you want to go in life and you start to believe what used to feel like the impossible can become possible
for you and I'm gonna be talking about more about turning the impossible to possible in future podcasts however don't want to get ahead of myself about I do want to leave you with this message unless you are growing you are dying self-love this is what this whole podcast is about today self-love is one of my most empowering live now life success principles that I live by and that I teach and self-love is critical if you want to realize all of your amazing and worthwhile dreams that I know you h
ave inside of you and I know and believe you are worthy of living and we'll delve more into all of these different hot topics in up and coming podcasts so I truly hope you will stick with me and for this podcast I want to say thank you for listening in and if you've loved this episode and you found value you've taken some notes and you're feeling a little bit more inspired and you know of somebody else who would love to go from feeling frustrated in her life to feeling fabulous successful and ev
en more prosperous in all or any of the seven areas including love health relationships money vocation happiness and personal growth then please let them know to subscribe to the g'day gorgeous podcast that empowers women for life you know that it would mean the world to me if you could help me create what call the butterfly effect by sharing this important impactful message to as many listeners as we can together you know this is my life's work and my mission to reach teach inspire empower and
impact as many women globally as we can collectively and show them that they can become anyone they want to be and live the life that they dream of so please if you've liked what you've heard today and you found value and what I've shared with you I would be super grateful if you take just 30 seconds and leave me a five star review and share this message with your girlfriends and to find out more about who I am and what I do please visit me at my website wwlp.com hours women for life and until n
ext time gorgeous be bold be courageous and be fabulous bye for now [Music] you

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@livenoweducation4178

Fantastic Share from the heart .. can certainly relate to so many things and love the Action Steps given. Will definitely give it a ago. Looking forward to the next episode C xx