- Oh my gosh, I have so much tea. Okay get this, Courtney now says (door slams)
she doesn't wanna go to the prom with Kyle. I know, after all that. So much happened today. - [Parent] Hey buddy,
tell me about your day. - Fine. - We learned all about the
water crisis in Flint, Michigan. Did you know that the way they were doing the tests
initially were all wrong? Like they were letting the water run for five minutes, and then testing it? - [Parent] So what'd you learn? - Nothing. - Oh, and Tina go
t a promposal. It was so much fun to watch. And my math teacher's dropping
the lowest quiz grade. I have some history homework. Speaking of history and dropping, did you know in World War
II we would use our bombers to drop food on people who were
starving in the Netherlands? Seeking of food, can we
go to Tropical Smoothie? - [Parent] Anything exciting happen? - Just a normal day. - [Parent] No, but I heard
your PE teacher broke his leg. - I saw the bone. - Lunch was supposed to be chicken, but
it looked like red meat. So I didn't eat that. I just ate the noodles,
which were pretty good. Then I got a snack because
I was still hungry. Which reminds me, remember
that TikTok recipe I shared with you, the
chocolate granola bars? We should make those. - [Parent] Did you eat
the lunch I made you? - Kinda, I mean the chips. Ease up on the carrots. Chips are good. - Susan really advocated for herself. It was super brave and
I am so proud of her. - [Parent] How are your friends? - You don't kno
w 'em. Can you sign this? It's like a permission slip or something. - [Parent] For a trip to Seattle. Wait, you're in robotics club? - Yeah, I guess I'm really good at it. I don't know, I invented a
dog that can climb stairs and works with AI, to
fill out job applications. - [Parent] Wait, that's amazing. Is that like something you'd
want to do as a career? - No, I wanna be a professional
fantasy football player. - [Parent] That's not a job, dude. - My girlfriend says it is. - [Parent] You have
a girlfriend? - For like a year. Whatever, I'm a little tired. Just wake me up when we get there? Cool? - Okay, thanks for the ride. I'm gonna go disappear into my room and do my homework and call my friends, and I'll only come out of
my room if there's food. So let me know when that happens, 'kay? (door slams)
Bye. - [Parent] Kim, that took
you zero seconds to write. - Oh. Oh hi, okay. In defense of my son, he is so, so sweet. I love him so much. He is so, so sweet. - Yeah.
- So empathetic and
wonderful. I don't get a lot of
information about his life, but what he could talk nonstop about college basketball,
specifically the University of North Carolina Tarheels, and NFL like- - Football free agency.
- Free agency. It's free agency, yeah. - Like he'll get in, and you can tell he does wanna make conversation with me. So we'll ride in silence,
after me asking 10 questions and he'll grunt his answers, and then he'll say like,
did I tell you about like the Panthers got something? - [Paren
t] I wanted see if
you were gonna get it right. - I don't know. There's like the Panthers either got up or gave somebody, and I'm trying to learn, 'cause like this is where
we can have a conversation. And I'll be like, is that a good thing? And he'd be like yeah. I mean we had... And so will talk for
20 minutes about that. And I do try, like that's
where I have to meet my boy. Whereas with my daughter, I don't have to even ask a question and I'm good. I'm working. So if you know anything
about m
y son, let me know. - Just let us know.
- Just let us know. - [Parent] Yeah. I was in a soccer match
one time and this guy was like, your son had
an amazing presentation during a fake election, like a mock election.
- Yes. - [Parent] I'm like, what?
I know nothing about this. - He wrote like this entire paper for this mock election
in this history class and other parents knew about it. I didn't even know it was happening. If you have a very
talkative kid, go on you. Okay, bye! ♪ Check out thehol
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Holderness kids, you two should make a video like this from your perspective.
Soooo true. Kids talk to other parents. Make friends with those parents, but don't let your kids know you are friends.
I think the real answer is that your son is a superhero, and you’re just interacting with his secret identity.
Hi, you guys! My now 39 year old son and I used to have the BEST conversations in our cars! I felt really blessed to have that time with him. He was also, apparently, a really quirky and gifted writer - which I never really knew about until he brought all these hysterical written assignments home at the end of the year in fourth grade that had just been shoved into his locker after they were marked…with with flying colors and very supportive comments from his teacher. And this gift never really came up at any PT conferences.
The daughter part is only partially accurate. She won’t tell you anything after school. She will wait until it’s after bedtime, when she is supposed to be asleep, to initiate her long, informative conversations.
Penn and Kim, I appreciate you guys for respecting your children's boundaries with not forcing them to be in videos as they got older. We don't know what their school experience was like, and how they felt about being online, so the fact that they get that choice is really awesome parenting on your part.
I have one boy and three girls. This is so true! I'd pick him up from band stuff, and he'd barely say a word the whole way home (15 minutes). I'd get my daughter from band, and she'd talk nonstop the whole way home, not letting me get a word in edgewise!
Dad of 3 boys here. Yup - spot on. They are starting to call just to talk now that they are hitting the 20s, and life is getting real. In time.
"I saw the bone." 😂
My son is the same age as your daughter. Despite peppering him with questions I get the same answers as you get with your son, so we're in the same boat. I do know he has a girlfriend whose name I think is Kaitlin. A few months ago, all of a sudden, he started caring about clothes and showering and getting his hair cut and the lock screen on his phone is a girl I haven't met in his friend group. I don't recall being so secretive about the girls I was dating in high school but then I don't recall my parents ever asking about it too. Maybe we're just more inquisitive than our parents.
"It's like a permission slip or something..." 😂
Haha, my kids were actually the opposite. Son was the chatty one and getting daughter to "spill the tea" was like pulling teeth. Happy Friday Folks! UCkszU2WH9gy1mb0dV-11UJg/KsIfY6LzFoLM6AKanYDQAg
Ok, so I have the same situation with my boys. More so with my youngest. I found that he would talk nonstop if we played video games. I learned his games and played a lot with him. Now he's a SR in college a state away, and we have "game night." He spits so much out.
I get sneaky with my kids. I teach them words like "verbose, effusive, reticent and taciturn". When I ask my teenage son a question via WhatsApp, I say something like "answer in a minimum of 6 different words that make sense together ". He has fun and rises to the challenge.
My son, who is now 27, liked to talk right as I was getting ready to go to bed. He would come in and get all the words out just as I was about to drift off to sleep. I had to learn all things NASCAR, bowling and football. Now that he is grown he will just call me at random while I am at work to talk. I've learned over the years to not ask questions and eventually when he is ready I will learn all the things. I also can't get too excited about his sharing. It's a very fine line with that kid!
I raised two girls. Now I’m involved with my three grandsons. I try open ended questions like “What did you learn today?” Even the 7 year old says “Nothing.” I do try to meet them where they are - older kid will talk about/share YouTube content. Middle will obsess about MLS and NBA. Little guy loves Dude Perfect. And he’ll still watch Bluey with me - hope he never outgrows that!
My daughter was like your son when she was growing up. When I would ask about school, this would be her answer, "Schoolish". Now that she is a parent I can get her to talk about her daughter, which I love.
I asked my kid about their day all i got back was, "Bus, kids, and Bus."
Great mom, Kim!!! If they'll talk to you about the little things, they'll be more willing to talk to you about the big things! You rock!
My 16-yr old sophomore daughter is not the most talkative but definitely is the 'disappear into her room - only coming out for food/bathroom breaks' kid. I have fun listening to her talk to her friends since they play video games together and she gets very animated, otherwise I don't actually lay eyes on her until I am going to bed and knock to say goodnight. 😄 We have some decent convo's if I catch her at the right time, so I'm grateful for that, but otherwise she'll just tell me watever she thinks I need to hear... true or not. 🙄 And yes, last year she signed up for a 'future healthcare professional' organization at school with a decent membership fee (that I would have been happy to pay) and I only found out about it when I saw the pin she got for it floating around in the debris field around her school backpack one day. 😂 Plus the occasional surprise email from a teacher who wanted to convey how articulate and participatory she is in class. ❤ Yay, kiddo!