"The Kept Wife Life" Gets D0xx3d - "I Can't Stand H00d People" TikTok Trend

In this video, we're going to talk about  what happened to a creator who goes by "The Kept Wife Life" on TikTok after she shared  her opinion about hood women. On her page, she talks about her life as the kept wife  of a very successful Black man who is an investor and dealership owner.  He also has other ventures. Now it has been brought to my attention that she  has been accused of saying some colorist things, and I don't know anything about that. If  that's true, I certainly don't agree with

that, and by uploading this video about her, I  am in no way condoning her behavior. I'm using her situation as an example  of what can happen to you if you decide to put yourself out there. That's all. I'm  not telling anyone to follow her. I'm just using her situation as a learning tool. Now, let's take a look at the video. So she was doxxed after she  uploaded that video. Doxxing refers to the act of illegally obtaining  and publishing someone's private or identifying information on the inter

net, without their  consent. This can include things like your real name, home address, phone numbers,  email, financial information, and more. Sure, she said some things that were out of line  like how she's glad that Tampa is segregated, but I don't see a problem with everything else  that she said. She shared her experiences, and unfortunately, she was doxxed. The  lesson that we can all take away from this is, be careful when you're dealing with  unhinged people who have nothing to lose. She

has a lot to lose. Most women will never  get a chance to live the life that she's living, and if her husband is as successful as she  says, the attention that she's receiving is surely bad for business. Now that her business is out there, instead of social media, she should probably take  up some hobbies, start her own small business, or do some volunteer work. She already made  herself a target by exposing her lifestyle to a lot of people who are struggling. Some of  them were probably prayi

ng for her downfall. I'm sure there are many women who are waiting  to take her spot. So you have to be extremely careful when you put yourself out there and decide  to criticize a group of people who have nothing to lose, and whoever doxxed her clearly doesn't care  about her safety. So ladies, please be careful. And this is not about people who  live in the hood, this is about people who have a hood mentality. A "hood mentality" refers to an attitude or mindset that is often associated with l

ife in  impoverished, urban neighborhoods or "hoods." It typically involves adopting a tough, street-smart  persona and embracing values such as loyalty, respect, and a willingness to engage in violence  or illegal activities as a means of survival or gaining status within the community. Again, an  attitude or mindset that is often associated with life in the hood, not always. Not everyone who lives in the hood is a hood person. This is about the degenerates in  our community who not only make u

s all look bad, but when you're around them, they'll make your  life a living hell. And they're not above doxxing you and putting all of your personal information  out there if you hold them accountable. Due to all of the trauma that we deal with  in our community, especially those who have abusive parents, there are a lot of undiagnosed  narcissists and people with other personality and mental disorders in our community, and the lack of  accountability is a major issue. We will say that we want

things to improve in the Black community,  but that involves holding people accountable, and to some people, those are fighting words. And I've noticed that some people are more concerned about what white people will think about  the people who are being exposed in our community than they are concerned about the people who are  being harmed in our community. They want people to stop talking about whats going on. How can we  solve our problems if we don't address them? So we're supposed to conti

nue to sit back and do  nothing about the people who are taking our lives, robbing us, and harming Black children? Because  of white people? They already know what's going on. Because when something happens in  the hood, someone films it and uploads it for clicks and views. They already know. So stop silencing the people who are sharing their experiences. They have the right to speak out.  Stop trying to gaslight people into being verbal, mental,financial, and physical punching  bags. It's time

for us to hold these people accountable so we can start repairing the  damage that has been done in our communities. This whole ordeal has taught me something  about why so many negative things persist in our community. We protect those who do the most  damage in our community. We protect those who harm us the most. And we protect them because we're  afraid of them, and we're afraid of how outsiders will view us as a whole based on their behavior.  We have the power to fix this problem. But our

programming is holding us back. And I get it, it's one of our many, many survival tactics as people who have been  oppressed in this country for centuries. We have survived by sweeping certain things under the  rug, but I think we have run out of space under that rug. It's time for us to address everything  that we have been hiding. Fix the problems and we won't have to worry about anyone using them  as ammunition against us. It's that simple. We have been allowing unqualified people to lead u

s.  And it's by design. They have led us to hell. And now we have to dig ourselves out of this hole. When the kept wife was doxxed, someone discovered her arrest record, and they shared her  mugshot, which I won't share in this video, but it's floating around on the internet. And they  basically called her a hypocrite because she was talking about hood women when she was arrested  for allegedly putting her hands on her husband, so she made a follow-up video where she  addressed her arrests. Let'

s take a look. Again, ladies, when you're dealing with  unhinged people, don't think that they won't come after you. I don't know how this  will impact her marriage, but if all of this negative attention that she's receiving leads to  a divorce, it's her fault. Yes, I also blame the people who doxxed her, but at the end of the  day, she chose to put herself out there. If you're going up against people who believe the  only way to solve problems is by using violence, think twice if you know peopl

e have access to  your personal information, like your address. There's a reason why a lot of people are  faceless and anonymous on social media. I'm going to wrap this video up by taking  a look at some comments that were made on the first video where people are sharing  their experiences, which is their right, and if it is safe for you to do so, keep sharing  your experiences. Don't allow people to silence you. And if you're in your feelings about  being called out, instead of getting angry, g

et active. Let's fix our communities. And as you're listening to these comments, remember, being from the hood doesn't make you a  hood person. Your mentality does. Some of these people grew up in the hood, but they're  not hood people, and they're sharing how they were targeted for being different. I remember getting bullied for not being ghetto and baddie and hood. It hurts. Girl, you said the quiet part out loud. I never had the courage to say this. My  childhood was traumatic because of thi

s. I got shipped to the projects in NYC when  my mom died, and I had over 30 fights from the age of 12-34. I never could fit in  and I tried to adapt, it never worked. Imagine having to deal with  deranged people while grieving. The next comment says... I’m glad people are starting to talk about this. I agree. I hope we can keep the discussion going, and I hope  we're able to produce some solutions. Omg!!! This is so true! I used to get picked on  for speaking proper English & reading books. We

need to start talking about how smart kids are  bullied in our community. Being smart is something to be proud of, but unfortunately, a lot of smart  Black kids are bullied and they never reach their full potential in life. I'm sure a lot of  you guys know someone from the hood who was practically a genius, but they were bullied,  so they downplayed their intelligence. In a society where we should be pushing Black  kids academically, we allow the brightest ones to be bullied because they make ot

her kids feel  dumb. That's yet another generational curse that needs to be broken. Do you guys realize that a  lot of the things that have been normalized in our community actually hold us back as a people? I'm challenging all of you parents to step up to the plate and take control of your child's  education. Immigrants come to this country and they push their children. I'm not saying their  methods are always great, but they encourage them to pursue careers in high-earning fields, such  as ca

reers in STEM, because they know that wealth is power in this country. In the meantime, again,  we're allowing smart Black children to be bullied. Also, something that needs to be addressed is that  a lot of Black American parents won't support you academically, but they still expect you to take  care of them when they're old. But that's for a different video. Next comment... I’ve always had good pronunciation of my words,  and they would always say "you talk white," and I’m like, what are you t

alking about? Isn't this an example of anti-Blackness? Comparing a Black person to a white person because  they speak proper English is anti-Black. Think about what they're implying about Black  people if they're equating being able to speak properly with being white. If you don't  sound like you just stepped off a plantation, they'll accuse you of sounding like a white  person. It's like they don't understand that you're a product of your environment. Let's move on to the next comment... I wan

ted to get out of the hood so badly. I  was called bougie because i went to college. Another example of someone being  targeted for pursuing an education. That's a big problem in our community. I  hope more people speak out against it. In school, I would get teased by the girls from  the hood because they said I talked too white, and the guys would tease me about my body. It was  all bad for me, just a terrible experience. And I'm sure she still dealing with  the trauma as an adult, especially i

f she didn't go to therapy. The next person said... I grew up in the “hood” (Bankhead ATL)  and was teased because I was skinny, light-skinned with long hair, nice clothes,  etc., and had no friends because they thought I was trying to be better than them. I hear this a lot, not only from light-skinned women, but also from dark-skinned women. But  I've noticed that when the light-skinned women talk about this, they're silenced. Some  people seem to believe that having lighter skin means that you

r pain tolerance is higher,  so you should shut up about your problems. Halle Bailey is on the lighter end of the  spectrum, but that didn't stop that racist guy on X from launching a campaign against  her by comparing her to E.T. Gaslighting is so common in our community. It's  normalized. Most people probably don't even realize that they're doing it. If you have been targeted by another Black person due to the color of your skin, speak up about it.  Again, the stories need to be told. We can'

t put an end to these generational curses if we continue  to gaslight people about their experiences. Next, this person says... Yes, in high school I was treated differently because I didn’t wear lace fronts and  wore braids, and my natural hair all of the time, and they would go out of their  way to be mean for no reason. One thing that I've learned about problematic  hood girls is that because they tend to be intellectually challenged, they're really big  on their appearance. Because it's all

they have. If you've noticed, some of the smartest women  in the world wear the least amount of makeup, they don't wear false nails and eyelashes often.  They don't have to rely on their looks to get by in life because they're intelligent. And  those women make women with a hood mentality feel uncomfortable. They're insecure. So  yeah, they're going to bully you. And it doesn't end in high school, unfortunately. Also, they're usually extremely male-identified. They'll set you up and throw yo

u  under the bus for male validation. And I'll share one last comment. I felt this so hard, but I learned that living a hard life makes people that  way. I give grace but keep my distance. And that's self-preservation. If you  believe that someone is not good for you, you have the right to distance yourself  from them, including relatives. Please take a look at these videos where we  address self-preservation for Black women, the hood mentality and how to overcome it, how female rappers program

women and young  girls to remain in the permanent underclass, etc. The links are in the video description  of this video on our YouTube channel. If you feel safe enough to share your  story, feel free to do so in the comments. Be sure to like this video and don't forget to  subscribe or follow. See you on the next video.