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hi guys how's it going I'm just being stupid all right hello I'm very excited for today's live
stream it's going to be a doozy of a stream let me tell you so yesterday or two days ago we decided
we would do this right but then I woke up this morning and uh Michelle McDaniel um made a video
said um like this might be fake and so I wanted to watch her video first and then dive into the
actual story wha
t are your thoughts because that's what I was thinking of doing right um I thought
it'd be interesting you guys I see your chats you're saying it's definitely true it's definitely
true I I'm down to watch it okay but should we watch Michelle McDonald or McDaniel's video before
or should we just watch the original story which by the way is like eight hours of content so just
like a heads up you know um I might be to I don't know if I'm going to be critical I don't know if
I'm going to be emp
athetic like I'm I'm like I have no idea what what I haven't really listened
to it right so I'm excited also you guys thank you for loving my hair I felt pretty cute today
little little matchy matchy uh inspired by Mia is the earrings girl where I buy my earrings I have
a bunch of her earrings if you guys want I follow her on Instagram you can see it's like a figure of
a woman I don't know if it actually focuses enough for you to see it she has really cool earrings
if you guys want to check
her out inspired by Mia I follow her on Instagram okay um let me see
that's a total bombshell if it's fake there would have been lots of people on on the LIE oh really
okay so wait so we should watch so okay you guys thinking we should watch the original maybe I
should have watched Michelle's I just didn't want any spoilers so I didn't watch Michelle's
video on my own cuz like I literally have only seen people's reaction to her like you know when
people are like um so we all know why you'r
e here like that Tik Tok sound I've only seen that AR
said if it's fake then someone needs to hire that woman as a writer for Hollywood cuz was the most
entertaining story I've heard in a while really okay should we just [ __ ] watch it like the whole
[ __ ] thing okay cuz I heard the man came out and was like it's a lie but you know I'm not going to
listen to no man I'm just kidding cupcake in the chat for Miss Miss Andrea guys I'm just kidding
okay fine let's just [ __ ] let's [ __ ] do i
t okay let's just do it we're doing it I changed the title we're
watching all of it his ex-wife spoke out too okay and like agreed he's an ass apparently according
to your comments let's [ __ ] go okay um I just realized I don't have my [ __ ] water here so
that's not going to that's not good so I am going to go grab a drink give me a few minutes everyone
go grab a snack I'll let you listen to Elvin in the meantime I'm so sorry I forgot my drink I
don't know what I'm I can't listen to this
without a drink okay I'll be right back I go get water
or tea or something I'll be back in a few minutes get ready get your Snuggies get your popcorn and
then we're going to get into it okay I'll be right [Music] back [Music] [Music] [Music] [Music] [Music] okay sorry about that
I'm here now hold on I'm trying to pull up the series trying to
get us situated everybody get comfy oh my gosh are we ready this is
going to be the longest stream in the world going to be the longest stream in
the
world it's going to be the longest stream in in the world I might not even clip
this bro I may just keep it [ __ ] you know [Music] okay what's this what she this okay okay okay are we ready this is it we're
getting started we are watching who the f did I marry over 50 parts and we're going
to get through as many parts as we can today I have not seen a single part of this series
this went viral on Tik Tok if you guys are not aware and I am fully ready to do it whether
it's real or not appar
ently 99 % of people think it's real in my chat so therefore I will
call it fact if for some reason news comes out tomorrow that it's not real at least we
did this together thank you for joining me all right let's get started who the f did I
marry that's a very good question very exciting stuff oh she's muted that's well let's try again hi and welcome we we all know why you're
here you're here for part of the new series that I am calling who the [ __ ] did I marry I'm going
to create this p
laylist series um and I'm going to tell the story of how I met dated married and
divorced a real pathological liar um this is my introduction slash disclaimer video first and
foremost I'm GNA be truthful even if it makes me look bad I'm going to be honest but I'm also
not going to be disrespectful to anyone that was involved I'm not going to use people's real names
because I don't have their permission to do so and sister does not want any sort of litigation um I
will tell you off the top I
have a sense of humor and I have sarcasm ready so things that you see me
laughing at none of this is funny but in order to get through it I have to laugh I'm ready if I cry
I cry I'm human I'm a woman this was traumatic um I'm going to do the best I can to upload as much
of the story as I can um because I know people get so annoyed with the follow for part four follow me
for part 17 I'm just going to do the best I can to keep uploading the videos each at a time I'm going
to go in order fro
m the time we met until the time I got our divorce decree in the mail okay okay so
that is a lot of time to cover please give me the grace to just get it out um it may not be all in
one day it may not be all in two days but what I can tell you is even if you don't NE necessarily
see a video I'm probably recording it and then I will upload it into the playlist titled who
the [ __ ] did I marry okay I'm um what else do I need to cover ahead of time because I feel
like this video is important
to give some sort of context so that way when people jump into the
series they kind of can figure out oh let me start at the introduction video and then work my way
through um a lot of the questions that you all have sent me will be answered when I start and
tell the story in order um everything I'm going to tell you can be verified there are people in
my life who can easily verify yes this did happen yes he really did do that yes he said that um
yes she did go through that I have no contac
t whatsoever with my ex-husband in that now I can
trust now I'm on her side now I can trust her already Bros there's you know what I'm saying
now that I'm saying victim of pathological lers if they're in contact with them but like it's
nice to know she's out of the cycle it's it's nice to know you're out of the cycle of toxicity
let me tell you in any way shape or form um we do not communicate we do not have mutual friends or
anything that we're where we communicate through those people no
contact let's go I cannot stress
that enough because I feel like somebody's going to ask me do you still talk to him no no I a't
seen I a't heard from him I want to hear from him and I will tell the entire story up until the last
time I did hear from him and what happened oh I'm ready um yeah this is this is my story so she's
really introducing us I am just a regular woman who thought she met the one oh and I have two
shoes I'm ready oh um most people have never came in contact with a patho
logical liar we typically
come in contact with like a compulsive liar it is not the same true a pathological liar has no
reason for why they lie and the lies that they make up there's no limit to the LIE um okay FYI I
don't mind speeding up a video we watch a lot of the videos on times 2 times 1.5 on this channel
I don't think I can do that on te desktop right on uh on Tik Tok desktop right I'm pretty sure I
can't speed it up can anybody clarify like does anybody know if I can do that I'm h
appy to 1.5 it
or even two times because I know it's a very long series but I'm also happy to sit here with you so
I I don't know if that's even possible um I was once a Psychology major in undergrad I didn't
graduate with a psychology degree but I'm very comfortable saying that he was a pathological
liar he was a narcissist and yes there was o a narcissist too I love this I don't see an option
on my Tik Tok guys to 1.5 it on desktop so I'm don't think I can mental in my opinion mental
hea
lth issues going on pathological lying part they have the whole compilation on YouTube shut
up okay hold on wait I'm so sorry to do this to people hold on here's the Tik Tok so you can
guys go um promote her Tik Tok hold on let's check YouTube cuz God bless her but like we'd
love to one point time hold on um who the f did I marry who the did I marry who was it was
it a person oh here's 7 and 1 half hours uh get it done with Abra five days ago there's
two different videos part one why is the
re two different videos they're both the same length
maybe she uploaded it twice just in case one got taken down part 1 through 50 there's more
now but okay this looks right this looks like the right series okay I think this is it yeah
7 and a half hours I'll promote go ahead this is a get it all done by Abra yeah audio
sounds good I'll go ahead send that over to you guys you can check out that link
okay let's do it let's watch let's watch that compilation now why don't we why don't
we wat
ch that now don't we okay hold up why is that happening there it goes whoa hello
okay yeah this seems more reasonable I'll go ahead and give it a like since we're watching
that video and she put this together I think there is technically more parts than just
the 50 so if we need to we can go to that but yeah let's go ahead and watch this together
playback speed we'll do 1.5 for now see how it sounds okay let's go ahead and check this out so
the preface we just watched like the it it didn't
it's not going to start with that it's going to
start on episode one so here we go please excuse the hair but here is part one of who the [ __ ]
did I marry um so I met my ex-husband around March 4th of 202 we met on Facebook dating site and
we also matched on hinge um I did not realize that he was on both um under two different names
so one was his actual name and the other one was a variation like a nickname um that he called
himself different pictures so it was a running joke between us
oh you ain't even recognize that
um you had matched with me on hinge no I didn't um and also that should have been a red flag by
the way you will notice in this story I called it the United Nations of red flags it is so many
red flags that I mean you would have thought I was color blind because I ignored all of them
so anyway back to the story we met around March 4th we exchanged phone numbers he called me and
we talked on the phone um for the first time in the first phone call he told me t
hat he had just
moved to Georgia from California from San Diego his job had transferred him um because he was
being transferred in as the new regional manager for a major condiment company that is based here
in Georgia okay I'm not going to say the name and so we also talked about his childhood he told
me um he grew and sorry here's the question when do you start verifying someone you're dating
their information that's the question when do you guys on a date be honest start verifying the
i
nformation your partner tells you or the person you're dating like how do you even go about
verifying that you're like hey can you like send me proof you know what like how do you how
do we even go about verifying that Philly he's from Philly both of his parents were deceased this
is the first phone call both of his parents were deceased his father um was a Philadelphia police
office officer his mom was a teacher he also told me he um went he briefly lived in Augusta um with
his family he h
ad two brothers and two sisters he also had two half Brothers on his dad's side first
phone call so I'm just giving you guys the back story this was the first phone call we had so we
talked about family we talked about friends we talked about our jobs at the time I was working
at Georgia State Patrol um and he knew this and he just thought that was like wow you know so
you work with Troopers all day yes I did um also in that phone call he explained to me that he um
used to play football he
explained that he used to play arena football I know nothing about Arena
Football me neither um I know about NFL I know about college go dog I don't know anything about
Arena Football so he explained to me that he used to play Arena Football he used to work at Apple in
the offseason of Arena Football um and I remember thinking on that phone call oh okay you know like
good for you I don't know anything about arena football and I believe I did tell him that I don't
know anything about Arena F
ootball that'll come into play later on so he told me you know I just I
just moved here um my job is paying for my housing and they are helping me to look for a house he was
like I'm trying right now I'm in guette County but I'm o every time someone tells me a great story
like they're trying to help me with my house or trying to do this oh I'm like changing jobs so
obviously like verifying people's information I usually just kind of like live life with them and
like meet their friends or me
et their co-workers or sort of like have um accessibility to their
stories like visiting somebody at work or seeing them work or like looking at their phones or maybe
bank account accounts or medical records of some kind it's like an exchanging of good faith it's
like here I'm going to share this with you out of good faith and I think that is like the biggest
part of it where it's a gesture in my bubble at least the way that I want to do it which is to say
like here's a gesture of good fait
h you know just so you know that I'm not fabricating anything
given that like people apparently so casually lie in the world so it's really hard to verify
people's information but I will say is somebody who dated like a compulsive like fearful liar
like people would lie for the dumbest reasons like the dumbest lies like did you take out the
trash today it's like yeah and I got full again and I'm like why you lying about that just say
no and we can take it out now like some people just lie i
n the weirdest way or you think oh yeah
they're going to school and they're working but you're dating them and you think they are but
you find out like they were skipping class and they were never registered or they never even
had a job and they've been putting everything on credit cards or it's like get it when we're
dating we don't have to exchange like personal information yet but there comes a stage in like
the courting process for me and my partner at least where we exchanged informati
on you know
showed each other like bank accounts or maybe like you know phones or maybe just like in general
our life our life and we were really transparent but yeah it's a really difficult decision to
decide when do you actually try to quote verify what your partner is saying and I feel like a um
the kind of partner I would like which is be very forthcoming with the information so you wouldn't
even have to ask in the first place but I get it it's kind of a weird it's weird cuz most people
are dating not to get married right so it's like a weird thing to ask for um but when you're dating
to get married anyways okay let's see what happens trying to look for a house ideally in Atlanta like
Brook Haven um Sandy Springs he was like I really would like to move out there and so I thought
you know this is that's great you know you're looking to get a house you just moved here he was
like I don't really know too too many people here because I spent all my time at work and you
know
this job is really demanding so that was our first one call we talked more he talked a lot
which took me by surprise because I'm not really used to men talking more than me um he eventually
asked me out on a date our first date was set for Saturday March 7th 2020 um he asked me what was my
favorite restaurant I said Cheesecake Factory and so we agreed to go out um at the Cheesecake
Factory in a location that was in between I lived in Clayton County at the time he lived in
guette County I re
alized that if you don't know anything about Metro Atlanta that makes no sense
but basically we lived uh about 45 minutes apart so we AG agreed to meet at the Cheesecake Factory
over at Perimeter Mall which is in an area Sandy Springs Dunwoody area I was excited like I called
my friends and was like I got a date you know blah blah blah we'll see how it goes first conversation
was good um hopefully he looks like his pictures cuz you know that's always an issue with online
dating hopefully he
looks like his pictures so on my way to our date I took 285 and literally
right before I got to Boulder Crest the exit for Boulder I heard a boom and I lost control of my
car thank God that this well not thank God but I knew what to do so I did not crash but my tire
blew out o so I called him and I said hey I'm so sorry but my tire just blew on 285 I'm slowly
making my way off the exit I believe I pulled into a Chevron gas station and I said you know I
got to get this fixed I don't know wh
at to do like I'm a damn Zone this dress kind of thing he kind
of paused he got quiet and he was like you know tell me exactly where you are drop your pen so
I dropped the pin and he came to the gas station came to the gas station got out the car and I was
I was so relieved that he actually looked like his pictures that I was was like oh my God he's
actually attractive cuz he's like 6'4 65 um oh also that's all you need ladies height apparently
I'm GNA be a she said she's sarcastic I'm gonn
a be really sarcastic like okay I'm G to make I'm
going to poke a little fun because I don't know how nor like normal people are dating or what they
look for but it's interesting to see someone like hope somebody is attractive I don't I don't think
like that my brain just says like I hope they're as good of a person as I think they are like I I'm
already attracted to most people so I don't seem to have a problem like aesthetic wise like I just
find I think most people look fine I'm not that
picky I just feel like people look like people
but isn't that funny like oh thank God he was attractive he was 6'5 and I'm like is that what
okay cool love that um also I think it is kind of a nice gesture that he came to pick her up one
time I was seeing this guy and he got a motorcycle accident and I went and picked him up um on he
was on his way to my place for a date and he lived kind of far away he had a motorcycle crash
I went and picked him up and helped him out of the rain it was a
horrible horrible weather day and he
said something like you know most of the friends I have in my life would have just left me on that
Highway and I'm like you need new friends homie he's like you're the first person that I thought
to call and I thought you would just like cancel our date not see me again now to be fair this
was a pretty toxic like Dynamic but it was like telling like where you are in your life that you
have no one to call when you blow your tire out or you're not self-su
fficient enough to call Triple
A I always thought that was like such a green flag that like we could pick each other up but also a
red flag that it was such an anomaly in our life you know not my life obviously in California my
siblings would have come and got me my dad would have come and got me my mom would have come and
got me but to live in a place where you're friends you know you don't have people it it's interesting
oh man I apologize so let me go back to the first conversation let m
e add something he did tell
me in the first phone call that he is that he was divorced um and that his ex-wife they had
she had um two children a boy and a girl who were teenagers young adults I think the girl was
about 20 and he said that he had mmm says I think everyone hopes their partner is conventionally
attractive it's a plus even a small one I I don't know what that means cuz conventionally attractive
like doesn't mean anything to me do you just mean like thin and Tall cuz like none
of those things
matter to me like it's nice to have somebody who's put together in like Grooms really well that's
basically my only requirements like you treat your body fairly well you know like this a CH lady
right she's not a thin lady but like okay for some people that's not conventional for me I'm like H
who cares like you know as long as like you're not too fat or too skinny as long as you're kind of
in the middle as long as you kind of Groom good enough you know shower brush your tee
th you
know what I mean like just take care of your [ __ ] self bro and like some variation I don't
know I don't know had a very close relationship with his step kids um but that he and his ex-wife
had divorced because she cheated on him um out in California and so coming to Georgia was a new
beginning for him she was still out in California the kids were still out in California um and so
you know he was like there's no I can't stand her but I still want to be in the kid's lives I have
to
put that in there because that will come back later so he's got kids they've got kids she's he's
got kids so this is just setting the stage again that first conversation was we talked about family
job friends um how he ended up in Georgia me being in Georgia the things that you know I would think
people talk about in the first conversation all right now back to the tire blew out so he shows
up to the gas station he changes my tire which I just thought was a sexiest thing in the world
so sex
y um and then very sexy I've learned to change a tire multiple times in my life and let me
tell you I can't I'm so weak but very sexy that he changed the tire out I think that I think that
is attractive and he proceeds to say hey I found it's about the reliability sorry he proceeds
to say play a tire plays around a corner you need to get another tire like you can't drive on
this donut so he followed me to um he followed me to the to the tire place and then helped me get a
tire paid for it I
was definitely like wow oh mmm says no I mean facially attractive of course it's
subjective but I think most people would rather be with someone their visually attracted to yeah
yeah I agree with that for sure for sure you want to look at somebody and think like oh my gosh
like uh yeah like I love when my partner like gets a new haircut I'm just like oof you look
so good like I love when he trims his beard and he looks like so like I love I love it yeah of
course aesthetically yeah you wan
t to look at someone and be like oh my gosh like I just love
when we look at each other and we're just like that's all we need yeah that's obviously a visual
positive reinforcement ingred you think divorce is a red flag I think divorce is not a red flag
if the people are young like if you married at a high school married before the age of 22 I don't
think divorce is a red flag I think divorce and uh uh bad relation like divorce and kids and a
bad relationship with the person you had kids wi
th could be a red flag um is a red flag to have
a bad relationship with the person you made babies with but also it happens but I think divorce when
you're young makes a lot of sense but if you're but like in in general like a lot of people settle
in relationships so they're more likely get to get divorced so I don't know I don't know it's it's
hard to say if I think divorce is a red flag I don't know if I believe that but I'm I'm uh maybe
a scenario of divorce you know cheating is always t
he red flag for me cheating's always the no-o
right that's always the red flag for me lots of people think they're in love and marry and then
get divorced but I think the cheating and having cheating in the story that's always the red flag
that I'm looking at like why is there cheating you know oh oh if a girl says every relationship I've
been on I've been cheated on Chelsea from Love is Blind she literally goes every relationship I've
had they've cheated on me red flag red flag that means
you have a type and you keep picking them
and I I know you're saying oh like all kinds of people cheat for sure but cheaters got a Vibe
okay cheaters got a reputation there's something about them I just don't I think cheaters fall into
certain categories that fit all stereotypes but if there's cheating in the background if a girl says
to me oh she's been cheated on multiple times I'm like once I can accept once in a lifetime for
sure bro you're going to get cheated on maybe once in your lif
e High School doesn't count I'm
so sorry adult cheating probably happens once in a lifetime multiple times who you be dating um
and so the vibe was good so anyway I get the car I get the tire fixed we follow each other to The
Cheesecake oh my God we are never going to get through this story hold on bitter divorced people
is a red flag um just divorce is not an issue yet bitter divorced bitter divorced totally a red flag
bitterness in general angry bitterness if you hate people any Hate in Y
our Heart I'm not attracted to
you but I know it I know I know the journey girl Factory over a perimeter we hold hands walking
into the Cheesecake Factory so in my mind I'm like this is just this oh my God I had butterflies
that that's that's the look of a woman who had butterflies so I had butterflies and um we go in
there's a long wait and so we sit outside and we just talk and the conversation's great and this is
where he tells me what it is he's looking for okay he tells me you know I'm
I believe at the time he
was 42 okay he was like I want to get married and it be for real he's like my parents were married
married 40 plus years before my mom passed away and I want that I want marriage family a house
like that is what I want he's like I'm you know as a man I'm ready to get married but I want it to be
for real because the first time you know it really hurt me when she cheated on me so he's telling me
everything that I wanted to hear um and so he was like what is it that y
ou want and I said pretty
much the same thing I was like I'm ready to get married definitely want to have a family and do we
know how old she was at the time do we know that I want to marry my best friend oh so so we both put
on the table that we wanted marriage and this is the end of part one I'm ready all right who the
[ __ ] did I marry part two so we both um put on the table what it is that we wanted we both had
established we were dating for marriage we were not dating just a date we w
ere not trying to be
friends with benefits none of that um so the the dinner at Cheesecake Factory went really well we
laughed we we talked about people which um is kind of up my alley my sense of humor it was it was a
good vibe so at the end of the date oh excuse me at the end of dinner we sat in his car and he
played this song For Me by John Legend I don't know the name of the song by The Well by the time
this video post I will put the name at the bottom I can't remember this song I just
remember that
John Legend was talking about I think I met my wife tonight and I thought it was a sign so I was
like oh my God so anyway we ended up sitting in the car talking just about life and experiences
until about midnight so during this conversation he oh there is nothing like a long conversation
during the courting process for my partner our first official date which was over the computer
of course cuz he lived in Europe and I lived in America was 8 hours I love long conversations G
in my 20s when I would meet friends and just talk to someone all night G friends romantic Partners
it's a Vibe bro so she was in her 30s and he was 42 when this was happening okay again is telling
me how it was you know what it was like living in California how he went out there he went to San
Diego State he played football for San Diego State um he talked about how you know life he loved it
out there so he stayed um that's when he joined the company um and then he explained that he also
d
id arena football but only did it for about two or three years oh my God stop Claire says I
went on some dates with a guy who still held Grudges on people from the second grade he ended
up stalking me angry grudges biggest red flag bro literally Hate in Your Heart I'm telling you when
I meet people who have like a distrust or anxiety like obviously trauma but also you could end up
being the reason that's what I'm saying there's something like of a red flag to to me when again
I'm looking fo
r wholesome and sweet and caring and thoughtful and you notice how I didn't say hate
or bitter or grumpy does anyone actually PS like pursue a partner who has hate in their heart that
is like you know really malicious about people that's holding grudges like and what part is
that attractive if you're out out like don't hold grudges move the [ __ ] on okay like to be fair I
really had to learn how to do those things through therapy and philosophy and all those things but
yeah super red flag
bro he claims that while he was doing Arena the team that he was on won a
championship but again keep in mind I don't know anything about Arena Football so I was like okay I
didn't know they had championships and he was like you know he got a little offended like yeah they
got championships and you know he was on that team so he talked to me about how he worked at Apple he
worked um something in the it area of Apple but it was in the store again it was one of those it's
like when I tell peo
ple I used to work at Amazon I I really wasn't paying much attention to it why
so we talked about all that we talked about we talked deeply into what happened with the ex-wife
it's because I asked he was not volunteering all this information so in other words I I get very
uncomfortable when men start talking about their ex a lot that's not what happened I was asking
questions cuz I was really trying to figure out okay is this a are you ready for a relationship
or are you still um missing he
r good question so we talked about that we talked about my exes that
was a mistake I made because I talked about how I dated at one point in time somebody I worked with
that will come back later um and he seemed real cool about he was like you know that was before
me and blah blah blah um so the conversation was good midnight comes and um I go home yes I
went home yeah we ended up talking talking and talking mind you our first date was March 7th
and within about two and a half weeks Brian k
m our governor shut Georgia down we were about we
were going to be on lockdown so during those two and a half weeks we talked every day we went out
again at Red Lobster um I don't even I remember Red Lobster um Red Lobster and Cheesecake Factory
bro I will not eat a Red Lobster but I will eat the [ __ ] out of Cheesecake Factory bro I'll eat
all the [ __ ] chees cheesecake bro um hold up hold up hold up Senpai Senpai you said couples
where one partner is all sunshiny the other is kind of gr
umpy is C to me not going to lie girl
you are not talking about what I'm talking about girl you're talking about aesthetic like a cute
goth guy with like a cute girl who wears pastels right that's not what I'm talking about girl
I'm not talking about that girl I'm not talking about that girl that's not what I'm talking about
I'm talking about like toxic as [ __ ] grumpy as [ __ ] bring down the mood in the room real fast
grumpy as [ __ ] different Debbie downers mood dumpers trauma dumpers
we're talking about like
wholesome like thoughtful like not going to hurt a fly versus somebody who would like definitely
drive over like you're a cat if they wanted to seek revenge okay we're not talking about the same
thing we're not but everything was going great the issue was where are we going to quarantine
so the question was are we going to quarantine at his place which he had like a studio type of
situation like it clear where he was staying um I was like it's like a studio apartmen
t but he
kept telling me like this is temporary because I'm looking for a house like he showed me he yo yo
I'm ready for a house I have money for a house I'm ready to buy a house red flag because nobody got
money for a house in this market so what kind of money you got show me your bank account there was
that who was that who was that scammer that would take women to like really nice homes and go I'm
Going house hunting this weekend you want to come with me and go to Mansions but like he wa
s in no
way is that a movie is that a show is that a real person I don't even remember it might have been a
show but I think about that all the time there's always these people who put on like they they
take you out to a nice restaurant they put on the right show they like show you they act so much
bigger than that's why I say materialism is such a turnoff to me if you need a boat to impress me
like you must be a really shitty person if you're the kind of girl that needs money to impress yo
u
I'm sorry you're a shitty person but like I love that for the world the world got someone's got to
be the shitty people you know someone's got to be the shitty people but like I think AB preach just
said that in today's video like yeah if your whole thing is about materialism and bank accounts and
money like yeah somebody's got to be the shallow part of the society bro you know so like okay oh
no Hannah says Brittney you're going to die when you learn more about bank accounts and 30 more
parts oh I'm oh from the from a woman who worked at the company where she was out on maternity
leave but she was she was putting him in contact with a realtor to help him find a town home or a
single family house so I was just like okay this is definitely temporary like he's not trying to
stay here long term and she was apologizing in the email I'm so sorry you know this should have been
taken care of before you got here but it wasn't D D D D I saw the email I saw the email I read
it I rea
d the email um so the decision was are you we're going to quarantine at the studio or we
going to quar in my house first mistake bro okay I want to say this with no judgment the fact that
some of y'all quarantined with people you just met is so interesting that is such an interesting
decision to do and I can't even judge you because when you think you have the one like I I knew
I was going to marry my husband within like a couple of weeks of course we still went through
the courting process
and double-checking got married after a year of dating met each other's
families did all that stuff but I we did know within a within a few weeks we definitely knew
like okay this is my person and we were right it was our person thank you it was but it was
one of those things where you know one of the rules I personally had is like we're not moving in
together unless we're engaged and like our parents know we're getting married so basically like
we're not mixing finances until we're engage
d and our parents are like planning for our wedding
and some even though like my parents couldn't come to my wedding like you know what I mean because
like I just don't know why I'd be like I have moved in with so many partners and moved so many
partners out I'm so tired by that point I was so tired and I only been two partners but I've only
lived with two people I was exhausted at the idea of moving somebody else out of my house you
know so I was like not going to happen but I'm so that's
so interesting to me because I think it's
understandable in a lot of ways like it's so human to be like oh I like I like this person I want
them to be closer to me quarantine is shutting us down we'll just quarantine together I totally
get it but holy [ __ ] Bro think I well there's lot but this was a mistake I made so ladies
caution moment during one of our dates um cuz keep in mind in those two weeks we were seeing
each other quite a bit um nothing physical or anything like that just two
people who were who
I thought were really on some all right let's see if this is going if this if this is going to
grow into something mhm he came to my house when he came to my house I had a three-bedroom 2 and a
half bath town home oh he was in a studio now I'm telling you guys all of this in an order of how
it happened so some some things I'm probably going to insert what I was thinking and the mistake I
made okay oh my God I'm so nervous and I say that to say that I did not realize invi
ting him to my
home um probably made his eyes go oh [ __ ] she's a keeper she got this three bedroom two and a half
bad townhouse and I'm in like a little Studio yeah let me let me let me go ahead and pursue this what
I need to do to quarantine here the decision was made quarantine at my house so we the Stak went on
lockdown he came and stayed with me um in my home and and for the most part in the initial beginning
it was fine it was it was fine the reason why I hesitate is because I grew u
p in the church so
for me it was really like an internal struggle of bro you always said you would never live with a
guy unless he was your husband and now you living what a do and he ain't your husband like it was
it was a struggle for me because I knew better and and don't come for me I'm just telling you the
way I grew up it was like that it was not sitting right with me but at the same time I didn't want
to quarantine by myself I did not want to so there we go um so he moved in we talke
d about the bills
Let Me Clear something up that I said in the other video where I said he paid all the bills he
paid all the household bills he did not pay my car payment my cell phone or my car insurance
he paid the rent cuz my rent at the time was less than $1,000 um he paid the utility bills and and
so when y three better three bath less than $1,000 Bae he's telling me that he's a regional manager
I was like wow okay so you got money um and so he paid he paid all the household bills so
my check
really was just taking care of me myself and I and I am not this is where it's not gonna make me
look good but it's the truth it was intoxicating to not have to worry financially about how to pay
the bills hey you know what [ __ ] Fair bro [ __ ] Fair that's interesting I like that she's already
like holding herself accountable that's a really good sign was a wonderful feeling and so I kind of
pushed to the side the fact that yeah you shacking up because it's like but your page you
don't have
to worry right now like he's he's taking care of all of April's bills before April even comes cuz
this was still march MH so okay I dated a guy who I thought when he offered to pay for things was
paying for things but putting it on credit cards when I found out that I was dating people who were
like putting [ __ ] on credit cards instead of affording the bills it changed the perspective of
the relationship because you think like oh they're paying in cash they really have money b
ut no you
find out they're putting it on credit cards that's different but if you ahead of time they're putting
it on credit cards that's different so it's kind of like when you don't think it's a credit card
you're like oh you're like responsible and have money and then when you realize they're putting
on credit cards without telling you it's like oh you're pretending to have money while going
into debt with a high interest rate oh my God so irresponsible you know we're living together and
I'm cooking I'm cleaning he's helping to cook and clean and then we have a conversation about
house is he still going to buy a house just for him or is he going to buy a house where it's
for us because we are going to try yeah I really commend them for having very real conversations
though right to make this thing work be official get married have a family okay so the question now
on the table is what are we going to do because I didn't want to stay in um Riverdale Georgia I
did not want
to raise a family there I refused to have a baby um in Clayton County so the decision
was made let's start looking for a house for both of us okay remember he was already looking for
a house for him but then he was like you know what we're together I plan to marry you let's look
for a for a a family home for the two of us okay he was like this is how much I was approved for
that's when he showed me the chase paperwork um it was a letter stating that he and it had the
chase emblem at the top
he showed me a letter stating that he was approved for 700 $750,000
all right yo did this man go don't spoil it in the comments I swear to God Chad if you spoil
it I'll block you did he Forge so [ __ ] good the documents that he like even forged this letter
or was it one of those pre-approved letters that's like fake and not real and they send it to you you
know what I'm saying part three who the [ __ ] did I marry so this is when he showed me the audio is
much lower on this part of the vi
deo so just FYI a letter from Chase with the chase logo at the top
stating that he had been approved for a mortgage for excuse me for a $750,000 mortgage or $750,000
house so he was like we can't go over 750 and I said I remember asking him can you afford the
mortgage on a $750,000 house cuz I know I can this is when he okay okay love that explains
to me I told you how I played Arena Football I invested my money really well so he said I have
money that will help pay for the mortgage he was
like we're good like I'm financially I am okay um
he's like that's why I'm able to get approved for show her show me show her I want to see the proof
$150,000 mortgage so he told me that his money was indifferent Sav account oh no no this is what it
always is BR this is what it always is BR I had somebody in my life be like oh I have a [ __ ] ton
of money um saved I have like 45k save blah blah blah and I was like okay and then one day this
person comes to me and goes hey can I borrow some
money and I was like don't you have like $45,000
saved oh yeah but it's like tied up right now and I can't get to it nah no no you can't no unless
I see those numbers in that bank account no you can't have money cuz you're not good with money
you can't have any more money okay also the text on her video says no I did not physically see
the savings accounts which is fair I think it's pretty crazy to see it Like I Do I Do recognize
how weird I am like I do recognize that I'm like show me your
bank accounts show them to me I want
to see the numbers and I show my partner my bank account we go over finances now we're married
obviously we go over our finances but like I know it's weird to be like show me show me the proof
oh my God Mikey with the Super Chat it's gotten really easy to forge approval documents and proof
of income documents I've seen an uptick and fraud and it's sad I feel for her looks real damn that
sucks that sucks bro she seems like good-spirited so far I'm gettin
g good vibes from her so you know
I'll be critical if I see anything but she seems like pretty Good Vibes but damn that's sad bro
thank you for the Super Chat I appreciate it he said he had account with Chase Bank he had account
with US Bank and he had an offshore account this is what he told yo Marina with the Super Chat as
well thank you so much with a little sticker that says keep it up cute cute cute thank you guys
so much I appreciate it we're it's going to be a long day today guys the
off account I was like
why he explain something about oh the US excuse me the US imposes taxes on money when you have
a certain amount in in US Banks he was like so every everybody knows that it's smart to have some
money in an offshore account ooh offshore account kind of guy y'all look I live paycheck to paycheck
I again I was like okay um girl I live I get you absolutely relatable I mean what is even the S&P
500 what even is it whatever I said so you have so you have the money um to pay
for to pay for
home I'm also holding in my hand a letter from Chase saying that he was approved for 750,000 so
I went off of what I saw yeah so we contacted a realtor I won't say his name but man if he ever
ever sees this Tik Tok I owe this man such an apology but we contacted a realtor in who was
based in Cobb County because I was very adamant I wanted to move back to Marietta Smyrna area um
in Cobb County Georgia he was fine with that his whole attitude was you know you're going to be my
wife happy wife happy life so we met a realtor I I would find houses that I wanted to tour keep in
mind that um this was Co so at the time we could not tour a home it would have to it would have to
be a virtual tour so this particular realiser we found a house in Douglasville Georgia not cob
County but nevertheless it's in Douglasville I was fine with Douglasville c c so we found a house
in Douglasville Georgia the realtor did a um a a uh FaceTime tour of the house the house was it
was re
ally a nice it was a nice home four five bedrooms four baths so we did a FaceTime tour of
the home and the home was listed I believe roughly 400 and something thousand nice like the house
I can see myself living there damn lift it for list it for 325 bro if I I could dream of a house
that inexpensive well I know everyone struggles differently but man I bet that house is worth like
I wonder how much it would be now probably double I can see us living there can see us with the kids
there this
is now April just for timeline purposes this is April so he really liked the house he was
like you know what we'll put an offer in on the house he was like if you like it because again
it was Co we weren't going to be able to see the house in person because because the family still
live there so he said um I'll put an offer in we'll see if it's accepted said okay so he puts
an offer in he's telling me he put an offer in I need to clarify some things he told me and the
things that I actuall
y saw so for this house in Douglasville he told me he was putting an offer in
okay the realtor would call me because one thing that the realtor told us he was like if the woman
likes the house typically the house is going to get bought so he kind of dealt with me a bit more
than he did my ex-husband okay um and again this is April 2020 this is before we got married so
at the time he was my boyfriend so the realair was calling me and was like Hey you know I'm I'm I
put the offer in and what
they're asking for um is proof of funds and and I didn't know any I don't
I did not know anything at this time about buying a house so I was like hey you probably need talk
to him because I'm not even listed on the mortgage like from the paperwork I saw it was only in his
name so he um he called him I guess they talked I was not there um but I'm assuming that they had
talked so the boyfriend is coming my ex is coming home saying saying yeah I talked to so and so I
sent him over the paperwor
k the offer was approved and they are going to try to do a virtual closing
first we got to do an inspection if the inspection goes all well then we have to do a virtual closing
he also told me that he put down earnest money on the home he put down I believe 5,000 he said I I
just transfer the money over to the realtor's uh account or whatever um so that it could be earnest
money for the house okay so I'm just like okay great he was like so realistically this is April
we should be able to ge
t in that house um by June okay no problem so this is what he told me about
three or four days later I get a phone call from the from the realtor and the realtor is like hey
I'm just checking to see what you know what you guys want to do about that house so I was confused
I'm at work um and I said oh I I was told that he put an offer in and the realtor was like he did
I didn't know that he put an offer in and I said well why wouldn't you know like he told me he put
the offer in and he um he
had paid earnest money $5,000 earnest money and so the realship was like
let me call him and find out what's going on with that cuz I didn't know anything about it took
red flag of course so I call him and he's and he in true narcissistic nature he flips the script
and he like goes off he's like cussing going off like he shouldn't excuse me I have the hiccups he
shouldn't be calling you if he has a question he should call me because I'm the one that's on a
mortgage he was like and now it's
you know it's going to be an issue and I said well did you
put the offer in with him or not and he said no I did not put the offer in with him I put the
offer in with a friend of mine who is a realtor oh girl who who absolutely not bro you know what
this is where I would call my mom and be like yo how does this work bro cuz I don't know how to
buy a house and I feel like something sus right something sus you know this is already wild she
knew she knew but also girl I've been here I've date
d Liars it's almost like you're like okay
I you know okay you know what it is as a as a very like aggressive Woman as a more dominant
as a more dominant woman my myself I'm flexing here as a more dominant woman myself I will tell
you I will tell you there is a there are so many times in my life where people tell me Britney you
can't know this about people Britney you can't think this about people Briny you don't know this
but you know let me tell you girl my instinct my intuition my witchy
ass energy knows and I doubt
myself cuz all you [ __ ] are so insecure about your own opinions you make me doubt myself and
then I transform my life and I decided Nah if my gut tells me you sus I'm going to [ __ ] call
you on and say like you are sussy Baka and I don't know what's going on and I don't know what it is
but I'm getting bad energy okay so tell me what it is it's like you don't want to be you don't
want to assume people are lying and I do assume the best of people but I assume n
ot more of people
than they've displayed I expect people to be who they are but I cannot tell you how many times
in my 20s people have made me doubt the [ __ ] out of my judgment of people because they're like
you're being so judgy you don't know this maybe they have a hard life and sometimes commenters
do it too y'all do it sometimes on YouTube Bry you can't know this I know I know but something
in my intuition is telling me this sounds [ __ ] sussy cuz I've met so many good people in my l
ife
and good people don't act like this good wholesome well thought out like really forthcoming people
they don't do this they don't do [ __ ] shady [ __ ] they don't yell and cuss you out they don't
that's what I'm saying every time someone goes fighting in relationships is normal do you mean
yelling and cussing at your partner is normal cuz I'm telling you this right now sweet wholesome
people do not do that so again okay again K say giving too much of the benefit of the doubt when
the t
rack record Being correct about people's over 90% literally so after my 20s I decided you know
[ __ ] everybody I love you all I would rather be wrong then then go against my intuition again
and everything I know about people just to get [ __ ] lied to again and again I it's okay I
expect people to lie if they they're that kind of person I'm not judging you for lying I'm going
to judge myself for falling for your lie though or judge myself for not going with my intuition I'm
like this feels
like a lie bro you tell me this is taken care of but I'm getting phone calls you
think I haven't grown up with people that're like oh yeah I for sure paid that bill and then I'm
like then why are they still hounding me about the bill oh for sure I definitely did that thing
well then why are they messaging me about it cuz in life where you actually get [ __ ] done you're
usually things happen a certain way so I'm just saying if your intuition is strong and you have
a good track record belie
ve yourself and I will say I believe I I know pattern record I'm pattern
recognizing recogn recognition I'm very good at patterns okay [ __ ] K says I don't think he
cursed at her I think he cursed at the realter to her no no no yes yes yes I I was giving
a different example sorry I was separating the two thoughts um but he went off off it's the
negative energy it's assuming the realer is a bad guy it's being negative those are two separate
thoughts generally but yes even in this example wh
y would you go off on the realter why would you
even care wouldn't he just be like oh no tell him I'm sorry bro but I went with somebody else I'll
let him know why wouldn't a nice person just say oh man I'm so sorry I didn't contact that realer
I contacted my friend oh I'll let him know instead he said why the FC calling what the [ __ ] like
why is he calling you he should be talking to me you know what I'm saying just the attitude you
got a bad attitude I can give him the business so I nev
er I did not hear from that Realtor again
so I was just like is the house under contract or is it not he was like yes the house I wonder if
the Realtors are also used to scammers I'm sure reals are also used to people trying to scam them
or do stuff like this I swear under contract this is this is how crazy things work out about 3
Days Later wait Chrissy good point good people also don't have crazy circumstance es tied to all
their stories too oh I got this guy BS true true regular normal w
holesome people also don't have
crazy stories over-the toop stories for their life cuz life itself is not very over the toop
guys.com I'm looking at the house because I was trying to figure out in my mind how I'm going
decorate it shows the house is under contract so oh show my boyfriend my boyfriend oh like
I told you it was under contract he was like like did you not believe me and I ain't had
a heart to say hell no I didn't believe you like oh he's good he's good I wonder if he has a
fr
iend or they made that happen or I wonder if it just like coincidentally cuz the houses go quickly
it was under a contract it just wasn't under his contract did the house get under contract just
in time for her to check it and the boyfriend to be like yeah I told you I knew that you didn't
believe me and I'm like Oh that's oh that's snaky bro I seem too good to be true um but once I saw
the house was under contract I absolutely believe that is under contract with course of course what
what
what are you supposed to do now you feel like a dummy I would have felt like a dummy see oh my
God I can't believe I doubted it I can't believe I thought it was weird like oh look the house
is under contract like oh my God oh my God I have so many embarrassing stories from my life
have you ever defended somebody that you know is the [ __ ] but you're like but he's telling
the truth right girls girls he probably wasn't telling the truth okay he was probably telling
enough of the truth but st
ill oh she probably felt like so stupid trying to doubt him I would
doubt girl relatable like yeah we're about to do inspection we are about to move um and so we had
driven by the house because again keep in mind the family is still living there so we had driven by
the house at this point he was like I want us to start looking for furniture so that way we can go
ahead and order it so when when it's time to move the furniture is ready because you know it takes
like six to8 weeks sometimes um
for furniture to be delivered if they don't have it in stock like
he was he was very methodical in planning and saying this is what we need to do so we started
going to Home Depot Lowe's um because we had a print out of what the sellers were going to take
they were going to take the appliances he had a print out let me be clear he had a out so it said
on there man this guy got paperwork for days bro that they were going to take the appliances so we
needed to get a new stove um new refriger
ator new microwave all that stuff so we went to Home
Depot and lows and I I went ham I chose all these new appliances and here's where we get into
the shopping oh no oh no whose credit card whose credit card is it on all right part four so we
go to Home Depot we go to Lowe's I'm choosing all these appliances he's taking pictures of this
of the um the skew number we have Representatives helping us and he basically explains to them hey
we're we're buying a house um we should be closing someti
me in June can we order this stuff now can I
can I put a hold on it like what can we do because we're not ready for delivery I stood there as
the Home Depot rep said we can hold it in our warehouse like you can buy something and we can
hold it people do it all the time especially with Co so I watched him pay um I want to say it was
about three or it was either 350 or 500 I watched him pay a deposit on a whole new set of appliances
for them and they were going to hold it until we were ready
for delivery I watched this so I was
like okay good deal like we got the appliances next let's go to Rooms To Go and Ashley Furniture
and find um actual furniture so we went all around Rooms To Go we went to Ashley Furniture we went
to American Signature and I I I saw all these things that I wanted again he's taking pictures
of it he was like I can go online and order it I didn't think anything of it because again I just
saw it when he held the appliances so I was like okay that's that's fi
ne um so April turns into may
may 2020 comes um this is where things start to get a little interesting May comes and obviously
we had not done inspection and I'm asking him all the time so what's the deal with the house he
was like oh because of Co they're trying to get someone to do the inspection but the guy that they
it was always something the guy they had caught Co so they're going to have to get somebody else and
he's like he's like 15 houses backed up so it'll be a while so at this p
oint in May I know I look
crazy in this point in May of you look beautiful girl I started recording um audio Diaries I don't
know why I it was some something your intuition told you this man is a fraud your intuition told
you this man is a frog just made me just start recording my thoughts in in an audio diary and I
still have them and I would I would save them by the date and um I would just start talking about
what's on my mind so I was like I knew I knew there was something something was
nagging me like
but I I kept pushing it out of my mind I was like you saw this is what I reminded myself you saw saw
him pay for the appliances you know the house is under contract you know that he told you that um
he's the one who put the house under contract why would like I remember saying to myself why would
he lie about that this is so easy to verify why would he lie about that have you caught him
in any other lie and at the time the answer was no oh yeah um so I really was like maybe
you
just aren't used to a guy who actually does what he's supposed to do like I I was questioning
myself and then answering my own questions so inspection didn't happen around miday I found out
I was pregnant May 2020 when I found out I was pregnant he was a static and I was like oh [ __ ]
the reason why I was oh [ __ ] y'all why did I think there was not going to be kids involved whoa
there's Babies involved no oh [ __ ] bro no bro oh no this story is going to get so bad oh no oh
that su
cks no that's hard bro her Mo her hormones going to be going out of whack she's going to be
questioning herself left and right I swear they get you pregnant or married just to keep you too
these men lie just enough or women Li just enough to get you trapped men baby trap you too you
know women and men all baby trap it's just just a different method of baby trapping is because
number one I'm plus-sized number two because of my age I was I I felt like it was probably going to
be a highrisk pr
egnancy sure and I wasn't married and that nagged I cannot tell y'all how much it
nagged me there was a lot of internal struggle in between my family didn't even know that he had
moved in at this point I told them you know that I was pregnant um went to the doctor everything
looked good um but again because it was Co he couldn't go in with me um into the actual room so
you know doing any sort of ultrasound doing the blood test because my HCG levels were really high
so the doctor was like He
y it might be twins we don't know yet um you're still kind of early you
know along um they gave me a due date the due date was January 26th of 2021 okay um so oh God yeah uh
May found out I was pregnant so there was now more of a push into we got to get a house we got to get
the [ __ ] up out of here I'm not having a baby in Riverdale okay nothing against Riverdale but I
ain't having a baby in Riverdale so we we need to we need I don't know what Riverdale means but
it's funny to find out wh
at's going on with this house and so he was very he was on top of it he
had an answer for everything um he was like you know I'mma call and find out what's going on blah
blah blah um he then magically told me about a week later oh they're going to do inspection on
the on the house like in two days so I was just like okay keep in mind I'm I'm taking his word for
it I'm taking his word for all this okay so he's like they're going to do an inspection um once
we get the inspection report back t
hen we will know what you know what we going to be responsible
for what what are we getting ourselves into okay so um I guess they did an inspection he showed me
an inspection report um only thing that they said that the roof had just recently been replaced
which I remember he was very happy about um and the issues that they there were for the house
were minor it was not it was not a bad because we did have a discussion about it he was like it's
not it's nothing that we can't handle then he
said that we were set to close um the end of May we
were set to close the end of May he told me it was going to be a virtual closing you're probably
like what the hell is a virtual closing CU again he's saying because of Co people are not closing
in the office they're doing a virtual closing where um you would need to electronically sign
the paperwork this is what he's telling me Oh God and so he was like we're set to close like
just before Memorial Day okay and so for some reason again th
ere's still that nagging part for
some reason I didn't start packing I anyone that knows me will tell you I hate moving I've done
it enough in my life I hate moving but I did not start packing up that house at I was just like
you know I'm my body was changing so fast that it was like I can barely keep my eyes open half
a day um and so no I didn't start packing and I remember I did record again I was recording audio
Diaries just about every day when something didn't sit right I would verball
y record it in the audio
diary because I was like I don't know what it is but there's something that was the theme of our
relationship I don't know what it is but I know there's something um and so I remember talking
okay oh this I already know guys no spoilers in the chat if you spoil mods you better block or
like mute those people mute them just mute them if they spoil no spoilers I'm already my body is
so anxious I have so much anxiety in my body right now it's insane it's insane I have
so much anxiety
in my body right now oh my God FYI uh are a great comment I just want to talk about this how do you
follow your intuition in the wake of all these documents like he's showing her paperwork can I
tell you something a normal person probably not but I will give you some Britney mom assignment
advice okay anti anti Brittney advice are you ready if you're going to marry a person have a
baby with a person buy a house with a person you get to look at some bank accounts you get to l
ook
at some details you get to see the actual bank you get to go to the bank and talk to a person you
know at that point I want to see receipts I want to talk to Bankers themselves I want I want so
much [ __ ] proof because this is my life [ __ ] you're about to change my [ __ ] life I think
sometimes people get trapped in this notion of wanting someone to take care of them if they are
going to take care of you you got to take care of yourself through the process until you know
they're cap
able until you see they're actually capable of taking care of you don't make a baby
with them don't buy a house with them don't do [ __ ] with them but let me tell you how do you
know someone's capable of taking care of you they show you time and time again and not by spending
$500 on Home Depot which a teenager who works Summers mowing grass could do okay somebody who's
techsavvy like no proof is in the literal pudding of saying I'm going to be 1,00% transparent with
you because you're 1,0
0% about to give you give me your life you're going to give me we're going
to do life let's be transparent but people don't want transparency because it's better to go along
with the fantasy right and don't see statements from him I would talk to professionals I'd be like
bro like we need to talk to Pros right we need to talk to people now let me tell you of course when
you're in I'm not talking about people who are like tricked or lied to I'm not talking about
this woman I'm saying for tho
se of you who are yet in the moment this is what I would do okay so
this woman is a life lesson and it happened to her so we could learn her story is not going to go to
waste we are going to learn okay the victims who have come before us we honor You by not making the
same mistakes you know what I mean so if there's any inclination and good look even if you're so
like look I married a man I met met and I married him very quickly okay trust me the the amount
of transparency we made each othe
r go through in order to expedite that process was because we
were Expediting the process if we were going to get married so quickly we were going to do with
ACC recording you know way of dating and we were going to go very detailed where do you live let me
see your place let me talk to your friends let me see your accounts let me see your life let's
do medical doctor's visits together he came to me with we did Doctor visits together talked
to family looked at his accounts again it's not pe
rfect you you could still be tricked and lied to
but there is something about them volunteering it them being excited to show you them being like hey
I'm a little embarrassed but here's 50k of credit card debt I have I hope that's okay hey it's not
my proudest moment but yeah I took out a loan for 20,000 and I'm still paying it off hey it's not my
best but here's where I'm at you know having those conversations and being transparent right it's
not perfect we're not judging anyone I think we
've all dated shitty people I think we've all been
lied to at one point in our life and it [ __ ] sucks it [ __ ] sucks so my heart goes out to her
already bro pregnant with twins with a dude and it's scary to ask somebody to be transparent in a
world where people pretend to be offended enough not oh I can't believe you don't trust me bro
you don't trust me I can't believe you're asking me for proof do you think I'm lying to you you're
about to marry me and have my babies and you need me to
prove to you that I have money to take of
you have I not taken care of you have I not taken care of you why would you ask me for proof don't
you think it's kind of weird asking me for proof now in the relationship when you literally are
about to have my babies you see how they [ __ ] twist it like that [ __ ] versus I want you to
have the easiest pregnancy you've ever had I want you to be the most like comfortable woman in
the world I want you to be the most comfortable man in the world wo
rld what do you need what can
I show you I'm 1,000% committed to this there's nothing I want to hide from you you know don't let
people sweet talk you girl you know oh fishy says is there ever a reason to hold off getting married
quickly even if you do a hefty recording process I don't have much time uh I'm sorry I don't have
much thorough experience is some so sometimes I wonder if it's better for me to have a slower
timeline guys I'm going to tell you this right now nothing is guaranteed
you have got to know
yourself well enough to trust your judgment o Valentina said it good relationships are not that
complicated this is the greatest life lesson I ever learned good relationships are not that
complicated this is the greatest lesson of my life I ever learned yes Valentina Lola this is it you
don't need to question yourself a thousand times okay maybe a couple times sure okay you don't need
to have high anxiety it is not is not complicated if it is a good person and you are t
ruly in love
and you are very compatible it will be the easiest thing you've ever done it will be the easiest
relationship you have ever [ __ ] had it will be so simple and so straightforward because you
will be 100% invested in in making each other's life better now of course trauma plays into
this of course uh pressure from family plays into this of course your own lived experience
plays into this so then ask yourself do I have enough of an understanding of myself to make this
decision a
nd how do I get there my husband and I more than anything trusted ourselves to make the
decision to invest in one another and it was the right decision it is the easiest relationship
I've ever been in it is the smoothest time I've ever had living with anyone he makes waking up and
going to bed just the most wonderful smooth thing he's so wonderful like I just I can't explain to
you how easy this relationship is it is the best decision I've ever made in my life in terms of
involving someone
in my life he is the my most best friend he is just the most wonderful human
I've ever met now of course that's only because I married him you know but as a person who always
hesitated in her past relationships as a person who had people say like I'm ready to marry you
and I'm like I feel like something is wrong I understand the difference now because I've had
those relationships where I'm like okay this isn't it and look you don't have to to be a big
dater you could be a virgin you could b
e a two dating kind of person you could never have had
a boyfriend or a girlfriend and I know you can know yourself well enough to make those decisions
I see it every day in religious communities I see it every day in other cultures people don't even
have to date to know themselves well enough to make the decision but you are asking yourself
right do I trust myself to make this decision do you trust yourself to buy a car do you trust
yourself to buy a house do you trust yourself to like tak
e out a loan do you trust yourself to
consent to sex build the tools to trust yourself to marry someone right because look I've bought a
lot of cars I wasn't prepared to handle I learned that lesson dated a lot of people wasn't prepared
to handle done a lot of things I wasn't prep you know what I mean but you learn A Life Lesson
you ask yourself that's what life is life is about experience and life will give you the tools
you just got to actually like utilize them right okay K says the prob
lem is that toxic struggle
love is heavily promoted in certain communities 1,000 billion million trillion percent toxic love
is promoted in movies books TV shows radio shows YouTube videos Tik toks toxic love is absolutely
absolutely promoted and that's why you got to be the exception cuz it's out there you got to be
the exception either stay single and live your life [ __ ] stress free or wait until that right
person comes into your life and it will be the easiest [ __ ] thing you ever did
you will not
shed one negative tiar over this relationship I really believe the right relationship will
never cheat on you never trick you never lie to you never do anything that makes you question
your sanity or question your like ability to ask questions your safety I believe a healthy and
correct relationship the one where it's like the soulmate the person will never make you feel
afraid to ask questions they'll never make you afraid um to bring something up or to share your
emotions o
r to say I feel hurt today okay they'll work on being defensive they'll fight every past
trauma they have to make sure they're not putting that [ __ ] on you I'm telling you this right now
you want a healthy relationship girl it's going to be work bro it's going to be work because
you got to start with yourself pay attention to people cuz they tell you who they are this
guy already offshore accounts could make sense but pretty abnormal for a lot of people so why
do you need those okay could
make sense but kind of weird okay oh I have a lot of money from all
the stuff I did I'm willing to move in with you I'm willing to move into your place I'm willing
to buy a house for you without your name being on the paperwork she said that earlier her name
wasn't even on the paperwork I'm willing to do this all without even marrying you I'm willing
to do so much without even proving it to you that I'm capable I just need you to trust me
I need you to okay see some of the paperwork but I
never let you see my bank accounts and
also if in any way she feels uncomfortable she should be able to take that to her man and say
I'm feeling really strange and it might just be my past it might be my upbringing but I I need
some reassurance and that guy should go I feel you that makes sense we got together quickly it's
co of course you should feel a little weird we're doing something weird let's go let's go confirm
it okay you can do whatever you want in life okay okay whatever you want
but if you keep picking
toxic look in the mirror if you keep getting cheated on look in a mirror if you keep ending
up with people you try to fix look in the mirror okay to myself in my little prayer closet cuz
that's where I would do my recordings and I remember thinking what if he what if we don't get
this house like what if we don't get what if he's lying but oo she knows girl knows and you what
sucks oh I'm sad she didn't have anyone to talk to it sounds so far it sounds like she didn'
t
have anyone to talk to about it and I don't mean just family and friends like what about a
therapist or a priest or a a preacher or somebody you know what I mean but again there goes that
thought process of why would he lie about this like who makes up that they're buying a house
when in fact they're not and then he's showing you all this paperwork like come on you can't be
that jaded that you don't even believe what's in front of you all right so now we're going to go
into part five par
t five PG says yeah but how do you find someone that actually will communic will
actually communicate that you find someone until you date until you do you know what I mean like
you find someone who does you look for them you date around they're on the Planet guys but whether
or not you meet up with people in this lifetime that's not guaranteed there's no guaranteed to
life you don't even know if you're going to be partnered in this lifetime right or at all you
know so again um when you're
having you're in control of your own life I believe in your agency
we're talking about adults I believe in your agency okay I believe in your your intelligence
I believe in your ability to know what you want in life and if you don't know yet you're probably
not ready to get married if you don't know what you're looking for in life you're probably going
to end up divorced if you marry somebody because you probably don't know why you're dating them so
when I say you need to get to the point w
here you know what you're doing in life that will put so
much at ease in terms of dating because then you will move through life going oh I know you're
not the one next I watched love is blind and James was on a date no sorry I was watching
Love on the Spectrum and James was on a date with a very nice lady he met on Instagram first
date they sit down to eat food hasn't even been ordered they've just ordered drinks James has
made it clear to everyone in the show he does not want children the
woman who he's dating goes
I really would like a family and James goes oh I don't want to waste your time I really am sure
I don't want kids they end the date before they even order food and that's it that man is serious
about marriage he doesn't want to waste her time he tells her it's a like I'm not budging on this
I'm almost 40 I know what I want he respects her that man is ready to get married he knows what
he wants he knows what he's looking for he's not going to waste nobody's time t
hat woman wants to
get married she accepted the rejection she agreed she wants kids he doesn't no hard feelings
end of date why buy food why keep going now you maybe would have stayed and bought food and
had a nice time but they didn't and I saw that and I was like that man want to get married that
woman wants to get married they're serious people who aren't serious push the date longer maybe
I'll change their mind maybe they'll do it for Me Maybe I'm the exception you don't want to get
ma
rried girl or you want to get married you don't want a lifelong partner you just want the ring
and this and this sprinkle and all that stuff okay let's go okay part five who the [ __ ] did
I marry so I'm questioning all this stuff in my head out loud on my audio Diaries and then once
again I'm like but look at what you look at what he's giving you like he's paying it wasn't a
question about money it was just a question of are we really are we really about to move
into this house and keep in
mind he's paying all the household bills he still is so we're
supposed to close before Memorial Day we did there was an excuse there was always an excuse
with him always always an excuse if there's always an excuse if it always feels like something
isn't happening the way it should red flag and I didn't know enough about the process to question
stuff because I really wasn't involved the way I should have been and it was giving me a lot of
anxiety so I'm pregnant with a lot of anxiety um o
and if push if I'm going be 100% honest with
y'all I was not expecting that I was probably going to have a healthy pregnancy because I
was stressed and what I was stressed about is I didn't know what was going on because I
wasn't really involved the way that a normal relationship would be involved just being honest
um so we did not close around we moved now into June this is now going into at least he's paying
the bills maybe is don't spoil it I swear is he putting on credit cards is he tak
ing out loans
cuz that's the other red flag oh he's paying all the bills though is he is he June around June
5th I looked at the house again on real.com I don't know what made me do it other than and
I don't mean to sound super spiritual if I was putting I would be on it every day I would be on
it every day Discord says I love her turn signal noise that is my favorite sound in the world as a
kid I loved that sound as an adult I love it it's like one of my most favorite sounds in the whole
world is a signal it's a turn signal I know that people are like you know you may or may not
believe in God but I'm telling you I believe with all my heart probably the Holy Spirit was
like look at that house on realor.com so I looked at the house on realtor.com this was around June
5th it showed that the house was off the market and and I remember being like okay wait what
what does that mean what does that mean because ex-husband is telling me we're about to close on
the house we're about
to close it's our house we got Furniture D D D D D um he's also telling me
that he's been in contact with the real or his friend who was telling him you know this is what
was happening next here's what's going on so the guy that we initially worked with apparently is
completely out of the picture okay but again I was not heavily involved so I'm just like let me
look at the house I see it's off Market what the [ __ ] does off market mean like now I'm really
freaking out so it's shows the na
me of the real estate agent for the seller I don't remember her
name I called her and I said let's go you know my excuse me I said my husband and I even though I
wasn't married my husband and I were looking at this house at 1 two3 Main Street and we really
wanted to tour it but now I'm showing it's off Market is it not available or you know I I pulled
that card and she was like oh no ma'am um the home closed yesterday it closed June 4th again there
are certain dates I just remember um and I
said oh it closed June 4th I was like really um and
she said yes ma'am she was like um my my sellers sold the house and I was like oh man okay well I
said my husband and I really wanted you know we love the pictures of it and we're getting ready
to start a family so I would have loved to have been able the opp you know have the opportunity to
see it I asked her something I don't remember the specific question I asked her and I don't even
I I know why I asked the question because I was anti
cipating that my boyfriend at the time was
going to have some sort of excuse so I asked her something about the buyers and I remember and
somehow again forgive me I don't remember the question I asked her but the answer was that it
was an older white couple oh older white couple so I get off the phone with her o i record an audio
diary and in the audio diary I specifically say okay there is no house he's going to have to get
out of this lie somehow oh girl girl girl girl ooh this is not lov
e this is not love this is a
relationship without love lying cheating deceiving whatever the [ __ ] is happening Financial
infidelity ooh ooh okay because now I realize at the very least he was lying about um him being
the one who was under contract ooh I knew about that so I was like what um how is he going to
get out of this again I'm I've listened to the audio diary in 2024 I literally said in that audio
diary how is he going to get out of this lie and I was trying to think of ways on ho
w he's going
to do it and something said to me because I say it on the audio diary I said um he's going to say
it's a bad deal and he's going to say he wants to pull out y'all keep in mind I am pregnant so I had
a decision to make girl as ugly as this decision was oh I made the decision you're about to have a
baby with this man he's paying all the household bills let him get out of lie oh and that's what
I did no no no oh but I've been there oh I've been there oh I can't even judge her I've
been
there oh he'll change he'll go to therapy it's something from his childhood he's just you know
embarrassed men get embarrassed oh my God I I created so many excuses and you do you create
so many excuses for people you really do baby oh baby I purposely made the decision that I knew
he was going to come back and I knew he was going to give me some [ __ ] on why he couldn't buy the
house cuz he didn't know that I knew that house is already sold oh that house is already sold oh um
and t
his is the part where I said I'm be honest if she I don't even know if she confronts him I
would it would it was I did worse I did worse I confronted the lies they admitted they would lie
and then I would stay I did worse I don't know if she confronts him or do she did she let him
get out of the lie because she doesn't confront him in my 20s I would confront they would admit
the lie and I would still stay CU I would think all they needed was therapy all they needed was
help if they could ju
st make the decision to be better we could be so happy together girl just a
reminder I meant what I said like 10 minutes ago in the right relationship it will be the easiest
thing you do not necessarily for your own personal trauma when I say the relationship will be the
relationship will be easy but you and your own life might still have [ __ ] to deal with but your
relationship will be the easiest thing you do and it will be transparent girl even though it's going
to make me look bad cuz
most women in their right mind would have would have been like I'm out and
I didn't so um sure enough he came home he didn't really say anything that day the next day I asked
him about the house and he said my friend the realtor um he was like I'm talking to him because
something's going on with the interest rate and when he said that I felt so much relief because
I knew that I have been prepared for he's going to give me some [ __ ] so when he said there's
something with the interest rate
I said you know what if the this is literally what I said y'all
if the interest rate isn't good then we shouldn't move there we should probably let this house go
we should cancel whatever Furniture we we ordered or you know appliances and let's just look for
another house I said I would like to be moved before the end of the year I said I really don't
want to be 9 months pregnant moving into a house I would like I would like to be done with this
before then and he was he the way I said it w
as so calm and he was like okay he was like I'mma call
the friend the realtor and tell him I'm backing out of the house and I'm gonna see if I can get
my earnest money back and I remember looking at him I was standing in the kitchen and I cocked my
head to the side and I said okay get your earnest money back and let's find another house o and
so that's how that first house fell through so um fast forward I'm looking I keep looking at this
to see how much time I have cuz you know they only g
ive you 10 minutes so this is part five part
six is coming up but um subsequently what ends up happening the next week which is mid June I
was at work um and I started cramping started bleeding oh no um and at this point my doctor
I had just had an ultrasound earlier that day oh no so I went to work cuz the ultrasound was
was fine I went to work and the cramping and the bleeding started and I started crying cuz I I
kind of knew what was going on and um my doctor had called me and told me th
at when they did the
ultrasound they did not see a heartbeat oh she was like this pregnancy is not going to be viable so
I'm crying hysterical and now we're going to get into part six oh is this a blessing in disguise
is always the question sometimes I feel like our stress and our bodies are so in tune with us that
we know we're not ready to carry a pregnancy to term but it's so sad either way but I really
I the stress is so real but sometimes I think that's almost like the power of the mot
her
is like she knows when it's ready you know that's why they say In some cultures like women
hold the power of life in their our hands Ooh Girl O Okay so this is part six of who the [ __ ]
did I marry so where we left off so obviously it's a little quieter this one so I'm going to try to
up it on my OBS here um my doctor had called and told me there was no heartbeat the pregnancy was
not viable at that point and I was cramping and spotting at work went to my best friend's office
and imme
diately started crying she was like what's going on and I said um I told her what the doctor
said and she grabbed her keys grabbed her purse and was like let's go I'm taking you home on my
way home I called my boyfriend and told him what the doctor said and he was like I'll meet you at
home so he was coming from duth went straight home um and so about 24 48 hours later I had a doctor's
appointment and my doctor gave me three options First Option let everything happen naturally your
body wil
l expel the fetus on its own second option you can take a pill which will induce expelling
the fetus at home the pill basically will cause you to contract and expel the third option was
to go into the hospital and do a DNC I did not want to do a DNC because I did not want to be in
a hospital with Co going on um and for whatever reason I did not do the option of let it happen
naturally so I chose to do the pill his birthday was um June 17th my ex's boyfriend excuse me my
ex's birthday was Ju
ne 17th so the decision was made we're going to celebrate his birthday that
day go out to eat um and then that night I would take the pill because we both were off from work
the next two days next two or three days so um went out to eat try to celebrate as best we could
and then took the pill that night that night was the most traumatic excruciating pain I've ever
put my body through um I do not recommend any woman if prayerfully you don't have to go through
that but I don't recommend takin
g that pill if you yeah I've heard basically every woman including
Britney Spears who took the abortion pill at home said it's like the worst experience it is like
the worst experience so just keep that in mind don't have to don't be with um I I spent the whole
night in the bathroom just crying in so much pain I couldn't take they gave me a narcotic I couldn't
take it because it was I found I was allergic to it so it was causing me to like project out
vomiting um and he was right there you
know he was scared that he needed to take me to the
ER but in the morning the pain kind of subsided so about 72 hours later I had another doctor's
appointment where the purpose of this appointment was to do an ultrasound to see if everything
had passed everything did not pass so because of that my doctor was like we're going to have to
do a DNC damn my DNC was scheduled for the first week of July my boyfriend my ex was going to take
me um that was always the plan two days before my procedur
e he tells me he comes home and tells me
that he is up for promotion he's up to he's up to be promoted to VP because of this the president of
the company BP pres vice president of the company girl girl he ditched you and he's going to be VP girl
nobody's just VP of a company girl I want receipts I want company meetings I want employers employees
I want everybody be confirming this story oh my God excuse me is coming in and it was going to
be this huge business meeting he had to go to um the
business meeting scheduled for the day of
my surgery and so I'm just I'm I'm growing a fit because I was like you you know you there's no way
you can do that meeting like I need you take me to the hospital and all this other stuff and so he
offered to have his sister take me to the hospital um apparently his sister lived in Douglasville I
was oh he got a sister involved is the sister in on it don't tell me spoilers in the comments I'll
block you oh my God no because I've never met her like
I'm not no I'm not having you're taking to
the hospital no this is good for you put down your feet this situation I don't want to do that blah
blah blah So my aunt was going had offered to take me and then my friend who took me home from work
had offered to take me okay so at that point um we get into an argument because he's like my sister
is you know you about your family so why can't she step in and I was like no because I don't
know her period I don't know her so that's kind of crazy t
hat they don't know her or haven't met
her or don't want to meet her as well I I totally agree with her somebody she knows should go with
her but I wonder if they introduced family has anyone met each other have they done an exchange
of family oh so my friend offers to take me to the hospital because I was all distressed that he's
saying he has a business meeting and he can't take me so I remember being on I75 on the connector
on the phone with her crying because I I was so embarrassed that
he wasn't going to be the one to
take me and that I was needing to rely on someone else to take me to the hospital in order to get
a BNC done and she was really great she was like girl this is why you have a village like it's okay
things happen the world is crazy right now I will take you you're going to be okay so he did not
take me to the hospital um for my DNC my friend oh remember Co oh you're right so everyone's in
lockdown so they couldn't be meeting each other's families or anything
you're right okay I'm I keep
forgetting it's co time what a time what a Time wow okay she could not stay because of Co protocol
um so when they willed me into pre op after I got checked in I text him and was just letting him
know hey here's the update I'm about to you know I'm in pre op they're going to get me prepared
to go back um to the surgical W or whatever and the response I got was from his new executive
assistant named David now when he told me he was up for the promotion he did te
ll me that part
of getting this new job would be that he would get an ex executive assistant named David and he did
tell me I'm going to make sure that I informed David if you get a text from this number meaning
from me um pull me out of the meeting because you know she's my fiance is having um a procedure done
and I'm picking her up so it's important that you come get me if it's something serious so I text
him David responds he said yeah Mr blah blah told me that um you are having a proced
ure done
if you need me to get him I can go get him he's in a meeting just let me know what you need and
I just said no don't bother him I'm just giving an update that they're about to take me back
and David responds and says I'm so sorry you're going through this please let me know if there's
anything I can do so I have the procedure I wake up and I'm now in recovery I should be in recovery
45 minutes up to an hour and a half okay I wake up first thing I ask and I remember asking is where
is so and so the nurse who was so sweet you know she was like everything went well um you're doing
great she said we spoke to your fiance he's on his way so I said okay you know okay I kind of doze
back out but I could still hear everything that was going on I just could not keep my eyes open to
save my life so I hear her talk to the other nurse and that when she said yeah um Dr so and so called
her fiance and his executive assistant picked up and the executive assistant said that he was in
a business meeting and that um you know you could relate to him what you need to say and he'll you
know tell Mr he'll tell the fiance and my doctor was like hell no Hippa um I need to speak to him
so apparently my fiance called the doctor back about 30 minutes later and the doctor informed
him she'll be ready to be discharged in about an hour you know you can make your way and come pick
her up he said he was on his way he was on his way from duth to Atlanta which is not a huge distance
bu
t the time of day one thing about Atlanta there's was always traffic so he should have been
there within the hour I should have only been in recovery an hour and a half let's go to the next
part girl okay so I just want to clear up some things that I realize um is kind of creating some
confusion so just allow this video to serve as a stop sign let's clarify first of all the story
background he was born in Philly raised in Philly and moved to Augusta um story is he moved to
Augusta for high
school after high school he went to college at San Diego State enjoyed San Diego
State stayed in San Diego for for quite a while um got married in out in California had a house in
California played Arena Football out in California but his family was back here in Augusta Georgia
um he still had a lot of family up in Philly but for the most part he had a sister in Augusta he
had a sister in Douglasville he had a brother in Baltimore he had another brother in Philly and
he had um a brother in
Nashville so I just want to clarify that in terms of um the Dem not the
demographics but the Geography okay born in Philly came to austa for high school went to San Diego
State for college played football stayed in San Diego excuse me stayed at San Diego got married
out there but still had quite a bit of family here in austa she here in Georgia um he also had a
sister I think I said who lived in Douglasville I have physically met his aunt who lived in Augusta
I've met his brother who lives
in Augusta um I have spoken on FaceTime with a brother who lives
in Baltimore um and then I will demonstrate how he used to talk to the brother that lives in Philly
that's coming up you haven't missed that okay okay in terms of The Proposal you did not miss the
story of The Proposal I simply didn't want to share it because it was embarrassing basically he
gave me three ring options we went to a jeweler at the Mall of Georgia he had me pick out three
rings I told him which one I like the mos
t cuz I knew it wasn't a romantic proposal at all I knew
which ring I like the most I told him which one he he basically said when I'm ready I'll give you
the ring and I'll propose fast forward um about I guess it was summer because I was actually
pregnant when the ring came we were sitting at the dinner table he took the ring box out of
his pocket slammed it on the dinner table and I was like what is this he was like open it I opened
it inside was the ring that I had wanted um that I chose
n at the Jeweler and he was like all right
so this means that you going to be my wife I was pregnant so again when I ask y'all give me Grace
it's because there's certain things that's just like girl what was you thinking trust me that's
okay honestly I I just feel like crying for her so honestly girl like no judgment oh my god oh
there's no excuse um so there was never a will you marry me it was more of a we're living
together we're having a baby together um we need to get married because t
he backstory also
was that his dad was a retired police officer but at one point his father was a pastor so he
could quote the Bible like nobody's business as we all know so can Lucifer oh religious Men Who
quote the Bible people who pretend they they're Pious more than other people um I'm pretty sure
there's a Bible passage about this but literally people who perform religion but anyway he could
quote the Bible like no one's business um and so that's how we ended up engaged and I was
wear
ing a ring I was wearing I will find a picture and I will try to post it but I was
wearing a ring um don't worry there's more to that story as well so just want to clarify some
things um for the people who like wasn't it weird that he had a sister who um lived close but he's
from Philly so I just wanted to definitely bring Clarity to what he told me um was the backstory
born in Philly came to Augusta for high school went to California for fo um College played
football at San Diego State pla
yed football and Arena Football um worked at Apple and then
joined a condiment company in California who then transferred him back to Georgia he was married in
California um and he told me he got divorced see if he was like oh I work for a condomin company
like who is it and then I would want like again like proof like income bank statements but see
my partner and I we go over everything with each other we just like we go over everything with
each other even my mom and dad like again my mom
and dad they go over everything together like
my mom handles the money my dad makes the money but they go they sit at the table I watched my
parents growing up sit at a table and go over money and finances and stuff and so I just like
okay and that's what I do with my husband we just sit and we talk or maybe he'll put our receipts
into an Excel sheet and then we'll look at it and then I'm like okay this is what we're spending
this is how we're doing it um I don't know if people do this I t
hink some people want provider
relationships and I'm not judging this woman so this what I'm about to say has nothing to do with
this woman there is this bubble that exists in the world where people want provider husband so
they want the husband to do literally everything but they forget like that's a real human being
with normal stresses and burdens in their life who might make mistakes who might have a stroke
halfway through your marriage and not know who might end up getting Dementia or
might end up
having a health issue and so if you really out of it and they're doing everything because you
think they can handle it and that's what humans should do you're also dehumanizing your partner
making them this like roboted person that can quote do everything it needs to be a team effort
or if you know you you can do what you want girl but I think it should be a team effort and I think
you should be there with your partner and you guys should together let the team flourish and win
because you're both on the same page you both know what's going on yesterday my partner was
teaching me me our address in Croatian so if I ever had to call emergency I'd be able to say
the address in Croatian um you know and stuff like that is really important I know it sounds
stupid but like if I need if he needs to call 911 for me he needs to know my medical history
and what Med medicate medication I'm allergic to like you know how she said she was allergic
to meds what if he didn't pay
attention to that she is allergic to meds like that's important
[ __ ] so again I think sometimes people think like oh I'll just get married he'll be a provider
husband and everything will just be very easy and smooth and like he'll take care of it what about
you don't you want to know what's going on don't you want to know like what to do you know what I
mean Kelvin says he only told you this yesterday well I mean I have I can say it in English but
I yeah we've been practicing in Croatian
it's much harder um you know what I mean but we've
been practicing uh things in Croatian to make it easier for me to communicate in case people
don't speak English here um but again you know what I mean when you're when you're thinking
about partnership I feel like you should both be on the same page in case somebody's out of
commission like somebody's out of commission right Moonlight says the W the womb needs to be
protected and the man was not providing a safe world for the mother so the
mother's womb can feel
safe you mean like the stress of the relationship I mean obviously this relationship stressing
me out and it's not even happening anymore in California that is important as well that will
come up again later um and so the ex-wife at this point in time at the time that I'm telling
you part seven which is the last video I just posted the ex-wife lived in California with her
two kids his two uh step kids the two step kids were 17 and 20 or 21 but they were that age he
was saying that he was very close with them so he wanted to keep a tight relationship with them
okay um and he talked to them if not every day every other day when I say and when I say this I
need y'all to understand when I say that he talked to someone it means that he he was on the phone
in front of me talking to the person I hope that that cuz I will touch back on this he was on the
phone in front of me talking to the person damn how many people are helping him con people bro how
many pe
ople so he talked to his siblings every day he talked to his aunt almost every day he talked
to his family the way I talked to my family almost every day um and again I will demonstrate how he
used to do the phone calls I will also demonstrate how he used to do the work phone calls because he
called me every single day from work damn he talk to people while he was on the phone with me damn
and I could hear people in the background oh she got gaset gaset bro she got gaset gaset bro oh
my God
she got so [ __ ] gaset or lied to and like how did he even pull this off but that's a
whole another part so again buckle your seats I promise I'm reading your comments I'm reading your
questions but I wanted to bring this video just to clarify some stuff hopefully this helps and um
honestly I hope I know people are fascinated by this but more than anything I hope that there's
a woman watching this and she's saying to herself okay it's time for me to ask some questions
that's my amen amen
and we thank you for your service oh that gets so loud in your ears guys
just FYI it's going to get loud every time she ends a video because the Tik Tok thing goes loud
so I'm sorry for earphone users part seven who the [ __ ] did I'm marry so he should have I should
have been in recovery at norst hospital for bound at most an hour and a half the audio is super
low on this part the audio fluctuates because of the person who exported the video so just keep
that in mind um subsequently I ende
d up being in recovery between three to three and a half hours
the nurses kept calling my ex asking what's the status because they were actually getting ready
to do a shift change so they kep calling asking what's the status what's the status like where
are you I want to say that they called a total of three times and they spoke to him twice um so
at this point I knew that they were all like where is her where is her fiance like what is going on
um he said he was stuck in traffic and so so
he was making his way there he eventually did get to
North Side Hospital um and they wheeled me down um because again he couldn't come in um just because
of the protocols so when I got in the car um and I'm in pain but yet drugged up couldn't keep my
eyes open couldn't release I was just out of it but I remember him calling my aunt and my mother
and letting them know I picked her up we were on the way home let me get her settled and then um
I'll give you guys an update I remember that what
I did not know was that he had text my aunt and
my mom and asked them to not bother me for like a week like just please don't reach out to her let
her just rest I am from New Jersey I am from an African-American family you don't tell my black
mama or my black aunt that um you know please don't bother her for a week I didn't know this at
the time but I'm just interjecting trying to stay in the timeline but um wait is the guy she's with
is he black or is he something else do we know his ethni
city cuz oh my gosh like yeah no like my
parents are very up to date with everything I couldn't imagine yeah that would be really weird
ask I think I'm trying to think of how that would I'll ask my mom like if my partner if my husband
told you like oh don't bother her that's a weird ask bro that's like a super [ __ ] weird ask I
don't think that' go over well I mean we're Middle Eastern but that's still just like in general like
I don't think that'd go over well but also I like how he's ali
enating her lying to her lying to her
family doing things on her behalf he's black too okay that and my aunt was like what [ __ ] you
up anyway so go home um Pete Waits on me hand and foot I recover um just needed about 24 to 48 hours
to just get my mind right um during this time in between the when the house in Douglasville fell um
fell through we had not talked about the volume is so low but it's up on everything it's I probably
it's probably because of the way she recorded it um it sound
s like she recorded her Tik toks with
different audios it's it's a really old I know I'm having a hard time too um I think there's
subtitles we'll try to turn them on house so but they're cut off because of the video guys sorry
about that hopefully this the next video is not too low on audio about a week later after the DNC
he decides that you know if do you want to start looking for a house excuse pick up yall do you
want to start looking for a house again because of what happened with the
house in Douglasville I
felt like I was smarter this time to say you know I want to be involved in every aspect because
I don't know what the [ __ ] happened with that house in Douglasville but what I do know is that
he he lied to me I didn't think I didn't know then what I know now I just knew he lied about
putting in excuse me I knew he Li about being under contract so um I told him I said I don't
want to work with your friend who I've never met never talked to I know that he has talked
to him
because he talked to him in front of me and I'm going to demonstrate on one of the videos how he
used to do his phone calls don't worry it's coming so we found a new real estate agent nice guy um
his name was Scott I am using his real name really nice guy um and we told him what the budget was
and Scott was like okay when you guys are ready we can start looking at houses try to look for
houses that are empty because you can actually tour those if it's a house where someone's
already
living in there chances are it's going to be a virtual tour because of Co so I found a
house um that I absolutely in total we must have looked at about 15 houses um but I found a house
in Smyrna that I absolutely whoa 900,000 we Tor the house everything about this house was perfect
the house was listed for 699,000 there was a brand new construction build the only issue was that
the basement was not finished and he wanted the basement to be his man cave um again I went with
him to tour his
house so this was already feeling very different than the situation in Douglasville
because we did not actually tour the Douglasville house we only did a FaceTime um virtual tour this
house in smna we toured we toured this house more than once um and it was it was gorgeous [ __ ]
gorgeous so we talked about it he said that he had the money um again the price was $6.99 he said
he felt comfortable putting in an all cash offer if you remember on the video okay so 600 699,000
right is that what
she said he felt comfortable putting in all cash offer I'm sorry the volume is
so low on this part guys okay hard to believe it was before told me he had money in his savings
from when he played football so when he said an all cash offer even I knew you you got that kind
of money like where you can cut a cashier check for 699,000 and he told me he did he had money in
savings um from when he played football and he was very comfortable okay girl girl how how do you I
assume people with money
got it illegally unless I see some [ __ ] receipts I don't want to go to
jail for my husband's decisions you know what I'm saying so if they have money I'm like where'd you
get it prove it all cash for this home so the real estate agent Scott sent over the paperwork the
paperwork was sent in both of our names it was sent to my email um that was another thing that
I changed after Douglasville everything get sent to me and then I be sure that he signs it see see
everything gets sent to her s
he knows so he sent it to me I looked over the offer um we were asking
excuse me we were going to put in an all cash full price offer with um a request to have the basement
finished also we were requesting for the seller to give us an answer within 24 hours um we were
requesting a quick closing um these are just some of the things I remember I remember 24 like
I didn't want to wait on y'all think about it 24 hours let us know if you're accepting the offer or
not and then also a quick closin
g because it was a new construction so we didn't have to wait
for the current tenant to move out we didn't have to do that so I watched in our bedroom as he
pulled it up because it was a electronic document he signed his name to the offer for $699,000
cash he requested again the seller let us know in 24 hours if they were accepting the offer so
we submitted the offer at around 6 p.m. we were requesting that by 6 p.m. the next day they let
us know if the offer was accepted or not I watched h
im sign the offer I sent the offer back to Scott
from my email all parties I signed Scott text us and said I got it I'm submitting it I will let
you know what they say let's go in to part seven oh my God sorry let's go into part eight good
grief this is getting long okay hopefully the volume's better all right part eight of who the
[ __ ] did I marry so we submitted an offer on the house in smrna I sent it over to Scott our
realtor and next day comes Scott asks if we can take a phone call s
o he calls us and tells us that
the offer was not accepted and the Builder did not do a counter offer we don't exactly know um why
um we don't exactly know why he didn't accept it but the bottom line is that we figured out later
on that he didn't want to finish the basement so the offer was not accepted the house fell through
I was okay with that because again I knew he had put in an offer so we continued looking at other
houses we o you know what's interesting you know what's interesting h
ere's what's interesting it's
O I wonder if he knew it was going to fall through or he was hoping it would fall through CU what
if it didn't fall through found another house um in Smyrna that he really liked um I thought
that it was way too big for just the two of us um and so the price of this home was much higher
than the 750,000 that chase had approved for the mortgage so what he explained to me was that he
was willing to do the $750,000 mortgage and he was also willing to put a signific
ant amount of the
money and savings on the house which meant that he was now comfortable going from 750,000 up to about
900,000 again his his whole explanation was I have the money where I can put down a substantial down
payment bring down the price of the home and then basically mortgage the rest of it so that was
now the plan I was not comfortable with a home over $900,000 um but again keep in mind I saw the
chase paperwork so I was like I just feel more comfortable sticking at the 750,00
0 Mark that's
what you approved for okay let's go with that by this point this is now fall of 2020 um we had been
talking about marriage I had my ring um he had made VP at the company and again he was calling
me every day from work um the I need to kind of explain how the company was ran because when you
think VP you would think he would be in an office it was a condiment company so they actually were
producing the condiments and I'm not saying the name of the company on purpose but they we
re
producing the condiments um in this particular plant location so a lot of times he would simply
tell me that he walked the floor um checking in with his subordinates basically now how did he go
to work for the most part at this point he left before I woke up however pretty much he wore dress
pants um kind of like a a dark navy blue cargo pant and he had a polo shirt with a company logo
on it what I saw a lot of times is that he would not wear the polo shirt to work he would wear like
a
company t-shirt he would wear Rubber Soul shoes and the um navy blue cargo pants I didn't think
it was a uniform but it definitely it reminded me of what someone would wear when I worked at Amazon
if you're going to be doing manual labor he didn't go to work sloppy looking at all but it definitely
was not Suit and Tie nowhere near studentai um it is fair to note that outside of work he was a man
who he loved to dress he loved to wear the latest Jordans he loved to collect watches he collecte
d
a lot of invict watches um he he loved to collect hats he wore hats baseball caps everywhere because
he like the shape of his head um so in terms of how he dressed casually the man he could dress
um in terms of how he dressed for work yeah he didn't dress like a VP but his excuse was I'm
constantly walking the production floor and I can't be in a student tie walking the production
floor where they're creating the condiments that we're selling so by this point again this is
yo is he like
a factory worker playing like Hep God I'm so oh my God no spoilers in the chat bro
fall we're still looking at houses um we're still touring houses as much as we can because it is co
um we had found another house that we really liked and a house that I really truly wanted to put an
offer in on this was now going to be the second house that we put an offer on he put in the the
asking price I believe was about 700,000 he put in under asking um an offer for about 650,000 I'm
guessing but I'll
try to find the house and put it on this and put it on the story um the reason
that that house fell through we found out that the home was sitting on a septic tank we found out
the septic tank had an issue and it would have taken about 15 to $20,000 to fix the septic tank
the sellers were not willing to fix the septic tank personally I didn't really care for the house
that much I'm the one who was like I don't really want it so even though we put an offer in we had
24 hours where we could u
h pull our offer back and so we did once we found out I believe it was in
the disclosure and if you're a realtor please feel free to tell me if I'm using the wrong terminology
but I believe it was in the disclosure that they told us septic tank needs to be replaced that's
when I was like nah I don't I don't want that house um so we pulled out the house fell through
and so I was fine with it whoa wait whoa wait wait wait hold up hold up she stayed with him wait
the baby's the baby didn't mak
e it wait wait wait wait wait pause skir she was staying with him
originally cuz she was pregnant and she's like I'll let him lie me the baby miscarried and she
stayed wait she's not even pregnant anymore cuz in my head I was like well she's pregnant I get
it the stress you don't want to do it alone she got a blessing from God God gave her a hell Mary
and she didn't even take it the universe blesses us left and right guys the universe blesses us
they give us every way oh and she didn't take
it she knows he lies to her she knows he's shady
and she had this coincides with my work so right this coincides with my work so right what did
I say people are not ready for the blessings the universe gives them they're not ready to
take it the universe will give you a [ __ ] tool the universe will give you a blessing and I
mean just life itself right call it the universe call it God call it just like biology Evolution
what call whatever you want girl call it time she was blessed and she
pooed the blessing and
I know what you're saying a miscarriage is not a blessing Honestly though sometimes I think death
is a blessing it is I've had people die in my life and I'm like what a blessing because Jesus the
terror sometimes it's a blessing okay damn damn she pooed the blessing Karma karma is not you
do good you get good CU this girl hasn't done bad but karma is your life reflected back to you
karma is your life is a reflection of what you put into it and this is what she's putti
ng into her
life and so it will be so oh girl because again I was heavily involved I saw him sign the offer
I knew every step of what was going on our real estate agent Scott was amazing but you will
see when I get to it where he made a mistake as a real estate agent so house number two fell
through um we then moved on sof few more houses and then we get to house number three I'm going
to pause talking about the houses because now I need to introduce what happened with the cars
okay oh sta
y tuned the cars all right part nine of who the [ __ ] did I marry so we're pausing
on the house stuff let me tell you about the car so when I met my ex-husband I was driving a 2012
Nissan Rogue um fully loaded it had quite a few miles on it but it got me from A to B it was
in it was in good condition but I was upside down in the car okay he was driving a 2018 for
tourist um uh sport mode I know he had a sport mode on car and I love driving that car um when
he told me how he was a regional
manager he told me that one of the parks that came with a job was
that he would be getting a company car and so we spent time going to Range Rover of South Atlanta
um we spent time going to Jaguar we spent time going to BMW we spent time going to uh Ford which
was on Mount Zion in Maro if you all are familiar with that area he test drove a whole lot of cars
in the end he decided on a BMW sedan I was there when he test drove the car I got in a car with him
I loved it um and he explained to t
he salesperson you know I'm getting a company car I need to get
a print of the full price of the car tax tag and title because what my company is going to do is
wire over the money for the car the salesperson was like okay you know apparently apparently that
happens a lot so he gave him a print out with a tax tag and title for the car um in front of me
and the salesperson he called the person in the finance department for his job obviously I have
no idea what this person's name is but he ca
lled the person he explained to them this is the amount
of money he said the president of the company so- and so has authorized for him to get a car not
spending more than I think 90,000 tax Tag and Title the BMW came out to just under 9,000 and so
he I remember this conversation so [ __ ] vividly okay so again when you're in a relationship how
everyone does finances differently and I love that for you so I'm not making a judgment why are we
getting a $90,000 car when we don't even have a h
ouse this is why I like Frugal millionaires
this is why I like frugal people Frugal is so attractive not cheap frugal people that are very
good with their money is so attractive not people who have lots of money having lots of money does
not tell me you're good with money okay lots of people you know make money and lose money every
day but when you're good with your money when you're [ __ ] saving [ __ ] when you're not buying
cars left and right like the girl it's a company car okay is it
though is it is a company car cuz
company cars ain't going to get you no BMWs bro for a condiment company where he doesn't even wear
a suit to work make it make sense make it make sense so he he's on the phone in front I'm stand
I'm sitting down the salesperson sitting down at their desk and he's like you know they put me on
hold and so he's like he I guess the person comes back and he says um yeah the price of the car is
blah blah blah he was like give me a second then I can send you a pic
ture of that print out that
shows tax tag and title for the BMW he gets off the phone he takes a picture of it he sends it
to who ever he waits about 10 minutes he calls the person back he says did you get it apparently
the person did get it but the person who can who can actually physically do the wire transfer had
gone home for the day so what he says to um the BMW salesperson he's like okay we're going to have
to do this tomorrow because so and so went home for the day I don't know who t
he sales person
is I can only tell you from my viewpoint what I thought I had no reason to think this was a lie
okay he guys you're telling me this guy is a 1er who's getting a BMW at a cond we you don't know
he works at hind girl okay from her point of view it makes sense how are you that rich and you don't
know you're that rich you're telling me this woman is married to a rich person and doesn't know she's
Rich where's her where's her where is it no way no way bro I'm ever going to believ
e somebody is rich
without some [ __ ] proof bro some [ __ ] proof no way bro your company's just buying you a car bro I
don't trust nobody bro take me to work let me meet your boss let me [ __ ] him in the back room just
to prove he's real bro ain't no way bro I don't [ __ ] know way I really didn't because again you
got to keep please keep in mind she already knows he's a liar she literally already knows he's a
liar what are we what game are we playing what game are we playing the circums
tances that all
of this is happening she's not even married yet she's not even married yet she's not even married
yet dealership we're sitting at the desk of this person he gave us the print out he's on the phone
you know doing business basically saying look I need this is how much much money the car is going
to cost he's taking a picture of it he seemingly is texting someone saying this is how much you
know this is proof of how much it is then he asked the BMW salesperson I need your wire
transfer
information the guy got up rushed over to I guess their Finance area to get the wire the bank
wire information cuz obviously you have to wire it a certain kind of way rushes back over gives it
to my ex-husband my ex-husband's like okay first thing in the morning we will get this wired over
and then you know I'll come and pick up the car my fiance me will drive me up here to pick up the
car so we leave he felt like because at the time that this all happened I was pregnant so he felt
like look we're no pregnant wait pregnant again or pregnant at the time wait has the is this the
miscarriage baby or a different miscarriage wait now I'm really confused is this the second baby
or the first baby now I'm confused you driving that Nissan Rogue I want to get you something I
want to get you something more secure something new I really wanted AIA I really wanted AIA tell
you ride um and he was like well let's let's look at the warranty this man knew a lot about cars why
are we
buying [ __ ] cars when you guys can't even get a house what the [ __ ] [ __ ] is happening
you a lot about the warranty pregnancy at the time so this is okay so we're going back learning about
the cars which overlap for when she when she was pregnant holy [ __ ] this is miscarriage baby okay
he knew a lot about the depreciation value and so he did talk to me a lot about what will we get the
most true true true true Lexi says uh Lexi Lexi says also keep in mind that she was pregnant y'all
and those hormones will make you so not yourself okay true so this is the time she's pregnant and
she knows he's a liar but this isn't current like later her so okay okay fine fine for our money
um we test drove when I say we I I test drove AIA tell ride AIA sento he didn't like either of those
he had me test drive a Ford Explorer he didn't really care for that then came time where he
really wanted me to get a BMW um he really wanted me to get a BMW X5 so he took me to be Global BMW
Imports
which if you know anything about Atlanta it's off of cot Parkway but you can see it off of
uh off the highway I believe 285 is where you can see the Global Imports BMW dealership he took
me there he had me test drive in X5 and X6 um he also had me test drive a I think I'm get the
numers wrong a 525 which was a sedan I did not like that I wanted an SUV um I loved driving the
BMW he also had me drive in M series test drive in M Series so he was very adamant that I should
get a BMW the reason
being is because according to him he had a BMW in California when he lived
in San Diego he had a BMW that he loved it was a white BMW he showed me pictures of the BMW so
he showed me pictures of this white BMW that he had and unfortunately the car got totaled about
two months before he moved to Georgia so he had received um money not a lot but some money to get
another car and he used it to get the fort Taurus because he was like I just need a car that's going
to get me from A to B until I
get into a house and I'm much more settled for him he was like I'm
really giving myself 60 days to get settled here in Georgia after moving from California
but then he met me again that's the story so he had me test drive the BMW so much so I loved
the BM the BMW loved it I wanted a dark blue BMW with conac interior I wanted an X5 and I wanted
an M Series so I can clearly tell y'all that's exactly the car I wanted we were online looking
for that particular car because every dealership had
it I was okay with a black BMW if needed um
but I really wanted dark blue and I really wanted that cognac colored interior so he felt like I
want you to still I want you to consider all of a sudden an Audi Q8 let's just see how you like
it if you don't really like it then we will go back to the BMW I cannot tell you why he switched
up I can't um but I can tell you he took me to an AI dealership on P Tre industrial he test drove
an AI and I test drove an AI Q8 um I loved the Q8 loved it love
d it loved it but I was tired of
test driving CS by bro just got a Honda CRV and call a day I had Honda CRV it was my favorite car
I've ever had I love that car a Honda CRV is such a good car it's it's a safe car it's [ __ ] within
reason and in terms of budget a I got a used one too it was my favorite I sold it before I came to
Croatia that was my that is a good car actually I sold it to my little brother he drives it now
and my little brother literally drives this car bro this car is so g
ood to him I asked him I was
like how's the car running he's like bro it's good I was like I know I know I took care of that car
and it had like it had like Miles when I gave it to him I think it had like 80 90 miles it's still
going to be good for another like 50 it's going to be so good for so long bro I love that car bro
that car is so good at this point I had test test driven so many cars um our weekends were spent
either looking at a house or test driving cars and I was picky I will ad
mit that so he had me
test drive the Q8 I really liked it I finally just told him look I'm good with either the BMW or the
Audi cuz I'm tired of I'm tired of test driving cars he told my family he was buying me a new car
because it keep in mind he had well not keep in mind let me let y'all know he had met my family
initially on Zoom because again we were locked down he had met my family um he also had met my
family in person because at this point it was like look if you're not showing any s
ymptoms maybe
we can do family dinner um and so we had so he had met my family in person and now we will go ahead
and move towards damn okay okay part 10 of this series okay part 10 who the [ __ ] did I Mary
okay had his sneeze all right so at this point I had test driven all these cars Kia um hell
he even had me test drive an Nissan Morano but the main two were BMW and an Audi he had told
my grandfather he was getting me a car he had told my Aunt he was getting me a car that he was
going
to he was like she's going to be my wife I want her to be in something secure so my family
was really like wow you know wow you know who knew that he had this kind of money um and so
I hated the fact that he did that cuz anytime he got around my family he was another red flag
to put in in the United Nations of red flags he would always talk about money and he would always
brag I never realized it in real time I didn't realize it until I was out of the situation
he always bragged about the f
act can I just tell you can I just tell you can I just tell
you look my family is Middle Eastern they're very very critical okay they fit The Stereotype
well they'll shame your body they'll shame your income they'll shame everything about you but
then overall it's just cuz they want the best for you they just have like that toxic way of
saying it and so like they will be cynical of everyone they'll like oh you think you're rich
show me your bank account oh you're like you say you have money
show me your bank account oh
you're like poor like like what do you want what do you want with my daughter what do you what are
you what are you going to what are you going to do like oh you want this it's like show us because
like there's something like tell prove it and they don't even need the actual proof they just want to
know that I've seen it like I remember when my now husband met my brothers and they like interrogated
him he did so well what a sense of humor it was so fun it was l
ike my family's very funny we first
we laugh at a lot but two we are very like rude I think I blame the nerd of urgency but we're very
much like what do you mean what do you want with that what are you doing who like you know what I
mean um if if my partner was bragging about like oh I'm going to buy him this I'm gonna buy him
this I'm I'm GNA buy her this um you know what gender what's gender I'm gonna buy my partner
this they'd be like suspicious about it why you bragging why you being ru
de humility humility is
attractive humility he could fight the fact that he had money and the fact that he played football
those are the three things he always bragged about back to the cars so I told him I was like pick one
between the BMW and the AI cuz you said you buying it so pick one so this man chose the Audi so he
takes me to the dealership I wanted a white Q8 he does me give me the print out of how much it's
going to cost tax tag and title to get this Q8 gentleman who's helping us
gives him to the print
out he's saying he's going to pay this money for the car out of the savings account that's that's
offshore that's the story that's what he's saying so he apparently is asking the guy you know is
there a holding fee can I pay a holding fee to secure this car while I'm working to get the
money transferred because obviously with Co it's going to take long for the banks to transfer
the money side note I need everyone to understand one of the reasons why he was able to get
away
with the stuff he got away with is because we were on lockdown it's crazy because it's now 2024
but I don't know do we all remember how it seemed like a lot of stuff stopped in 2020 now keep
in mind that's not an excuse I'm making because [ __ ] still got done but in terms of business as
usual business as usual just was not happening in 2020 at this time so when he's saying oh it's
going to take a while for the bank to transfer the money the gentleman who was working at AI
did not ev
en he didn't make a face he didn't he he didn't blink he was like I know it's going to
take a while because of Co so basically what ends up happening is we leave he has the print out he
calls the bank or he calls his his um financial adviser who does have a name the financial
advisor's name is Eric I feel comfortable um vile says people who brag about how they can fight
I you know those people suck unless they can fight which I can and I could take sneo and a bear and
everybody on the inter
net no problem literally I'll take this guy in a fight what's his name girl
what's his name I'll take him in a fight right now I'll take with my European bus pass in hand girl
I'll take him in a fight right now girl it was like what sneo was saying yesterday like who's
even that rich bro everybody brags and inflates their like income because like they're just trying
to sell you something bro this guy must be a red pillar bro I'm telling you using certain people's
names especially if we find
out they didn't exist um so he calls Eric he tells Eric in front of
me in front of me hey I need to transfer 7 do you guys know the story of Philip Morris uh Jim
Carrey did a movie playing him it's called I love you Philip Morris and it's literally about
like one of the greatest like scammers of all time he would like fake his resume get very
high-paying jobs like super highp paying jobs he was gay fun and he would get the highest paying
job fake that he could be qualified um fake his resu
més like when people would call people on his
resume he would do the voices and pretend he was different people he would get high-paying jobs
and once they realized he was incompetent they would fire him but he would still have collected
all that money so then he did that too many times in a row it was a little too loud about all
his money and then he went to prison so it's interesting it's very interesting let me tell you
people be scamming $2,526 whatever the amount was because I'm buying
a car from my fiance this is
the bank account information do you need me to give it to you over the phone or do you need
me to email it to you pause I can't hear what the person's saying but that's what he would do
do you need to give it to you over the phone or can I email it to you he wasn't even talking to
anybody was he was he just not talking to anybody I bet he wasn't talking to anybody okay okay all
right give me a few minutes and I'll go ahead and email it to you all right let me k
now I'll call
you back to let to find out if you received it okay hang up so I'm hearing this because again
I'm not paying attention to did I hear anybody on the other phone did I hear anybody on the other
end so he um he proceeds to type up an email type up something telling him this is the information
that we need um I didn't think anything of it he called me at work the next day to tell me that
the money was sent to Audi that he called Audi and he confirmed with Audi that they received t
he
money what he told me is that the car is going to be um delivered to the house y'all we it's not
that I lived in a hood cuz I didn't but I did not live in an area of Clayton County where you
would have a brand new AI delivered to your house so I remember saying to him I don't want that
car like delivered to the house not yet because I need to put that car in the garage and my Nissan
was I only had one car garage so my Nissan was in the garage so he said okay well let me call them
back a
nd change the delivery date can you be home or can you do a half day so he's asking me can
you work a half day so that they can deliver the car and you and you will be home for it I said yes
that's fine because again it's co I'm working from home anyway um I only had to go in the office two
days a week so I I'm at home the next day he told me the car would be delivered between hours of 1
and three oh literally Yaya says I'm too nosy I'd be listening to how the other person responded
bro uh
bro I want to hear their voices I want to be like put on speaker put it on speaker like
I'm put it on speaker like I'm telling you right now my partner will be speaking in Croatian I'm
like put it on speaker I I can't speak Croatian I just want to know I'm just like listening but I
I just want to know but to be fair we're very nosy family like in a fun way like in a fun way but
like if anyone's on the phone I'm like looking at people I'm like you know what I mean so I get
it like you ever b
een in a family fight like oh sometimes my my let's say my dad is like having a
disagreement with one of my brothers and they'll go to the garage to talk it through in private
girl you know all of our ears are on the door like cuz we're very open you know you're going to
come into the room and tell us what just happened anyways why you let me see okay that's what don't
you know you're going to tell us anyways just okay we want to watch it in real time obviously between
1 and 3 nothing happe
ned so 3:00 I called him he's at work he sends me a voicemail he calls me back
I said it's 3:00 I didn't no one ever came with the car um what's going on and then I remember I
was like well do I need to call Audi myself cuz I thought that you handled it but if you didn't
handle it let me do I need to call them and so whenever I would suggest I will handle it he would
get very very defensive red flag number 472 so he was like no I will call AI don't do anything
I'll call Audi and find out wh
at's going on okay so I'm at home chilling cooking dinner
normal night he calls me back and says yeah the car was stuck on the truck in spart andberg
because apparently that's where their deliveries come from so when he told me this I was in the
kitchen laughing because by this point I will be honest and I told you I'll be honest even when
it makes me look bad I was guilty of on one hand I believed him and on the other hand I was like
let me see what L he come up with let me just see why gi
rl okay now I want to know her
psychology so why right she said she kind of went to school for a second to do psychology
stuff like why what's the psychology of this like why cuz I remember in my relationships with
chronic Liars I was like they're traumatized they have childhood trauma we need to get to them to
therapy and then they just like wouldn't choose to do it like they would just lie cuz they were
embarrassed or lie because they were like [ __ ] insane and I get it like look as some
body who
like tries really really really hard to like never lie um unless I'm like in a very like
survival kind of situation I would love to know like what is her reasoning you know what I
mean um yeah oh it's so masochistic nail yes it feels very masochistic but I wonder why people
do it again I think some people hold out they're like oh he'll love me enough to get therapy
maybe we can get him help maybe this maybe that maybe this maybe that and the question is
like what is her reasoning
and then one of you said in the comments I wonder how bad it has
to get yeah I'm just wondering September says I'm just wondering how bad things needed to get
for her to wake up bro I can't wait to find out no spoilers in the chat I'll block you I'm so
excited to find out like what made her actually leave um but keep in mind my brain was really like
not rationalizing not comprehending How deep the L was I just thought that no one told him the car
was going to be delivered and he made that u
p I had no idea how deep the lie went so he said you
know the car is in Bart andberg um it should be delivered this weekend the weekend came he had
a whole other excuse um I don't remember what the exact excuse was as to why the car was never
delivered I do remember we got into an argument and I was like don't even worry about it I'm
going to get a new car my damn self I don't even need your help which is probably one of the worst
things you can tell a narcissist because they love to be the
hero you know they it's it's all about
them but I was like don't worry about it I'll get when I when I have the money to get a car myself
I'll do it I don't want to hear anything else about a new car I don't want to hear [ __ ] else
about a car because at this point I was spending way too much time trying to figure out are we
getting a car car are we getting a house like where what the [ __ ] is going on always there
was an excuse so when I told him I don't want to hear anything else about
a car I wonder okay
you guys are making really good points in the comments right maybe she just wanted to believe
it enough to hope it was true maybe she got sold on the money the I'm going to say this out loud so
inside thought outside I know people tell me I do that all the time but here we go what if she's too
poor like we all are to know what a rich person's life is like literally I'm so cynical when anyone
tells me oh my friend is Rich my brother's Rich my I'm like I want to see the r
eceipts I don't
believe you I just don't believe you cuz I'm too poor to know what a rich person is like I am I'm
too poor to know what a real person like a rich person's life is like and the only rich people I
know are very humble people the only rich people I know that I trust them to be rich are people
that don't spend their money my family friend who's a multi-millionaire buys the dollar menu
Burger King burgers those are the rich people the rich people I trust and I believe are rich
a
re people that show me their bank accounts I've seen the numbers and they're Frugal as [ __ ]
and they're usually Cowboys I only know Rich Cowboys okay I only know Rich Cowboys and those
are people of generational wealth or have made it for themselves like my friend made it in real
estate so she did this on her own got married in her 40s was there for her husband's death in her
70s and lives her life chilling with her horses okay Frugal as [ __ ] bro so Frugal I she spoiled
herself she had
a couple nice cars she Frugal with every like I'm not even going to start to play how
Frugal this woman is she's so she cracks me up bro she's like I'm not pay $22.99 for this and I was
like girl anyways okay so again does she not know because like I would know like that's why I'm like
I need receipts I don't know what rich people do I don't know where rich people are at okay like
I want to know you know what I mean I want to know and I am not going to a dealership to test
drive another car
um that ended did that whole discussion right there so this is what I'm this
is where I'm going to interject what I believe was happening I believe that my ex-husband is
the type of person he gets off you know n he gets off on you being excited about something
that he knows you will never get so I believe that he enjoyed going to car dealerships that's
crazy I believe that that is definitely a kind of person in the world Violet says she said she
wanted to be it wanted to be she wanted it t
o be her turn and asked herself like girl are you
this jaded that you don't believe a good man would take care of you it's interesting how the
world is convinced that a good man is going to pay you or or like spoil you I was watching ab
and preach today and they covered this podcast of black women who were saying if the man makes
$50,000 he's not ready to get married and it's like you guys are shallow I just think you're
shallow [ __ ] unlovable people I just think you are not literally lik
e if you want to be all
shallow together you go date your money girl but there's something so [ __ ] shallow about that
[ __ ] when the average American is making $50,000 it's like the world was built off of people making
the the the normal salary you know what I mean like I just feel like why you why did people say
that [ __ ] out loud like just say you're [ __ ] shallow and that's what you're in it for like it's
just gross like it's so off-putting same with men that're like I'm going to s
poil you I want to
buy you rings I'm going to get you BMWs [ __ ] I don't want that [ __ ] I want love I want to
watch fcking One Piece okay I want to [ __ ] eat food watch One Piece and chill I don't need your
[ __ ] diamond rings bro what am I going to do with them I don't leave my house like again values
bro I just think it's gross you know I just think it's gross and at the same time like obviously
you don't want to dat something that's going to take advantage of you but apparently whet
her
you got money or not you would take advantage of people let's see what he has going on though
let's see if he's a rich guy taking advantage of her or a poor poor guy taking advantage
of her cuz either way it's just a man taking advantage okay that's what's happening he
enjoyed um watching me test drive a car and get excited about it knowing I was not going to
get it it is the it is the level of Cruelty and again I'm telling y'all stuff that I found out way
later on it is the level of C
ruelty that I still cannot comprehend so the whole issue about the BMW
and the Audi I think he just enjoy seeing me get excited and then pull part 11 coming up all right
part 11 so for this part I'm just going to give you some backstory on the family pause all the
stuff about the house PA's the stuff about the car this backstory on his family my ex-husband's
family all right follow me my ex-husband's parents mom and dad are both deceased mom passed away
from cancer um dad passed away shortl
y after her I'm not sure what he passed away from so he has
a number of siblings he has two with his parents he has um two siblings two brothers excuse me
okay two brothers one is older lives in Philly one is younger by two years lives in Nashville
he has two sisters one Shante is older lives in Douglasville with her husband and two kids a boy
and a girl younger sister Kim is the baby lives in Augusta with her husband worked at I think he
told me Proctor and Gamble so they're she's naming s
ome people he had two half brothers that were
through his dad one brother lived in Baltimore the other brother lived in Augusta the brother
that lived in Augusta I had physically met in person shook hands hug all that the brother that
lived in Baltimore I had facetimed with talked to him by the way by the way and I know listen
I love my family I would take a bullet for my family to be fair I take a bullet for a stranger
because you know it's just like you know I do a lot of things but if a
girl came to me and said
should I date one of your brothers and it's one of the brothers that I don't think is ready for
marriage and he's irresponsible with money or irresponsible with something I'd say nah he's not
ready to be your husband girl don't marry this man right because I am an older sister and I'm a mom
in spirit and I feel like it's my responsibility to protect women from lazy [ __ ] men and some
of them might be related to me okay and have I tried to warn women away from peopl
e I know yes do
they listen to me no cuz they think I know better I'll do it I'll fix him and are they happier for
it no cuz they don't [ __ ] listen to me which is fine you do you okay but if his siblings know
anything about this man is sussy and they didn't warn her okay that's the [ __ ] of the world
that I really hate that's why my farm brother and I are very similar my farm brother and I we're
both people that are like he's going to cheat on you he's GNA lie to you he doesn't like you
he's
this because we don't want to see good people get trapped but y'all are so eager to see good people
get trapped you're so afraid of being embarrassed or you're afraid of like Let Them Burn Bridges
with you girl you know how many friends of mine have burned bridges over me cuz I'm like don't
date he will hurt you he will break your heart and then they burn the bridge with me then they
come back years later and they're like I'm so sorry I didn't realize that and by the way I've
done tha
t with people I'm like no I know better I got this and then you realize like damn you were
right let people tell you [ __ ] cuz sometimes they're right now maybe they're wrong and that's
also important too but I think there's something to be said about people that are willing to let
like okay remember that Reddit story remember that Reddit story of the sister who accidentally told
her brother's fiance that oh he has a vesectomy so what's your goal with children and she was like
we'll have k
ids one day but didn't know he had a visectomy this man was willing to get engaged to a
woman he never told he had a visectomy his sister said it in conversation thinking everyone knew
cuz like why would you get engaged to her if you didn't tell her and they were mad at the sister
for not minding her own business you let a man lie to you about getting a vasectomy you let this
man propose to you this man literally denied you any truth about his own like fertility got engaged
to you and then
his sister was the one and you're mad at her people want to be lied to I know y'all
said she's a masochist people want to be lied to I think she secretly kind of want to be lied to I do
because they're hoping for change they're hoping one day they'll wake up and it will get better
I really do think you start to fall in love with the person you spend time with even though you're
not you know they're not exactly the person you want them to be you're hoping they will be one day
the brother tha
t lived in Philly the older brother that he looked up to I have never talked to him on
the phone I would always talk to him um through my through my ex-husband so the conversation would
be like hey babe uh brother brother so and so said hey he a call him brother so and so we'll
call him John John said hey hey John I would be in the bathroom doing my hair brushing my teeth
hey John and he like did you hear he said how you doing I was like I'm good how's he doing um
cuz that's just me and so
he would relay back and forth back and forth back and forth um he talked
to John every day from starting around July after the grandmother passed away he would talk to John
every morning we both would be getting ready for work and he would be on the phone with John they
would be talking for 30 40 minutes D talking about football talking about other siblings they would
be talking about cars they talk I mean it was it was really like not a big deal they would
talk about the brother in Baltimo
re they talk about the brother in Augusta and then they would
they would reminisce this is the conversations I can hear let me explain when I say I can hear a
conversation what that means is I am physically standing near him or next to him where I could
hear him with the phone up to his ear talking to someone because it wasn't me okay I may not hear
the other person cuz the phone call may not be on speaker phone but what I hear is um for example
I hear hey man what y'all doing oh for real y
'all barbecuing this weekend what y'all making oh
that's what's up no I think me and her gonna stay in this weekend cuz you know these numbers
is looking crazy with Co yeah she over here she's sitting right here she watching TV okay hold on
John said hey hey John you heard her okay all right bro I just want to check in on you that's
the type of conversation I'm explaining okay so I hopefully that gives a little more clarity
about the type of conversations I'm hearing so um yeah H that's dam
n that's devious yeah
you know what's funny is my we've gotten to the point in my relationship where my
husband can basically tell who I'm talking to cuz the way I talk changes he can tell
by my inflections like oh you're talking to your sister oh you're talking to your Bessie oh
you're talking to your mom and I'm like and like he'll know because like I talk so differently
with all those people like very differently and also to be fair I have them on speaker
phone cuz we FaceTime a lot of
the time or whatever you call it we do the video call so
I guess during Co he would have been on the phone hold on I se oh my God hold
on I'm trying to think hey guys oh hold on guys hold on I got a call
yeah yeah yeah yeah that's wild okay mhm it feels so weird I feel like I'm lying bro
I feel so gross right now I feel like I'm faking the [ __ ] out of this call I mean I am you
know oh yeah I am there's my guts my berserk like what if I just hit the phone though it's
like not even on like
Kim Kardashian did that one episode where like she was pretending to be
on the phone but then the screen was on you could tell she wasn't hello he hello I don't know
bro I don't know that feels gross that feels gross I don't know I don't like that damn okay
can I I'll talk I I've done this though I have faked phone calls before for work I have I used
to work in a calling center and I have to do calls all day this is during my lying era I was in the
oh I was in my this is before I like conc
reted my values I've never I don't think I've ever told
this story it was a s Simple Story I was paid at a random Call Center uh that's well I won't
go into too much detail because if I go into too much detail it'll be too much but let's just say
it was a call center let's play that game that's it's that's kind of a lie it's not a call center
but it's a place where I had to make lots of calls you feel me and I had to do like hundreds of calls
a day and I would get exhausted and then they wo
uld go nowhere half the time when you made the
phone calls they would hang up on you it was like solicitation I used to fake the [ __ ] out of
those phone calls like at some point in my day absolutely some of them are real a lot of them
are fake okay I got so good at faking the phone calls my boss would walk up to me be
like wow you're really good on the phone this is I'm not not proud of this I'm
not proud of this this is not the greatest era of Britney I was like 21 newly out of my parent
s
house this is a very not a proud moment okay it's like 13 years ago and and people would be like
oh you're so good on the phone and I'm like oh thanks and half the time I was on my work computer
looking up dresses from Hot Topic for BDSM events y'all okay so I have faked a phone call okay
for work damn that's okay but to fake it for a girlfriend you got pregnant with damn you know
that's crazy anyways um yeah walk away man say the call center I used to work in had a voice logger a
voice
logger oh damn that's wild yeah see if that was the case I'd be calling okay anyways girl
I was a mess okay I'm embarrassed it was messy era Briny okay I'm embarrassed I'm embarrassed
I don't know why this light keeps coming out um okay so that's the that's how he would talk
to his siblings the grandmother passed away he called me around April or May and told me that
his grandmother passed away his grandmother um on his dad's side had died suddenly from Co she had
symptoms she went to bed a
nd did not wake up he was distraught he was crying he wasn't eating he
was just sitting there um listening to music not watching TV just sad because he was like you know
my grandmother was always my my support system so from what I saw it really bothered him I did not
think anything of it I'm one of those people if you tell me somebody your in your family passed
away I'm don't believe you because I don't play about death M and I guess I expect other people
don't either um yeah however howev
er that is not the same for everyone else but we'll get there so
family he talked to his he had his sister shant who lived in Douglasville um like I said she
was married with two kids apparently she was a nurse so when I had my miscarriage that was
a sister that he was like my sister will take you to the hospital like that's what family does
okay um I had never met shantee I've been on the phone or excuse me I've been around him when
he was on the phone with shantee never heard her part of
the conversation um but he would
be talking to his sister that's what he said that's what it sounded like too um now what is
interesting is that we lived maybe 35 40 minutes away from Douglasville so there were plenty of
times that he had invited me to go with him to his sister's house okay let me tell you how
this would always work out oh total times he invited me was probably three times for different
barbecues or whatnot the first time he invited me I was like no I ain't going because ag
ain Co
and she's a nurse hell no um the second time he was like yeah she invited us but I don't
think we should go because Co no the third time we I agreed to go I was like Absolutely
I'll go meet your sister like that'd be great um on our way to her house to Douglasville to go
see the sister um apparently he got a phone call the phone was always like on vibrate but he got
a phone call and he told me that something came up okay I'm going to call Cap I'm going to call
cap on this there's no
way at no is she deaf girl I can hear people's voices is she deaf how have
you never heard never heard not even once heard the you never even once heard that you know what
I mean is she's saying that there's like never anyone on the phone is she saying she's
like never heard voices you know what I'm saying and so she she had to cancel the barbecue
to get together whatever um and so I was just like oh man you know okay well hopefully we can go
another time it was it didn't happen close enou
gh for me to have red flags if that makes sense um
but at this point as y'all probably like girl you so blind but again I didn't think anything of it
cuz it's like okay it fell through we'll see we'll reschedule um and so we just went out to eat and
then he talked to another brother the brother from austa that he would to have on speaker phone so it
was like you know I didn't I didn't think anything of it I really okay so she did H hear some people
people okay didn't um man and the more I t
alk about it the more I realize like I'm I'm not a
dumb person but it we're all dumb sometimes the smartest of us can be the dumbest of us let me
tell you is never dawn on me the things that you have to now investigate um it just it didn't dawn
on me but nevertheless that is the backstory for his family right grandmother passed away three
weeks later he called me and told me his uncle had passed away from covid the uncle had tested
positive had to go into the hospital and he died damn it wa
s um a bit of a red flag it was a bit
of a red flag but like I said I don't play about death so I was just like wow because of these two
deaths he she didn't do anything she didn't send a gift she didn't send a card she didn't send
a text message she didn't see any proof any like I know it was covid I mean you know I had my
Grandpa died during covid I sent text messages to my cousins um my mom went to the hospital to see
him um you know what I mean like you know I'm a very evidence-based pe
rson I've told my husband
like he'll tell me a story and I'm like how do you know that happened he's like what I was like
how do you know and he goes oh and then we'll talk about it we're both very cynical him too I'll
tell him a story he's like how do you know and I'm like that's a great question how do we know we
will go and we'll go see like boats on the coast and we'll look up boats I'm like how do you know
this person has this boat let's see who owns it like how do you know oh this is
my how do you know
how do you know people be out here lying fibbing pretending how do you know how do I know someone
died where's the proof where's the evidence evidence I want to know he became a
stickler about Co and when I mean a stickler wear your mask wear gloves
hand sanitized wash your hands like he was annoying about making sure
neither one of us caught Co so now I'm going to give you the backstory in
regard didn't he go into work every day so what I was told with the ex-wife okay
girls we are about 2 hours in of a 7 and a half hour video and I've got her on times
1.75 speed I thought let's change her to2 uh two times speed and see if she sounds too fast
but before we continue let's take a little bit of a snack pee break okay so I will be right
back you will listen to Elvin and then when I get back we will keep going girls because
I'm invested I'm invested in this story I'm invested in this tale I'm invested in her life
even though it feels like we're in [Music] hel
l [Music] [Music] [Music] [Music] [Music] [Music] [Music] [Music] [Music] all right [ __ ] I'm back I've got my
smoked salmon uh soy sauce in wasabi and cheese as a snack are we ready we're got it on times two
if it's too fast let me know and I'll go back to 1.75 and here we go okay I know I look rough but
it's okay it's okay anyway so this is part 12 of who the [ __ ] did I marry so this is the back
story on what I was told for the ex-wife this is important pay attention all right this is 2
020
so this is what I was told in 2020 I was told that he and his ex-wife used to be friends then they
started dating and subsequently got married they got married in California um he had bought a house
with the money that he made from Arena Football they apparently had gotten married on the downward
of the arena football career um had a nice house he showed me a picture of the house showed me
pictures and the house remember that showed me pictures inside the house it was a really nice
hom
e in San Diego and um basically what happened was that he came home from work early one day and
I'm sorry came home early from work one day and his wife was sleeping with another man the man was
in the house he and man get into it her son who um is about 17 years old and in 2020 um she had two
kids a daughter and a son the son apparently was on his way home from school when my ex-husband
found his previous wife in bed with another man so The Story Goes that he and the guy fought he
kicked t
he guy out he kicked his ex-wife out but told her the kids going stay the kids are not
biologically his those are his step kids um she was like you must be kidding like I'm leave my
kids here the kids are old enough to where um they were like we don't want to go because you
[ __ ] up we don't want to leave so apparently she leaves um the kids stay with him for a few
weeks and uh then she gets her own place the kids move out moving with their mom he um he files
for a divorce in California he
fils for divorce in California and it was an ugly divorce she was
asking for spousal support all kinds of stuff and then it turned into um you know I'll help you with
the kids not child support but just I I will give you some money for the kids because apparently
he was very close to the kids and he wanted to keep a relationship with the kids they biological
fathers apparently they were two fathers they're fathers were not in the picture so um the divorce
starts out contested and ugly even
tually becomes amicable eventually they become cordial with
each other so my ex husband moved this is all all before he ever met me so I'm telling you the
story of what I was told in 2020 So eventually about two years later is when his job approached
him about an opportunity to transfer to Georgia and so he took it new beginning first start he has
family in Georgia he took it he told me this story pretty much the second or third conversation we
had um so it was always from the beginning tha
t she had cheated he caught her and um he had filed
for divorce but he was still close the kids they still had a great relationship I've heard him
I've heard him on the phone with the kids you know just encouraging them helping them helping
the 17-year-old like with homework um the kids really apparently want to meet me do you guys
know the story in Pride and Prejudice of of of um Wickam Wickham is a pathological liar
chronic liar and Pride and Prejudice and he seduces Darcy's sister when s
he's like 15 seduced
with all these stories of grandeur and like oh I need your help blah blah blah your brother's Rich
have him help me his father Darcy's father kind of adopted Wickam but he spent all the money his
father left him Darcy was responsible with his money and then so Wickam went for the sister then
Wickam goes for Elizabeth sort of and then ends up with um um guys help me um he what's the youngest
sister's name on P and Prejudice um ends up with her Lydia ends up with Lydia an
d Wickam is this
guy who just is charismatic and you really want to believe him and you want to believe him even
over Darcy because Darcy is kind of an [ __ ] but Wickam ends up being this [ __ ] liar bro it's
so weird to see on someone you're like I feel like I know you how can you lie and then he's no
qualms doing it has no problem going to sleep at night no problem waking up in the morning kind
of insane right this these people who can just lie lie lie and have no [ __ ] problem with it
I
I really think they're like sociopaths Psychopaths I don't want to say sociopath because antisocial
personality just sort of is like associated with that and I don't want to mischaracterize people
but like just something just I don't know how they sleep at night or maybe that's how they get their
rocks off or something but I'm just like whoa like I would feel so bad if I did that to somebody but
there's always a Wickam be aware of the wickom I was fine with that um he would apparently he
would
send the money you know if they needed something because he he loved the kids if they were his
own I'm telling you the story as I was told it in 2020 so let's see around April or May of 2020 he
informs me that his ex-wife has moved to Georgia apparently she's staying with her sister in gnet
County so she has moved to Georgia the two kids are now in Georgia and so when he tells me all
this I'm like so what what's that supposed to mean now I will say this he never made it seem as
she w
ants him back he never presented that it was always no you know we're cool for the kids we're
cool for the kids um but he he's never presented that she was trying to get him back I feel like
it's fair to her for me to say that um and again stay with me it all comes out but um that was the
back story in regards to the ex-wife that they got married in California they divorced in California
and then she eventually moved to Georgia to gwet County after he had transferred to Georgia for
his job
um he did tell me that you know every now and then he'll get a text message from her
um he told me that he you know told her when I was pregnant he felt like she needed to hear that
from him instead of hearing from the kids um and we got into a bit of an argument about that but
I mean a big scheme of things that anyway so we got into an argument about that felt like the
[ __ ] that's in our business um but that's the the overall backstory of her so remember because
there will be a quiz but
just remember he um met her in California married her in California
there will be a quiz KO says the question is do they believe their lies or do they know they're
lying and do it anyways okay so I've like I said I've dated Liars they will admit the lie to
you and then they'll do it again it's a very interesting like like psychological phenomenon
I'm obsessed with like What's Happening Here how can I confront you how can you admit the lie
and how can you do it again or they do the other thi
ng I have another person like you'll confront
them in the lie and then they'll tell you they'll change the goalpost that's why there's certain
people on the internet that I refuse to engage with cuz the people who change the goalpost like
they're lying but the thing is like why are they lying well they're lying for like videos and
clickbait and stuff but it is a form of lying there's like this lying game people play where
it's like I'm really serious I care about this and I'm like really bu
t then this and then if
you ask somebody enough questions the truth is revealed the truth is revealed whether it's the
truth that they're Liars or the truth that they're transparent divorc her in California she moved to Georgia to guet County
after he moved to Georgia clear okay okay part 13 of damn um so kind I'm so
annoyed that sometimes her audio is so good and then sometimes it's so bad this is another
bad one she's so low some with Tik Tok if you just hold your phone wrong it will abso
lutely
record horribly so guys this is a low audio one I'm going to mute myself so I don't make
too much background noise and hope we hear her you guys all the back story let's just kind of
recap real quick so I told you how we met met in March of 2020 um basically Georgia got shut
down I keep saying shut down got locked down we decided to quarantine together I know it
was crazy it was crazy um I really liked him and thought he liked me so um I told you guys
how we met um things moved at a
rapid rapid Pace met March moved in together pretty much
beginning of end of March beginning of April found out I was pregnant in May lost the
baby in June had to have surgery in July started looking for houses um started looking at
cars all this stuff happened literally between March and the end of excuse me and August is
when I got my car so um got a car in August he paid the down payment for that car um which
I was shocked by and no it was not a BMW or an Ali it was an Ean Ultima but I
love that
car at the time so he paid the down payment for that car told me so they looked at luxury
cars and ended up with a non-luxury car right right right why did she stay after the
baby miscarried what was happening to her psychology she already knew he was a liar at
this point she already caught him in multiple lies he would help me with the car payment the
biggest mistake that I made and I'll explain why I say this the biggest mistake I made was that
I signed myself up for a car a ca
r note where I knew I needed his help to pay the car note I
knew better my mom has always taught me do not ever put yourself in a position where you were
financially dependent on a man and all of that went out the window and the reason why I say
that was the biggest mistake is because when I pulled back the layers of this whole monstrosity
of life that I lived for 2020 and 2021 it really does boil down to the fact that I truly ended
up marrying him more out of fear than anything else and I'
ll expound upon on that later but um I
wondered if she was afraid to confront him because she was locked down with him like in lockdown
and what happened to his other apartment his studio apartment you know for a guy who's got
a lot of money the studio apartment is either a red flag or a green flag is he Frugal no that's
another thing why do you have a studio apartment but you're spending car money on cars or money on
watches or money on hats and Jordans okay so like you're not a Frugal ric
h person then why do you
have a studio apartment that does not match up why get a studio apartment when you can have a one
bedroom you're already spending money on Jordan's and hats so you got money for an apartment BR
like another red flag you know what I mean it's different if he's a rich person who's Frugal
through and through but since he's a spender you would think he would spend it on a crib I
got the car in August and by this point I was I was exhausted of looking at cars I was mad t
hat
I didn't get a PMW X5 dark blue with kak interior um and I was tired of looking at houses getting my
hopes up looking at a house and picturing myself in the master bedroom the kitchen the island
you know all that stuff I'm a visual person and I was tired of getting getting my hopes up um
so now we're gonna segue into fall going into the holidays here's what happened in October we
looked at another house this house was in maretta absolutely gorgeous um it was gorgeous I
want to say that
the house was about $700,000 I really like the house I could see myself living
there I could see myself cooking there um and so subsequently my ex-husband put in an all cash
offer on that house I watched him put an all cash offer in on the house our real estate agent
SC called us about 24 hours later and he said um the sellers love your offer the offer was an
all cash full asking price offer 700,000 let that s in for a moment he said the sellers love
the offer they are asking that you that
you show proof of funds so that they can accept the offer
Max husband said I will show proof of funds when they accept the offer the seller said great we'll
accept the offer when you show proof of funds so basically we got into a stand a standoff um oh oh
he's such a blue baller bro he blueballs her he edges her bro he's like sexually edging her with
this house he's like real edging her with these homes bro this is so embarrassing oh my God real
estate agent or you work in real in um real
estate I would love to know your thoughts on this I had
asked people in my personal life like have you ever heard of this before and I've had plenty of
people who said I side with the xman I would not show my bank statements until they um accepted
the offer and then I had other people who were like I wouldn't accept an all cash offer unless I
verify that the person can pay so I'm just curious what your thoughts are okay so our real estate
agent col was like guys you know the sellers are giv
ing you two days to show proof of funds I
had had the letter that he showed me from Chase I sent that to Scott but that was for a mortgage
the offer was for all cash so he needed to show all that he need to show proof of funds that he
had the cash to pay $700,000 he didn't show it he refused to budge on showing them um proof of
funds until they accepted the offer because he was afraid that they were going to create a bding
war so what ended up happening was I called us and said you know I a
pologize because I didn't do
my due diligence as a realtor he said before I ever started showing you guys a house I should
have um collected your pre-approval letter and proof of funds he said so at this point my broker
has informed me that that I cannot show you guys another house until you show at least us meaning
the um real estate firm until you show us proof of funds and so I'm just like well I'm telling my ex-
husband just show them the [ __ ] proof of funds like what's the problem um
and so it was a lot of
you know I don't really I find that this is really unprofessional because it's not our fault that you
didn't do your job correctly it got a little ugly and it got uncomfortable because I'm like I don't
understand why you don't show them proof of funds when you clearly just signed a document stating
that you're putting an offer in at full asking price this was the same thing that the realator
was saying he was like but you just signed an offer so what's the problem li
ke you want them
to accept the offer and then you'll show everyone the proof of funds and my ex-husband without
missing a beat said yes so Scott did his best to work with the seller and say look accept the
offer he'll show you he'll open the books he'll show you the proof of funds the sellers were like
no that's and it wasn't so much the sellers it was the sellers agent big respect to the sellers
agent um but the sellers agent was like no that's not how we're doing business he needs to show
those proof of funds before before I advise my clients to accept his offer period if he's not
willing to do it we'll go on to the next offer because they did have another offer on the table
um it was less than asking price but um they were willing to accept that offer over the all cash
offer because those people had basically shown proof so subsequently the house fell through we
passed the deadline they W the other offer also at this point our real estate agent Scott and
I do not blame hi
m for this pretty much cut all TI because yo embarrassing bro and she knows she
has no animosity she's so like I really like her energy she knows she made the mistake she doesn't
blame the people around her she understands their actions like she's really understanding of why
people were like but that's the problem bro you know I'm not even like I know these relationships
I really feel like 20s Britney really could never imagine that you could fall for something like
this or end up with some
body like this or you just think so much like oh if they just have the right
help if they just if they just do the right thing but then for your own sake girl for her own sake
why didn't she see his proof of income but I'm sure he would have said oh wait you don't trust
me you don't trust me oh what I need to prove to you my proof of income after I've taken care of
you this long what he I believe felt like was I don't know what's going on but something's going
on and this is not how I do bu
siness so until you guys are ready to show the proof of funds um
needed to buy a house you need to get yourself another agent because we were already about 20 to
25 houses Deep by this point we had already put in two other offers they fell through and now here we
are with this can you imagine missing the market before covid or during covid which was better than
the market now but like ooh and once again it fell through okay so um kver says I see that one guy
from Tik Tok running in the back
ground waving the red flag clapping his feet ma'am yes the red
flag guy oh yeah definitely good news and bad news number one this is okay good volumes back up
so part 14 of who the [ __ ] did I marry bad news this is going to be the last post for tonight and
the reason why good news um tomorrow's my birthday so y I'm just G to make this video post it and
then I will pick back up probably Friday because honestly I truly want um to enjoy my birthday
tomorrow just I just want to Jo my birthday
um all right so y'all don't be upset just if anything
watch Parts 1 through 14 then um we'll be ready for part 15 so the house fell through in October
2020 and what I told him was I said I don't want to look at another house I don't want to talk
about cars I want to get through the holidays um because it was going to be a holiday season
where I could not celebrate my family because of Co so I said I just want to get through the
holidays I want to get through the end of the year um and we'l
l revisit stuff in January I was
very calm when I said it no argument nothing like that um and he said he understood I just a lot of
what fueled me staying in this situation really was the fact that number one I didn't want to be
alone number two I didn't want to look stupid um by having the relationship end so quickly for
everyone to be like we told you someone was up um and number three I was ready to get married
and that what ready to get married fueled a lot of stuff o I'm so stoked for
this section I would
encourage you guys if I could give you one tool in life my husband sent this to me the other day I
don't know what we were talking about something about something to do with intelligence and it
was a question and one thing I pride myself in I really do and one thing that people have pointed
out around me is like I'm very good I'm being very comfortable not knowing something which means like
I don't mind being called dumb because I'm like yeah well I don't know and this
is the greatest
superpower I think I've ever perfected whatever perfect means throughout my life which is like I'm
not embarrassed to be wrong I'm not embarrassed to admit I was wrong I'm really am not embarrassed if
I feel like I'm wrong and I admit it I'm like girl I was so wrong and also to be fair my family I've
noticed is really forgiving so they created like a space for us to be like he what up I [ __ ] up
and everyone's like oh you [ __ ] up what we don't like as a family is Liars m
y family doesn't like
liars so to be fair I was raised in an environment this goes back to the bubble you're raised in I ra
I was raised in a family that gives you unlimited chances it really does but you got to admit you
were dummy and if you can't admit it then we like oh you're lying again oh you're lying again cute
cute cute cute you lying again you know what I mean oh you're lying again you got to be willing
to say like [ __ ] I'm dumb and I made a dumb decision my bad I'll learn from
it I don't care if
I don't know that you're not going to make me feel bad for not knowing something I just don't know it
what do you want me to do pretend I know it lie to myself nah I'd rather be honest with myself and be
like I don't know that what's the answer then be there and sit there and pretend I know something
cuz I don't want to look dumb not wanting to look dumb it's a great sin bro and I'm glad she's
talking about not wanting to be alone because I think that plays a huge role th
at's what I'm
saying you learn to be alone with yourself have such a good relationship with your Consciousness
that this [ __ ] doesn't happen cuz before I had a good relationship with my Consciousness honestly
girl I believed a lot of liars in my life you know um and again I was still making my audio Diaries
so listening back to it I knew something was was wrong I admit that I knew something was wrong
but what I thought it was truthfully was like why does it seem like there's always someth
ing like
why can't we just go ahead and get the house um why is it always something why can't I just get
the BMW it still didn't dawn on me how deep this something went and for people who keep asking um
I'm going in order of events so yes there will be a video where I explain how everything came out
and what came out what was true what was not true it's coming I'm just getting all of this out in
order so I told him I don't want to look at the house no more um I want to talk about houses do
not mention the word Zillow do not mention the word the word uh realtor nothing let me just get
through the holidays and for myself the question was what do you want to do you want to stay
with him or do you want to cut your losses and the part that kept me constantly second guessing
myself was what if he's not lying what if he's not lying there's no literally the conversation
I had with myself was there's no way he is lying about having money you saw you saw the paper
from Chase they don'
t just approve $750,000 for mortgage for anybody um you see I've seen his
checking account you see how much money is in his available checking like you oh I don't think
he's lying oh she saw the money in his checking account and she saying they she saw the 700,000
in his checking account wait what did she see in his checking account did I miss some part of
the story Bros what does she see in his checking account I don't he's lying about that but what is
it is that he doesn't trust me like I
second guess myself so much is that he doesn't trust me is it
that maybe he doesn't really want to get married like what is it because I know what I saw I know
what I heard I know that he's having conversations about move the money from this account to that
account um I know he's paying my car note and all these bills like clearly this man is making
money I know that I saw the the promotion the letter from HR that states his new salary is
200 and something thousand um and I remember thinki
ng like God wait what what I missed that all
these bills like clearly this man is making money I know that I saw the the promotion the letter
from HR that states his new salary is 200 and something thousand um okay so she saw the God he
[ __ ] man he really [ __ ] her bro he how much fake paperwork he got how many fake paperwork he
got and I remember thinking like God what like what am I missing I'm missing something but what
is it because I know what I've seen I know what I touched I have
physically touched these these
papers like I know how to read so what is it that I missing he's close to his family he showed her
the numbers on his phone nope red flag I want to log into the bank account you know what I did
this is what my partner and I do we've logged into our accounts together we've logged in we've
gone to the bank account websites and we've logged into our accounts with one another that's what
we've done to show complete transparency because we know we're internet kids
we grew up on the
internet you think I don't know how to fake a bank account screenshot you think I don't know
how to fake [ __ ] on the internet bro how [ __ ] hard is that see I am not a boomer I'm a boomer
you guys know I'm a boomer but I am an internet kid I had geoc cities I know how to make a website
I'm being a little bit of a a brat but yeah like my partner and I for transparency sake we've like
logged in I've seen him log in I've logged in I've given him my passwords we've exchange
d like you
know passwords and you know I we've done all that okay so again it's because I know how much you
can fake I'm a YouTuber you think I don't know if people can fake [ __ ] so if she he just showing
her on the phone like screenshots or whatever like no even my mom like one time I saved like a lot
of money and I was really proud of myself and I like went to my mom and I like logged into my bank
account in front of her and I was like this is my savings and she was like okay and so lik
e I'm
so curious uh oh wait just wait until Part 42 oh God oh God okay okay okay oo talk to them all
the time you know he's just a regular guy that just likes to watch um NFL football he leaves me
alone when I want to watch Georgia football um you know he's paying all he's paying the bills
groceries I haven't had to worry financially since I've met him and as a woman who had lived
on her own pay her own bills my God that is the most intoxicating feeling when you meet a guy
who just takes y
our stress and your worry away financially but the downside is he took away the
stress and the worry financially away and instead brought a mental [ __ ] job I've never in my life
had experienced and I could not put my finger on it I couldn't really talk to anybody about it
because I'm a big believer in what happens at home stays at home so okay that is a fear point
so my husband and I have a similar policy of like what happens at home stays at home but but we're
married they're not married
okay so like we're married and also he and I had to do I had to meet
his family he had to meet my family we had to do all the showing of the paperwork first before we
got so like all of the proof had to be but see I again I think cuz we're we're got to be all the
same age we all got to be our 30s we're all in our 30s we're in our we're in our early mid-30s
is she in her early mid-30s too did she not grow up on the Internet like my partner and I man I
think cuz we're chronically online gobl
ins like we absolutely are like everyone can fake anything
is this even real I'm a YouTuber I'm like that's not real nobody said that haven't you seen like AI
Tom Cruz like what is the difference guys what is the generational what is the difference she's our
age she should know someone's like everything's fake is oh my God this is why you need to be
chronically online so you know everyone's lying all the time I'm serious she obviously isn't
chronically online she hasn't said based once so I
know this woman on the internet you know what
I mean like you know what I'm saying is that what it is is it just us cuz we're all chronically on
the internet I'm like you lying are you going to put this on Twitter later and then but no she's
on Tik Tok H how'd she get on Tik Tok without knowing everybody makes [ __ ] up maybe this
is all fake but I doubt it I didn't talk to my girlfriends about it I didn't talk to my family
about it but I'm I just remember being like what am I missing what
am I missing um so we did not
talk about houses we did not look at cars we do any of that for November December and he came
to me like around Thanksgiving and he what I thought was a very open loving conversation and
in that conversation he was like okay I know I have [ __ ] up I know that things are not feeling
too strong right now he was like I want us to get married married I want I want a home um I will
show you whatever you need to see to put you at ease um he was very um like contrit
e he was
very just like what what do what do I need to do to put your mind at ease so that you know I'm
in this and that I want this and that I love you and I want you to be my wife um so I was like
show me your accounts okay okay he showed me his checking he showed me he showed me one of
his savings he showed me a Chase savings okay um he did not show me the offshore and he did
not show me the US Bank so he showed me those two accounts checking and Chase savings so I knew
that there was m
oney what I saw in those accounts there was money I told him I was like if we're
going to buy a house I want it to be through the mortgage on Chase I don't want to deal with this
proof of fun [ __ ] no more I said I do not want to look at another house until the beginning of of
the new year he said okay that is when we then had a conversation so I guess I lied because we are
going to have a part uh 15 or 16 tonight um but that is when we then had the discussion about
marriage and that is wh
ere wait wait whoa whoa but but okay but she says she saw the numbers and
there was money 700,000 money where religion came into play um yeah I'll give youall the other part
tonight stand by what okay part 15 who the [ __ ] her audio keeps going in and out her audio so low
on this one Jesus so in December of 2020 around beginning of December we had in December of 2020
in beginning of December a conversation kind of a come to Jesus heart to heart conversation come
to Jesus conversation grown
up in the church and the fact that we were the fact that we were not
married but living together the fact that almost had a baby together um can you guys hear that at
all it's so low hold on I got to put in my other earphone man yeah Chase and us the two shittiest
Banks as far as I know Chase and us chase can be good but I've also heard the worst things about
Chase and US Bank both of us both of our families Wells Fargo actually no Wells Fargo in US Bank
is Chase too or just Wells Fargo in
US Bank my family and his family um were very adamant like
okay y'all y' need get married or y'all need to separate um and so oh her family was like y' all
got to get married or you got to separate I'm walking around with a ring on um which I'll post
a picture of the Ring because there's so much to unpack but anyway walking around the ring and so
he said to me whatever I need to do to do my part Bobby says I think 750 was the mortgage approval
amount I know but he also said he had 700,000
he had in cash to buy cash guys when he said he'd
buy a cash payment house are you saying that he was talking about from the bank or was he saying
he already had that money was when he said he had $700,000 to pay in cash was that a loan from the
bank he was talking about or was he saying he had that in his account cuz I thought he was doing
a cash loan from himself right to make this work I'm willing to do at the same time cuz she even
said oh you have money money like you have money in you
r accounts cuz he said a cash deal it wasn't
that I did not trust him as much as it was I felt like I wasn't trusting myself because again like
I said in the previous video I know what I saw I know what I've read I know what I've heard um but
[ __ ] something was not sitting right with me and every time I would question it in my head the
other side of me was like okay you know he a lying about the money because you saw it so you know he
Ain lying girl are you that like I remember saying to
myself are you that jaded that you don't even
know what it's like to have a decent man yes I really had the audacity to have that thought so we
agreed beginning of December like we wanted to be together I believe I loved him I believe he loved
me so the decision was made that we were going to get married it's still Co so we had to follow
certain protocol so we filed um our marriage license in um f County Georgia because you could
not get an appointment in Clayton County to save your life so
we filed the marriage license in
Fay County on our marriage license it asked the number of um previous marriages he said one I have
zero it asked for our social security numbers he put his social security number down I put my
social security number down I mentally wrote down his security number and I did a background
check damn girl I did a background check after I had filed a marriage license yes I know that I
did the background check um nothing came back it was uh it was it was like no r
esults found um
I did a criminal background check nothing came back so I thought one of two things either I had
the wrong social meaning I wrote down the wrong social or my paranoia was unfounded there's
nothing wrong with him because he has been always throughout the relationship a big stickler
about law enforcement um following the law because his dad was a retired police officer so this is
someone who's been this is a guy who would check to make sure my tail lights were working make sure
my signals were working make sure my oil was good make sure I had enough gas in the car so when the
criminal history came back with no results I was like well of course there isn't because the man
probably hasn't had so much a speeding ticket so F we uh filed the marriage license and then we
made an appointment to get married and waiting for the judge to come out of Chambers so that she
could marry us and the reason why I'm pausing is because my God if I could go back and see that
young w
oman sitting in that Lobby wow I know we can't go back in time but damn if I could go back
in time I would immediately I didn't tell anyone I was getting married because I was afraid that
we had tried before in September and something came up so I didn't want to tell anyone I didn't
want to get anyone's hopes up I didn't want to get my hopes up um I know that's bad but again set
up that would be honest even if it's ugly um I told my mom my family that we got married told
my friends they cou
ld not believe it like they my mother was um relieved but she had no idea
about what was going on my aunt was more like really you married him my friend the one who took
me to the hospital for the miscarriage was like I wish she would have told me like you deserve to
have people there take pictures and celebrate and all this other stuff um and she was like you know
she's the type of friend if you like it I love it you rock with them I rock with them the moment you
don't I don't either so sh
e was she was supportive my other girlfriends were happy for me they just
they just hated that I had to get married during Co um because they were like we would have
love to have you know thrown you a bridal sh and a bachelorette party and all of that it just
sucks that you couldn't experience that so we got married on a Tuesday um on the way home stopping
got some wings went home and I had to get ready to go to work the next day and life I got married
January 5th by January 31st I knew I w
as in trouble damn bro married January 5th she said and
then by the what 31st she said she was in trouble or whatever [ __ ] I still didn't know how deep
but I knew I was in trouble so to give you all a very very very candid idea about married January
5th the things that the normal things that married Newly Weds do when we got married completely
stopped and that was not by me you always hear men talk about man now we're married she don't
um in my case it was the exact opposite it was the ex
act opposite so anyway because this is not
a forum to be all R-rated or what not but y'all get what I'm saying so um we got married January
5th January 6th I went to work it was um a lot of people congratulate me because I kind of workot
out that I got married January 7th um um I father the pig to change my last name and if you were
following me you can go back like 15 16 videos and I talk about how I had to change my name back
to my M name but I changed my name within about three days of g
etting married um my attitude
was this is the bed that I made I'm Gonna Be Right by him I'm gonna do right by my marriage um
I took marriage seriously and when I married him I absolutely married him thinking I'm going to
be with you for the next 40 50 years so we going to figure this [ __ ] out that was my mindset I
did not get married to turn around be divorced in six months this woman chose to date a liar she
knew was a liar damn but also he he was such a good con man that he almost he ga
slit the [ __ ]
out of her made her doubt herself you know what's crazy though you know how Okay so she caught him
in a lie a few times then he just like proved time and time and time again like you can trust me
look at this proof you will see literal people on the internet admit out loud the kind of person
they are and women will date them you'll have a situation where a man will lie to you you'll catch
him and you'll believe him that next time he'll get better it's amazing what we do for
the hope
of a potential don't live for people's potential obviously it's okay to date a good person Dr K
talks about this dating a good person who's maybe a student figuring out their degree and they have
a a good energy to them in which they are figuring out their life which is not the same thing by the
way is not the same thing dating somebody who's coming up dating somebody that isn't Rich yet or
hasn't established their career yet but is a good person is different than d dating a person
that
makes you question yourself makes you feel fearful makes you feel pressured makes you like question
your sanity it's different than dating somebody that you feel like you're always looking at like
are you a bad person like am I being tricked that is not the same thing as dating somebody who's
like figuring out their career these are two different like they sound the same like oh like
you got to stick it through they're not the same okay they're not the same so again like it's
okay to
dat somebody who's like figuring out their life it's okay to be young and get married
but that's not the same as dating somebody who's so [ __ ] up but you're hoping one day they'll
change date somebody that is 100% safe 100% makes you confident 100% is like a good [ __ ] person
that you grow with you know which is different than anything we're hearing in this story right
but I got married January 5th 2021 and by January 31st I knew I was in serious trouble so that is
where we are the next
set of videos the next set of all this will be um me talking about how things
went downhill before crash and I found everything out in the meantime tomorrow is my birthday
so happy birthday to me happy birthday okay it might be really loud when it comes back for
audio the [ __ ] did I marry this is the inlude basically um I'm not recapping on this video I'm
just kind of answering some stuff that has been written to me someone was like why are you airing
your business out on social media it
's a valid question um for me personally I feel like this
was traumatic to experience to live through um and I and I'll expound on that another video the
aftermath of the toll that this took um honestly and I know some people are goingon to be like
that it sounds crazy it is kind of cathartic to get this out because I cannot tell you how
much of this has been internalized um since 2020 I'm sure also I don't want to seem like
a cautionary tale to other women or to men for that matter but to
my sisters to my ladies white
black Hispanic Asian doesn't matter if something does not sit right with you investigate it um
I cannot stress that enough if just one woman watches these videos and she's like you know
what something don't sit right with me let me look into this um then it was worth it yes it is
a lifetime movie yes it is Netflix yes it is crazy yes it is hilarious also um and I understand
all of those reactions as someone who lived it um it was traumatic but I feel like got t
o
be traumatic bro I got to be traumatic it's it takes a toll on you bro it does I hear so many
people say isn't it romantic that we lied and cheated on each other and stayed the course
and we're together through thick and thin and all the fighting and all that no it's not [ __ ]
romantic I'm so sorry like peace and love like you don't have to listen to me I'm some [ __ ] on
the internet but no it's not [ __ ] romantic it's [ __ ] traumatizing and I don't know why you're
glorifying that [
__ ] activity but you do you can you imagine if this relationship she's like
oh but look how much we like fought together and stayed together no it's [ __ ] traumatizing bro
damn oh my god oh Kaylin says Bry I have to say thank you so much for your uh thank you so [ __ ]
much for your content it was one of it was one of the Catalyst that helped me realize I was trapped
in toxicity honestly based I'm glad I'm glad and I too I too read and consume and learn and take
tools from other people to
realize like oh I'm kind of in a [ __ ] up relationship bro they
should be better and like h honestly if I can do that same I feel the same way this lady does if
I could just do that for one person I feel pretty good about it you know cuz damn it sucks being
there bro it sucks being there it sucks waking up every day and feeling so much [ __ ] anxiety
it sucks waking up every day and going to bed every day thinking like [ __ ] is it ever going
to get better than this is this it is this lov
e no it's not okay it's not love it's [ __ ] toxic
god it feels good to finally admit um um what the [ __ ] I went through and again by the time this
is uploaded I'm only to January 2021 right after getting married so when I think back on it there's
things that I'm very very grateful for um there are things that I'm just like why why did you
not pay attention why did you not question um and the sad part is I can't even begin to tell you
I don't remember the woman Discord says it's not that
it's preferred experience however this seems
to be a Canon event in her life that needed to happen for sure I think sometimes life gives you
an opportunity to Bubble pop to change your life and it sounds like she's changing her life for a
better I mean she's a social media star she's got like 3 million followers now so maybe this was
the Catalyst to change her life right you know what I mean I think that's pretty good I would say
and hopefully she's learned the lesson and doesn't do it agai
n you know I was before I met that man I
don't remember um because going through something like that it changes you and I've seen some women
in the comments who were like I was married to a habitual liar I was married to a pathological liar
my baby daddy's a olical liar and my heart goes out to them because until you have dealt with
someone so depraved you you really don't quite know how bad it can get um so I'm fully aware that
this was a risk putting this out on social media telling my st
ory my truth and really kind of being
like look this is this is what I went through I made dumb decisions I overlooked things I should
not have overlooked I argued away things I should not have argued away um I can pinpoint exactly
the moment I should have left I still feel like God is sitting on the throne and he's like I never
play for your monkey ass to marry him I never even play for you to go out and dat with him that's why
I blew your tire but you hardheaded and you went anyway and th
en I tried to go ahead and show you
signs you ignore them oo true like I feel like God did everything to help me as a child be like this
is not who I created to be your your helpmate and I was like God you taking too long I want to get
married you taken too long I want to have a family you taken too long and these are the consequences
that I'm paying for basically telling God you took too long and um I feel like God's grace is
sufficient it is but at the same time and I'm not perfect I mean
not perfect at all none of us are
but I do feel like when I sit back and I replay the events that happen I truly cannot believe
that was my story because all I wanted was to meet a guy for him to be my best friend for us to
get married have a family I wanted someone I could make fun of his big old forehead and he make fun
of my nappy head and all my wigs and yet he was my ride or die um I wanted someone I could be like
man help me with these kids and he helped me with the kids we had a nic
e home we were comfortable
that is what I wanted and I said this before and I say it again I truly thought I truly hoped it
was my turn you see the women who are you know so happy and um you know they're in these loving
marriages and life just looks good I really really wanted it to be my turn and so I excused away a
lot of stuff that I hope the next woman who sees this does not excuse because I don't wish this one
I think this is such a relatable experience for a lot of people a lot of wom
en a lot of men to be
honest not about kids or family because I don't really have this with kids or family sometimes I
have it in relation to work you know sometimes I have it in relation to like uh goals I have like
oh when when am I going to buy a house like what am I going to do do these things like when is my
career going to feel solid like when am I going to feel confident in my work when am I going
to feel and honestly I know it's part of the journey and it's only uphill from here it
just
gets better every day but it does you know you have those thoughts again I don't really have that
Thoughts with family like like relationship stuff because I'm not working towards a relationship
like relationships weren't my end goal my job is much more how I feel terms of that like my job
feels like that husband and kids are that wife and kids where I'm like where's my white picked
fence you know when's my job going to feel solid um and a big part of that is is like the kind of
perso
n that you are and like what does your life revolve around like what's your priorities and
she's telling us right now she's in that bubble where like she's thinking like that's what I want
and I'm willing to do whatever it takes to get it including the two years of this relationship or
whatever that's difficult you know that really is difficult especially if you come from a religious
background I'm sure like she said that played a huge role for her um my religious background is
different we
really valued the single Catholics really value single life guys priests nuns lay
people um like what do you think a nun is like yeah they're married to God or whatever but like
they're single okay we really value single life in Catholicism so I never really thought much
about being single but it is interesting you know but you know what's ironic is now she's
doing pretty good making good living having a good time of it and now she's much more likely
to meet a much better person for her be
cause now she knows herself more now she's like and she's
got so much humility about her I really like her I'm really I really do like I'm not getting
any bad vibes from her like I'm not getting manipulation I'm not getting liar I'm getting
like great Storyteller very thoughtful very um introspective in a lot of ways obviously popped
a bubble maybe not all of them but popped one about herself so I I really think this is great
opportunity for her to become a person who's ready to meet the ma
tch that's going to be healthy for
her because obviously she was unhealthy enough at the time to pick the partner you know what I
mean she was unhealthy at the time to stay with him even though she knew he was a liar and now
hopefully she's healthy enough to not stand for that you know anybody I don't wish this on anyone
to feel the way I felt the moment I discovered the whole truth um so I just wanted to say that
because I think it's important to try to answer the why is she posting this h
onestly I was tired
of holding it in I was tired of holding it in um and I hope it helps somebody okay let's all take
a deep breath let's all get some sleep um if you don't have anything to do and you just want to
wish me happy birthday wish me happy birthday tomorrow February shout out to team Aquarius
good night y' Zim says did we finish all of it no part 17 who the [ __ ] did I marry so four
context and just to clarify some stuff going forward I'm going to now call my ex-husband I'm
use
the name that I call him in real life um so that way it clears out the whole fiance boyfriend
husband ex-husband thing so his name is Legion anyone that knows me will tell you that is what
I call him so Legion and I when I left off at part I'm sorry who Legion is that her H ex-husband
husband I'm use the name that I call him in real life um so that way clears up oh okay so Legion
fiance boyfriend husband ex okay that's his new name his new nickname is leg so his name is Legion
anyone that
knows me will tell you that is what I call him so Legion and I when I left off at part
16 um or part 15 leg what does that mean what does legion mean what's a legion I got married January
5th of 2021 for the first two weeks things were fine um we got into like a a routine basically
I would go to work he would go to work um he was still leaving the house at around 6:15 every
morning he was still on the phone with his brother the one that lived in Philly um every morning they
would just that
was their time to talk from what I was told the brother got off work I guess he must
have work the third shift and so he was getting off work as Legion was getting ready to go to
work so that was perfect time for them to talk he would talk to um his brother in Baltimore and
the brother in Augusta pretty much you know just a quick phone call here and there if not every
day every other day so everything was pretty much the same I would talk to my mom almost every
day I would talk to my aunt a
lmost every day um so it was it was nothing to kind of that's weird
um that's what the morning routine was he would talk so I worked at Georgia State Patrol oh Legion
like a legion of demons that makes sense actually I I was also relating it to anime I saw the anime
comments I thought it was an anime reference I was like girl watches anime no way she doesn't sound
like she watches anime Legion of loud black teens what is Legion like Legion of demons that makes
sense um and I said this in a
previous video but again there were things I said in previous video
you know she doesn't sound bitter or hateful does she to you guys she doesn't sound like that to
me was that I remember saying hey remember that because I want to come back later so I worked at
Georgia State Patrol I had been working there for almost eight years seven or eight years by the
time legion got into the picture he was fine with the fact that I worked um within law enforcement
I'm not a trooper I'm not a foreign o
fficer I'm a civilian however he um again his dad was a
retired police officer so he was perfectly fine in the beginning with with the fact that I worked
for Georgia State Patrol um he had been to my office before he had met some of my um co-workers
obviously even with Co because I still had to go into the office two or 3 days a week he had been
up there so the friend who took me to the hospital when I had my miscarriage has met him he and I
have been to her home with her and her significan
t other before so again even in the world of Co
when there were little times where you could get together with people he has met people in my life
he has met um my friend or that particular friend and he has met some of my co-workers so when
we got married the first two weeks like I said was fine and then it's as if something snapped um
something just changed what was totally acceptable before suddenly little comments were made why
you wearing that to work oh you get off at 3:30 so you'll b
e home by five right things that had
never happened before he had never questioned what time be home um really he didn't need to
question it because when I'm off work I I leave so it was never a situation of I'm just sitting
around at work just run my mouth because I have nothing to do um and then it turned into you know
he would call me every day from work and I'm going to demonstrate how those phone calls went but he
would call me every day from work and if he even so much as heard a male
voice in the background
he would have little comments to me who's that are they in your office you know man you know
I never know who's who's around you because it seem like every time I call you I H up sorry it
seem like every time I call you um there's some man around and I'm just like you know I first I
kind of shrug it off I laugh it off because it really truly was absurd to me um but then became a
bit more frequent and so I really just didn't feed into it because I'm like I don't know
this is some
insecurity I don't know this is jealousy because nothing has ever been done to make you feel any
sort of insecure Type of Way total red flag I'll be real with you not to be such a modern [ __ ]
but total red flag like very red flag like every relationship's different but for me like like
super weird why you being weird bro like you're being super weird but also there were so many
other red flags before this I'm not surprised this is one of his I've never entertained another gu
y
never flirted with another guy like I don't know where this is coming from so it is also important
to note we got married January 5th things started changing um around two weeks later the reason why
know was two weeks is because I had recorded an audio diary on January 21st is the date of the
audio diary and I talk about how maybe I had unre unrealistic expectations because it seemed
as if things were changing with he and I so two weeks pass he starts making little comments end
of Januar
y comes he informs me that he wants to start looking for house again I had no real desire
to go through that process so what he decides is that he's going to look for a house for us using
his friend the uh realtor the one I did not meet so he tells me that he and his friend have been
talking and he's going to start looking at houses and what he's want to do is basically if he feels
like it's a house I would like then he wants to show it to me because he feels like you know I
know that your
attitude really isn't you're in the mood look for a house so I'm start looking
and then if I think a great house then you know you can come see it um and I remember thinking
that's not like that's not gonna work you're not going to choose a house without me he's like no
I'm not going to choose a house but I just think that you know me and old boy have been talking and
so he has some houses that he is representing he wants to show me so why don't you let me look at
it and if it's worth the t
ime then I'll bring you to look at it so he already had some sort of plan
in place after talking to his friend um about how he's going to start looking at houses this is
J this is the end of January 2021 so I kind of threw my hands in a and was just like whatever
because I'm not getting emotionally involved in looking at houses and for me that's kind of
what it was I felt like I was see a house I have a picture us living there and then it get snatched
away somehow some way I didn't want to
go through that so the reaction that he wanted which was for
me to throw a fit I did not do I'm just like okay all right like I trust you um and remember that
I said the reaction he wanted because that's to come back later so he started looking at houses
funny enough the houses that he looked at none of them I actually saw but he would call me and say
I'm at this house in Sandy Springs with the uh realator friend apparently his real his realtor
friend's name was Scott not to be confused wit
h the other Scott the one that was actually helping
us that dropped us as clients I want to make that clear there were two Scots one is the realtor who
was representing us who said hey I need proof of funds if you don't have those proof of funds I
cannot show you any more houses the other Scott is his friend who he had talked to on the phone at
least 50 to 100 times in front of me that's that's guy that he said is going to show me this house
in Sand Springs um apparently the house was like
$800,000 so he was like I think that if I you
know if I like the house then I'm bring you out here so you can see it all right now let's go into
part 18 oh my God okay part 18 who the [ __ ] did I marry so he starts looking at houses in Sandy
Springs aled area with his friend Scott um I did not see any of these houses I did not go I didn't
want to go um so what was starting to change is remember I said before he would leave the house
every day around 6:15 he would be home every day between
3:30 and 4:00 without fail it was so I
shouldn't say it was annoying but it I could set my clock by the fact that I would hear that garage
door open between 3:30 and 4:00 every day that he went to work even during lockdown he still had to
go to work his job was only locked down for maybe a week um for me I was allowed to work from home
but unfortunately I I did not handle it well and so I would fall asleep and I check email so my
boss was like yeah you want to come back to the office cuz yo
u're not trustworthy and I wasn't I
mean I totally I would watch Netflix and not even be on my computer so some people cannot work from
home it takes a very specific personality to be able to work from home genuinely the discipline
the force oh my God you know how tempted like you're so tempted just like sit on oh my God it's
so yeah I've had brothers who tried to work from home they can't do it they totally can't honestly
I'm kind of impressed with myself slightly that I can do it cuz you
you do you got to [ __ ] force
yourself to go to work every day and Chase that money and hope you get paid and like it is so
tempting to sit on the couch and eat let me tell you it's so tempting just to be like I want to do
anything else but like I get it that's so good to know about yourself self cuz then you can pick a
job that works for your brain I had to start going back to work every day 5 days a week um and I was
me and another lady were the only two in there cuz we were the only two
who did not handle work
from home properly anyway that's another story so Legion would he started to not come home yeah wait
C says where's that where's that David assistant yeah where's David that character got played out
and his fantasy is wilting away where's that David character his assistant we haven't heard from him
in a bit is he still living that VP life bro he started to come home 5 5:30 6 6:30 sometimes
seven o'clock he [ __ ] someone else girl he [ __ ] someone else BR because h
e Wasing he's
probably [ __ ] David that he was um looking at houses after work with his friend Scott so
never mind he's [ __ ] Scott it definitely was noticed that things are changing um and I just at
this point kind of emotionally and mentally I was just like I don't know what to do this is the
end of January remember I told you in part 15 I got married January 5th by January 31st I kind
of knew I was in trouble and by the end of January sure enough I knew things were changing in a way
t
hat I was like I hate to sound redundant but what the [ __ ] is going on so he still maintained
the story of looking for a house looking for a house I had already let him know my lease is up
in August when my Lee is up in August I am moving to P County um and my attitude was kind like you
can go with me or you can stay here I don't care but I'm moving I'm leaving Clayton County the
reason why I want I was so adamant to move was not because of Clayton County it was not because
of the house t
hat I was in it was because Legion had started to create this narrative that he was
beefing with my female neighbor he was trying to get me to believe that my female neighbor to
the left of me um somehow was interested in him so she would make these little comments and
he would come in oh my god oh I hate this Trope I hate this person I not literally I don't hate
anybody but like oh this is the worst biological creature on the planet bro this is the worst
part of the animal species known as
human bro oh my God oh my God when the lies turn from over
promising to like she wants my dick bro just oh I was complaining about her and her music and the
fact that she had you know different men over to the house it was driving me crazy and all of
this was kind of starting in January so when I say that it really seems like we got married
January 5th and then we had two weeks of peace and then something just snapped I literally mean
something just snapped so he's looking at house now we'
re moving into February February obviously
is my birthday month um he did good he did good to make Valentine he went all out for Valentine's Day
he went all out for my birthday my birthday and Valentine's Day are February 14th and February
15th so um he went all out on both days y'all ain't even going to believe this story I said I
was here even when it makes me look so the weekend after my birthday and what I me he needs to be
studied bro he needs to be studied that's what I'm saying guys
with peace and love people fall
into categories I know you guys just think I'm this cute girl on the internet look at her she's
a 10 she's a 12 she's a 15 sitting here cute as hell in her 90s hairo just literally ranting about
categories people are categorizable and there are tropes and there are these like [ __ ] stereotypes
about people and it's not about the [ __ ] biased ones everybody cares about it's a categorization
there are types of people who will lie their way through life who wo
n't lose a wink of sleep over
it who will literally just make your life a living hell and then in the end I bet she's going to
he's going to make her the bad guy in the end I bet at the end he literally makes her the bad
guy somehow somehow she's the [ __ ] up reason everything is happening he's going to blame the
[ __ ] out of her at some point it's going to be 1,000% you're the reason this marriage is failing
you're the reason everything is horrible you're the reason everything is implodi
ng I'm telling
you right now it's like I see these people and I'm like you remind me of somebody you're in this
category what are we doing what are you doing the gaslighting the ly the narcissism the neighbor
wants my dick oh my [ __ ] God oh my God oh my God Bobby says who the [ __ ] raised these humans what
scientists made these humans I'm telling you right now I think it's hugely biological and genetic I
think it's hugely biological I do I I'm I'm G to say it like this they have no choic
e I'm going
to say in some ways this is what Robert sposi is saying in terms of Free Will in terms of like
you're just going to do what you're going to do I do think some human beings have a very hard time
evoking Free Will I would say they can't help but be who they are he cannot help but lie I would say
like in order for him to do anything different it would be very difficult you know Abby says cough
cough ones do we think he's a one the problem is the only way to know if he's a one is to
know
to what extent the lies go when we say a one if you guys are new to my audience It's My Level
system of observation links in the description if you want to watch my video on it but is he
a one or is he simply a two who has narcissism personality disorder or is he a a a pathological
liar but quite successful is he secretly somewhat actually like really selfmotivated is everything
working to his own plan is he actually a good Community member a good to himself like there's
so much that
goes into this you know forkin says really I strongly believe it's environmental if
it was environmental um then therapy could help him and other things could help him probably if
it was environmental he could lose it but I think it's heavily not cuz the same people born in those
environments don't turn out this way if you have an anomaly in a child that is so significantly
different in showing signs since childhood it's probably not the ones that I know look the people
I know who are path
ological liars and the ones who I know that I think our narcissists have been that
way since they were kids and so my heart goes out to them because I'm pretty sure it's biological
and they didn't really have much of a choice and I look at their family structures and their other
like family members and everyone's more or less like pretty good like some dysfunction and stuff
for sure maybe some a lot of dysfunction in some of those families that I know but for the most
part they're actually
pretty all successful people and the only variation is like these these two
people that I'm thinking of in their individual families both but like at the same time it could
be how they're born like not all narcissists are like ones not all ones are narcissists like ones
are something different than mental health but mental health is specific so I wonder if somebody
is like and it's a very I'm talking about about a very specific category right K saying what do
you mean by biological are you
saying that even if he was raised differently he'd still end up
the same yes I think people like this even when they're raised by different people end up the
same I do I think they're fighting demons and very specific like neural Pathways like are very
different from everybody else which are different from being ones he he might not be a one he could
be like a 2B or he could be a 2C but I think they show up in every category of introspection except
of course like fours and fives and threes
probably but in twos I've met two A's I've met two B's
and two C's and ones that are like this but this seems to be a condition it seems to be uh like an
illness because it's not like um it's like almost Insanity that's works but it's insane like it is
kind of insane what he's doing to her but it's not insane the way we characterize insanity but
think about just logically think about what he's doing it is borderline just like insane there's
something about it that's like very out of the ord
inary right so there's something about him
maybe he's totally lacking empathy maybe he's a psychopath maybe there's a lot of villain maybe
he kills people at night we don't know but he doesn't have any regard for anybody else in such
a specific way that it's different from just like a basic liar or some sort of liar like he has
so much KO says his family is confirmed he has a mental condition I wouldn't be surprised right
now I don't know if that's true outside of what you just said in chat
but you know what I mean
mm says far too calculated for a one that is the question some ones can be very heavily calculated
but they [ __ ] up a lot so it's kind of obvious but for him I wonder if he's going to [ __ ] up
enough that it's obvious but mental health well if he's struggling because he's mentally ill he
can't be a one you can only be a one if you choose it so you could be mentally ill as a one but the
reason you're a one is your own desire to lack introspection not because of s
ome outside like
not because of some biological like biological thing not because of a tumor hitting up against
your brain you know what I mean and no spoilers let's yeah stop with the spoilers no spoilers
okay cuz I don't know what happens I don't know if his family said something I don't know anything
yet don't say anything okay let's see oh Colleen says I think he's a one but I've already listened
okay let's see maybe he is maybe he is if it's not mental illness and it's not biology agai
n ones
can be mentally ill but they have to choose to not engage in their like healing right K says
is he calculated is she just the perfect victim ooh maybe she's the perfect victim maybe it's
a perfect storm by that is if my birthday was on a Tuesday we're talking about Saturday um the
weekend after my birthday he gave me money to go to the nail salon go get a manicure and pedicure
so I leave the house I take his car his car was in the driveway we had a key to each other's
car because ag
ain we're married at this point we're talking February 2021 so I take his car
and I drive to the nail salon over in Maro I'm in the chair getting a pedicure and I get a text
message from my husband saying someone was just at the house looking for you and I'm like who was
looking for me what well who was it and he said I don't know I think it was some this is through
text I don't know I think it was some dude you used to mess with okay um I was like what are
you talking about and he was like
I'm telling you some guy just came to the house looking for
you I told him you were not here so at this point y'all I'm in the chair at the salon I'm freaking
out because I'm like who the [ __ ] who the [ __ ] indeed oh my God he's the worst has the audacity
to come to my home unannounced Uninvited talk about they looking for me especially because
before I met my husband I was working I was working the last shift at Amazon as a parttime job
so I had not dealt with dated anything with anyon
e for about a year before I met him in March of 2020
so I really was like who the hell is this coming to my house so I finished the pedicure I head home
once I get home I'm like what what are you talking about what happened and so I'm frazzled in a way
and he's calm he was like yeah it was a black Dodge Charger they pulled into the driveway they
backed in they backed in as if they had been here before so clearly this was someone who who who's
been to your house he got out the car he said I
opened the door and I went out there and I said
you know there's something I can help you with and he said the guy said I'm looking for and gave
him my name and he said I'm sorry she's not here and he said he was like oh okay um all right then
and just got in the car and drove off and I was like my brain stopped working because I'm thinking
who the heck could this be a Dodge Charger I was like are you sure that it wasn't law enforcement
like was in the sheriff's office trying to serve me wi
th a lawsuit for credit card I didn't pay he
was like no he was in regular clothes he was like it was not a um a police car it was not a mark
unit basically bro he's so bored bro he's just like I saw a guy he pulled up to the house bro
I think you were pregnant like he's just like I don't even know if I like you that much he's
just like I'm bored I'm going to make a mess out of my life that's crazy bro he's doing the great
this is actually pretty pretty I I feel like this sounds like NPD I
don't know much about NPD I'm
not a therapist but it actually does sound like narcissism uh it sounds like he's isolating her
playing games circling her around forcing her into a situation it could also it could be a lot
of things it could also it just could be so many things that's wrong with him but something is
definitely wrong and so I'm just like who the heck could this be and he was like I know who it
was and I said who he was like I think it was your ex I said what ex dat for two yea
rs remember
back in like part three part four I told yall he told me about his ex I told him about mine I
thought we were being honest with each other so now fast forward to February 2021 and he's telling
me yeah I think it was the ex that you have been dealing with for those two years before you met
me I said so you think that he showed up to the house Uninvited after two years and he was like
well whoever it was clearly was comfortable pulled backing into our driveway getting out the car
and
was like I'm here to see and gave me gave him my name um and so he was like she's not here is there
something I can help you with and the iy was like no no it's cool um and they just got in a car and
drove off so again bra is like who who could this be so then Legion says to me you know what the way
that you reacting to this is real supect and I'm like what are you talking about he was like you
over here freaking out I told you I took care of it I told you was fine you over here freakin
g out
which makes me wonder what what have you been up to now what you mean tell to part 19 what do you
mean what does he mean he took care of it what the [ __ ] he mean okay part 18 who the [ __ ] did
I marry so he says to me the way you're acting is real suspect because I told you it was fine I
to care he was like I ain't even worried about it he was like obviously that [ __ ] didn't know
that you now married that You' moved on and so now he knows it but for me it was the fact that I
don
't do I don't do pop-ups don't come to my house unannounced so if someone has done that for me
it it automatically feels like a violation and it feels like it need to be so it was not as simple
as I already took care of it it's fine Let It Go no we a let nothing go cuz you don't have permiss
show to my house and before this turns into something where I'm going be on Fox 5 news I need
to address that with you because that is not okay so he didn't like the reaction I had to the story
he told
me where someone basically disrespected my home yeah basically he's saying like someone came
unannounced and she probably wants to like oh call her ex and he's like go wa don't call him because
then that will confirm he like I was never at your house bro and he felt like my reaction was really
suspect so um what I'm I'm get into the little details that he did not know about so he tells me
again it was a black charger a black do charger they backed into the driveway a gentleman got out
of th
e car and he asked for me by name and Legion said she's not here so um I asked him what does
the guy look like and he said he was like what does it matter I said what the [ __ ] does he
look like oh girl he's lying girl girl girl o I'm so annoyed for her bro get the [ __ ] out of
there bro oh bro I'm getting mad Legion proceeds to give me the most generic description you
can give he was like well um he was shorter than me ex-husband is about 63 6'4 he was shorter
than me um he was brown ski
nned I said he did he have a hat on his head mind you I understand that
before marriage I was a damn fool understand that but every woman has that moment where you only
going to fool her but for so long and eventually stuff puzzles start coming together for me I felt
like moving into marriage certain things started coming together so I said to him um did he have
a hat on his head he was like no he wear head so in my mind I mentally going down a list of every
possible man it could be um and
it was only like four men I had been in that house about three
or four years at this point so I knew all of the people and I'm talking about from maintenance down
to ex-boyfriends it was a total of like four men so when he said that um it was a black charger I
immediately was like okay I know that crosses out one he said he was shorter than him all of them
are shorter than him I said he have a hat on his head he said no that cross out one because one in
particular was a maintenance guy who
always wore a hat on his head because he had like a bruise or
something and he he was self-conscious about it so he always wore a hat at least two so I said was
he muscular or was he skinny so Legion getting all frustrated said just answer question he like well
he's kind of in between and I said okay um he was in between I said so was he light skinn or was he
dark skinned he was like I told you he was brown skinned I said was he my complexion he said no
he was he was brown skinned that elim
inates one so now there's one left and he asked the one
left would have been the x that I had dat it for two years and so he was like I know that that
I know it was ex I know it was ex and I was like that don't make no sense because the ex that I in
my mind I'm saying this the ex that I had dated he and I had no contact with each other and he
was not the type to just pop up at your house that ain't his style not to mention and I Ain
tell legist that man would not be caught dead driving a do
charger he hated Chargers yeah she
said not the Dodge charger because he drove it as a patrol car so I didn't say anything I just was
like that's that's weird so what Legion didn't know is that at the time I had a security system
so I had a security system where um anytime the front door the garage door or the back door
was open basically any entry point anytime it was open or closed it would send me a text message
notification so when he's telling me all this I'm looking at my phone and I
see a notification where
the front door was opened and it was shut all within the same minute so for example if it says
front door open at 1 p.m. front door closed at 1: p.m. so whatever he did was within those 60
seconds he's telling me the story of the guy got out the car um he open the door he went
out there can I help you and the guy said um I'm looking for and Legion said no she's not here
and so he said the guy kind of was like okay and he was like all right thank you and got in the
car
and drove off Legion also told me that he watched him drive off drive out of the neighborhood which
means because of the way the house was set up the townhous he would still been outside watching this
I could be wrong but something in me was like that would take more than 60 seconds so for the door
to have been open and shut within the same 60 seconds I was like okay so also what he didn't
know we didn't have a ring door camera but my neighbor did and her ring door camera caught
my dri
veway [Laughter] oh my God the view of the camera could see my driveway as well as her
driveway um and so whoever was coming in the door our driveways were right next to each other and
then on E on the other side of it was the grass so it was it was a perfect view of my dri so
so she um I text her and I said hey were you home um I think I text her the next day because I
said were you home on Saturday and she said um no I wasn't what's up you know everything good I said
um can you look at yo
ur security system and see if there was a car that came to my house um at such
and such time and I know I I did not tell her the reason I was asking but I was like is there any
way that your security camera caught if someone came to my house um at this time on Saturday
she's like yeah sure I'll look and so maybe about a couple hours later she text me back and
said hey I looked at the camera but I didn't see anything oh of course you didn't see anything girl
he made it up oh I would have pac
ked my bags bro I would have been out of here 10 months ago but
I would have packed my bags do not confront this man a man who was 6'4 do not confront this man
girl pack your bags and scadoodle your bodoodle scadoodle you're bed dooodle all the way out o
I would have been like did he even know she she was going to ask the neighbor I bet if she had
told him I'm going to ask the neighbor he would been like um I really don't think you should do
that oh my God I said okay by any chance did it c
atch if someone maybe walked up the driveway
like maybe it wasn't a car in the driveway but someone walked up she said I didn't see anything
with your driveway yesterday so I said okay um and I and I knew I knew that something in me again
um was like nobody came to the house so now here we are um a month and a half married and now is
when I'm like why the [ __ ] did he make that up girl girl we are 3 hours to seven
hours in we're three of seven hours you're living with Han this is why seria
l
killers get away with their murders you living with Hannibal Lector move out not literally but
like she okay what do you mean oh I wonder girl I would have been terrified girl it would have been
like the movie Taken I would have been like Liam n's my dad and I'm about to get kidnapped you're
living with a man who lied to you so serly and then made up this whole [ __ ] story and you're
sitting here like I wonder everybody he did that girl who cares pack your bag and scadoodle your
bed doo
odle what because no one came to the house no black charger came to the house pull back
into I would feel terrified oh my God I would feel terrified I would literally feel so scared
I would literally be like oh my God I'm going to get murdered he's going to [ __ ] murder me
the driveway nobody got out of the car and asked for me nobody was looking for me so now I'm I was
sitting in the bedroom thinking through all this and I'm like why the [ __ ] did he make that up
because that's what happ
ened I'm looking at the text messages on my phone where he's telling me
someone just came to the house looking for you but no one came so what was the purpose of that
and then I and then something said to me something in me said he wanted to see a reaction he he just
wanted to see the reaction you had been too calm and so he wanted to see a reaction so this man gas
lit me like I was Georgia Natural Gas just to get a reaction welcome ladies and gentlemen to part
20 of who the [ __ ] did I ma
rry bro all right part 20 of who the [ __ ] did I marry so after
the black Dodge Charger incident um things were quiet you continue to sleep next to this man she she went to sleep she it was quiet she went did do she stay sleeping next to this man
I'm the adrenaline in my body I'm sweating I am literally dripping right now and she went back
to that man like she went for real real back to him am I supposed to feel bad for
her at this point damn like I am I I can't tell if I'm supposed
to fee
l bad for her now like girl you just found out you're living with
a psychopath like you're literally the moment my neighbor said like no
one came to that house girl I'd be like no [ __ ] way bro holy [ __ ] Legion was fine Legion [ __ ] just fine me
that [ __ ] played over in my head for days and days and days um on one hand I was like
I know nobody came my head knew nobody came to the house my heart was like but maybe
he didn't make it up so The Head and the Heart were absolutely playing t
he tug of war
because again I really couldn't fathom that he was making it up but nevertheless I filed it
in the back of my mind in my little filing C my mental filing cabinet so a few weeks later
we go out to eat at this restaurant in Atlanta um it's a burger place and I'm going to
do my best by the time I post this to put the name of the burger place um on the
screen so we go to the burger place okay I no eat dinner everything was fine as we were
leaving he says to me did I ever did I ev
er show you where my grandmother's buried this
is the grandmother that passed away from Co in 2020 and I said no I was like we haven't been
over here and so he was like let me let me show you so he drives us to the cemetery which is not
far from the restaurant he drives to the cemetery goes around and around and then it comes to um
like a little Hill in the cemetery and he was like you see The Headstone the headone St had
um like a the family name on it and it did not have for example John
David doe it just had do
okay so there were no dates on it so it reminded me of just a headstone where it was probably
multiple family members buried underneath it that's what it reminded me of and so he was like
my grandfather and my grandmother are buried there I do recall him telling me when the grandmother
died in 2020 that she wanted to be buried next to his grandfather and so he told we're sitting in
the car CU we can see The Headstone like on top of the hill from the car and he tells
me that
that is where his grandmother and grandfather are buried that he was able the family was able
to get her um you know her wishes were to be buried next to the grandfather okay so as we are
leaving we take a different route home so we get on the highway if you're from atanta you'll know
what I'm talking about we get on I75 North um and we're kind of just we're just driving around be
honest with you but we're taking a scenic route we get on I75 North because the reason why I
remember
is because when you're on I75 North going towards Atlantic Station on the right hand
side you will see the varsity you'll see all these tall skyscraper buildings one of the buildings
has the letters NCR on the building we as we're coming up towards the building he says to me do
you see the NCR building I said yeah he said the building behind it my job bought that building
that's where we're going to have um we're setting up operations and I was like why the hell would
y' buy a condiment co
mpany in downtown Atlant he was like no we're not doing production it's just
going to be offices and that's where we're going to handle like the business portion the production
is still being done in wette County out in duth and so I was like oh okay he was like that's
where I keep the company car so I was like the company car I said aren't you supposed to bring
a company car home he was like I don't want to bring a company car home because it's clayt County
and it's a $90,000 car and I don
't I don't want no I I want no problems so he's telling me that he
keeps the company car at the build the building downtown Atlanta that's behind the NCR building I
barely could see what building he's talking about but he was like it's the building right behind it
and so he tell me that that's where his office is so I said to him take me to your office I know
it's a Saturday but [ __ ] you wanted the VPS right oh to your office no I had not been yeah
yeah yeah take me to your office take me
there I already know you're lying about the guy showing up
to my house and I'm already sleeping next to you but sure take me to your office cuz I I I already
know you've lied to me 20 times but sure what's one more office simply because again Co so I was
like Tak me to your office and he was like he was like I can't he was like that's no problem so do
I have the other phone I do so y'all in luck so I can maybe reenact how this goes so he gets off the
exit and starts driving towards the NCR
building while he's driving towards the NCR building he
always has kept his phone in his left pocket this is my left hand so he pulls his phone out and
he starts calling he tells me he's calling Willie Willie is supposed to be the head of security
so he's saying let me call Wily real quick to make sure that the building's open so he proceeds
this is another phone but he proceeds to go ahead and call Will he's still we're still driving by
the way we're still driving I'm on the phone you kno
w scrolling through Facebook trying to figure
out um some random [ __ ] but he's he's driving with the phone up to it so driving with the phone
next thing I hear Hey Willie it's Legion hey how's it going I'm good hey is the building open now
I just want to take my wife up there so she can see and see my office are you up there right now
you're not okay is Mr Justin working okay so is there anybody up there that can physically open
the building because I don't think my badge is going to get
me at least in the front door because
if it's it's on the weekend lock okay okay all right let me know all right thank you Willie bye
y'all see how I did that he's having this whole conversation while I'm sitting in a passenger
seat so then he gets off the phone and he says to me Willie is not working and Justin apparently
called out sick so the building is locked and my badge won't get us in the front door he was like
will he going to see if there's someone else that can open that can open
the front door so we can
actually get he's like my badge will get us on the floor but it will not get us in the front door
no one ever called so when he's getting off the highway um he basically turns onto Spring Street
again there's this there's all kinds of [ __ ] I distinctly remember he turns onto Spring Street so
that he can then get on 75 South so we can go home never saw the office that day um but again this is
where he's saying that he um keeps the company car so when we get to par
t 21 I'll kind of go into
detail about the whole company car a little bit more part 21 who the [ __ ] did I marry so the
company car apparently was a charcoal gry BMW I believe it was a five yeah call David Mr VP yeah
where's your assistant bro where's your assistant you're definitely [ __ ] bro good point Kira I
totally forgot bro I was totally like zoning out for a moment just thinking about how this woman
even how do you do this with your life beautiful it's just [ __ ] beautiful bro ser
ies it was a
five series I don't know much about the today y'all know I wanted the X5 dark blue with the kak
and series he got the BMW 5 series Charco great he sent me a picture of a car so I did see a picture
of the car um after this whole NCR building taken to your office that is what he's claiming is
that he left he Lees the company car at that location he's saying that he drives yeah yeah yeah
Bobby says he's the VP but his badge won't let him through the front door literally what liter
ally
what how is she comfortable are you guys this comfortable I guess so women will marry literal
Grapist I mean women will marry seral Killers so you all we're very apparently comfortable as
a gender around the worst of the worst so I guess she would be comfortable around like a man
like this I don't have this in me girls I'm not going to play like okay a couple of stupid like
Petty lies I've definitely dated Liars but man truthfully with all peace and love like there
is just an extent n
ow to be fair I feel like I could always have beating up all my partners cuz
you know I'm I'm a very tall I'm a 51 woman 125 35 PBS you know I'm a very strong person so I
feel like but a 65 partner I don't know about that that's a big that's a big man you know
but like I mean if men if women are willing to marry serial killers and chronic cheaters
I'm sure she's fine with a chronic light damn damn yippy says gas lighting and love is a drug
so girl the chemistry be she be she be snorting tha
t chemistry bro she'd be snorting snorting his
he must smell so good girl he he must smell like heaven itself bro let me tell you okay smells big
deal he must smell so [ __ ] good bro like a warm chocolate chip cookie bro he must smell like
heaven itself bro she's like I can't I can't I can't move on bro I get it River I get it I get
it I get it to Midtown switches out cars and then drives from um Midtown to duth those that don't
know how Metro Atlanta is basically Midtown would be in betwe
en where we live and theth um I
only know that he left the house every day at 65 I know that um I never physically saw the
you know what at least he wakes up early that's nice car come to our home all picture pictures
plural um so when he told me that he got a BMW 5 series keep in mind this is after um I have
been promised a dark blue X5 so I was a bit salty I don't care if it is a company car I was
a bit salty I will admit that um because I felt like you you get to drive the car that you k
now
I really want which is a BMW um and so he would always he would call me from the car he would
tell me you know yeah um I may I may just uh I may just drive home in this car and not switch car
you know switch back to his personal car he like I don't know he did that a lot and I realized now
in 2024 he did that because he knew how excited I was to actually see the car CU [ __ ] I wanted
to test drive it myself to be honest with you and he knew that so reactions um so he he would
say stuf
f like that like man I'm so tired I might just drive the the company car go ahead and go
home and then you know just let me park it in a garage type thing So eventually he stopped doing
that because I didn't want to hear nothing about that car I'm driving in Nissan you driving
a BMW after you promised me a BMW so I don't really want hear nothing about it so in terms
of a company car I did see that it was it was a the worst the worst part
is I'm sure he looks like a thumb I'm sure he's ugly
as [ __ ] bro they always are but oh my God that's so
fun I'm sure he looks like a thumb I'm sure he's ugly as [ __ ] bro but
[ __ ] I get it honestly I told you I've dealt I've dealt with women in relationships
with men like this they swear to God there's no way their man could lie like this and keep
it up at least she figured it out bro at least she figured it out think of all the women who
to this day convince themselves like no my man wouldn't lie to me like this he wouldn't do it
I oh
my God the stories I could tell you about these women it's so sad I wish I could kidnap them
all and put them into therapy until they're like detoxed from the like toxic connection to their
narcissists bro it's brutal it's brutal and the funny thing is like these narcissists don't hit
them they don't grape them they lie to them use them for money keep them going keep them for
company they gas like the [ __ ] out of them it's definitely torture bro but it's also like it
turns into like this
codependent relationship it really does like it turns into this like mutually
codependent relationship because you try to tell these women you try to reach out and you're like
girl I'm telling you right now girl he's [ __ ] with you he's he's absolutely lying like like
here's the proof here's the proof and they're just like no dude no no absolutely not and it's
like okay like you can't and then they they'll call the cops on you they'll literally like
try to stop you they're like you're sta
lking me and I'm like I'm okay girl and then you got to
back off cuz these people don't want to be helped they just don't want to admit it's as bad like
I pray every day I'm going to get a phone call from one of those women who's like [ __ ] I got
out I'm like oh thank God girl I've been thinking about you because like they're in girl they're
in so deep girl got kids and everything girl deep sucks alienated from family and friends deep
they don't think it's suspicious that like they don't t
alk to anybody anymore from their old life
you know what I mean a according to the pictures a charcoal gray BMW 5 series if you're asking
me the exact model I don't know but I know it's a five series because I know the seven series is
slightly longer so it's a five series to D um so after the whole situation with the cemetery to
see his grandmother Grand father's um headstone then there was the NCR the office is open oh it's
not open Justin ain't working willly ain't working will supposed t
o be had of security but he ain't
working okay so at this point I'm already numb it is important for me to point out he's still
paying the rent but is he is he paying the rent where did he get money from how's he doing it you
know that's the problem how is he getting money cuz if everything else is a lie I mean he could
be working he could be quite functional he could even have a nice paying job who knows how numb
I became dealing with him mind numbing because I just got to a point where it
was like there's
always something there's always something so of course we're not going to go into the office
because there's going to be something um so this is the end of February my birthday had already
passed there clearly was tension on my end not so much tension on his end so I get home a couple of
weeks later we are now in the beginning of March this is something personal about me the only way
you would know this is if you know me I have been dying dying to go to London and Paris um
I had
a layover in London when I did a study abroad but it's not the same I want to go to London and
be a whole tourist I don't care I don't care I don't care I want to see Buckingham Palace I
want to see um the Tower of London I want to see Paris I want to see the Palace of Versa this
is something if you know me you know she wants to see Paris she wants to see London okay so I get
home from work this is the beginning of March I get home from work and on the counter is a folder
with like
a little bow on it and I'm like oh what is this is this like mail like was this something
that you got to work he's like no it's a surprise for you I open up the folder inside the folder is
like a trip itinerary it is not an actual booked trip it's it's like an itinerary um a trip
for two to go from Atlanta to London okay um the trip should have happened and it was it was
um the uh [ __ ] the month on like July so it's a summer trip so y'all better not be spoiling in
the comments if you spo
il one thing for me in the comments I will block you you better just be like
uh guessing uhh if I if I see any spoilers in the do not give me spoilers I swear to God I'll block
you I'm invested in this [ __ ] story if you guys give me any spoilers I swear your comments feel
like spoilers right now don't you [ __ ] spoil [ __ ] for me bro oh he tells me I'm going to
take you to London he was like I try I wanted to take you for your birthday but certain things fell
through he was like so this
summer in July we're going to go to London he was like I've already
made a reservation for us to say of theoy again there's certain things that my brain just was like
remember that remember that he said I've already made a reservation for us to say of theoy I know
as much as I want to go to London y' I didn't know anything about theoy and I remember going to
look it up because I was like what is Theo well apparently theoy is Bouie very Bouie so I was so
excited I cannot tell y'all how [ __
] excited I was when I saw that he had um printed out British
Airway like he was speaking my language I am one of those people I'm a planner so when he saying
I'm going to take you to London and he took the time to research flights and print it out and
research this AO and print it out and there was there were different excur there were different
things that you could do you could go see the Tower of London you could go see Buckingham Palace
Changing of the Guard we could go have high tea
at certain places he was like I don't really want to
go but I know you're dying to go so he was like you know I love you and I would do anything for
you blah blah black sheep have you any wool and so he was like I'm going to take you to London
in July the trip did not include Paris that's fine but I was so excited so excited and so this
is the beginning of March I was like this this is great hopefully this happens I knew I needed to
renew my passport and he was saying that he had to renew h
is passport as well because his passport
had expired so both of us were like okay we need to get on this if we're going to try to make it
to London in July and it's now March me being a planner I am I think I went to work the next day
printed out the passport applications so that we can fill it out and go ahead and get that process
why why did she think it was going to happen I want to this is okay maybe I should just study
psychology just so I can understand just for my own sake what makes
the brain think this was going
to happen after everything he's already lied about after the fact that nobody was in her driveway why
did she keep getting her hopes up she already knew it like why I always wonder from these women
like women who have men who are like oh yeah like I'm going to make this happen happen for you
baby it's been like 10 years and it's still not oh I'm going to hold down a job I promise I'll
hold down a job and like he doesn't hold down a job year after year like I
promise like look
I have look listen I'm an idiot and in my 20s I gave people way much like way too long of a time
to figure their [ __ ] out but even I had a list of things like if you didn't do them at a certain
timeline come on guy like I can't wait five years for you to figure out how to keep a job you know
what I mean like you got to figure it out like I'm willing to like I'll send you to therapy I'll
pay for your bills but you got to figure it out like you know what I mean what makes
her think
this is going to happen I you know I don't get it Moonlight says it's because the women want to
live in that Walt Disney far Cloud have you guys not seen Disney movies those women mostly save
themselves like I don't know why everyone always stereotypes Disney movies as the women getting
saved most of those women end up saving themselves are participating in the saving it's usually 50/50
like almost never do the men do it by themsel I don't know what part of Disney Princesses you
guys are watching but like the men and women usually have to work together to win like have to
fight with each other to some extent or at least to some extent the women stand up for themselves
and just happen to get into a predicament and the men come in halfway through and finish the story
but like in none I can't think of a Disney story where the woman full fly is a damsel in distress
and fully gets rescued without any of her old participation no ah where in the old movies where
Snow Whit
e rebelliously left her home realizing her mom would kill her and on her own took it into
her own hands to have an independent life and went and got roommates and a job okay Cinderella was
literally trying her hardest to change her life attempted it time and time again and got [ __ ]
royally and on and and rebelliously still went to the ball and made the Prince fall in love
with her okay uh who who who Aurora Aurora rebelliously told her like family to [ __ ] off
she was going to marry Prin
ce Phil up and just happened to like hit her finger and it had to
pass out bro okay I'm just saying like where in these old stories are the men truly coming in and
saving these women without any of them at least being a rebel for the first half of the film you
don't do everything in life alone okay but damn like going so um needless to say something must
have happened and I don't remember what it was we just simply didn't fill out application for
the passport so fast forward we're now at mi
d- March mid- March the decision was made that my
mom who lived in Arkansas was coming to visit us she would be coming I believe the second week
of April and she was going to stay a week um and then a few days so like maybe a total of nine
days not quite two weeks but a little over a week so she was coming in April and I was excited
Legion was excited he was excited to physically meet my mom he had talked to her on Zoom he had
talked to her on the phone but he was excited to physically meet
my mom and my mom was was
excited to physically meet her son-in-law so this is mid-march um I'm going to into part
22 yippi says but in the end they met a man and that's when they were considered saved and
happy it depends Aurora was really happy before she found out she was um she had the life that
she had technically everyone is like even Ariel went out to go be rebellious on her own the only
reason it ends with a man at the end was because that's usually like a catalyst but it's not lik
e
it's not like I don't know I feel like it's not as like it's not as like damsel and distress
as people paint it out to be ending up with a man is like also a story even your family tells
you even if you didn't grow up with Disney I just feel like it's not really the story of Disney is
that you end up with a man the story in Disney is that you can get what you want out of life
and usually people want a love story at the end because it's what Society like puts into you
whether you're Disne
y or not like whether you grow up with Disney or not people put it into your
mind you have to get married like I'm watching Love on the Spectrum and everyone is obsessed with
getting these people partnered and I'm like why why are you convincing these people especially
people with Autism who are so severely disabled by it they need incredible amounts of help that
they need to be partnered or have sexual partners like weird weird weird worries guys like what a
weird priority let's just see i
f they can get an apartment on their own or a job why are you
so [ __ ] like obsessed with getting people partnered why you want your kids to [ __ ] so bad
bro where I explain what happened with Facebook Messenger part 22 who the [ __ ] did I marry so
now we're in March this is right after he had surprised me with the announcement of we're
going to go to London for um a trip in July because we definitely didn't do a honeymoon we
definitely didn't do any sort of trip together so the idea was
we're going to do a trip in July
together um one thing about Legion was that he was the guy who was like I have nothing to hide
I don't lie I don't like liars um if we're in a relationship then everything should be on open
so I always had his cell phone passcode never felt the need to look through his cell phone um
and funny enough I right now disclaimer I okay hold on because parents of adults with autism
are scared who's going to be there when they're gone so another autist with the same
amount of
problems is the answer that's the answer oh I'm worried who will take care of my kid when they're
when I'm gone oh another person with disabilities just as bad as theirs cool that makes no [ __ ]
sense right that's so dumb that makes no sense but also like what if your kids get pregnant
and have kids they're not going to be able to not not everybody on that show by the way is like
severely disabled by their autism people like Dany and like there are other people who are doing
fi
ne as a spectrum um but some of them are in like there's some [ __ ] difficult disability
happening okay and so again it's just like pushing this narrative on them feels weird dude
and even if they weren't disabled by the way I feel like even nerd typicals why are we pushing
this narrative that they need partnership like it's weird bro will never go through his cell
phone again you chea pe so anyway um yeah l shouldn't be lovers for the sake of caretaking
exactly exactly so one day this is
mid-march going like around March 20th um so we're heading
into towards the end of the month he was in the shower keep in mind my mom is coming for a visit
in April so he was in the shower and he received a text message on his phone from a woman um the
text message because it was a preview so the text message was something where if you didn't know
the context of the text thread you could either go left or you could go right with it so me being
just curious I open up the phone put the passco
de in read the text then read the thread come to
find out it was a text from his aunt his aunt and his ex share the same name that's why I say
it could go left or it could go right text from on so um I went I looked at the text went through
the thread nothing in there so I went ahead ex ex out of the um messages I see that he has Facebook
Messenger downloaded and obviously it shows you the the number of um unread messages in the icon
so it showed that he had like five unread messages so I c
licked on it just being nosy and what
do my wondering astigmatism I see so in his Facebook Messenger is about seven women I can
see um their profile picture and I see their names some of them had a preview the ones that
um he had not read I could see the preview of the message one in particular said when are you
come get this y know what I'm talking about so I clicked on that one first um and I'm reading
through the thread and so she's saying when are you going to come get this but earlier
in
the thread or further back in the thread he had asked her when are you going to give me and she
said when lockdown is over so from what I could piece together he had not yet physically gotten
with her um but had there been no you know guys I would I am the least shocked at the cheating
cuz you know yep yep yep the mhm yep well if she does not leave him now girl you know what's
crazy is like they're not talking about it like at least if I compare this to my 20s like in my most
toxic rela
tionship I would confront him we would talk about it he would like run me in circles with
conversations or like I would talk to people in my life like I would talk to them and we'd like have
the conversations like they're not even having the conversations we would talk about therapy and we
were talking about getting help and intervention and we we were treating it like a mental health
problem um what is this like what are we even treating this like oh he was have smashed all day
every day u
m the other messages were in Windows meaning other messages from the other women were
in you Windows they were not as graphic as the one between him and her so I'm reading these messages
and what is interesting is that the person I am married to is not the person in the yeah K say
like cheating at this point is less wild than the lying so it's really not the surprise literally
the the lying has been worse than the cheating cuz of course like if he's a liar he's probably
a cheater I said wha
t I said but also like the lies were so extravagant so insane that they're
almost worse than just like [ __ ] someone at the bar so I can like leave you it was like the
gaslighting the like manipulation the everything messages like this man was on some nasty [ __ ]
and I say nasty not in a judgmental way but in a with me he seemed to act as if I was damn near
virginal white and I clearly see evidence that you into some [ __ ] that with me you acting like
no I ain't really into that damn why
do they do that why they [ __ ] why the [ __ ] do you guys
marry these women and hide everything for them from them and have the fantasies with somebody
else why the [ __ ] do people do this it's the thrill bro it's the taboo I'm telling you bro
I know somebody who I think is a narcissist too did something very similar treats his partner as
like the most like virginal goddess whatever like gas lights the [ __ ] out of her and then like
we'll have an affair and say like other things to othe
r women and like you tell this woman like
girl he's cheating and she like no no no he was seduced it was Temptation they convinced him G um
I can fronted him I absolutely confronted him and was like what the [ __ ] is this if 2 plus 2 is
four and 5 plus 5 is 10 what the [ __ ] is this um and so he did not you know oh that a't that
ain't what happened blah blah blah instead what he hit me with his man I was just playing around
like ain't nothing Happ so she confronts him and he's just like a
I wasn't even that deep bro bro
um you know I shouldn't have said all that but I was flirting it ain't mean nothing I don't even
know that girl I was just flirting and so I'm like is this what you into and so he was like
no it's not what I'm into it was just stupid it was stupid because I should have done it so I'm
going to be honest with y'all because I've been honest all this time what pissed me off the most
was that here I am as a woman behaving trying to do the right thing by him in th
is marriage and
you mean to tell me you out here offering your dingling to random chicks that you don't even know
I was more angry at the fact that I'm like dude do you know how much I have turned down in order
to be faithful to your dumb ass and I'm seeing that you basically are out here acting like you
got Skittles Taste the rainbow I was hurt I was angry I thought about getting my li back I just
being honest I did um and he he played it off like it ain't nothing serious it ain't nothing
serious don't overreact don't get emotional it was just dumb he was like I will delete the
messages I'll even delete messenger and and I told him I was like that's really not good
enough because that that's not gonna fix the root of the issue so this is where I introduced
that we need to do marriage counseling so I like marriage counseling how about divorce
lawyer now okay marriage counseling is fine but girl he lied about someone showing up to
your driveway but then people like that there
are toxic relationships where people go I just
lied to see your reaction maybe yeah I that's why I say it takes two toxic people to tango guys
you see how she's a victim but also toxic which I think she takes accountability for if she was not
a toxic person she couldn't have stayed this long there is a level of toxicity you have to have in
your Consciousness to allow yourself to keep doing this do you know what I'm saying there really is
like there's a level of toxicity within her that let
her stay through this and I think that's that
says something about us look I admit this myself I really do think there were parts of me that were
so toxic in my 20s that let me let me stay in toxic relationships because the moment I started
getting healthier the moment I started going into therapy the moment I started like working on
myself I was like oh this isn't okay so you better change or I'm out and then when the changing
never occurred that was it eventually you're gone so it's inte
resting and then now I couldn't even
imagine doing it now I couldn't even imagine doing it now oh my God oh my God I can't even handle
it bro he didn't have any issue doing marriage counseling we did not do premarital counseling
um but he was like that's fine he was like I don't have no problem doing marriage counseling
because if anything it can help us they never do they never do they love it they're like oh yeah
take me to a therapist I love therapists bro npds in therapy bro is difficul
t Dr Konda though says
there is hope for npds and he definitely has seen some uh some positive uh results so I thought
that okay he may not have physically cheated from what I see on the messenger he may not have
physically cheated but he damn sure got caught you know doing little something they had exchanged
pictures so y'all know what pictures he sent and I was disappointed because I don't like okay
wait great question from fishy says can toxic unhealthy relationships ever be one-sided or
does
it always have to be two-sided it can be one-sided but short-lived a healthy person dating a toxic
person will not have a relationship for very long they will never get this far in the relationship
a healthy person can go on a date with a person they don't realize it's toxic but the once they
realize once a healthy person realizes like oh you're toxic that's it the chances of a healthy
person and I mean healthy well-rounded healthy like like ready went through [ __ ] or healthy
got t
o the other side of their issues as well once they realize that they don't let it keep going the
fact that you let it keep going is the sign that it's two two ided toxicity a healthy person might
go on a one date two date might even date a month of a relationship and then go oh nope that's it
they're not going to go two years bro they're not going to [ __ ] do this they're not going to
get married there's no [ __ ] way right fishy says I imagine this also applies to familiar and
platonic re
lationships yes like once you've had a toxic friend and you know what to look for you're
less likely to make new toxic friends or you'll have a boundary setting with them um yes like I
yes I think that does apply to like even family relationships or like tolerations you put down
more boundaries you know what I mean like you definitely have a better relationship with friends
and family and everybody and you're less likely to pick more toxic friends like look I think we've
all had a relations
hip about a very toxic friend we've had to end the friendship with it's really
difficult and it sucks especially if you knew them like growing up but you realize like some of
your friends are toxic as [ __ ] and you you got to put down boundaries maybe it's ending the
relationship and moving on maybe it's just saying hey I like you but I can only hang out with you on
occasion or maybe it's something you know what I mean I don't like men those type of pictures but
anyway that's another issue
so we agreed that we start Mar chaning we also agreed that we would
put on a United front when my mom got there in other words we were not going to argue we you know
just let just act like everything is fine but at that point when my mother arrived in April I could
not stand him I did not want to be but we couldn't um he moved back into our bedroom cuz he had he
had moved into the guest bedroom when I saw the messages oh like before she came he moved back
into the bedroom CU obviously she
need to sleep somewhere so um I really could not stand him and
it was because I was busy second guessing myself like damn what's wrong with me like if that's what
you into and I'm supp be your wife like let's have conversations like [ __ ] I want to fam you I
understand some stuff buddy so it just was one of those things where it made me second guess like
what's wrong with me what did I do wrong what is it that she got that I don't um because you all
out here willy-nilly you know messaging
her all hours of the night because the thread went back
quite a few weeks I saw it in March there were messages from December November so again I'm just
second guessing all kinds of stuff self-esteem Tak and by the way like she is a victim right
like she is a victim absolutely she is a victim she's a victim of herself and she's a victim of
him like when we make mistakes guys like when we ignore signs or we're learning like introspection
or we're like going through life learning our life les
sons we're victim to ourselves and we're
victims to the people from the people who hurt us you can be both oh I was about to give a one piece
spoiler example but I'm not going to do that um what's a good one like how many time no I'm trying
to think of a good example without spoiling a show it doesn't matter in life we can be victims of
both parties but we're victims of ourselves so you can't like don't beat yourself up but you
know and take responsibility for only the part that you did not
the part that they did you do
not need to take responsibility for the people who hurt you you only need to take responsibility
for the part in which you contributed to your own harm okay so like if somebody hurts you that's
not your responsibility but you need to take uh responsibility for anything you contributed did
to it but has nothing to do with them right like it doesn't have to do with them example um you
put $1,000 strapped to your wrist and walk down a a busy I don't know a busy s
treet okay somebody
jumps you okay the person who jumped you is 100% like 100% responsible for them jumping you you're
not responsible for that you're responsible for putting yourself in a position that was less
reasonable given the circumstance of like probability in terms of being being jumped when
you're flashing $1,000 on your wrist okay you're not of you're not responsible for what they did
to you you're only responsible for the ways you did not protect yourself because you're the
onl
y person who's going to protect you at the end of the day it's only you so if you expect
the world to save you it's not going to if you expect people to protect you only in the way that
they're capable the best person to protect you is you right and if you're in a much more vulnerable
situation then the best thing to do is create a safe Village around you but then you still have
to participate in that community so if you're in a position to protect yourself you take every
opportunity to do
that and in life we learn when we don't protect ourselves how to do it better
the next time right so you are responsible for protecting yourself but you're not responsible
for getting jumped and so there's something about that that I think people really mix up where
they think like you're responsible for getting jumped you're not responsible for getting jumped
dude that was somebody else's action but you were still responsible for not protecting yourself
but you also do this like this lady
here so you can learn the lesson of how to protect yourself
in the future so the hope as we're listening to this conversation is that she's going to learn
the lesson of how to protect herself in the future because she didn't know how to do it in
this marriage okay right great so now we're like okay this is an amazing bubble popping moment
she's being introspective she's pondering and now the universe has given her an opportunity and
it gave it to her many times and you see you and I in in l
ike watching it we're like why didn't she
figure it out here here here why didn't any of us figure it out here here here ask yourselves right
how ask yourself what situation have you been in that's sort of similar to hers in which it took
you like four times to learn the lesson oh girl girl I got story after story but once I learned
my lesson I never [ __ ] repeat I never repeat the mistake once I learn a [ __ ] lesson let me tell
you girl I never repeat the mistake it's actually I rely on
myself self so heavily to learn that
lesson because I know once I do I'll never do it again once I have an idea in my head I'll never
forget it but that's like I have to really grasp it that's why I say knowing is so different than
believing I believe I'd be able to protect myself I know I can't protect myself in all situations
ooh to know you can't protect yourself in all situations is so much more powerful than I believe
I can protect myself in in all situations you know we believe so muc
h knowing is so much better it
allows you so much better it just gives you so many better opportunities your strength is better
your wisdom is better so let's figure out at the end of this what she finally learns you know what
she finally figures out a hit so no I did not want to be around him I did not want um I didn't like
him period I did not like him I left and I would just go for a driveing because driving clears my
mind I called my aunt told her what happened I don't recommend that I
don't calling family to
tell them what's going on in your marriage but I called my aunt and my aunt lovingly was like
what I I mean yeah I agree but I do think like when you're being abused and gastate it's nice to
rely on people that are mentally health aware who can help you get out of that situation as well so
I I agree like if you have a normal marriage but this one is I would consider this severely abusive
what do you guys think this to me is a severely abusive marriage and she is not
the abusive one
she is toxic xic to herself and she's displaying toxicity that she's willing to engage in with
him but like he is incredibly abusive in my opinion what do you guys think you want me to say
you married him you know he ain't your boyfriend y'all can't just break up that's the hard part
about marriage is like I mean yeah I guess you could leave him but at the same time you married
them so honey you going to have to go back home and y'all are going to have to figure this out
sh
e was like I can't give you advice on what you should do I'm sorry that this happened but but you
married him no what so her aunt is saying like you should stay the marriage is that what I heard did
I miss it oh is that why she said don't tell your family so even though it was just one drive I went
back home and that's when the discussion was um we need to do marriage counseling oh see she she
needs to talk to mentally health aware people who are modern enough to say get the [ __ ] divorce
bro this is a severely abusive marriage bro part 23 who the [ __ ] did I marry so we agreed to do
marriage counseling um I had found the volume is way low lower on this clip pastor and his wife
who agreed to do our counseling basically our counseling was going to be on zoom and it was
going to be her Village yeah yeah you know sucks bro yeah damn I hate her ants advice suck that's
why she said don't tell people you need that's why you need a modern liberal Progressive friend bro
cuz a progr
essive friend would be like divorce him every other week um every other Tuesday initially
Legion was um oh she might not have told her aunt all this that's true maybe her aunt didn't know
all the details participating in it um his body language seemed to be that he was open and
receptive to the marriage counseling now the pastor and his wife were deeply concerned at the
fact that we had only been married three months and we were already dealing with some form
of infidelity we were yeah no C
ounseling and as the pastor would put it there seems to not
be any sort of intimacy um they were concerned rightfully so I think any person would be if they
knew what was going on within those three months so um the pastor and his wife it is it is fair
to note we started counseling with them um in the spring we continued counseling with them up
until a week before I found out what I found out and he got kicked out so one of the first things
that um the pastor kind of talked us about was um
you know she kicks him out eventually what was
the deal with the Facebook Messenger stuff um and Legion was like it was stupid I shouldn't
have done it um it was just it really was just attention and it just I got carried away he he
felt like he was not going to he kep saying I'm not going to keep apologizing I'm not going to
keep getting persecuted um after I told you I'm sorry I told you I wouldn't do it again and I
want us to move forward you're either going to forgive me or you're not p
astor and his wife
were like wow um The Audacity is real on this one so needless to say we started moving slowly
forward um it was always in the back of my mind just like it was in the back of my mind with
that black Dodge Charger it was one of those things where okay okay I see how you kind there
moving and operate he came to me a few days after we started our first counseling session and he
was like we should um get a joint bank account what he wanted to do was to each one of us have
our
own account and to get a joint account for our money to go in there um for joint expenses
now up until this point he had been paying the rent the utilities and I really was just paying
for my stuff so now he's suggesting we're married now let's go ahead and get a joint account I
wasn't necessarily against it because I knew that I would still have my own account I would
still have my own savings so what I countered with was okay let's take a look and see what we're
working with show me you'
re checking let's let's look at each other's accounts see of course you
guys know my philosophy on this we're one baby we're a team what's mine is yours what yours is
mine I'm not marrying nobody that I don't trust my money with if I you know what I'm saying like
if I don't trust you with my money and my body and my mind and my soul I'm not marrying you [ __ ]
the fact that like I I haven't asked my husband do you want me to make a little joint account for
or like a little separate account
for you in case like we ever get divorced I don't want your gross
money like no we're in this forever [ __ ] unless there's abuse of course right unless there's abuse
but like [Music] yeah now I feel like he's going to seal her money you know but obviously okay you
know when people are like don't mix your money with your man you're married to well obviously
not if your relationship is this obviously if this is in your like if this is your relationship
don't give him your money but that's th
e problem y'all are marrying people that are lying to you
cheating on you literally gaslighting the [ __ ] out of you no wonder you shouldn't share money
with them that's what I'm saying when you're in a healthy [ __ ] relationship a real relationship
where you [ __ ] trust each other with literally having children like you're literally willing to
have children with them and not give them money you're willing to give them your babies but not
your money think about that we have currently he
was cool with that so me his checking account his
checking account available balance was about it was just over 9,600 mine was just over 1,00
so there was a huge disparity in the amount what show me your check let's let's look at each
other's accounts look at what we have currently he was cool with that so he shows me his checking
account his checking account available balance was about it was just over 9600 M you make $2,000
a year and you only have $9,600 in your checking account what he
makes $200,000 a year
and he has $9,600 in his checking account what what what's happening what's happening m' k says if your partner wanted to do those
things that you asked would that change how you viewed him like if he wanted me to open
account for him in case we ever got a divorce cuz I'm the sole bread winner for those who
are new to my audience like we live off what an income it's my income are you saying like
if he asked me actually like yeah can we open up that secondary account in
case like we
ever cuz our only contingency for divorce is like abuse is that what you're saying so
if like God forbid obviously one of us like abused each other and we got divorced if he
wanted a checking account would that make me like would I what would I think to that is that
the question because like obviously like like if he thought it was necessary you know I would do
anything to make sure this marriage wins that's my goal do everything in my power to make
sure this marriage wins th
at's the answer um Stephanie says didn't she say she looked
up his checking account yeah yeah yeah yeah so when he showed her his checking account and
she was like oh there was money in there was it 9k was the money 9k cuz 9k when you're working paycheck to paycheck and you're making
less than 100,000 that's great bro I love that for you that's more than
most Americans but if you're making $200,000 and you have 9k that's a little
suspicious just a little suspicious we just over, 1500 so the
re was a huge disparity in the amounts
um and so he logged in on the phone and turned it towards me and I could see available checking you
know available balance just over 9600 I logged into my savings I showed him how much I had in
savings he logged into picked up his phone L wait k you're saying yeah if you said he said I don't
want your money so what if he said yeah sure yeah if we got divorced he can have 50% of my money
it's his money our money is our money I think when you get divorce
d and you divorce a person and
you want to take all their money from them that's just [ __ ] weird you know what I mean like I
I did not just marry anybody I did not settle for some schmuck I didn't just marry anybody I
married my soulmate if we get divorced I [ __ ] up or he [ __ ] up and he's still entitled
to 50% of that money you know what I mean like I meant it when I said like we're doing
this together and again the goal is to never get divorced but I yeah like I couldn't even
imagin
e I'm I really mean it guys the only way we would ever abuse each other it would just
be the saddest day in the world it'd be the most devastating circumstance in the world we're not
I'm so sorry this is not our love story story this is what I think of regular toxic relationships
yeah of course you got divorced of course you're fighting over money you don't even like them I
married the nicest most wonderful human on this planet and if I ever abused him he could have all
my money if I ever c
heat on him he can have all my money what do I even deserve money for I don't
even deserve money I don't even deserve anything if you abuse your partner bro [ __ ] go Old Yeller
yourself think about it unless you even understand what you even did you know what I mean like no
and again like to even get to that point bro you better go to therapy and make amends so yes if
I ever God forbidden I would never do I don't even like putting it in the in the air if anything
ever happened in this marr
iage like obviously you know what I mean k says okay I was just curious
because I've earlier talked about why would we be with a partner that prepared for divorce but
I understand you're saying your partner will only have a reasonable reason for such yeah yeah
yeah like like I would never go into a marriage preparing like when people people say I'm prepared
for a divorce like I just saw this um this um I just saw that podcast like if you watch if you
watch people say in interviews or in the
ir life like oh my next relationship will probably fail
because most relationships fail if you if you go if you get married saying like we'll probably
end up divorced like that's that's different than like what I am doing with my partner like you know
what I mean like we are doing life together there is no divorce except for abuse and abuse is very
serious we're you know what it's very devastating that means something went terribly wrong that's
like going to be the saddest day in the univer
se if that ever happened you know um but yeah you
logically have to PR prepare for divorce because like things things happen you know what I mean but
it's because you love them that you're doing that not because you think oh it's definitely going to
happen if you go into a marriage thinking you're definitely going to get divorced or like oh I'm
waiting for my partner to betray me that's that's not that's different that's weird that's like
don't why are you getting married you know what I me
an into his Chase savings turned the phone
towards me in the chase savings it was roughly about 15,000 okay so he's got 9,000 and 15,000
so 24,000 right did I do that right did I just do math in my head I'm a genius bro I'm so [ __ ]
smart bro okay so still not enough money for somebody making $200,000 a year right but I also
knew that he told me he had a US Bank savings he had an offshore savings so at this point in time I
asked him show me the US Bank savings show me show me the other two
accounts he would not do it this
became a huge B of contention he would not show me the two accounts that he claims has the most money
in there the accounts that he claims has money for a house in there because he still was mentioning
hey we need to get on this house thing we going to move um when the lease is up so I'm just admin
on why aren you why don't you want to show me your savings account you showed me the chase one like
what is the big deal and so he kept saying he like there's a
lot of money in there and he's like and
my uncle always taught me this is not the uncle that died another Uncle my uncle always told me
you know just keep your money tight because women can be out said women like women see see this is
what I'm saying this is not a marriage she's not women she's your wife like we're married so go
ahead and show it to me he would not show it to me so then we went back into marriage counseling
like the next session and I bring it up I said he will not show me
these two accounts that he
claims has the money in there to buy a house I told the pastor wife I said I saw the pre-approval
letter so I don't understand why he's not going to show me to just put me at ease that he has the
money in there I had never questioned it before because again you tell me who in their right mind
signs their name to a legally binding offer an all cash offer on house and they they just do itly
I don't know anyone that does that so I actually never questioned what was i
n the savings because
I clearly saw him sign his name to $699,000 all cash offer on a house if you don't know what I'm
talking about please go back to the parts in this playlist where I talk about what he did when we
were looking for a house so Pastor and his wife were like Legion that's not his name y That's name
legion why would you why would you not show your wife your St account like what's going on here
and so he made up some [ __ ] and I remember the pastor's wife was like something s
omething ain't
right and so at this point Legion kind of shut down God knows he's just like look y'all are
not going to tell me when and where I can open I open up my accounts to show anybody the money I
earned I earned that money I earned that money by playing football Blood Sweat and Tears he went to
this whole Denzel Washington monologue about how he earned that money and no one no woman no one
is going to come in and tell him that he needs to open up the account so then he starts talkin
g
about the ex-wife and how she tried to get money from him in the divorce back when they were in
California so now the pastor their red flags are just like whoa so much so that the pastor's wife
said and I will never forget this she said I don't think you all are GNA make it to January what she
was talking about is I don't think y gonna make it year and I really truly was like we're going
to make it like of course we're going to make it and she was just like I don't have a good feeling
ab
out it and so legion's all defensive he at this point he's folding his arms and and cuz remember
we're on Zoom he's folding his arms he's just like I'm I'm done with this like I'm not going to get
attacked because I'm not comfortable showing you the amount of money that I have money changes
people and I'm not comfortable so he's playing a victim card um and so the pastor and his wife
were like you know we we're still going to help you as much as we can but so I'm so glad
they called it I'm
so relieved that they said something that makes me really happy he's
like I'm not comfortable and basically the past's wife were like look we'll help you as much as
we can yo [ __ ] Legion bro he's Judas bro he's Judas BR but there's some deep issues here and you
know had you this is what they advise us had the two of you came to us for premarital counseling
we would have told you do not get married y'all should not even be together oh that is what
that's saying a lot that is what the pasto
r and his wife told us in marriage counseling if
you two had come to us for premarital counseling we would have told you y'all should not even be
together let alone get married but here we are so we will help you guys as much as we can but
like I don't have a good feeling that y won't make it year o I bet that Pastor knows man he's
like man I've met a lot of NS in my life let me tell you bro people know bro people who have good
healthy marriages they could sus out a bad one bro 24 who the [
__ ] did I marry so remember we're
in April um we're now moving towards the end of April and he still did not show me his um savings
account saw the checking saw the chase savings so he decides that we should start looking for a
house again because my lease was up in August and I made it very clear that when the lease is
up I am moving I wanted to move to C County so um K says we sold 28 parts to go damn yeah that's
true yet we still have that much oh I know guys I don't bro we're like oka
y we're basically
kind of halfish through is damn bro that's crazy oh man let's see let's see it cuz there's
more parts than the technically but it's not much of an update oh man let's go I thank you
guys for being here over 200 of you have been here for a really long time and I appreciate
that like the stream guys it really helps I appreciate it thank you um he was like you
know we need to get the ball rolling I don't want any parts of it didn't want any parts of
it he found a realair thi
s time it was a woman it was a woman um and her name is her name David
David was Amber I think her name was Amber so he found I'm just kidding and um kind of you know
he told her what the budget was Amber started finding houses so please understand or you don't
really have to understand but um I believed I believed he was a sane rational human being sane
enough that you would not sign an offer on a home ma'am ma'am he chronically lied to you
literally gas late the [ __ ] out of you literall
y said someone came to your house that
didn't and you think he's a sane and rational human I really think people do not take lying
seriously do you understand why I take lying seriously do you guys do you guys see it now why I
take lying and cheating so seriously cuz I'm like what are you cap cuz I have seen people capable
of so much that's why I say listen to people and let them tell you who they are this man has been
telling her since day one who he is he has been telling her you know you
might I love people and
yes like people lie but this level of lying girl this level of lying it's amazing how people do
it it's amazing it's beautiful so poetry if you didn't have the money that's what I believed
so when we started working with Amber Amber I believe showed us three or four houses it was not
nearly as many as the other Realtors SC so one of the houses absolutely loved I love the house
um I really wanted to put in an offer on that house and I'm going to post on screen the ho
use
love that house it was just absolutely beautiful and once again he wanted to put in an all cash
offer on the house but before he could put in all he had told Amber I want to put in all cash
offer and what amber the woman was smart enough to say is okay let's just go and take it one step
at a time let's go ahead and get your pre-approval stuff together she said I work with a great lender
who if you if you're not already preapproved um he can get you pre-approved no issues um and then
if
you want to do an all cash offer then we'll go ahead and get the proof of funds together so
that way we can submit it all with your offer Jesus oh God y'all already know what happened cuz
you remember what happened on the last house with Scott um basically Legion was like well I can get
you whatever you need that's fine but I really don't want to submit proof of funds unless they
accept the offer Amber and I don't know where she is I don't even know she'll ever see this video
um anyway let
me keep going and I'll explain why that woman has a special place in my heart so
Amber was like you know I totally understand um but this is how we're going to do it um I'm
going to need that paperwork okay and um we'll submit it with your offer she she just simply was
like yeah this is how we're going to do it and so he did not submit the paperwork um when she asked
him to and I remember I was driving to work and I stopped at a quick trip on Upper Riverdale Road
in Riverdale Georgia and A
mber had called me it was it was in the morning she had called me um
and I believe with all my heart that Amber knew something was up but she also knew I did not
know what was up so she called me and she was like I just don't understand like if he has the
paperwork like you can send me the paperwork but the issue was the chase paperwork that I had was
from a year prior so my understanding was that it pretty much was no good at this point um so she
said he all he has to do is just email it t
o me or take a picture of she's like I just need to
know that he's able to back up his offer and I said I totally get it um and she was explaining
some stuff to me she was like you know he needs to do X Y and Z and so I said to her I remember
I said I don't know what's going on I said um I'm GNA get down to the bottom of it but I don't know
what's going on and so let's put a pause on this whole thing let's put a pause on looking at houses
let's put a pause on um getting his pre-approval let
ter because I'm not sure what's going on and
she got quiet and she said okay I said and I know this sounds weird she said no she said that is
actually very smart she said um do your research and if I can be of assistance call me she said
what oh my God they're like they're like [ __ ] secret agents about her own [ __ ] husband bro
this is CRA I bet I bet reals see this all the time this has got to be a universal experience
for lawyers and reals right this has got to be is anybody sell real
estate here this has got to
be very common right I hear from my realer like um friends of friends like my cousin was a realer
he said a lot of people show up to the houses who definitely cannot buy so what you really deal
with is a lot of people who are never actually wealthy enough to buy but I'm so surprised they
even get to this stage like hiring a real having them show how you know what I'm saying whether
you buy a house with him or you buy a house on your own I will be more than happy
to represent
you I don't know where Amber is today but that one sentence I felt like I felt like just woman
to woman she was basically telling me something a right yep something right and now you need
to open your eyes I'll be more than happy to work with you um if yall get your [ __ ] together
I'll work with both of you but whether you by or not do your research and then yes yes say she's
being more supportive than her fam damn and let me know what I can do that was our conversation
the q
uick trip went up Riverdale Road so I got off the phone um that was the last time that we
worked with any sort of realtor that was the last time that we looked at any sort of house um and I
don't know I don't remember exactly what happened after that meeting that day I do know that when I
went home I simply told him I don't want to look at house right now um I said I think it's okay we
rent um we'll just find a house in cop County and just rent um for a year and let and let's build
you know
save some money let's just um let's not worry about buying a house right now and basically
what I was trying to do was sa face because that was the first time with Amber that I actually was
embarrassed at the fact that we're wait we he and I because I felt like I was complicit in the
fact that I'm going to look at houses with him I felt like we are wasting these people's time I
did not mean to waste your time I clearly see my time as being wasted but that doesn't mean I need
to waste your
time and I felt embarrassed at the fact that we wasted her time um coming across as
serious buyers when time see see see see see see I felt embarrassed we wasted her time how do you
not feel embarrassed you know now this obviously comes from shame for the bubble or values guilt
so it's like his lack of that is the problem his willingness to tell lies and waste people's
time is what I'm paying attention to why are you comfortable wasting people's time I guess cuz
you waste yours every day bu
t like why are you comfortable with it I'm came to put up a shut
up nothing was put up and I knew nothing I had nothing to add to to to add to this because we're
talking about a $650,000 house and you know I'm I'm I don't make that I don't make anywhere near
that so it just became one of those situations where I was trying to stay face I was trying
to say face with my husband and I was trying to stay face with Amber and so I did say to him let's
just rent for another year and then let's see
um at that time where we are if we should go ahead
and buy so now is when [ __ ] is about to get real part 25 who the [ __ ] did I marry so we
weren't looking at houses anymore we were not working with a realtor anymore the end of April I
had decided that I wanted to look for another job I did the reason I want to look for another job
is petty yeah it is I want to look for another job because I was pissed off at the fact that um
I basically was dependent on him to help with the car note so
I wanted to look for another job where
I could afford life all by myself including that car note basically where I would make more money
I told him that I was going to start looking for another job he laughed and his exact words were
you're not going to leave GE to take control he was like I swear you love the [ __ ] more than you
love me he lefted so that filled me even more so I was hitting the pavement hard trying to find the
job I was applying all kinds of places got a phone call um fr
om my current job so this is how I ended
up in my current job got a phone phone call um and they had sent me an email with a background packet
the background packet was long and extensive but in the background packet it asked for my spouse's
full name my spouse's date of birth and my spouse's social security number so I showed it to
Legion and I was like I need your social because you know I'm applying for this job it's a great
job it's way more money um and you know we're talking about mov
ing anyway to cob County so this
you know this is a God thing he did not want to give me his social I exp I showed him a paperwork
where I was like look because we are married I I can't lie on here so help me um so he writes down
his social security number on back packet and um I eventually turned it in I scanned it saved it
in my email and and sent it in and I looked at it one day just going through it just making sure
I didn't really miss anything all te were cross all eyes were it and I
looked at his social and
something about the social seemed different than the social security number that I remember seeing
when we did our marriage license and so for those no who you remember in the previous part I said
I had ran his social security number from the marriage license nothing came back so I thought
that I had written down basically what it is is that the first three numbers were different on the
background packet than what was on the marriage license if you don't know this h
ere's a little
trivia you're supposed to hear to number the first three numbers pretty much dictated by the state
you were born and the state that issued your birth certificate so he was born in Pennsylvania so
his social the first three letters excuse me the first three numbers of his social security number
should be attributed to Pennsylvania Pennsylvania [ __ ] they probably got like five six different
numbers three digit numbers Social Security nwork can start with so the social that wa
s on the
marriage license for example um was probably 1 two3 what was on the background was 456 both of
those Social Security three-digit prefixes are issued through the Pennsyvania again this is an
example so I can make it clear so when I saw his social on my background I immedately knew that was
a different social than what I sawage license um and when I compared because I I had found a copy
of the marriage license that we turned in because I had filled it out on the computer so sure enou
gh
the first three numbers were different the rest of the numbers were the same so one of two things
either when I ran his background I did in fact put in the wrong number or the number on the mar
certificate or the um background packet is wrong so I decided that I was going to roll the dice
and take the social from the background packet again this is the background packet that I had to
fill out to get my current job I was trying to get a new job oh my God I'm terrified oh my God I'm
terri
fied for her I knew I knew when she ran that background check okay and it came up with nothing
I was like relieved for her but now knowing she has to run it again oh my God oh my God so I took
that social and I ran a background check on it what came back on this particular background were
was all the addresses that the social security number I guess have been um attached to so all of
the addresses the states were Georgia Rhode Island Pennsylvania what I did not see was California ah
so I th
ought that was weird I thought okay maybe this is not a complete background because clearly
he went to San Diego State it's on his resume it's on it's on quite a few things social media he
didn't have a LinkedIn but it was on his social media so clearly he had he had been to California
so maybe I just need to do a different background check also to note during this time he um I think
I told you guys he had hit his leg at work so what was happening was it was getting more and more
difficult
for him to walk like put pressure on that on that knee um he was still able to go to
work he was he was still leaving at 6:15 in the morning he was still coming back between 3:30 and
4: he was in he would elev the knee ice the knee it was it was getting worse and I was constantly
like go to the doctor let me take urg so can oh yeah wait is she even married then wait walk away
man that's a great question is she even married then cuz I will say like in order to get married
internationally dud
e we had to do the paperwork over and over again until everything matched
to a tea like everything had to be perfectly correct um any anything that was Miss say anything
that was not legible anything that was like so I wonder oh my gosh interesting interesting oh my
I mean it is called who the [ __ ] she you know am I married to so you know what I mean look at
this knee because you shouldn't still be limping and having a hard time um putting weight on
that knee and every single time he was
like oh you know it's it's fine I have a doctor's
appointment on Wednesday the doctor just told me to ice it and to elevate it um this this is
an old football injury it happens all the time it used to happen a lot when I was out in California
so I'm mentioning this KNE issue for a reason um but back to the background so once again when I
ran the background the second time with a second social it showed me states of Georgia Pennsylvania
and Rhode Island and that is all that's all that I saw
in terms of addresses I didn't see anything
for California so by this point we're moving into May of 2021 things are starting to reopen one of
the things that reopened was San Diego State so I called San Diego State I called reg office reg's
office someone did answer and there was there was um instructions on how to request a transcript um
I was able to try to request it online you needed the person's the student's name and I believe you
also need their social and when I typed it in it said
no results found um I believe that I sent
an email asking you know this person is saying that they were student there can you I literally
feel like she's in a serial killer story without him being a serial killer and she does like guys
this is how this is how this is what I'm saying how did you not leave like why is she acting like
he's just now someone she didn't even realize he was he has been a person who's been lying to you
the whole time like you don't if this was a serial killer movi
e she would have died 17 times she's
the white lady in the serial killer movie who's like I heard it sound in the basement I'm going
to go I'm going to go check it out like what is she doing like how many times does he have to
prove he's not who she married like and by the way peace and love to this woman I love her so
much she seems very genuine but genuinely this is this is how people get killed how do we know
he hello Teri the response I got was there were no records found with that Soci
al Security number
so I'm like okay I asked him about it and in part 26 I'll tell you exactly what his response was
Girl part 26 who the [ __ ] did I marry so I asked Legion what's the deal about San Diego State
he's like what are you talking about and I said um why is there no records of you there just came
right out and said it without missing a beat this man said well I was a private citizen what the
[ __ ] does that mean and what he said is that when he started at San Diego State his fa
ther paid
money so that okay it's important to say this with a straight face his his father paid money so that
his name and social would not be publicized and he would be considered a private student a private
citizen um he said that he had a card where all he had to do was show the card he does not have
to give his name he does not have to give any information because he had that card he said so
San Diego State would not public would not have any record of him but he was in fact a student
there I said any cling that you played football he like I did play football I said so you're saying
that the school did not publish your name anywhere and they were in violation of NCAA rules and he
was like why are you asking all these questions and I said I'm just curious I'm just curious
you're saying that you were a private citizen but yet how did you how were you in compliance
with NCAA if you were a private citizen and they did not publish your name on any roster so that
was his excu
se he was like all I can tell you is that I was a private citizen my Dad paid for
it okay so now I know that s can I be real with you do you think she watches True Crime
cuz I feel like she's either the kind of girl that watches True Crime and it's
actually like oh my God I'm hanging out with the crazy guy and so she's fascinated
wants to know more or is she genuinely like like un I she how did she sit through this
bro state has no record of him now I know that his Social Security releas th
e one that's on
my back my background packet only shows that he listed in only shows that he lived or maybe she
doesn't watch True Crime and that's why she's not afraid Georgia Rhode Island and Pennsylvania okay
so at this point oh mm says I feel like she needs the gratification of him coming clean that's her
mistake bro how do you not feel like unsafe bro the pain in his knee is getting worse it's getting
to the point where when he would come home from work he would take a shower and imate
ly get in bed
Elevate his knee he was he was not even eating um the way that he used to eat it was getting to the
point where at she's kind of fearless the car says she is a little Fearless which is but not in a
good way you know what I'm saying but not kind of like in a good way I think but also Maybe
not maybe maybe maybe I don't know I mean you don't want you don't want to you just want to have
like maybe she's not caution does she have caution something about her survivability prob like
I
wouldn't want to like be in a zombie apocalypse with her I feel like I don't know is she good at
surviving she doesn't feel good at surviving to me times um if you remember when I told you all about
the miscarriage they gave me pain meds because I had taken that pill but the pain meds I was
allergic to so I couldn't take them but I still had them so the pain in his KN was getting to the
point where he would take one of those pain meds just to get through the night he was constantly
in a
gony constantly kind of tossing and turning so much so that in May maybe she doesn't have
Intuition or maybe yeah she just doesn't listen to it she definitely has intuition she's not Fearless
she's naive yeah she's naive and she's naive and smart yes magic trip says she's kind of naive
and smart that's what it feels like I feel like she's smart but she's naive it's confusing which
to be fair like I said like all the guys I know the I only know a couple gosh I don't even I don't
think very m
any people are like this man but the other people I know who are similar to this man
is um the one of the women is college educ educ ated and like very like very smart but yeah she
like she fall but she falls for it see how this woman is like figuring it out the woman I know she
falls for it and goes like no one understands him but me and I was like no girl you just believe his
[ __ ] how you college educated and this naive bro isn't College supposed to like train you not to be
naive obviou
sly I'm being hyperbolic I know that's I know people end up naive after college but he
moved into the guest bedroom because I couldn't deal with tosing anything anything and he just
said he was more comfortable there so what what at first was a oh I hit my knee at work turned into
no it was old football injury this has happened before turned into you know it's painful for me
to walk on it turned into it's it's actually hard for me to work on it um but he was he was still
going to work at 6:
15 every morning and coming home between 3:30 and 4 so um it is again I'm just
giving you guys the chronological order of how all this happened so at this point we're not looking
at we're not looking for a house um I still have not seen the two savings account I'm pretty
sure there's no money in no savings accounts but again he was going to put in all cash offer
with Amber the realtor so I really didn't know what to believe but I believe what I saw which is
I saw that that background is not
showing where he went to California so at one point in May it was
close to miday he calls me from work he calls me from work calls me while I'm at work and tells
me that he got a phone call from his stepson the phone call from his stepson the stepson was
crying and was just absolutely distraught and I'm at work in my office like what's going on and
he says to me that the stepson informed him that his stepdaughter passed away that she died from
Co steps this is the story stepson found her i
n her apartment cuz they had not heard from her for
a couple of days fake and she was unresponsive he called the ambulance they pronounced her dead
when she got to the hospital so he was calling to tell me that she had died um and he was
also calling to ask me if I would object to him giving his ex-wife $2,000 towards the funeral
as I've stated before and I and I still am this way to this day I don't play about death so
when he told me that she died I immediately went into the all right I'm
sorry to hear that
um whatever we can do to help Let's help because girl girl three people dead from covid and
none of these proper funerals or like death certificates s Senpai says I mean at
this point she knows he's a liar and so she's just choosing to stay with a liar
I think that's her there's definitely that that's what I mean why would she
believe this why would she believe anything I is this just sheltered is this like naive sheltered what is this
what am I like what am I what is t
his you know is she staying because she's
addicted to the drama that's okay that's the one thing I want to hear from her why
is she staying I'm not actually hearing a motivation for staying right she hasn't said it
we are guessing we are making guesses but in 26 Parts she has explained what was her reasoning
I'm not hearing why like I know why I stayed in bad relationships with Liars I thought they would
change I thought they would get better I thought they needed therapy I literally though
t like the
part of them that was lying was just damage from childhood therapy or childhood because they had
bad childhoods right but like what is her reason like what is her reasoning for staying I still
haven't heard it surely nobody would make that up so what do you mean surely nobody would make
that up yeah but your husband isn't just anybody he's literally the surely nobody would
make up a story about someone's ex-boyfriend coming over to the house and yet here we
are he again he was l
ike are you are you okay with that he like we're married and the
agreement was that anything over $500 would be a discussion so 2,000 definitely and I said
yeah I said that's totally fine I'm fine with that um he was upset because hey no spoilers
in the chat guys if you give any spoilers I'll slap you don't tell me what you'll say at the
end don't tell me that that's a spoiler don't say what will happen if you guys have pre-at
don't and he was close with the kids and my heart went out to hi
s ex-wife it did because I
I can't even imagine I cannot even imagine so part 27 who the [ __ ] did I marry so here's where
we are at and here's what we can establish number one I ran an initial background check on the
social security number that was on our marriage license nothing came back I subsequently applied
for another job in that job I had to fill out of background guys being committed to a marriage is
not a reason enough she's not religious enough they don't go to church she hasn't
mentioned
enough of God like she keeps saying that but that's a lie she you know what I mean like you
guys keep saying it's because she wanted to be married and be a wife but like that's not enough
she doesn't seem like the Trope right she doesn't seem like the Trope you know what I mean like
she doesn't seem like that that doesn't seem like enough of a motivator to stick with this
I don't know she seems too reasonable but maybe not maybe that was enough for her it doesn't seem
like enoug
h you know what I mean and her religion doesn't seem that prominent she hasn't even
mentioned Church once she mentioned a pastor but like she hasn't even mentioned Church like
when I hear Catholics talk about church or Muslims are like I went to mosque every day I prayed I
went to church every day you know what I mean she doesn't want to be lonely oh my god get a hooker
packet the background packet ask for my spouse's name date of birth and his yeah yeah like what's
the real well what's the
reason she's saying and also what's the real reason but I mean if it's
the reason she's telling herself is really that she just wants to be a wife she doesn't something
doesn't I don't maybe H security number the social security number on the background packet for the
new job did not match the social security number that he gave me for our marriage license if you
are confused I believe it's in part 25 or part 26 that I explain it so we can establish that I then
ran a background check on th
e new social security number that was on my background packet it came
back with um address or excuse me states that that the social security number apparently had lived
in those states were okay so you guys think it's like her deeply rooted religious background
I could see that I could see it oh and the churches were shut down during covid you're right
my parents even did mass in their living room they had to watch Mass on TV and that's basically
how they went to church during Co okay you'r
e right okay okay okay maybe it's deeply rooted
religion is her reasoning now in her head and Co okay okay okay Pennsylvania Rhode Island okay
I decided this is now around May 20th I decided to do another background check um and I paid to do
another background check this time I did it with a different company and not only did it give me
the addresses excuse not only did it give me um the states it gave me addresses and it also gave
me names of people who were like associated with Legion and
that address one of those names was
his ex-wife I've always know he's he's always told me the name of the ex-wife but now I see
it when I ran his background I did a search for her social media she was not there so the address
that it showed that she was associated with with him because remember his story is we got married
in San Diego we lived in San Diego we divorced in San Diego men lie women lie the US federal
government Which social security number does not so um he's saying he was alw
ays in California his
social security number never showed that he was in California according to the background check
it did show that he had lived in Georgia at an address associated with the ex-wife so Ari says
it's a black woman I understand exactly what her Mo what her motivations were but I can't explain
it in the amount of characters I have in this text box okay I believe you I believe you tried to find
the ex-wife could not find her on social media so I looked in the Metro counties t
o protect her
identity this I am going to not divulge a lot on this part I looked in the Metro counties in the um
the open record courts so typically you know you can look in like Superior Court or maist court or
probate court so I looked in open records for the different counties Metro counties Metro Atlanta
counties let me be clear Metro Atlanta counties and I looked under her name and I found where
they had filed for divorce in a Metro Atlanta County so when he said that he filed for div
orce
in San Diego and that he was married in San Diego I was able to find no according to the state of
Georgia you were married here you were divorced here so I looked under her name found a record
found a record for divorce and it did show his name so now I clearly see on my computer that
there is a metro metro Atlanta County Court oo that's a good tactic some truth and some lies
that's another part of the tactic of this kind of NY liar is they tell a lot a lot of the truth
and a lot a lo
t of the lies so that way when you go and they just like twist it so if you're like
hey you said you to school in San Diego and then they Twisted oh hey you said you got married here
and then they they change it they like twist the ooh so he did get married he did get divorced oh
but you said it was in Cali well I mean I said I was married it's you know what I'm saying that has
a divorce record in the state of Georgia between him and his ex-wife so I did what any rational
person would do be
cause this is still kind of Co time um well not really it had nothing to
with Co let me take that back because of the parameters of the Court you can only do the open
record was in person I did what anybody would do I told my boss I had to go I grabb my purse grabb
my keys and I drove to the court to do the open request in person the open record request was for
the divorce documents go back in the story in the series and remember I went over I did a background
on the ex-wife I told you all
exactly what was told to me he met her in California he married
her in California he divorced her in California because she cheated on him he follow for divorce
she tried to get spousal support it turn it was going to be a little ugly he was helping her with
the kids that was the story that was told to me so went to the court filled out the paperwork got
the open record request for the divorce decree for the divorce records damn first thing I see
he didn't file she did second thing I see th
ey didn't make it more than six months of course I
the date of marriage I see the date of the date of uh dissolution course six months second uh
third thing I see he was served in metro Atlanta which means that at the time of the divorce he
was living in metro Atlanta and California was never mentioned fourth thing I see he filed what
is called a po poer affidavit if you don't know what that is I'm going to do my best to explain
it real quick basically he filed an affidavit with the court s
aying that he is so poor he could
not afford the fees to pay for a divorce he could afford I am a filing fee he couldn't afford a service
fee that is what a poer affidavit is for all of this is in um the divorce documents she get
filed she said it was irreconcilable differences she was not requesting any money whatsoever um
and both of them has signed a pop affidavit he was served in Georgia at his previous employment
according to the divorce documents he was served at like a grocery store
that is what was listed
as his employer and it had a date of when he was served so I see all of this in one day I also
see where on the divorce documents she listed her name her address and her phone number oh
girl so I did what any rational person would do yes ma'am I wrote down the phone number yes
you did there was a 50-50 chance that the number was already disconnected she could be like me I'm
one of those people Hy you can sneeze at a 27 Dee angle I change my number so quick you Ain ev
en
know hit you you can talk to me at 5:00 and at 5:5 my numberb has been changed so she could have
been like me and the number is not even active or she could be like some people I know who have
kept their numers since kindergarten either way I wrote the number down I um left the court and I
immediately went back to work and the same friend who helped me when I had my miscarriage I told
her I was like I got this phone number this is the ex-wife she was like girl you better call you
better
call and and find out from her cuz can't no I think she said to me can't nobody tell you what
is going on quite like the ex-wife girl so part 28 is the phone call that I had with the ex-wife oh
my God oh my [ __ ] God oh my God we have 3 hours left girls we have 3 hours and 25 minutes left
of this beautiful beautiful beautiful story oh my god oh my god let's take a little bit of a
break give me like five or so minutes honestly girls I think I'm going to go make me some coffee
I think that
might be a mistake but also I think I'm going to do it I just feel like I need some
coffee for this okay I need like 5 minutes okay I make coffee quick but damn I need some [ __ ]
caffeine girl okay I need some [ __ ] caffeine I'm eating past midnight girl [ __ ] this diet
ruined I'm ruining my diet for this I don't even believe in a diet but I'm ruining I'm ruining my
rule of not eating past midnight okay I'm doing it I'm doing it I'm dedicated [ __ ] bro I'll
be right back Jesus cheese an
d crackers [Music] [Music] in [Music] [Laughter] [Music] [Applause] [Music] I [Music] [Music] [Applause] [Music] [Music] [Music] [Music] [Music] all right guys I'm back sorry if I just scared
the [ __ ] out of you I'm back okay I'm going to go straight into it we've got like 3 hours left
but it's on times two so let's try to get out of here as soon as possible I'll try not to monologue
too much I asked my husband permission I said can I pretty please stay up and stream a little bit
longer I
felt bad I'm ditching him but you know what we figured it out it's going to be fine he's
got [ __ ] to do so now we can get comfy I've got yogurt I've got coffee I've got water let's
[ __ ] go okay probably to be 28 of who the [ __ ] did I marry so I got the phone number went
back to work um my really good friend was like you better call her you can use my phone but call her
so I called um she answered and the convers went like this speak with Bara this is barar barara
thisle who this is Sh
irley Jones I am the wife of Legion silence then she starts laughing and
she said to me and I quote if you were calling me then I know it's B I chuckle and I said to
her I'm not trying to bother you I'm not trying to disrupt your life I I said I'm literally coming
to you on some woman's woman [ __ ] I said because you were probably the only person who can help
she and she she listen she was she was gracious and she said um she said what is it that you need
to know or what is it that you wan
t to know and I said I understand that you and my husband talk and
communicate um and she was Sheely said what no we don't and I said okay um she said one thing you
need to about Legion she said whatever he tells you it is a lie and she said when he again let's
go back to part one I told you guys that when he introduced himself or when we met we actually had
matched on two different sites and he was under two different names one was was like the actual
birth name the other one was a nicknam
e variation of that name that's the name I know him by so for
example if his name was Matthew he had a profile under Matthew and then he had a profile under Matt
I would have known him as Matt so she said to me she was like I don't even know who Matt is she was
like that's not even his name and so I knew what his actual government name is she was like no one
calls him mad she was like that must be his new um his new personality or she she was cracking a joke
but she was like anything he tel
ls you you need to know is a lie so I just asked her I said what was
your experience I said because I can tell you the story he told me and she she stopped me right
there she said whatever he told you was a lie o she said let me guess he told you I cheated on
him let me guess he told you that I wanted money from him and I said yeah and she said yeah that's
a complete lie um so we had a conversation where she told me how they met um they didn't meet
online or anything I said well were you gu
ys ever in California she said no she's like she's
like that man ain't never been from past the East Coast so I said okay um so you guys have always
been in Georgia and she said yeah she's like we got married in Georgia we got divorced in Georgia
and that's when she asked me how did you even get my number she said because I want nothing to do
with him so how did you get my number I told and I said I'm going tell you the truth it Ain going to
make me look good I told her I said this is this
is what happened and this is what led to me doing
research and this is how I got your number and she laughed she was like wow she said she was like
normally I would be freaked out she said under the circumstances she was like wow okay um she
said yeah if you're calling me then it must have gotten pretty bad she said so what he promise you
and we talked for about 30 35 minutes she asked me in that phone call she said look I want nothing
to do with him I have not spoken to him since our divor
ce was finalized she said so I would
just appreciate if you keep me out of whatever's going on with yall and I told her I said I give
you my word I will never tell him I spoke to you I said I give you my word I said this this this
conversation is for me it is not for me to use I mean we know now though you know now sort of legal
litigation nothing this is for me and um I said I said I don't plan to call you again I don't plan
to be a disrupt by the way I do think people like him are incredi
bly sick and damaged and they need
to be um kind of seen in a way with like lots of compassion and also beheld to to accountability
but I do think it like I really do think this is mental health I just think like a well-adjusted
person doesn't do these things and I know we like to write off like Psychopaths as just like people
who make choices but like that's a mental illness like that's mental health right like um like like
things you know you can hold people accountable and it can still b
e mental health you know so I
would just like to say out loud that I I think like if it was up to me people like this would be
sort of like understood as sick and then we would sort of not date them but you know some women out
there is going to be like I can fix him I can fix him A disruption in your life I just needed to
know how bad is it and she was she paused and she said it's bad she said I don't know what all y'all
got going on she said if it's anything like what it was for me it's ba
d so we talked a little bit
more she was very encouraging she was like girl do not blame yourself she said um I went through
that and I had blamed myself she was like this is not on us this is on him um she was like he is
a master liar a master manipulator she said I ignore the red flags so she was like do not feel
as though this is on you you we talked about um the ex there's an exgirlfriend that shares the
name that shares the same name as his aunt she and I talked about her she said um t
he reason why
they broke up because the ex-girlfriend I didn't know this the ex-girlfriend had reached out to her
about six months before he met me whoa and so yeah I would definitely say March said de mental health
but I'm not sure what we're supposed to do I think we're not supposed to become monsters monsterous
humans like I think our our reflexes say we hate them they should die and I hope they get hurt but
I think we should be compassionate meaning like imagine if that was your life an
d that was your
brain and I know you look at people who are sick and you're like they could do different maybe and
that's the thing right so again what should we do as a society just not become as cruel as maybe you
like think you want to be I think that's always what I'm going to recommend for people is like
don't sink down to that level use introspection be wise to the best best of your ability and like
have compassion and figure out what to do as a society maybe just warn people maybe ge
t them
into a facility maybe have family take care of them maybe they end up homeless who knows I think
a big part of people like this do end up homeless right because people don't want to take care of
them um and it's difficult to work with them so just remember that right it's just sad you know
ex-girlfriend lives in um lived in Douglasville on legion's driver's license he had a Georgia
driver's license with the Douglasville address what he told me was that it was the address that
his si
ster because remember I told you his sister Shante lives in Douglasville she's a nurse married
with two kids so he told me that the address on his license it was his driver's license was
to shant's house the ex-wife is telling me no that's the address for the girlfriend the
ex-girlfriend he had moved in with her and he created this whole narrative with her she found
out um that he was lying and she kicked him out and so I guess after she kicked him out she then
um reached out to the ex-wife
kind of the way I did for confirmation and so the ex-wife was just
telling me whatever that man has told you it is a lie she said I got out before it got too bad
um she said because once I knew he was lying I was out she was like because he's never going to
change um and so again conversation went on and on until finally we were getting ready to get
off the phone and before we got off the phone I said to her I said everything is a lie I said I
have one question for you and she said sure mh
m I said how is your daughter oh daughter I said how
girl she said how is your daughter your daughter next part coming up girl there ain't no daughter
part 29 who the [ __ ] did I marry so I asked her how was your daughter she said my daughter's fine
oh and I said okay oh there is a daughter oh my God I thought there was going to be no daughter
there is a daughter she's just not dead so what did he say about my daughter and I will be honest
with y'all I didn't have the heart to tell her so
what I said instead was oh no you know everything
with Co I think he mentioned that she might have um she might have had Co or was exposed to it I
downplayed it b i why did she lie why do people lie I didn't have the heart to tell her that a
man she hates who's already chronic liar so I'm going to lie instead why do people lie to Safe
feelings why do they do that though my friend Steph McCrae and I just did a live stream and
he said he does believe in like reasonable lying like moral lying
like I don't I forgot what
he called it but yeah I just don't wa why did why did she just do that what a weird humans
are going to human I love us we're beautiful I wasn't going to tell that woman that he said
her daughter passed away um so she I said you know obviously I'm glad to hear that kids are
fine she she said look whether you stay with him or not is your choice she said he ain't
going to change he ain't going to change at all um she said this this is what he does she
said you're n
ot the first you're not going to be the last she said he did it to me she was very
very encouraging CU she was just like do not blame yourself she said you know and by the way do you
know why my instinct isn't to say put this man's name on a billboard and make sure like Mark him
with an x on his forehead and it's because men will tell you who they are and you still won't
listen if YouTubers can literally tell their [ __ ] if sneo can literally tell you he's going
to cheat on you Destiny can
literally say he's going to cheat on you and you guys still date
him what does it matter if this guy has an ex on his forehead you're still going to date him it
doesn't even matter humans will tell you exactly Charles Manson had women in love with him like
at the end of the day like it doesn't matter and I love like that's why I say humans are going
to human we're all just like beautiful animals on a planet just doing all this crazy [ __ ]
this man even if you marked him with the next on h
is forehead doesn't even matter that's why
I say you can't do that you can't pick on this man like he's different and what's worse this man
who's obviously like crazily insane or successful YouTubers also playing girls up front and behind
their backs like what's I don't even know what's worse that's why when people are like I'm really
smart I'm really intelligent I was like so why why can't you keep in your pants Justin Waller
I can't do it it's my biology I have to [ __ ] girls okay we bot
h ignored red flags um but it is
not your fault she said this is on him and so we you know once again I thanked her for her time
got off the phone I took a long way home that night um I could not be around him I could not be
around him I had to figure something out I had I had to figure some things out so I just I took
a long way home what does that mean it means I purposely I probably could have taken oh 75 to 285
but I probably took 20 to 75 to 285 to 675 kind of like I just took the long
way home um a couple of
days later because I really my mind was spinning a couple of days later at this point I'm turning
into the FBI CIA and Homeland Security allinone literally I'm I'm trying to find everything um
and he's carrying on his business as usual nothing changed with him he had no idea that I had spoken
to the ex-wife he had no idea I had gone to court and saw his divorce um documents he had no idea
so a couple of days later I decided to look up his mother's obituary look up t
he mother's obituary
and and um down at the bottom where it talks about oh she's preceded in death by and it list all
the people the family members that died before and then it says leaving behind to cherish her
memory it lists the husband his dad her husband excuse me let me start over it l her husband which
is legion's Dad it l legion's brother that lives in Philly and his wife because again this is
20 she passed away in 2015 so it l Legion the brother in Philly and his wife and daughter
her
granddaughter it l Legion and his wife I think it was like LaToya or L something L something
um it did not list the ex-wife I just spoke to and it clearly said Legion his wife Latoya then
it listed the brother in Nashville his wife Jane or whatever so I'm thinking to myself there's two
things I was thinking immedately number one um who is Latoya never heard that name before never heard
that name before so I was thinking who Latoya and then number two where the Two Sisters shant and
Kim
shant lives in Douglasville married with two kids Kim lives in Augusta and I believe you told
me she worked at like Proctor and Gamble okay L car says I don't think it makes a difference
if she told the ex the truth about what he said about the daughter better to spare her feelings
I Believe In White Lies the only difference it makes is that now it makes her a liar they're
having a moment she's asking this woman who she has no business bothering can you please help
me and in return she lie
s to her and spare her feelings you don't know this woman she asked the
question how do you know it's sparing her feelings what he said your daughter died from Co what the
[ __ ] are you guys that much a [ __ ] you can't [ __ ] handle a lie from a man she already had
to deal with she already had to deal with him you think she can't hear another lie he told like
What feelings is she going to get hurt she's just going to get Vindicated that she left an [ __ ]
you're you're first of all you're
treating her you're infantilizing this woman and now the only
thing that matters is now this woman is no better off cuz she's a liar all she did like that's what
I'm saying I don't understand how people be out here lying and then they're like oh I'm not a liar
I mean that's what a liar is as someone who lies right like I don't understand why we all playing
a game like I don't understand like okay okay it's fine it's fine you guys you keep doing that so why
aren't they listed on here becaus
e apparently go back to the video I posted it on there I gave you
background on the family he apparently was one of five through both parents brother in Philly
older brother younger brother in Nashville a older sister in Douglasville and a baby sister
in Augusta so why is it on his mother's obituary there's only three three children Nam where we
two sisters so I'm even more like what in the hell is going on and then I started thinking
to myself where why wouldn't they list Shante like they
talk all the time so I know that they're
close because he talks to Shante all the time so I really was confused again keep in mind I'm trying
to give insight into how I was thinking May of uh excuse me may of 2021 because I still still didn't
find out a lot of stuff at that time I found out enough to figure out okay it's not a question of
if he's lying that that that was over it's not a question of if he's lying the question now is
becoming what else is he lying about so we have a phone cal
l with the ex-wife now I see an obituary
that apparently there's another wife I know on our marriage certificate it only states he had
a one previous marriage I had zero he had one so this is how I'm thinking in my head which is okay
okay what am what am I missing here I know we've established that he's lying but who who the [ __ ]
is Latoya like I'm really trying to understand who is Latoya um he's hobbling around the house
limping and I'm I'm in our bed well in the bedroom oh my God no th
at ex-wife wouldn't be lying right
that would be crazy oh I'm I'm going conspiracy brain now just I mean I could not get on Google
fast enough to try to figure some stuff out so um see the mom's obituary study it and at this point
I'm now trying to figure out okay what's the game plan what is the game plan leave and that's
where we about to get into the next part oh my God okay Part 30 lart thinks the ex might still
be in on it bro what if there is an ex-wife but it's not that no but the ex
-wife was named on the
paperwork see I'm so confused I just got to let her talk did I'm Mar so I'm going to use this as
a clarification video so we're going to use part three as a stop let's clarify some things I've
done that before on a previous set of videos I think it's just important to do that so that way I
can try to address some of the things that I have seen in the comments um both supportive and just
downright mean but let me clarify some Stu number one it is important to remember
that I am telling
this entire story of how I met dated married and divorced My pathologically Lying ex-husband I
am going in chronological order of events so what that means is that ma'am sir whoever you are
if you were coming in at Part 30 but you have not seen part 11 some stuff is not going to make sense
I know I know I know it is a long playlist um and don't worry about watching the video as soon as it
comes out because everything I'm trying to do this um responsibly of telling the stor
y in the order
of which things happen so I say that to say please if you if you're able to start at the introduction
disclaimer video start with part one and then just watch each video because a lot of the questions
people are having that I'm seeing in the comments and I say disrespectfully it's just because you
did not go to the other videos and watch them in order that's just the first thing I want to say
um it is important that I get this story out but that it's done like I said responsi
bly to me
responsibly is being honest even if it makes me look bad but then also trying to be clear and
not ramble all over the place so I'm trying to take the time to tell you this is what happened
at this time this is what happened at that time that's why there's so many parts and we're not
even to the part of the divorce yet we're almost there but we're not there yet second thing I want
to clarify I cannot stress this enough my family and my friends did not know what was going on
betwee
n and I they did not know my family only knew we've met this guy he's dating our daughter
our nie our cousin our grandaughter he seems to be a really nice guy he seems to really love her
um from what he has told us he's done well for himself he played football um and he has worked
at this company six seven years and financially he is in a good place from what we understand he
just moved here from California that is what they knew okay they did not know about the red flags I
had they did not
know what was going on in my head they did not know what was going on in my heart
because I did not want to look stupid I'm fully aware that when I tell this story I look stupid
I'm aware and I made with that but at the time I did not want to look stupid so it was important
to me to put on a everything's great we're really happy we're looking for a house and everything's
going well knowing full well that behind scenes I couldn't figure out why he wasn't Pro funds
they did not know so I say
that to say I see the comments about how my aunt gave me horrible
advice when I called her yeah about the sex thing on Facebook and I want to clarify something she
did not tell me to stay with him she did not tell me to leave him that's not her place and that's
not what she would do she simply was in shocked that any of this had happened and did not know
what to give me advice on the one thing that she did say was look he's not your boyfriend meaning
it ain't as simple as oh we just GNA br
eak up pack your [ __ ] and go okay you married him ma is the
most ride or die chick I've ever met you [ __ ] with me you [ __ ] with her and she is straight
Jersey so I said I love her for it but I need it to it's not fair for me to leave it out there as
if oh she just was like I mean go home and deal with it no never in a million years so I just want
I want to clarify that also want to clarify about my mom so my mom Liv in Arkansa and when she came
to visit in April this is we were alread
y married this is her first time physically meeting Legion
my mom will tell you she had no idea anything was a Miss but there was something that knacked her a
little bit she didn't know what it was and my mom is the type where she's going to get on her knees
prayer that's who she is so for her it was like I don't know what it is he seems like a nice guy he
seems to love my daughter um there again there was no arguing in the house the house was peaceful
while she was here even though behind
the scenes we had just came off of the whole sexting incident
with other women so for her it was like I don't know what it is she did tell me later on that it
seemed as if I wasn't as happy as she thought I would have been but again she took it to the Lord
in prayer and her prayer was God protect my child I don't know what's going on but protect her that
was my mom's response so she did not know she did not pick up um or overhear something that was
going on while she was while she was here
she had candid conversation with Legion and Legion
kind of came across as I miss my mom he missed his own mother and so he called my mom mom and um
doed on her again putting on a charade and so for her it was like you know bless his heart that's
said bless his heart that's interesting no oh that's interesting yeah huh um but no she she did
not know the specifics nobody knew the specifics they didn't know the specifics until we're talking
May June of 2021 they knew that we were looking for a
house they knew that the house fell through
they did not know about the proof of funds they did not know that he wouldn't show me the savings
account the offshore account I swear to God if you guys put any [ __ ] spoilers in the chat we are in
the past okay we're in the past no spoilers okay maybe even write it's a guess because sometimes
you guys write a comment in the chat I'm like it feels like a spoiler but I'm not sure if you're
just guessing but I swear to God we're not in the future
yet I have no clue what's happening on the
internet I have done no research on this story I do not know what's happening on the internet I
do not know any I am literally going in blind and I would like to stay blind thank you so
I just want to say that because to me it'll be irresponsible to not clarify what family and
friends knew um because these people have always been supportive of me always had my back I just
simply did not share with them the things that I felt like were again my min
dset of the time was I
want to be married and what if he isn't lying and you know I was making excuses for him to myself
so I definitely would have make excuses to family another thing I need to clarify and I saw the
comments on this about how a VP would never date someone that look like me and to the person that
wrote it that wasn't very nice um I need to I need you all to understand the relationship started in
March of 2020 he had came he came into my life as regional manager okay that is
how he came into
my life then eventually he got promoted to VP of production or operation VP of something that
was later on in the relationship he showed me the paperwork where it it was basically a memo from HR
you know you've now your new position title will be VP of production we'll just say production
your salary I don't remember the exact amount because it was a very specific amount but it was
over $200,000 it listed some of the benefits that he would have um he would have an office h
e would
be getting an executive assistant that's where we get David from if you don't know who David is
please go back watch the series in order he'll be getting an executive assistant he'll be getting
use of a company helicopter he will be getting a company car that is where we're introduced to
the fact that he was starting to shop for a company car that could not be more than $990,000
that's what he told me I didn't see this in the memo amount of the car but that's what he told
me so tha
t's where you get the car shopping for the range R for the Jaguar the um uh the the BMW
he even test drove a Mercedes uh GLE I believe so I'm just trying to again bring some clarity to
this so that way we all can understand what's going on and hopefully this just makes a lot more
sense for everyone all right part 31 let's [ __ ] go let's [ __ ] go part 31 who the [ __ ] did I
marry so I found his mother's obituary online it then told me um it listed it listed his brother in
Philly and his w
ife it listed Legion and then it said his wife I took name from the obituary and I
did a Metro Atlanta Court search with that name I found a divorce record I found a divorce record
with Legion and the same woman's name that was in the obituary um in that divorce record it looks
like he's the one that fell for divorce this would have been around 2016 this was after the mother's
death he f for divorce she was the respondent I think that's the correct um terminology both had
a temporary protec
tion order against each other he had one against her she had one against him the
divorce ended up getting um granted finalized then it looks like he went on his way in the course of
the search for her name I discovered that at one point in time time the two of them had lived in
rhod island so that's the connection with Rhode Island for the long time I figure out what who
lived inh Island um that's where that came from the two of them he and this woman lived in Rhode
Island um several years
prior or a few years prior okay um I could not find the obituary for his
dad um I searched and I searched I could not find the obituary for his father for whatever reason I
just and I knew the I knew his grandmother's name I just randomly decided to do a Google search
of a grandmother's name oh my God initially nothing came up because I was looking for the
grandmother's name in Philly nothing came up I for the grandmother's name down here in Georgia found
um a record but it was not um it wa
sn't quite clear what was clear was that she had died several
years prior so what I found was um a different website where it was like a like a legacy.com type
thing so I believe legacy.com holds old obituaries to search for her name found a match that is when
I discovered that she actually had passed away in July of 2008 read the yo how you how you fake
killing your grandma off multiple times bro read the caption of the obituary and verified that
in fact it was his grandmother she because
at the bottom of it again obituaries tell you A lot
it names um who who she Le to sh her memory so it lists all the different family members it lists
the brother in Philly it lists Legion no spouse and then a brother in Nashville once again it did
not list the two sisters shant and Kim so I'm even more like okay clearly um something you know is is
up when it comes to Shante and Kim but what I do know is that he has um talked to them multiple
times in front of me so I'm not sure what I'm mis
sing maybe some Happ I honestly I don't know so
that is how I discovered that when he told me the grandmother died from Co and he was crying boohoo
and all that [ __ ] she actually had died in July 2008 I found this out the same time that I found
out about allegedly and I say allegedly because I'll explain allegedly the first um wife or at
least what I think is the first wife so while all this is going on Legion is almost bedd from
what happened with his knee and I need to take a moment to
address this issue with the knee again
the story started he hit his knee then it turned into um it was an old football injury and this
has happened before he's going to the doctor the doctor's telling him to ice it and to elevate
it he eventually moves into the guest vetom to be more comfortable I'm going to make this statement
this is probably the only time I'll make the statement he was not lying about the injury that
he had I don't know where the injury came from but what I do know was h
e was not lying in the fact
that he was in pain you could clearly see that he was in pain and the pain was becoming debilitating
please understand what I'm saying the pain was debilitating enough to where he was taking my pain
meds from when I had um the miscarriage and then also it was hard for him to walk he was not eating
so this is what made me believe this whatever was going on with the KN there was more to it because
he was not eating when I met this man he was a size 3x at this point
in time in May he's down
to a 2X he is not exercising he's doing anything mobile he's simply not eating there definitely was
something going on something concerning honestly I thought it might have been cancer damn but he
kept saying I was not that it's from a football injury it's from a football injury I said to him
the next time you have a doctor appointment I want to go it was that bad um and he kept making
excuses like okay fine I'll make the appointment I'll let you know what it is co
ol I will take off
work I want to be at that doctor's appointment because whatever is going on with you is serious
to the point where you were losing weight rapidly within a two week span so now we can go ahead and
enter into June um when we enter into June I have verified red the divorce documents for not one
wife but two wives I have called San Diego State verifi they have no record of him he claims
he was a private citizen I don't believe that they're saying there's no record of him I ha
ve
pulled his background it is showing that you've lived in Pennsylania Rhode Island and Georgia when
I look at the addresses it is tied to at least two women both of whom I'm showing divorce records on
file that you had um I've also verified that your grandmother actually died in 2008 and not in 2020
from Co I know all of this as I'm going into June his birthday is June 17th so all I've been doing
is just trying to figure out what is it what is it I'm going to do I spoke to the pastor and
his
wife I believe it was actually the pastor I spoke to because I knew the pastor um previously
before he did our counseling and I told him what I found mind blown mind blown had no idea he
knew something was up he knew that Legion was not really trying to make this marriage work he had no
idea all this was going on so he asked me are you wanting to stay or do you want to end the marriage
I said absolutely I'm ending it oh hell yeah I'm ending it I I I have to I have to end it um I have
n
o idea who that man is in my guest bedroom not to mention on top of all of this he had lied about
the death of the XY daughter part 32 Girl Part 32 who the [ __ ] did I marry all right so we're
now in June by this point in June um I have been offered a new job accepted it put in my twoe
notice at my previous job aming and was going to be starting this the new job later on in the
month so when he left where I told him I wanted to get a new job that laughter fueled me to get a
new job so here
's what happened the beginning of June he's at this point he's completely veteran
when I say completely veteran what I mean is um I'm trying to clarify this so it makes sense from
what I see he is going to work but he's calling out a lot more okay so he had already left the
condiment company and was working for Apple oh so he's calling out quite a bit because the pain
is pretty bad so he's hardly eating at this point hardly for example if I were to say oh I ordered
a 10 piece Wings he's eat
ing two and that's it that's all I would see him eat I was going to work
and coming home the house was in the exact same um place that it was when I left nothing in the
kitchen had been moved nothing in the refrigerator had been moved which led me to believe that he
had not left the bed from the time I left to go to work until the time I came home at this point
in time he's drinking power AIDS like it's water I mean I'm buying cases of power AIDS um and that
seemed to be the only thing that
he was taking in so if he was a 3X when I met him he's probably at
a 1x maybe a 2X depending on the clothes he's lost a lot of weight because he's not eating so that's
the reason he wasn't faking whatever was going on I think the knee the issue with his knee was a
symptom that was not some football injury that was not um oh I hit it at work it wasn't that
something else was going on I kept asking him to you know let me know when you have a doctor
appointment I'm Artis maybe and um he just
kept saying the doctor to he's calling the doctor and
the doctor told him to just keep icing the but I knew better what was happening was I didn't care
because all I was finding out so beginning of June what did what did she say he
better I'm gonna go with you and um he just kept saying the doctor till
he's calling the doctor and the doctor so beginning of June he is in a bed
um sleep and I get his phone no no no what did she say did she just say I don't
care what was happening was I didn'
t care okay good okay finally girl I have waited 4 hours and 15 minutes to finally
hear this woman say I don't care okay I feel relieved finally let's go not
that that's good but I needed her to say finally that something is wrong not that we want her to be
heartless but something is wrong okay all stuff I was finding out so beginning June he is in a bed
um sleep and I get his phone I ain't gonna lie I got his phone he had a work phone and he had um
a personal phone it was the work phone th
at he had from the condom company that apparently was
never turned in follow me it all come out so he still had a work phone it was deactivated but
he did not wipe the phone if y'all know what I mean take all the DAT off he did not do that so I
look through the phone and I see this would have been text messages text messages between him and
a woman named Peaches I go back to the beginning of the text messages this is on the work phone
this is the beginning of June of 2021 I go back to the t
ext messages on me the beginning of the
text messages between him and peaches yes that was her name peaches I'm reading the thread
because he's knocked out sleep so I'm in the bathroom with the door lock reading the thread
and what I can tell is that he met Peaches on PF if you don't know what PF is it is plenty of fish
a dating website he met peaches this would I saw the messages in June so he met peaches around Fe
um met peaches from PF and apparently peaches um was you know was a nice wa
y to say apparently
he just was was a prostitute so the reason why I say that is because in the text messages she's
listing the prices oh so he asked for a hand job this is in the text messages she told him it would
be like $40 he asked how much would it be for oral she said um it would be 60 um because it was 1680
one was the price with a condom one was the price without one so no messages after that she sent a
picture he sent a picture no messages after that so in other words these messag
es were not back
toback every single day there's breaks in between the messages so like a message was in March the
next message is in April a message in April next message is like two weeks later so um um he's
asking her the prices next message I see would have been from a few weeks prior to the date of
this so this was the beginning of June this the message is from sometime beginning of May where he
is thanking her and says to her you know thank you so much that was really great I hope I c
an see
you again then there's messages where she said hey basically she was at she was at a new spot she
must have moved so he said okay I'm come through I'm come see you he's asking her to confirm the
address he was like is at the house with a brown trash can with a white car in the front she says
yes so I'm thinking he was actually in front of the house when he's texting these messages then
again he does whatever he does and he sends her a message a few hours later saying thank you that
was great I'm reading all this um and I will tell you guys something that you may or may not
understand some women may or may not understand it the cheating didn't even pH me didn't even faing
I didn't cry I didn't um I did not feel like what did I do wrong I was relieved the reason why I was
relieved is because up until this point I kind of struggled a little bit on whether or not God you
know I know I know Lord you hate divorce but I I just I can't say with a God that lies so when I
saw t
he cheating stuff I was like oh shoot thank you Jesus okay because I know my Father in Heaven
G forget the fact that I'm divorcing for Infidel go ahead yep okay this makes a lot more sense like
I guess yeah I guess religiously oh I guess like lying maybe isn't a reason for divorce though I
think I would argue that it's emotional abuse and then okay the infidelity Okay girl okay it's fine
I Jesus will forgive me um so I was I was I was relieved to be honest be like okay and they're
not like
pretty sexually active right they're like having a problem with their intimacy which
is probably good cuz I you know then she doesn't have to worry about STI or anything but man I
got grounds now [ __ ] um that's how I felt so m M for the messages to my phone um or EXC me I
took I had to take my phone because the phone was deated so I kind had do a little ghetto hold the
phone up take my phone and take pictures of what I see on the phone um so that I would have proof
on my phone then I put
the phone back and do you think he has an STD I mean he could have one oh
that'd be so sad I mean either way this man is a chronic liar and like an emotional abuser but like
also I'm going to say I'm assuming he's severely mentally ill and I don't know how much of this
he's doing on purpose like do you get what I'm saying like again the if it's an NPD it's a mental
illness guys like it's a personality disorder not mental illness it's a personality disorder if
he has chronic lying like he do
esn't he doesn't it's not like he's like a bad guy who's like I'm
gonna do this and then I'm GNA do this and then I'm gonna I mean people hardly ever do right like
truthfully that's the thing is like I can't tell if he even knows that he's making himself sick
or if he knows that he's like [ __ ] himself over and that's the problem or he's just a malicious
person with bad planning skills I'm not sure H they say that like low functioning Psychopaths
do end up in prison much more often like li
ke they end up in prison because they're dumb not
because they're you know not because the cops are smart and catch them you type thing it's
like you know it's like that conversation is like could they have been anyone different or is
there something serious like if we studied his brain you know what I mean contined on now in the
next part is the day that he gets kicked out and I will tell yall what happened Girl part 33 who the
[ __ ] did I marry yeah definitely doesn't excuse him right we
're not making an excuse we're
just saying some humans are this way but the way to help them this is why I don't believe in
punishment like you can't punish these humans what are you going to do spank him what are you going
to do cut off his leg like what are you going to do to somebody like this like punishing him just
makes you a shitty person you have to like think about Society in this way which is why some part
of the population will always be homeless which is why some part of the pop
ulation will always
be like you don't know what to do with it it's why some part of the population will always be
like confusing whether they have autism or P or or um NPD or nothing they're neurotypical some
part of the population will be like this guy some people will be this type of person what do you do
with them you don't sink down to their level okay that's that's first June 17th 2021 so you guys
have been on this ride you now know exactly what information I did have the morning of Ju
ne 17th
which was his birthday um he was in the bed as usual power a bottles all over the place because
I wasn't in the mood to clean um and so I went in his room he was awake he was watching YouTube
on his cell phone oh he watched a lot of you watching um these two guys that always were fixing
Jeeps on YouTube um and if I saw them I would know exactly they are I can't remember their name it's
a popular show on YouTube anyway so I go in there and I just cly sit on the edge of the bed and I
was like can we talk he was like yeah what's up I said to him I said Legion call his name legion
I said I'm G ask you something I just want you to be honest with me so he starts I can already see
in his eyes he's about to get defensive I was like calm because this is the tone I had calm I said
um you never went to San Diego State did you he rolls his eyes and he's like I already I said calm
down watch your tone I said you never went to San Diego State said you never lived in California
did
you he said of course I lived in California he's like I [ __ ] showed you the house I had
in California he said I told you about San dieo State I was a private citizen my Dad paid for
me to be a private citizen and I said man what if this man just has like schizophrenia or like
some actual mental illness what if if he needs medication you know what I mean like okay said
I called San Diego State and he looked at me his eyes were like empty like he wasn't if you want to
be honest I think the
se people should be evaluated by the right professionals and they should be
put in a facility but the Dilemma is that he is an agent like an independent agent he's like an
independent citizen you can't just be arresting citizens and throwing them in prison so like did
he commit a crime enough to be if he committed a crime that's one thing but if we're going to
do something about him we should do everything something about [ __ ] boys too I mean it if we do
something about this guy then I th
ink we should do something about [ __ ] boy and [ __ ] boy should
wear a Scarlet Letter I'm just kidding you know what I mean like that's the problem is like has he
actually done anything to break the law cuz cuz if he hasn't then he's just a liar and if we're going
to throw all the Liars in prison you and your mom going first [ __ ] shocked he wasn't like oh my
God he was just more like KO you're such a stop KO you keep spoiling stop spoiling and putting
you in timeout you're in timeout th
at's a spoiler don't tell us what happens in the future don't
tell us what his family did don't tell me he has a family I don't even want to know that he knows
these videos exist shut up be quiet sh okay I said they have no record of you let me enjoy this in
real time I said they have no record because you never went you never been to California so at
this point I'm very calm and I'm just stting I said you never been in California I said I bet
you only lived in Georgia Pennsylania and rhod
Island at this point now there's there's a little
emotion behind the eyes and I said I don't think that this is going to work and he said what the
marriage he was like so what you saying you you don't want to be married to me anymore and I said
I don't want to be married to you anymore I said we need to go our separate ways we tried isn't
forging documents against the law oh good point what could be the what could be the consequence
of that that's a good point but we need to go our separate
ways the way that I'm talking to
you all is exactly how I was talking to him um and so he was like that's not what marriage is
marriage is you know you you have to fight for what you want said I don't want this and I don't
want to fight for it said I don't want you and I don't want this and so he was like I'm not giving
up on the two said you don't have a choice I said I think that you should call your brother or your
sister now and I think that you need p a bag and I think you need to get
the [ __ ] out my house and
he was like you know I don't really have time for this you know feel I said I don't care you need
to get out of my house again the way I know are going to be like she's so dramatic and in I am
actually a very dramatic person but the way that I'm talking to you guys on this video is exactly
how I was talking to him in the beginning of how so I said you need to call your brother um or
call your sister if she she's in Douglasville and you need to go stay there you
need to get out
this house today basically what happened was um at first he refused he wasn't moving fast enough for
me um and so he called his aunt and his aunt was on speaker phone let me pref that she was on speak
phone and so she was like you know what's going on and he was like my wife don't want me no more she
she claimed I'll be lying to her I a't never lied to her when I heard this what's the analogy I can
give y'all when I heard him say to his aunt i't never lied to her before some
thing in me snapped
the best analogy I can give you do y'all remember that movie Carri yeah she was at prom and everyone
was laughing at her um the blood had had fallen down on her and there was a moment where her eyes
just went wild and you knew something was about to happen you just didn't know what but y'all had
pushed her too far when he said to his aunt I never lied to her I snapped o the calmness left
the amount of Rage that was in me I could have fought every member of the Kansas Cit
y Chiefs and
beat every last I believe AAR every member on ATA Falcons and beat every last one of their asses
I'm not a violent person but I was I was I was there that statement I never lied to her took me
there I went off I I went off I went off so bad that I first of all every part of me was shaking
I called my mom my mom was on speaker phone and she's in Arkansas my mom's a Praying Woman I was
cussing like a sailor my Mom finally said um you know put him on the phone so I gave him the ph
one
and I'm standing there and I'm looking around the room is is the scene that I remember is the
Angela bass scene and Waiting to Exhale her eyes are darting around the room right before she
grabs everything to put it in the car to set it on fire I was more so looking at what weapons were in
the room the lamp the TV the dresser I was I was looking I mean I while she was talking to him my
eyes were guarding around the room because if he did not get his ass up and get his [ __ ] and get
up
out of my house um it it was it was going to be bad if I have never in my life been on Tik Tok
and said thank it had it not been for the blood y'all I I I know this going to sound dramatic I
know this is going to sound like girl you you so funny you don't understand had it not been for
the Lord on my side had it not been for the fact that I know I got a Praying Mother I know I had a
Praying Aunt I know I had a Praying grandmother in heaven because I'm telling you I clearly saw what
was gett
ing ready to happen had he not gotten up got his [ __ ] and got out of my house ma'am so
I'm trying to calmly say this because I'm trying to calmly tell this story because the rage had
taken over me the pure unadulterated rage that I felt when he said to his aunt I never lied to
her after I had discovered only 2% of the lies at that point just 2% so it was enough for me to be
like you need to get yourself and go so my mother gets on the phone and she says to him you know
Legion she called h
im my name um she said I am not there to control my daughter she said in
the name of Jesus get your stuff and get out that house because I think she might kill you get
out of the house she's on my phone his aunt is on his phone his aunt said nephew come home home for
her was Philly she said I'll send you money come home leave that house right now she said because
I think that that woman is about to kill you let's go let's just go to part 34 let's all just take
a deep breath ma'am ma'am part
34 who the [ __ ] did I marry so the aunt told him I'll send you
come home I'm yelling in the backgr by the way I'm standing there C I'm yelling I said he got
Mone yeah you got money got money in all right you got money in that Chase account you got money
to drive so do what you got to do I told him and I'm not going to repeat some stuff I said because
my mom see this Tik Tok but um I did tell him I was like if you don't get out of this house you
actually what I said was you have two optio
ns you going leave this house voluntarily or you going to
leave this house involuntarily and he tried to he tried to get a little n If You Buck he tried and
that's when he CU he was still on the bed still laying in the bed he was just like you ain't
gonna do [ __ ] like don't talk to me like you don't lost your [ __ ] mind and I calmly got close
to him I got like this close and I literally said I will beat you like the [ __ ] you are I dare
you to try me I said I will literally beat you lik
e the male [ __ ] you are and so when I said
that his eyes were like playing because at this point I'm I'm rocking like back and forth yo I'm
a little turned on bro I'm a little she's [ __ ] hot bro yo the way she leaned into that camera
she's sexy as [ __ ] right now this is what I was waiting for girl this is what I was wait see she's
so much prettier when she threatens people's lives you know again I'm not some Harden tip chick I'm
not I want this soft lifestyle soft lifestyle with a mea
n hand girl she could spank me any day girl
just kidding I'm married but like the point so I'm rocking I'm walking back I'm pacing so finally his
aunt was able to get through to him I had called my my mother my aunt I had called the pastor I
had called all these people because I did know that I was in a very dangerous place not because
I'm scared of him at this point I was scared of me I don't know this has ever happened to someone
where you know your own you know yourself you know that you
got a line I was over that line so
I had enough wherewithal to be like okay okay you probably going to go to you're probably going go
to jail um you're probably going to have that job in the morning like I I was there and again this
is not to sound bragging at all this was this was a woman who I I could not believe that even with
the the attempt of me trying to give him one last opportunity to tell me the truth he's still lied
in my face I was at my Edge so I pul I yanked the covers back a
nd um I told him I was like get up
you know get the fu out my house again I'm saying it calmly on here it was nothing calm in the house
when this happened so I'm throwing stuff throwing stuff up against the wall um I remember I looked
at the lamp he looked he looked at me looking at the lamp and I think that's I think something
in him realized okay yeah I'm in pain but if I don't get up something that l so he does get up
he is still on the phone with the aunt because the aunt was pretty muc
h like keep me on the phone she
did not want him to hang up he throws some stuff together again keep in mind he has all his stuff
in the house so he basically so he does get up he is still on the phone with the aunt because the
aunt was pretty much like keep me on the phone she did not want him to hang up he throws some stuff
together again keep in mind he has all his stuff in the house so he basically packed like two bags
worth of clothes um and he's living around and I'm standing in the h
allway watching him like a
probation officer so he's living around um and I'm looking at the condition of the bedro this is when
I noticed Legion had been semi bedridden remember I told you that because the knee and other stuff I
look at these bottles of Power Aid because he have been drinking Power Aid so much at this point
he was not getting up to go to the bathroom he was drinking the Power Aid and then using the
empty bottles to pee in so there you know not as uncommon for guys as you w
ould think six bottles
around theed and I was like what is this because again I hadn't really been going in that room I
was busy being CI FBI and Homeland Security for the past two weeks so I was like what is this he
was like I'm G throw it out he grab the trash back put the bottles in there and I said what are in
those bottles I said tell me and I think I start like twitching like tell me that does not piss
in those bottles he was like I couldn't make it to the bathroom I was in too much p
ain so at this
point I'm even more like yeah get the [ __ ] out get out um get out of my house so I helped him
while he was packing his bags I went downstairs I took the house key off of his keys um I went
back upstairs he had his two bags I grabbed the two bags yes I did I grabbed the two bags I had
open up the I had already po the TR for his car andw the bags in the car I did that because I was
like you get out this house you get out this house today you can't come back you can't come bac
k ever
so I he it took him about about two hours um from the time of I will beat you like the [ __ ] you
are for him to actually leave the house again I'm calm telling you this story it was not calm in
the house so he eventually puts on some sweatpants now I can I can really see how much weight he's
lost but he puts on some sweatpants he puts on his shirt he's limping down she's like you really
going to kick me out on my birthday I just looked at him I just looked at him open the door he we
nt
through the garage got into his car called you know his aunt was still on the phone and she was
like I'm going send you some money and and that's the part I was like clearly he has the money like
you a got to send money he doesn't even have to go to Philly he can just go get a hotel for I don't
care what he does he just got leave his house so he ends up getting in the car driving off my
mom calls and she's just like you know is he still there I said no um I had not told her damn
what al
l he had lied about even in the midst of me being angry and me going off I never told him
that I spoke to the ex-wife I never told him I knew he was lying about the stepdaughter because
he would have asked you know what make you say that um so I did keep my word I never told I never
told him I spoke to her so he eventually left I text a friend of mine I text my landlord I said I
have an emergency I need to know if it is okay to get the locks changed landlord was like that's
fine um my landl
ord was super cool shout out to Mr Patel um I went to Home Depot bought brand
new locks text my text A friend of mine asked him when you get off work can you please come by
my house I need the locks change today so he was like okay what's going on said I'll explain it
later so to give you a timeline of June 17th when I asked him about San Diego State and I told him
that I know you've never even been to California that was about 8:30 9:00 in the morning okay by
the time he left the house it
was maybe going on noon 1 o' okay so this happened pretty quickly
um if you're if you're wondering why did you even ask him it I I already knew that I wanted out I
knew that sure but for some reason a part of me was like let's just see if he'll be honest just
one last time and he wasn't and it sent me into a rage and then he lied to his aunt saying I Ain
never lied to her and that sent me over the edge um so by 1:00 by 1:30 he was gone by 2:30 um I had
done a pretty good job of cleaning up
I get it I get it I get it I do I do as somebody who dated
a chronic liar who like tried everything there was one thing he said to me that made me finally
snap block him and I never contact Ed him again but it took so many lies and so many times for
me to realize like oh my God you're never going to change it doesn't matter how much like help
we get like you're never going to change and I remember I was like at my bestie's house and I
blocked him and I looked at her and I was like okay I'm
really done yeah this my friends have
seen me get go through so many bad relationships like not a lot but like enough you know where they
were like oh my God finally and like I swear to God that was the best day of my life that was the
day I gave myself permission to like stop living for someone's potential and it was the I to this
day beautiful dude November 2019 or like September 2019 really but like you know around that time
yeah 2019 was a great year I just started my whole brand new li
fe in 2019 end of 2019 my whole
life changed yeah September F moved to Arizona to live with my brother changed my life M beautiful
and now I live in Croatia with the love of my life the bedroom he had thrown away the power
eight bottles um so I didn't have to touch those I stripped the sheets anything that he touched
in that bedroom I stri the sheets threw them in the trash B threw them out in the trash can and
so most of this was adrenaline adrenaline switch because I hate packing I hate d
oing all that stuff
I went on Amazon I ordered oversized large tote bags because I was packing up all this [ __ ] Girl
Let's Go part 35 who the [ __ ] did I marry so I packed up all his stuff okay the reason why I
packed up all his stuff is because so I had a three bedroom two and a half bath home one room
was the guest room obviously there was a master bedro and then we had a TV room that he had made
like his Philadelphia Eagles man cave I was going to put everything that belonged to him p
ack it up
and put it in the TV room because the plan should have been that he's G to come back and get all his
stuff okay so that's why I did it um and honestly just felt good to back up his stuff and and go
through it freely because when he packed in a hurry he left obviously really important things
he left all his Invicta watches he left all his WWE championship belts if you know anything about
WWE championship belts you know those things are expensive he left all his Jordans he left um
suits he left uh Coan shoes he left all that because he it was such a hurry for him to leave
so all that was still in my house um so around 2:30 I think I wasn't even at a place where I
could start crying I was just too angry still shaking packing everything up packing everything
up one of the things that he left um is a photo album with all the pictures of his mom and dad and
his siblings growing up now I had the thought of I was going to have a burn party and I was gonna
put it on Faceboo
k live I was gonna burn it with my friends and drink and dance and play music no
but um it's his deceased parents I do heart so I put that somewhere special meaning I put it up in
the closet um he had told me that he was going to come back and get his and so I just did not I
throw anything out unless it was like something I knew was trash other than that I put everything
up and kept it you know in the TV room so that's June 17th also on June 17th I had see she's a good
person a super bad pe
rson would have burned that album that's a good person she knew better she had
the feeling which is valid but she didn't do the action she's a good person it wasn't her stuff to
destroy okay already ordered his birthday cake I had ordered the birthday cake by the end of May
because it was like a special birthday cake the birthday cake from the bakery in East Point um and
I took it to my family's house and we ate it yes I had left the house um went to my family's house
filled them in my aunt
my little cousin and my grandfather because my mom was in Arkansas so I
went over to their house filled them in on what was going on they could not believe it although
my grandfather then told me he said he a look like he was a football player he was like I didn't
want to say nothing but he a look like he was a football player Gotta Love grandparents um so
we ate his birthday went back home um the friend that I had called came changed all the locks
Chang I changed security codes um effecti
vely he would not have been able to get an N house so
that what happened on June 17th so now we can fast forward he he would text me and he would call me
that he got to Philly apparently he drove through he left Georgia and immediately went to Philly
so he immedately went to Philly um and he did text me and said that he made it to Philly and he
was saying his aunt's house I know that this is a short part that's okay because what we're doing
now is I went through how we met I went through ho
w we dated I went through how we got married um
now I'm taking you all to June 17th the week after June 17th he's in Philly he still would call me he
still would um text me the conversations we were having the week after June 17 so this would be
June 18th up to the conversations we were having had to do with divorce so who's going to file
he like I don't want divorce I'm fight you it are you girl really really are you going to fight
me on the divorce um I didn't know anything about filing f
or a divorce so but I refused to stay in
a place of ignorance so I um went online there's a website that you can go to where you pay like a
$200 $239 fee and you fill out basic information and you choose your state you choose your state
and they will um process not process but they will make all your documents all you got do
is print it out to cour and it is stepbystep directions we didn't have any property with each
other we didn't have kids with each other so by the state of Georgia stand
ards this should be
an uncontested divorce so the conversation that last week the week of June 18th to 24th was about
divorce what stuff do you want to keep well I'm G come and get all my stuff I just don't understand
why you couldn't talk to me about it there's no room for talking because you've been lying to me
since day one um but even still keep in mind as of June 17th June 18th June 19th I did not know
what I know now so the lies are really only like 5% of the whole story so June 24th
or 25th is when
I had print my documents and I'm laughing because at this point in time I've read y comments about
how that man will print out stuff I know but um I used the website typed all my stuff in got my
documents and then I went um I took they all from the job because I was getting ready to transition
into the new job so I left work early went to the courthouse and fought for divorce I filed I paid
um and then I already had the documents where he would have needed to sign so that um
it could then
be entered into for a divorce settlement agreement so going into part 36 or 35 I know there's so many
parts next part if she had had that kid with this man she never would have been free she never would
have been free that's what I'm saying sometimes if you believe in the Lord I don't but she does the
Lord Works a mysterious ways you know what I'm saying is where I can tell you guys what happened
with him because he drove to Philly and he was in Philly for about a week maybe
three to four days
then I get a message on Facebook Messenger from a woman claiming to be his cousin Lord Jesus so
the cousin tells me actually I can tell y'all so the cousin tells me that he's there he's telling
the family that I kicked him out he's telling the family that I kicked him out after he walked in
on me having an affair that I stole his money and I then kicked him out and the man I was having an
affair with he said was a law enforcement officer who used his duty weapon to threat
en him to get
out the house this his family and the cousin was reaching out to me she found she found me get
this man psychiatric care through a search on Facebook and was reaching out to me because she's
like we know he lies so I'm just trying to figure out what like is this true because he's up here
asking us for money asking to stay on our couches like what's what's going on then she explained
to me we didn't even know he got married so this is the first time we're hearing about you what
do you mean you didn't know he got married he talked to his brother every day oh she said who
told you that I said I've heard him talk to his brother every day schizophrenia did schizophrenia
schizophrenia Habibi is he hearing voices I'm this man needs mental health care he needs mental
health facility care his brothers she said all his brothers how many brothers do you think he
has I said he has four brothers I named them she said he has two brothers she got she said he
has the twin and
he has older brother I said twin who was the twin welcome to the next part
we discover the real family tree girl girl what about family photos there's a photo album has
she never looked through the photo album first thing my in-laws did is invite me into their home
and give me all of my partner's photos from his childhood which I thought was so cute we have
them on our little we have like a little stand and I have my photo albums from a kid and his and
like you know what I mean interesting
interesting I'm serious this is mental health hearing voices
making up characters pathological liar maybe NPD with schizophrenia maybe it's a double whammy the
[ __ ] did I marry the Family Trade please fasten your seat belts and put the trade tables in the
ight position let's go all right the cousin I'm not going to name her the cousin had reached out
to me on Facebook asked me to please give her a call so this conversation was on the phone yes
I was actually speaking to her she informs me
again about the whole he's up there he's telling
everyone that he walked in on me cheating on him it was with a law enforcement officer and that the
law enforcement officer um used his duty weapon to threaten him to get him out of the house the
reason why I'm particularly mentioning the fact that he said it was law enforcement is because he
was trying to get a family member like one of his cousins to call the agency of the law enforcement
officer and file a complaint which in hopes would t
hen start an internal affairs investigation oh
my God yeah so female cousins on the phone with me she's telling me everything that he is telling
them she's like look we know he liar we don't [ __ ] with him he's been a liar since a kid but
he's also family she said we didn't know at all who you are so I thought that that was interesting
because I was like you didn't know who I was but his brother knew who I was and so again that's
when I said to her that um I was like I talk you know he's t
alk to his brother every day why would
the brother tell yall that he had got married and so she said what brother and so I told her the
brother's name and she said he told you that I said he was having the phone calls in front of me
so at this point with the cousin said what she was like okay I'm going confirm that with him she was
like he Liv up the street so I'm just confirm that with him she was like cuz I'm pretty sure they
that they have been beefing for a while I was like I can only t
ell you what I saw what I heard
that's that's all I can say so then when she asked me about how many brothers do you think he has and
I said he has four brothers again I listed all of them this woman was like he has two brothers she
said he has a twin and she and he has the older brother the one that he was on the phone with
every morning blah blah blah blah blah I said twin who's the twin so this is where she explained
to me she said the parents David Scott Mom and Dad have the older broth
er the um older brother is
about five or six years older than Legion Legion and the younger brother who lives in Nashville
they are twins okay so when he kept saying the younger brother my younger brother by two years
it's his older brother by 20 minutes they are twins I have seen a picture of this brother yes
they do very much look like but they I didn't know they were twin matter but definitely they
had the same mom and dad so she was like no that he's older he's older than Legion by 20 m
inutes
they're twins she said so the parents had three boys brother in Philly older brother and the twins
she was like who the hell are these sisters that you talking about so I tell her I was like Shante
and Kim she said I don't know who shant is she said Kim is my daughter Kim is not his sister is
my daughter and she said that's his cousin she was like and they haven't spoken in about 20 years oh
so no that's not his sister he does not have any sisters and I said well then what about the
other
two brothers she was like what other two brothers I said the brothers from his dad she was like you
me to tell me this man is going around telling people I know somebody's qu nck I know your dad M
but try not to um she said you need to tell this man is walking around lying on his dad saying his
dad had kids outside of his mom and I like she's like he does she said I have no idea who those
are the reason I think he's mentally ill more than narcissism is cu though narcissism and again
I'm not a therapist can cause you to a absolutely lie and retell stories and misconstrue facts you
don't usually misconstrue facts so outside of reality that they don't match up with something
and since he misconstrued reality so outside of of the story it makes me think more more like
schizophrenic or Mania or something more related to um something where he's like hallucinating or
maybe seeing something because again I've dealt with people and I've read books on narcissism
it's I mean I do
n't know I'm not a therapist I don't [ __ ] know right I feel like Dr Konda
should review this whole series and give his thoughts I would watch that but again when I'm
thinking about it I'm thinking well what would make him tell stories but with too many there's
like again the fact that like there are people who don't exist that he made up and the fact you know
what I mean it doesn't like a narcissist would say I have a twin but then would tell a different
story you know what I mean Rock sa
ys to be honest the story is 100% consistent with the people I've
known with NPD I feel like it's almost consistent I don't do you know anyone with diagnosed NPD or
people you think are NPD cuz the only people that I think I know who have NPD it this is too skits
skitso to me oh it could just be skitso like this doesn't feel like NPD alone and again I could be
wrong cuz I've never gotten a formal diagnosis for the people diagnosing formally NPD is really
really difficult um but I do think l
ike the people in my life who I think have NPD I think when I
look at them their lies are never outside the bounds of like sort of it's it's definitely not in
reality but it's not like this it's not like lying about having a twin right it's usually something
else um but if you're a imagining things if you're like hearing voices if you're seeing people who
don't really exist and you're like you know what I mean there could be something like that maybe or
just could be very compulsive yeah ma
ybe it's just very compulsive I would love a therapist to review
this maybe we should send it we should send it to do we should tell Dr Konda in his comments would
you review this cuz man those are not his brothers but if y'all remember I've met those two and he
introduced them as you know okay Alex says my mom is NPD and my brother's schizophrenic and this is
more like my mom okay I could see it I I do think 95% of the experience is very on par with the
people that I think are NPD the only
difference is I don't know why he's going outside of the Realms
of like but I guess that would make sense yeah NPD is probably more likely okay I agree I agree
I agree man this this my brother John this my brother mat you know type thing and so they both
were like oh my sister oh yeah she said she heard the brother on the phone so how would that link
to schizophrenia good point I was thinking about the times that there wasn't anyone on the phone
but that's a good point I was thinking he wa
s hearing voices but no I think you're right okay
okay to meet you good to meet you remember that because obviously I do eventually talk to those
two men again so she says to me the family tree is Mom and Dad the three sons she was like there
are no sisters she said I don't have a clue who Shante is she said K is my daughter that's just
their cousin but name SP in 20 years I said okay and then there was a grandmother she said yeah she
named a grandmother she was like yeah she died in like8
I said yeah he told me that she died in 2020
and that you know all of you were coming down for the memorial service and she's just like she died
in 2008 I said then there was the uncle who also died from Co she was like which uncle that I told
her the name she said he's been dead since like [ __ ] 2010 damn I said okay what about a cousin
nicknamed Junebug everybody got if you're not africaner we all know Junebug somewhere um and she
just was like oh yeah you you know cousin Junebug she's l
ike man that's that's crazy what happened
to him and I was like what what do you mean what happened to him because I know he has talked to
his cousin Junebug on the phone like few you know a few months prior he was like and so she said
she said yeah he had passed away in like 2016 oh so this is now three people that she's naming
that I recall him having either a story about or a phone call with and she's telling me that they
all passed away so this is when the conversation kind of changes a
nd she's like you know what she
said let me speak to the older brother um because he probably wants to talk to you she's like you
probably should talk to him and a lot of your answers a lot of your questions will get answered
she was like this dude's been lying ever since he was a kid she was like she said very common
that's also the trait I see in the people that I think are NPD one of them in particular have has
always been that way since he was a kid causing trouble telling lies and spec
ifically like very
like negative and Debbie Downer but also very charismatic and everyone really liked him and
I wonder about that and again he's not formally diagnosed because it's really hard to diagnose NPD
but I've I've seen messages like from therapists who have dealt with him and they have a hard time
like working with him so I don't know if he he I think he was probably born with that brain in the
same way that I think that this guy is probably born that way especially if it's been f
rom since
childhood that's why I have a lot of compassion and love for for the person in my life that
I'm pretty sure is probably NPD is because like they've been that way since they were a kid and I
just think that that means they've been sick since they were born and that's really sad you know
and I wish there was a better way to help them but it's really hard to get close to people like
this because they won't let you you know so it's it's devastatingly sad to watch your child not
be ab
le to recover in a way that you don't even understand especially in a world or like people
don't believe in mental health or NPD being real or any of this stuff like yeah seen children like
I worked with children professionally guys you're it would be amazing what you what babies like
people be born ways and people you know can learn to deal with it but that's why it's kind of
amazing to see narcissists who like acknowledge it and actually work because there's a lot of really
high functioni
ng narcissists so this would be if he's NPD he's very like low functioning right or
midf functioning but they're are very successful narcissists in the world so it's like very it's
very interesting but they're deeply insecure and they have like a deep anguish about their own
existence internally inside them deep inside of them there is like a they're being tortured bro
you know it's so interesting again I've only read a few books myself I only know that because
I like I said I was researchi
ng it because uh I have somebody in my life and their family was
really like it was just like a l it's a lot it's a lot anyways literally we don't [ __ ] with him
I remember her saying that she was so adamant she was like and when he showed up here out the blue
talking about how his wife cheated on him with a law enforcement officer and the guy took his gun
out and threatened him to leave the house she was like we knew something was up she I had to find
out who you were and reach out to you
and find out the truth I said there was no other guy there was
no law enforcement officer and she was like he was telling us where the dude worked and how we should
go ahead and file like help him file a complaint so that this dude could lose his job I said there
is no other person I said I KCK him out that was me all by myself no gun just my fist um and so she
said you know he he's telling us that he had got married and then she was like apparently y had
a baby so she was like you got kid
with him so I had to explained to her I said no I said I had
a miscarriage back in July or excuse me back in June of 2020 and I had to have surgery in July so
she was just like girl so she started like really being encouraging and was saying you dodged a
bullet honey she was like I don't wish this she's like I know he my family I don't wish him on no
woman oo that's o That's a good person that's a good person that's values over loyalty right there
that's a good person I know he's my family
but I wouldn't wish him on anyone that's a good person
so we we had each other's number she was like if you need anything please feel free to call me she
was like I've had my own issues with him I've had my own issues in life but she was like get your
divorce and be done with him then she said I'm going to put you in contact with the older brother
next part is me finally talking to the older brother that he had been talking to every morning
damn bro part 37 who the [ __ ] did I marry so at
this point in time I have filed for divorce um I
paid for the filing fee I'm representing myself Pro and it should be an uncontested divorce during
this time legion had driven to Philly lied to his family and said I had cheated on him um that
he caught me and that the guy I cheated on him with was a law enforcement officer who used his
gun to threaten him to get out the house none of that was true at some point while he was in Philly
he ran out of options in terms of where he could stay fa
mily members did not want him to stay with
them um apparently a lot of bridges were burned according to the female cousin I had talked
to him on the phone yep so he left Philly yep left Philly and went to that's why they usually
find a codependent person who can take care of them mostly partners and mostly people that will
get swallowed in their Loop and that's why they do that because people eventually can't handle it
it's so much emotional labor to deal with somebody who's suffering in th
is way because it's so
exhausting it is the most exhausting thing in the whole world and so that's that's why they usually
choose Roman Partners um because if they're lucky enough the Romantic partner will take care of them
forever austa yes what you were hearing is correct he drove from Georgia to Philly stayed in Philly
for about three four days left Philly drove back to Georgia went to Augusta keep in mind if you
have lost your notes at this point he was raised in Philly and did High Sch
ool in Augusta before he
went to California so he has family in Augusta so at this point he's on his way to Augusta to stay
with a new set of people the reason why this is important is because what I have is a divorce
settlement agreement that divorce settlement agreement has to be signed by the two of us
where we are basically telling the court look this is what he's keeping this is what I'm keeping
I need his signature let me repeat that I need his signature because I wanted a very quick
and that's
why they baby trap you by the way as well it is why they baby trap you yeah they baby trap you
and that's how they stay in your life forever I'm dead serious and painless divorce as much as it
could be so by this time this is now around June 25th so around June 25th he's now in Augusta he
left the house June so between June 17th and June 24th is the trip to Philly then leaving Philly
coming to Augusta yeah I wouldn't be surprised um two of you are saying that narcissism is often
form from Early Childhood trauma that would make sense for the person that I know they do have
Early Childhood trauma and I do think that it contributed yeah I do without a doubt their trauma
would have impacted them regardless of narcissism being the result but I I they would have had some
trauma they had definitely had an early childhood trauma um so I'm not surprised um my aunt and
my little cousin get in the car with me and I drive to austa with a with a rag on my head some
sweatpants
and the tank top this July so it's hot um but we ride to austa I had spoken to him I had
said you know I just need you to sign this piece of paper and he was like I'll get to it when I get
to it no no no we're going to get to it as quickly as possible so that means I got drive to Augusta
tomorrow morning at 7 o00 I'm going to do that because I need that signature I a telling this
this was my attitude sure enough went ahead drove down there I met him at the UPS Store in Augusta
it's in the s
ame Koger shopping center they had a notary there because I needed the papers to be
notorized nice so he pulls up it's only been a week since I last saw him has been months since my
aunt saw him okay she had no okay great question punk rock blot twist what if she's making this
all up and she's the pathological liar I came into this not sure if she was the liar but to be
honest with you I get total genuine vibes from her and I'm on her side I don't know I usually like
maybe I'm just being to
o good faith but she seems really genuine and she's telling the story exactly
like too relatable of a victim in the circumstance so I kind of vibe with her I'm team this girl I
don't even know if she has a name but I'm team this girl girl no idea of the condition that he
was in again I'm telling y'all when I met him when he met my family he was like a size 3x in just a
short span of time for a week he easily could have been in an extra large yeah yeah I I'm sorry if I
misspoke earlier and I
said they're born this way I didn't mean born as a narcissist because it's
a personality disorder which often gets formed in early childhood like my borderline so I just want
to make that really clear out loud cuz when I was thinking about born that way I was thinking more
like something internal um but yes I think that um if it's narcissism specifically it would make
sense that it's a personality disorder that's formed but they say personality dis personality
disorders could be also genet
ic which means you could be born with a predisposition that gets
triggered the way my therapist explained my borderline is that some people think there's
like a trigger sitting in your brain that gets hit in childhood trauma and then like enacts
sort of that predisposition but I don't know cuz I'm not a therapist you know what I mean but
I think that's an interesting idea which is why I I think if I think about the person I think who
has NPD if I look at their other family members being rai
sed in similar environments they're the
only ones who ended up in this particular cycle and the only thing you know what's funny I'll tell
you this you know how therapists often diagnose npds with borderline the NPD who I think is NPD
did the therapists think they have borderline but I was like but it displays more like NPD now
they could have a severe case of borderl line cuz both are abandonment problems right the Dilemma is
that in my mind the reason I think it's more NPD is because no m
atter which therapy they get they
don't get better and I think a big part of that is the NPD because a most borderlines who get therapy
recover very quickly and in significant ways so I think the reason I think it's NPD but they
diagnose them as possible borderline is because that's what they do they call it borderline
two they or borderline one borderline two they diagnose npds is borderline because the npds won't
handle the NPD diagnosis so basically they lie so they can get a diagnosis t
o like Fain getting help
and so I think that's my theory with the person that I know and I think that that makes a lot of
sense because they're not receptive to the therapy versus most people contrary to popular belief who
have borderline do get better so that's my theory that's my that's why I think like oh yeah that's
interesting maybe even a large but was wearing 3x clothes so he has told me this whole time he
didn't know I had spoken to his family okay right need to put that in here he
did not know I had
spoken to his cousin so he was telling me that he had a place to stay he was staying with some
family members um everything was cool he told me he was going back to Augusta because he had a
job that's what he told me the family member the cousin told me oh no it's not that he had a job we
kicked his ass out because he's still lying and we don't want we don't want anything to do with him
so when I saw him get out the car I immediately knew you probably have not wased in th
ree days I'm
not overreacting his nails had not been cut so his nails were a bit long he smelled like the chattahi
dump on a hot summer geord day he stunk so bad um and for a moment I did not recognize man I that
I was legally married to I did not recognize him um he almost no no no punk rock I'm behind
on the video but the reason I said maybe she's the narcissist is because she put the ex-wife on
blast when she said she wouldn't but she didn't she said she didn't put her on blast at all sh
e
said she wouldn't tell the ex-husband that she spoke to her which she didn't I think you misheard
that part she didn't say she wouldn't put her on blast which she didn't she said she wouldn't
tell the husband that she spoke to her which by the way she might even end up doing that and
that would still be within reason right I don't think she's a narcissist at all no this woman
seems really genuine to me personally what's the word manate if I may saying I may mispronouncing
it but the way
someone looks when they've lost so much weight it's almost like your skin and bones
he looks obv homeless he I think I think okay punk rock you're saying if you think Legion didn't see
this you're crazy she said she want drag her into the drama I don't think people think of it that
way I don't think her telling this story in the internet is in her head is dragging the wife into
drama because that's not how I would look at it either if my parents were like don't drag me into
drama me telling
a story about them wouldn't be dragging them into drama to me I think it's just
like the view of it maybe right but like Legion yeah now knows the wife talked but I don't think
that's how she thought about it you know what I mean um because if normal people think it's okay
to white lie they're not going to think this is dragging somebody it just is doesn't make sense
homeless um and my my heart just kind of broke it kind of did I'll be honest it kind of broke
um it did not break enough for
me to not get that signature though so when he walked into the
UPS Store you clearly could see that some of the people were like you know let me let me get away
from him me I just was like okay so I just need you to sign right here punk rock says it doesn't
matter what anyone thinks but Legion yeah why I don't understand your point what do you mean and
I just need you to sign right there okay and then a woman named Lauren came over and notorized the
papers um and then we were done because
he signed a divorce agreement he didn't even read it he
didn't even read it reason why I'm poting that out is because he didn't read the part where was left
in the house now belongs to me oh where he took technically what he was going to take everything
else in that home belongs to me remember I told y'all he had left all his invict watches he had
left all his WWE championship belts his Jordans his a lot of his clothes his c ha he had left
all that stuff he never even read the divorce agree
ment so well give him something or like give
him nothing I guess why do you want to keep it you know he signed it I signed it Lauren notorized
it we leave the store and I said have you eaten he was like yeah um I ate it's just you know my
knee so again he's talking about the but if you saw him you would know there's way more to it than
the me so I said to him look since you met me here let me give you some money so you can get you some
chicken nuggets yeah that's what I said you can get you
some chicken nuggets so I believe I gave
him like five or6 go get you some I think I zeld it to him actually just go get you some some food
then we because where he parked was not far it was like okay I'm parked here he's parked in front of
me in the other row so there's that aisle that you can drive down um so I walked him into the car
and I saw the condition of the inside of the car and that's when I knew he's been living in his car
he's been living in his car so clearly I no longer had
a question of so where's this off your account
where's the US Bank savings account where's the checking account didn't have that question anymore
because if you had money you would be living in your car you would not be in the same clothes that
you when you left my house on June 17th and this is now June 25th so he was like I'm be all right
I'm about to start a new job I'm going be cool I got a family I and stay with um everything's
gonna be okay all right um I said I will let you know when
the divorce is granted I said I will
send you a copy of the divorce degree and he was like okay he said how long you think that's going
to take said I'm not sure I thought I had to wait 30 days before I could file the divorce agreement
settlement form and then the judge would Grant it um in 30 days so basically this is like June
25th I'm looking at the end of August that it would take for the divorce to be granted assuming
there were no hiccups assuming he didn't decide he was going to pul
l a fast one so I told him I was
like I'm going to file this and then once we get the divorce decree I'll send you a copy he said
okay he got in his car I got in my car I drove all the way back home and he went to wherever he
went next part is the next series of lies that I was faced with oh God oh God all right part 38 of
who the [ __ ] did I marry I'm going to call this uh housekeeping and missing pieces so housekeeping
um first and foremost as much as I know you all have enjoyed uh the s
eries and some of you have
told me how um entertaining you have found it um the the story will be done um this weekend so in
other words I don't care how many parts I got to film it will be done this weekend we're just not
we're not going to drag into the new week um so I just want to let everyone know that so please be
sure to tell your sisters your mom your aunties your cousins your best friends hey y'all go ahead
and watch all the parts because she's saying she's wrapping it up this week
end um let's go but I'll
leave the playlist up so don't worry um also uh let's see I'm sorry for the people who are like I
keep talking really slow I didn't know that I was and they're like you're just long-winded I'm
very detailed so that's probably what you're feeling is that I'm detailed and I'm trying to get
everything out again in a responsible manner so um you all have asked me if I will do a live yes I
will I don't have any issue doing a live I feel like if you put the story out ther
e you know you
going to get questions so if you stand on business and you stand on what you said do the live so
yes I will do a live and I will let you all know when I'm going do a live so it won't just be some
random [ __ ] I will actually do a live and um let everyone know so that way if you have questions
bring them um the issue with doing a live is that I need moderators so because I just anticipate
a lot of people have questions and I'm just one person and I don't want to be accused of
she's
ignore my question which means there's tolds in her story y'all we all know how Tik Tok is so
but I will absolutely um do a live that's the housekeeping missing pieces so when I said before
that it's important to me that I'm responsible in how I tell the story meaning I'm clear and I go in
detail I realiz that I left out some missing parts and it was brought to my attention by number of
you thank you because I'm all for accountability um I did not go into how he how my ex-husband
Le
gion left the condiment company and then went to Apple I also did not go into detail on when
my mom came to visit both of those were in the month of April um I was going to go into detail a
little bit more on the Apple situation because as you probably have figured out of course something
came out later on but nevertheless um in terms of April of 2021 my mom came for a visit she lived
in Arkansas she came to visit us she came to visit us after we had that whole sexting on Facebook
incident
and just after we had started marital counseling there were no fireworks during her
visit nothing was weird I did talk about how um you know my family's always been there and if you
spoke with my mom she would tell you she didn't see anything out of the ordinary um but there was
something in her spirit that just didn't sit right she didn't talk to me about it at the time she
did not raise her concerns um she simply when she came to visit we welcomed her with open arms
Legion was excited to
meet her she was excited to meet him we took my mom out to eat um it was
it was a typical very quiet um non-active visit I didn't know what my mother thought until later
on so she didn't share with me during the visit something don't seem right um she she and I sat in
the guest room talking I never told her anything that was going on number one because again it
goes back to that mindset of what happens in my marriage needs to say in my marriage um and I
talk about how I didn't think it look
ing back it was not a good idea that I told my Aunt what had
happened my aunt is not the type that's going to tell my mother that in other words if you confide
in her she keeps it between you and her so my mom never knew that there were any issues um and so
there was there was nothing for her to be on Mama Bear mode had she known this would have been a
very different trip but she didn't know so she did come to visit um everything went fine he and
I put on united front oh we're so happy we'r
e so you know in love um and yes behind the scenes was
a whole different story he talked to her about how he was looking by a house and how he told her
how work was going you know how his job you know little how his job was going um you know bragging
as usual which I had I did tell my mom look he's going to talk about himself and money a lot so um
just change the subject if he brings up a house change the subject that was my instructions to
her because I was like I don't even want to get in
to the whole house situation so other than
that uneventful now once my mom left this is still in April everything was fine with him at the
condiment company as far as I knew everything was fine um what ended up happening is he randomly
came home one day and starts complaining about changes that are going on at the company oh God
when he started complaining about those changes it was things like um keep in mind he is not
VP of the company he was VP of I keep getting it wrong but I think it w
as VP of production is
what the memo says so he was not the second in command for the company he was upset that he was
being blamed for um production uh sets that the production was down he was upset that his plant
manager apparently had um resigned he was upset that some of the policy changes that were coming
into play that would affect his plant these are the things that he would he was coming home and
complaining about literally he would complain he started complaining Monday by Friday h
e said
you know what if they continue doing this then I just need to find another job he was like I think
I'm call my homeboy then I work with an apple and I'm going to see you know what they have available
yes there were red flags going up of course there were um at this point we're now we're not even
dealing withit nations of red flags we dealing with the Olympics we dealing with the parade of
all Nations everybody got a red flag so when he said that I was kind of like okay cuz I had beco
me
numb to all the Antics that he did I was numb to it so he literally said I think I'm call my homeb
and I'm going see what's that Apple my response to him was well what about your salary um would
you take a pay cut he was like no I'm not going to take a pay cut like I wouldn't leave unless
it's going to be the same amount or or more money y'all the next week last week of April I'm at work
minding my own business he calls me and tells me I've decided to resign you what I've decided to
res
ign don't worry don't don't get all crazy um I had talked to my homeboy there is a position
at Apple and I'm on my way there now to go and meet him so that I can get some information on the
position yo if somebody plays him in a movie you guys are saying who should play him in a show
it should be um Key and Peele but it should be key I feel like he would do such a good job I feel
like it should be him I keep imagining someone who kind of looks like him but I don't know why cuz
he's not 6'4
is he is he tall I imagine somebody who like looks looks put together enough to pass
his lies but also like you know what I mean like like someone charismatic and like good-looking
enough but also somebody who like once he becomes like you know ke PE skits like you know what I'm
saying like they're I could imagine the facial expressions like the lying I don't know something
something maybe we're married y'all we're married so what I said to him was well will you get all
this in writing his
words to me were of course I'm going to get it in writing I'm not stupid
you know what I don't even want to talk to you no more click that's the end of April girl so
that is how I was introduced to this apple job again if you stick with the series you you will
find out exactly what happened but that's how I was introduced to the Derek Jackson isn't that the
isn't that the dating coach guy who cheated on his wife isn't that bad guy what that'd be so funny
job it literally was in a span of wi
thin two weeks and he resigned from the condiment company
and immediately said I'm going to move over to Apple just wanted to clarify that so maintaining
work is really hard to remember they have not been married that long so he only maintained work for
so long he was working in grocery before then he said he was working quote as a VP president which
he was obviously not he was obviously working on a factory line or something and then he didn't
last there and now he's going to Apple which I
'm assuming he's just working in the store so that's
another um side effect of like NPD stuff is they think they're like better than the jobs they
work and they think they're better than other people and but they don't like they pretend they
are like that's their story but internally they just they don't feel good enough it's like very
hard to empathize with but it's really real um so that's my my theory is like they've been together
for 2 years and he's already he's switching jobs like thi
s is actually yeah he can't maintain
work he actually hasn't worked anywhere for a while and then being able to save some money here
and there not as hard if you're you know but at the same time he spends a lot of money so I want
to know what his credit card debt is he should go on Caleb Hammer just kidding he's mentally
ill he should be evaluated and um cared for we one part 39 who the [ __ ] did I marry and by the
way keep in mind I really do think a large part of the population who are h
omeless are people like
him because if nobody takes this man in where does he end up living in his car smelling not showering
not caring for himself everything you're going to hear um probably in this part that's what I mean
the Mental Health crisis a i the homeless crisis a lot of it is mental health in the next part all
of this happens in the month of July 2021 divorce has been filed it was filed the end of June I got
his signature on the divorce settlement agreement um I thought that I h
ad to wait 30 days before I
could actually F that with the court and so this is all this is kind of in the limbo period because
I'm still within those 30 days so he left his book he left a book bag um at the house book bag that
had all kind of paperwork in there inside the book bag this is the paperwork that I found number one
I found a doc a packet from the condiment company where it showed his 401k contributions it also
stated in there that he had been terminated so he was terminated from
the cond company according
to the paperwork in the packet that I saw yep in the book bag that he left at my house yep also
in the book bag were um the NPD possible npds I know possible I say possible because I don't
know they were never formally diagnosed they both would get continuously fired but say they
left the job or they dis they disagreed with management heay check stubs I wonder if MPD has
a history of um oppositional Defiance disorder and PDA because um I wonder about that like an
inability to like don't like demands being told what to do they don't like other people telling
them what to do from a prev I don't know though I don't know where he worked at a cemetery the same
Cemetery that he took me to to show me where his grandmother and grandfather were buried so let's
go ahead I'll I'll do this video and say this is what he told me this is what I confirmed he told
me his grandmother and grandfather were buried there he showed me a headstone with a family name
on i
t if you go back in previous Parts it's I talk about it um the truth is they are not buried
there he is of no relation to the people who are buried at that particular grave site only
reason why he knew about it is because he had worked there also in the book bag it was a copy of
a driver's license that he had the address on the driver's license now this I still don't have
an answer to but the address on the driver's license now here's the thing if he gets examined
by tons of doctors and no
one truly thinks he has NPD borderline like any any kind of mental
illness any kind of mental illness then he's a one right CU then he's a one useless to himself
and his community if he has it it has to be the reason why ones can have mental illnesses but
that can't be why they make the decisions they make so if if he has okay OD is different than
PDA okay cuz the person I know I'm thinking of the only thing they ever got diagnosed with was O
OD I thought it was PDA but it's not it's OD it'
s oppositional demand what is it oppositional
demand devot devance I I was thinking about it the other day I thought it was PDA but
the more I thought about it I was like no no no it was OD but PDA is autism related that
makes more sense actually so is OD related to narcissism by any chance cuz I wonder if the
overlap is there but okay so the point is is that if this Man On My Level system if this man
is not diagnosed with any kind of reasoning from a mental health perspective of a why then
this is
a one okay but it would have to be his decision do you guys get what I'm saying now about ones
it would have to be his decision it can't be because he's sick he can be sick and it not be
the why but if it's because he's sick he can't be a one oppositional defining disorder that
one okay because there's two people I think have narcissism in my life but to be fair I'm
not sure if that's the reason so okay so then that's the question right is he a one so lacking
introspection and ref
uses to engage with it or is he a mentally ill person who severely really sick
and he's actually a victim of his own like mental health and therefore somebody we should have a
deep compassion for not that you shouldn't have deep compassion for all people you know Abby
says so does that mean npds can't be ones no that does not mean that since that tends to be
the reason behind these behaviors I don't know how to understand ones though so again the why is
the key why do you guys do you guys k
now like why you do something because you don't just do things
things there's a why and that why is the nuance and distinction between somebody doing something
for mental health and somebody doing something because of a choice and that's the distinction it
has to be in in it has to be a deep understanding you know a deep a deep decision that they're
making maybe not even an introspective one but still a decision you know they can't you know
there's a it's very nuanced it's very hard it's li
ke the difference between complaining and
venting if you think there's no difference this is going to be hard to explain but if you
understand the nuances in the hair of difference right Samantha welcome to memberships welcome
love to see you here you know what I mean love that okay let's see let's see was the same address
as the cemetery because I looked it up on Google also in the book bag um was paperwork from another
Construction Company job meaning it was paycheck Subs from another con
struction company here
in Atlanta that he had worked for it did not have dates on it so I don't know when he worked
for the construction company also in the book bag paperwork was unemployment um paperwork so
it looked like he had been receiving unemploy unemployment just before I met him I met him
in March it looked like he had been receiving unemployment January and February so once again
let's confirm he did not work for the com company for six to seven years also in there were scraps
o
f paper okay just for clarification so PDA is associated with autism which is different then
there's o and then there's an NPD and remember I'm not a therapist so I'm just a person who
reads books and likes the subject but I don't know I'm not a professional so just to clarify
okay pathological demand avoidance PDA that's what PDA is but that's different than yeah I don't
want to associate it with narcissism unnecessarily so that was just a misp on my part from a temp
agency where it was it
was information on the job that he had been placed at where was that job
the condiment company he would be a forklift SL loader is what it say so I interpret that to mean
he can drive a fork a forklift but he would have been loading up the 18 wheelers for them to go
out to their iies yep also in this book bag um was paperwork from Clayton County courts I believe
um for a week uh what is it called Weekender jail it was like a weekend jail receipt so I had to
do some research so apparently w
hat that means is that there's an option where if you have a
job let's say you you were sentenced to 60 days in jail but you have a full-time job apparently
the court can say okay you'll go to jail on the weekends so in other words you have to report to
the jail on Friday at 5 o' and you'll be there Friday Saturday Sunday you will get out Sunday
at 6 o' what apparently that's actually a real thing so what was in the book bag were multiple
yellow receipts for different weekends that he had t
o report and get out of jail damn last but not
least uh in and out of prison is interesting in and out of prison is interesting um there were
some additional pictures and then there were some um I want say pictures talking about family
photos and then there were some there was another additional copy of his driver's license with the
Douglasville address I looked up that address the name associated with that address was the same
name as the ex-girlfriend that he had in between the ex-wife an
d me if you go back to the video
where I talk about the conversation I had with the ex-wife she tells me that the address was going to
come back to the ex-girlfriend I'm saying that is correct so what she told me is true so because of
everything that I found I decided to go down a new rabbit hole again just recapping what I said um in
previous videos ex-husband was always a stickler about law enforcement his dad was a um retired
police officer I'm just telling you the story his dad was reti
red police officer mom was a retired
teacher um after his parents after his dad retired they moved to Augusta started a church he took me
to that church in Augusta okay the same day that he took me to meet his aunt who lived in Augusta
okay so these are now things that he actually took me to just like he took me to the cemetery so
that's what I found in the book bag the Weekender jail receipts I went ahead and went online to
find out exactly why did he have to go to jail for the weekend and
I'm going to end this part
here the next part has to do with his criminal history okay Discord really fast said um I don't
buy that everyone has a why I've met some people where I'm like there's got to be a reason nope
I don't think that's possible right I think it I think there is a feeling and they're absolutely
I've been I've actually said this about people I'm like there's not a reason why they're just doing
it I don't think humans work like that the more I understand about humans and
genetics which
is very Elementary the more I understand about like biology which is Elementary understanding the
more you understand about like humans as an animal like we always have a reason the reason does like
there is a reason it just might not be the reason you want to hear the reason that feels clear or
the reason that feels as important it might be a simple reason you know what I mean I think there's
always a reason we do something there's always a why it just not might not be the w
hy that feels
like it makes the most sense so the best thing you can say is like there must not be a reason but the
reason can be something like really like a mundane something you're not even thinking about like they
were hungry that's still a reason even if it's illogical it's still the reason right so there's
always a reason why and I think I love knowing the why CU I'm like oh why did you do that why did you
do that why did you do that it's like there is a reason but it's like why do yo
u know you might not
know why but I do think there's an impossibility for there not to be a why you know part 40 who the
[ __ ] did I marry so we are now at the point of July 2021 we're at the point where I've spoken
to the female cousin and she gave me the phone number for the older brother for the purposes of
this video we're going to call him Chris Chris was very nice I called him he was gracious um
he was willing to answer whatever questions I had and what he said to me was he was he sa
id my
brother has always been a liar he's always been a liar he said but ask me what questions you
have and I'll confirm was real and was not yep first question I had when was the last time you
spoke to him without missing a beat Chris says um 2015 just after our motheral damn I explained
to him about the phone calls the fact that Legion would be on the phone for 30 35 minutes laughing
talking to Chris relaying messages from Chris to me and relaying messages from me to Chris without
missin
g a beat Chris says he was never talking to me damn and I said and he said now I am gonna
say this maybe he was on the phone but he was not on the phone with me damn he said because
he knows that if I ever see him I'm whoop his ass and I'm laughing because obviously say I'm G
whoop somebody um so for people who were confused like wait what does this mean about the phone
calls what this means is every single time that my ex-husband was on the phone holding his phone
like this talking laughin
g cracking jokes hey um my wife said that you know we could go later on
this evening and all this other stuff every time they were doing things like that every time he was
having a phone call or conversation that he claims to be with Chris no one is on the phone damn damn
um yes Bobby yes oh I think I get it now it's like mental health versus the base biological Instinct
yes exactly and then uh Tori says OD tends to develop an antisocial personality disorder if it
goes untreated that's inte
resting you say that cuz also think that plays a role I actually
think it might it might play a role um yeah I think it might and that's what I wonder as well
again it sucks that I can't have the people in my life I'm like can you go get examed and observed
because I think you're a psychological anomaly and I want to know why you do the things you do
I wish I could I wish I could get the people in my life treated cuz like you guys are destroying
your [ __ ] lives but also like that's you kn
ow that's the the choices they're making at the same
time but also are they that's the question look I'm happy to say there's a possibility that ones
like Kyla like Kyla said in NATO aidite When She interviewed me about the levels that ones might be
people with mental illnesses we haven't identified or mental illnesses that we can't diagnose I
think there's a very high probability of that I just think right now since we don't have those
answers and they don't fit into other categories this
is where I've categorized the ones in
my life but there is a big chance the reason they're doing things is their mental illnesses but
because they're again they've been seen by doctors people have examined them I don't know but again
they haven't been fully examined in an honest Way by those doctors either because they Li to those
doctors which indicates NPD which indicates they might not be ones they might just be twos who are
mentally ill and there's like so much that goes into this so I'
m happy to even get rid of the
category of ones but yet there's like Jerry's what's Jerry's reason there's so many people in
our lives that exhibit why are you doing this but until people are ready to get examined to like
really face themselves we won't even know how many people like why they're doing what they're doing
so until we find out I've categorized people in in this category as like ones cuz I'm like you're
not fitting into any of these categories so I need to put you somewhere and
that was a decision
that I I still stand by obviously but again it's like okay what are you doing this for and again
most of the internet wants to just throw this guy under the bus and I'm saying maybe he needs a lot
of compassion so all those people on the internet they're like Britney's crazy she just wants
to destroy people I'm the one advocating for compassion well everyone is telling me I'm too
[ __ ] nice is that what am I mean or am I too nice I just want to know why people do thing
s
okay I just want to know why people do things okay I don't want to see what happens you know
what I mean um and if we can make people better you know mmm says lying to a therapist is an
insane waste of money not if you're looking for validation lots lots of therapists are not not in
it to help people lots of them are just there for a paycheck and so what they do is you get the n
The Narcissist therapist or the therapist who's in it for a paycheck with the person who
needs the validation
you pay them for the validation no one's on the phone that is what
that means so I'm on the phone with Chris my mind is spinning it is blowing up like I
mean I'm I'm going crazy I'm going crazy because what this means is that for the past
four or five months every morning that he is having a phone call with his brother Chris I
am now understanding in real time that that phone call was completely fake so Chris tells
me maybe he was talking to somebody else but it wasn't me he said the only f
amily member
that Legion actually talks to is the twin and that's only because for some reason I guess
is they twins he helps him out when he needs it Legion only calls a twin when he needs money
Dam and the twin according to Chris now this is the part that might blows some mind the twin
brother the one that is older by 20 minutes is VP of his company is married drives a luxury
car and lives in like a four or five bedroom house damn he full on took this man's life bro
damn in Nashville so
Chris is saying to me he's like it sounds like he took the identity of the
twin and was trying to act like that to his life and it's he's like that [ __ ] ain't never had
no money ain't never kept a job a long period of time and he was like you're telling me that
he claims he was VP of a company and so he was like did you ever see anything did you ever meet
people like like Chris I respect the fact that he was asking me the same question y'all asking
me did you ever meet any family members
and I told him I said I met your aunt well what Aunt
is that I told him her name he said that ain't our damn Aunt I don't know if y'all ever dealt
with people from Philly so he was just loud he was like that ain't our Aunt he said that is
our mother's best friend and I don't trust that oh my God damn Maiden says understanding the Y is like
untangling a knot a knot of cobweb it's like a knot of cobweb it's literally like a cobweb you're
slowly taking it apart but any mistake will make it sti
ck together damn he fullon stole this man's
life bro damn I'm sorry it's just it's the way he said it that it makes me laugh anyway he like I
don't trust her I don't trust her at all she is not our aunt she was our mother's best friend
when our mother was living in Augusta and that woman went along with it that woman's crazy like
him did she just go along with it oh yeah I'm his aunt oh I'm his aunt she's not our Aunt so then
I explained to him about the other brothers the brothers remember
there were two half brothers
from his dead one lived in Baltimore one lived in Augusta is on the phone saying I don't know who
them [ __ ] are they related to us he said our dad never had other kids he was like so you mean to
tell me this [ __ ] going around telling people that our dad had kids on our mom and I said to
him well the way he actually put it that the two brothers came before y'all he was like hell no no
so and then I explained to him about the sisters he was like who the hell
is shant and I was like
shant appar again I'm just telling you what I was told shant is a sister that lives in Douglasville
married with two kids he was like no we don't have a sister told him about Kim he was like him's not
our sister she's a cousin and she and he said to me and I know she ain't talk to him in Forever in
two days damn he said so everyone the only people who are his family members is Chris and the twin
he's like we got some cousin up here I told him about June buug I told h
im about the uncle I
told him about the grandmother and he's just sitting back like oh my God he said he was like I
realize that every relationship my brother gets in he gets worse and it sounds like he is actually
worse than what he was in the last relationship and I thought he was talking about the ex-wife
that I had spoken to no he had no idea there was another wife cuz again he hasn't spoken to him
since 2015 so he was like the best thing I can say to you is this he said thank God you a
in't
have kids with him he said get your divorce and forget you ever met this man and he was like and
I know how that sounds because he's my brother he said but yo they're real ones oh I'm sorry oh
God I'm sorry I blew up my mic they're real ones I'm sorry I got to be quiet too it's 3:30 in the
morning and I'm in Croatia sh I this is a real one bro I love him he's my brother leave him and never
talk to him again that those are real people bro that's a real that is a real [ __ ] MVP bro is
that how you say MVP MVP I'm so gay yes yes yes that's a good [ __ ] person that's a I'm going to
cry that's a good [ __ ] [ __ ] person bro a good [ __ ] person will say I know it's my brother I
still am telling you to stay away from him that's a good [ __ ] person bro [ __ ] that's such a
good person but if I didn't have to claim him I wouldn't and I and I said to him something that I
I she has probably said in this in this whole Tik Tok Series this is not someone that you forget
this is
not a situation that you know man I I don't even remember him no what I don't remember
is the version of myself before I met him because nothing so far has turned out to be true the only
thing that Chris was able to tell me is true is that one yes there is a brother in Philly him yes
there is a brother in Nashville the twin yes both parents are deceased that is what I was told from
the beginning those pieces of information are true the grandmother did die in 2008 he was like no she
didn't s
he definitely didn't die in 2020 I told him how I found the obituary and so he was like
and the uncle he said which uncle is he talking about because if you guys remember back in one of
the parts I talked about where he said his uncle was giving him advice on why he should not open
up his um his his uh savings account to let me see it he would not let me see it and so I'm telling
Chris about the uncle he was like that Uncle been dead for years I told him about Junebug he said
junbug been de
ad for years and I said Chris he was having conversations with June bug on the phone
in front of me he was like it wasn't June bug he said it sounds like my brother was making up the
conversations he said he definitely was making up the conversations with me he said hell no a going
to be on the phone at no 6 o'cl in the morning so the conversation with Chris solidified that this
is the actual family tree and no there were never any conversations with his brother every morning
um when I was
getting ready to go to work they had never talked on to the next part damn BR Part
41 who the [ __ ] did I marry so this is the continuation of my conversation with Chris which
will then lead into some other stuff so um Chris has confirmed that he has not spoken to Legion
um since 2015 so now we know that the phone calls that Legion was having every morning on the phone
with Chris when we were you know getting ready to go to work phone calls were fake I demonstrated
in the last video how I
think he you know how he was doing those phone calls um because he would
relay messages from me to whoever was on the phone so Chris and I also then talked about their
parents so if you remember in the beginning I told you from the get-go this man was you know very
respectful of law enforcement because his dad was a retired Poli Philadelphia police officer the
mom was a retired teacher and so he had the utmost respect for law enforcement that's what he used
to always say because again there
's there's a lot that he lik about so I'm trying to only highlight
the big things because truthfully um it got to a point where when he would say that as a VP in his
company he had a meeting with the local sheriff child we know we know that's a lot so I don't
even need to go into detail about that because again why so I told Chris what Legion said about
their dad being a retired police officer um and I was explaining how he said the mom was a retired
teacher so Chris listened again very gra
cious very nice guy he listened and he was like so are you
ready for me to tell you what's true and what's not um and at this point I was already convinced I
was going to be drinking heavily that night after this phone call so I was like go ahead all right
so here's what Legion said Legion said my dad was a retired police officer with Philadelphia
PD when he reti he and my mom moved to austa I was there for high school and um they started
a church he took me to that church in austa and show
and you know showed me where the church
that they started the truth dad according to Chris their dad was nowhere near to church that
man ain't go to church on Easter he ain't go to church on Christmas he was like my dad ain't go
he steep foot in the church since the day he got married that was the last time he went to church
he had nothing to do with church he said um that their father was the furthest thing from a pastor
and he was like I love my dad but that man drank smoke and no he he
was not a pastor the mom was
not a retired teacher she did substitute teach at one point but she was not a retired teacher um the
dad was a truck driver and Not only was the dad a truck driver at one point he was a correctional
officer and so I said to you know let me tell you guys something cuz mantis you said you'd have to
um reconsolidate yourself after this I'd feel so bad for her you'd be questioning everything
everyone you ever met after this can I be real with you not necessarily I t
hink I think the
reason she feels so stable to me and even though you do question things I really do think when you
deal with certain people like this from my lived experience I think you become so you can you
can go two ways it can destroy you or it can hurt you for a while and you actually know people
more now because she has a psychology background in college I don't know if she finished but
she was interested in Psychology I bet she just found this fascinating in a big way I think
she'
s actually going to be fine and like I think she's 99% fine because I do think it's more at
some point it's very interesting and you're like what are you doing I think she's smart enough
to find it more interesting and I don't mean to say that you're not smart but I mean like um when
you intellectualize things you can almost observe them like you're not experiencing it while still
experiencing it right so I feel like a I feel the reason I got out of like certain situations with
less trauma
than other people is because I feel like I went oh I'm that person in the story so I'm
still impacted but I don't find myself as impacted as some other people because I know that I not
special and so it had to happen to somebody and so it just happened to me does that make sense
I think sometimes when you intellect sometimes you're still traumatized you still have problems
but I think like you you know she seems to have popped a bubble she seems to have like popped
a bubble thing you know w
hat I mean now I don't know if she finished college she just said when
she did college for a while it was in Psychology right so yeah K says you distance yourself from
it yeah you distance yourself from it so I'm not saying you're not smart if you don't do that this
but sometimes that's what I learned about my life is like it's not me it's not personal to me he
didn't personally hurt her she could have been anyone it's him that's that's more interesting
than that you know what I mean like i
t's it's that's I think that that's what I'm thinking you
know what I mean oh my gosh uh shony thank you shony boy with the Super Chat hey yeah I like your
mic keep rocking thank you so much hello so I do think that is probably doing fine but yeah I think
I I I think that's really diff once you seriously once I realized my life wasn't happening to like
me the Consciousness like it wasn't personal like even my grape wasn't personal I'm pretty sure I
didn't even know them I never I like I'm n
ot sure who it was cuz I was it was a really bad time
in my life let me tell you I was interacting with a lot of strangers and a few people that I
knew but I'm I knew it wasn't about me cuz they didn't know like they didn't Target Britney they
weren't thinking Britney the Consciousness they were thinking girl at party drunk and vulnerable
they weren't thinking Britany the Consciousness it's not even about me bro it's about them and
same with her he didn't pick her because she was her he pic
ked her because he she's the girl who
went on a date with him and you said yes to him sleep like staying with her during covid he didn't
even know her he said yes to her because he she was the next Target to like keep him housed during
covid in lockdown it's so weird it's like it's so almost offensive that it's not even personal but
then the [ __ ] is so crazy cuz they like holy [ __ ] bro you know what I mean Jelly Bean I was
like yeah I said I had no idea of course I had no idea so now we
know the truth parent the dad was
never in law enforcement um and I'm not knocking correction officers I'm just I want to make very
clear because I know that sometimes people that work in law enforcement feel like look when I'm
out there patrolling that is not the same as being um a correction officer and correction officer
feel the same I just want to give oh good point September says is nobody wondering if he's got a
drug addiction maybe he does and maybe that's why he had that weight lo
ss maybe he was doing cocaine
I got a cocaine brother he's skinny as [ __ ] he's doing great he's a functional cocaine it's
fine you can do Coke functionally at one point was a correction officer however his primary
career obviously yes ingry great point I can intellectualize so much that I don't process my
emotions obviously don't do that sometimes highly intellectual people do not process their emotions
and then they run into getting triggered later or having problems so yes obviously do
not hyper
intellectualize your emotions that's why very smart people can be very stunted it's why smart
IQ people also come off like the most stunted people because you're like what the [ __ ] are
you like what are you are you triggered right now bro and it's and they don't want to admit it
because they hyper intellectualize so obviously don't hyper intellectualize so much you're just
as stunted as the [ __ ] 85 IQ [ __ ] you know what I'm saying also I'm 85 IQ so like no hate
bro here was
a truck driver and so um the dad would do long hauls so Chris is explaining no
man he was like that's funny he said if you knew our dad you would understand how funny that
is to even insinuate that he was a that he was a pastor and so I told him about the church that
we went to he was like oh okay so he took you to a church in Augusta and told you that that was
our parents church he was like now our mom used to go to church you know every now and then but he
said our dad ain't been in chur
ch since the day he married mom so the church that colian took me to
and said that his parents started that church that that was not true so he just took me on a field
trip for nothing basically so I told him about the weekend cuz I did tell Chris where I worked and
that is when Chris said to me cuz at the time I worked in a law enforcement agency and he said to
me now how does that work he said because Legion you know he done been in trouble a few times and
I was like what do you mean cuz
I had not yet gone online into the court system to see what type of
trouble he's been in and so he explained to me he was like just run his run his criminal history and
you'll see it for yourself I don't know all the charges but run his criminal history damn I said
okay gave me some homework I'll run his criminal history so again he cleared up a lot of stuff in
regards to the family Dynamics he did explain to me that yes he does have a daughter um he and
his ex-wife are divorced and I said
well Legion would Legion would talk about his Denise meaning
Chris's daughter and would send her stuff for her birthday and he was like I'm he said I'm almost
positive my brother never sent anything for my daughter's birthday and I explained to him I said
isn't your daughter's name Egypt he said no who the hell is Egypt and I said I was told that was
your daughter's name that's the reason why tell I'm saying the name on here because obviously
we're about to confirm that's not the daughter s
o I said I was told that's your daughter's name I
said I I went with him to W room shoes and bought shoes for what I was told was your daughter and
she lived in St Louis with your ex-wife he said no he said my daughter and my ex-wife do not live
in St Louis he said I don't know who Egypt is um he was like are you sure it wasn't for a woman and
I said well it was kid shoes and he was like no he said and I told him I said I went to The UPS
Store I mailed it and you know they printed the label
with the girl's name on it and I'm thinking
this whole time it's legion's niece Chris is like I don't know who that is that's not even the name
of one of our cousins so I have no idea ladies and gentlemen who my ex-husband was buying girl shoes
for maybe he was seeing a sex worker who was a little person and had me sending them telling me
it's for his KN since we know he lik sex workers I have no idea so Chris is like yeah he he he
finally said to me the same thing the ex-wife said which i
s pretty much whatever he told you is a lie
Dam and I was and I I'm being honest with you guys it is very hard to comprehend that everything is
a lie like there has to be something that's true I'm like how was he paying if he wasn't working
at the condiment company or he got fired from the condiment company how was he still paying the
bills keep in mind we never joined our account he wanted to but we never did because he wouldn't
show me the offshore of the savings account which of course n
ever existed so I'm just trying to
figure out like I know that I saw his checking account I know that I saw his savings account
and he had money in there something had to be true something had to be true and Chris was like
no he said it sounds like everything my brother said um everything that he told you was made up
he said those phone calls were definitely made up he said I don't know who Egypt is that's not any
family member of ours um I don't know who Shante is we don't have a sister um
he said we don't have
half Brothers he was like I'm telling you who the family members are he said I am so sorry that my
brother put you through this so now let's go into the next part damn bro Part 42 who the [ __ ] did
I marry oh teal says I just remembered something narcissists have shared fantasies oh what is
that are they big dreamers cuz I swear the two people I swear I've read a few books on narc but I
haven't read it exhausts me like I get emotionally like drained reading about nar
cissism it's so
difficult that's why my heart goes out to them because like I'm not even suffering with it and I
just like get exhausted thinking about it that's why I love Dr konda's work he's so compassionate
bro he's just so compassionate and I just like admire that so much about him but um I do will
say the two people that I think might be narcs they are like all about dreams and Fantasies and
talking about lavish lives and dreams and things they've accomplished and things they want to
and
like oh the lies get crazy bro so I finished going through the book bag still July 2021 I finished
going through the book bag okay apparently this part is the gnarlier part you guys [ __ ] spoil
[ __ ] in the chat you loudmouth [ __ ] girls um there were some other folders with papers in
there he had left the work phone work phone what I actually found out was that it was not a work
phone it was simply a secondary personal phone he told me it was a work phone I thought that the
company
was paying for the work phone that's what I thought no because I found um receipts
where basically and I didn't know this ladies and gentlemen I had no idea but I found receipts
where he it was a prepaid phone and he's paying to add minutes to it so it's just receipts of you
know you added minutes to the phone on this date you added minutes on that date so the the uh work
phone whole thing that was a bullace lie obviously it was a lie because as we now know he was a
forklift loader so the
work phone that he's been walking around with was really just a secondary
phone he had left the phone he took his personal phone meaning the the main phone I should say but
the work phone he left so I'm going through the work phone just try trying to find some sort of
answer now what is really burning in my mind is how how is it that he had all this money in the
accounts but again the last time I saw him he's living in his car like the math is not mathing I
go into not just the photos of th
e work phone I go into the deleted folder so ladies and gentlemen
if you want to go through somebody's phone which I will never do again but if you want to go through
the phone don't just go through the text messages and pictures go into the deleted folder sometimes
you find a gold mine in this case I went to the deleted folder of the pictures in the work
phone I keep saying work phones because again this is just a secondary phone it is deactivated
there's no minutes on it so I go into the
deleted pictures and what I see is a is what looks like
a screenshot of his checking account the one that I saw with the available balance then there's
another photo of the screenshot of the savings that he showed me now one or two things it could
be even either one it's not real and it was pulled offline or two he took a screenshot of his own
account and save the photos so this is when I got introduced to reverse Google IM Google image
search I did a reverse Google image search sure enough
as you probably have figured out some of
you because I read it in the comments pH around didn't I [ __ ] tell you [ __ ] I went out by
the way to get a snack earlier [ __ ] I went out to get a snack earlier [ __ ] and I told my
husband I was like girl like we can't forge our bank accounts [ __ ] you think you and I can't
fake our bank accounts and I started laughing he goes oh I could fake like a whole website I bet
I was like oh I bet you we could fake like all we were literally like brai
nstorming ways to trick
people and I'm like wow like kids who grow up on computers bro we're [ __ ] Evil Geniuses bro you
think we can't [ __ ] fake a like a [ __ ] account bro like this [ __ ] Boomer she's so sweet she's
such a [ __ ] Boomer how did she not think about this bro she can't I can't she's such a boomer
I love her bro I can't believe she hasn't got a teenager in her life no young person in her life
she just learned about sweet baby angel sweet sweet honey bear girl showing me h
is available
um checking account balance was nothing more than a screenshot that he had found on Google when he
showed me his savings turned the phone around cuz I remember I demonstrated for you how he was and
then you know showed it turned around and showed it to me as if he was signing in when he did that
he was he was simply showing me a screenshot that he had taken from Google Images because when I
did a reverse Google image search with those two photos the checking and the savings it
came right
up it was nothing more than just Google images in my phone I still had I didn't even need this
because again I already knew that he was not a VP Regal manager but still shits and giggles I did a
reverse image search of the charcoal BMW remember I told y he had sent me pictures of the company
car nothing more than a screenshot he had taken off of Google Images the house that he showed me
that he had in San Diego Google images girl this is a gift girl how are you ever going to surv
ive
in 2025 6 7 8 9 10 without knowing about Google this is a this is a sign all y'all got to save
your Boomer relatives bro and teach them about the internet teach them about the internet how does
she not know this is what I'm saying I might be chronically online okay I might be called a neurod
Divergent weirdo okay but at least I cannot get scammed this way this is crazy I told you [ __ ]
I told you [ __ ] so what we can now confirm is anything he showed me when he's turning his phone
ar
ound is nothing more than an image from Google Images Oh Girl at this point checking account
the savings the universe just blessed her bro the universe just blessed her can you imagine if
she made it to 50 not knowing this count Google Images the house Google Images the company car the
that charcoal gray BMW oh no K says she represents a much larger demographic than you realize girl
I take it for granted since my whole family's on the internet my dad is so techsavvy my mom like
everybody's
so much better on the internet in my family like my dad's much more up to date my dad's
like an internet like he knows what's up so yeah like honestly like I forget I take for granted
how much my familyes like vary into technology uh cuz yeah I guess I guess a lot of the like the
world doesn't even have the internet but like I I'm not surprised I guess that a lot of people
are internet illiterate but damn Five series Google images I mean what am I saying my brother
just found out about the
dark web two years ago I don't know what I'm saying my farm brother he's
incredibly internet illiterate he just found out about LinkedIn too never mind my farm brother
is completely internet illiterate I lied he's very bad with the internet wow is he the only one
no I bet my older brother is too okay I'll I'll okay I take that back not everybody in my family
is computer illiterate you're right you're right you're right so at this point I realized okay
nothing nothing is real um and I wasn't
so much in wait you just realized nothing is real rage to be
honest with you I wasn't in a rage then and there as much as it was I really truly had a moment
where I said to myself oh my God what the [ __ ] have I let in my life like this is not even human
at this point that's really how I felt like again as someone who um you know I studied psychology
but I didn't I didn't graduate with degree however I have never dealt with a pathological liar I
have studied about them but I have never co
me into contact with a pathological liar because
to a compulsive liar if you ask them man why did you lie to me they probably are going to have a
reason pathological liers don't have a reason like there's and there's no limit to the LIE there's
always a reason but not might not there's always a reason but it might not be a reason to why they
lied you feel me like I get what she's saying I agree with her but there's a reason so I have
now confirmed that at least 70% of everything that I thou
ght I knew is now absolutely not true
absolutely not true so in between all of this I get a phone call from the aunt in austa the aunt
and Augusta who Chris has confirms is the mother's best friend she is not their mother sister or
dad's sister she's the best friend of the deceased mom she calls me and this is the one I have met
this is the one that Chris was like I don't trust that you know anyway um so she called because she
wanted to know what happened she wasn't trying to be nosy or mes
sy or anything like that she's
just trying to find out what happened because apparently Legion is trying to come stay with her
so she asked me sweet lady but she said you know what what happened with you with you guys and and
I told her we're getting a divorce I said because he lied to me a lot he lied to me a lot um and so
what breaks my heart about the conversation with her is that she said so what ever happened to
the baby mind you we went to Augusta told her I was pregnant I thought he
told her that I had had
a miscarriage he didn't he never told this woman had a miscarriage so she informs me this is what
she tells me so now we're confirming something else she tells me that on at Le oh bro shony boy
my you said my poor Grandma still goes to the bank for transitions we've tried so hard to teach her
the app you know what's crazy I know a bunch of Boomers who still are not on online apps and to
be fair a lot of the apps do have uh fraud a lot of them do have um like you know
people do get
into your bank accounts so to be fair as we move more into technology there will be a lot of like
learning curves to it so it is interesting to me but yeah I know some Boomers who just they still
go to the bank for all their Bank transactions unlike me who like I'm always you know I love my
online banking but yeah isn't that funny at least five times while I'm at work Legion was driving
to Augusta and telling her that he was going to visit the Church of where the parents alle
gedly
start the church that the parents started and I was like what do you mean he went she said I've
seen him like four or five times he come down here and each time I've asked him to bring the baby and
I said what baby and she said the baby that y'all had he told me that you all that y'all had a baby
boy and I said no ma'am I said I had a miscarriage in June of 2020 no ma'am and she said oh my god oh
you know she was she was doing that whole thing um she said this whole time he told me th
at y'all had
had a son in January and I had been asking him for pictures I had been asking him to bring both of
you down here so I could meet him and he always had an excuse as to why he wouldn't bring a baby
and the last time he was in Augusta he said that he was leaving you and he was taking the baby with
him and that you were at work I not making this up that is what that woman told me girl and I just
was like no ma'am none of that is true there is no baby maybe we should get him one of
those
real dolls those freaky that scary real doll thing and he can pretend it's his baby and then
he can make a GoFundMe for it um I said I had no idea he was going to Augusta next part oh my God
girl part 43 who the [ __ ] did I marry so after the conversation with the aunt again she's telling
me that Legion has been keeping up this lie that we had a son I let her know no ma'am there was no
baby we did not have a baby um and I said I'm I that he told you and she said he told a few people
that you all had a baby and she said because I know some people were sending were trying to
send a gift to celebrate the birth oh I didn't know anything about that didn't know anything
about that so she said he's trying to come stay with me she said but I don't think I want him to
okay she's an older lady she's like I don't think I want him to come here because I don't really
want to get involved with um his divorce again and I said what do you mean again I said are you
talking about the p
revious wife and I said the previous ex-wife's name she said I don't know who
that is I'm talking about Toya Las that one the first one and I said well what happened do y'all
remember I said in my previous uh video that I found I read their divorce records he had fil for
divorce and they had a temporary protection order against each other MH I said that remember that
anyone can get a protection order it doesn't mean much that you have one right so the perpetrator
can get a protection order
and the victim can get a protection order it makes people think like
oh you got a restraining order a protection order that must mean like they proved something you
don't have to prove anything in a lot of places you just have to say you want it like that's why
I just like keep it in mind right if as you're listening to this story you know what I mean it it
makes you look better cuz people don't know like you know you could just get one if you you have to
prove something you do have to prov
e something but not as much as you would think right and I know
because I've been to court for one not for myself but I've been to court and I understand because
of my whole situation that happened a couple years ago or four or five years ago you know what
I mean so now the aunt is on the phone saying that she had to go to court and testify on leg's behalf
in regards to the temporary protective order and I was like well what happened she said they she
said they got into a fight with each ot
her and she slapped him and I said well do you know why they
got into a fight and she said yeah apparently he had lied to the wife and it was something major
and they got into a physical fight and that she said that woman almost beat his behind and so he
asked the court for a temporary protect protective order so yeah the temporary ones and you do have
to have you do have to go to court I don't mean to make it sound like easy it's just easier than
I thought it was let me say it like that I
went in thinking it would be a lot harder and it was
easy enough that I was like what the [ __ ] so let me rephrase easier than I thought it would
be I'm just getting the back story on how that TPO was even even came into play so I told her
I said you know Miss Christy we'll call her I said you don't have to worry about that I said
we're not um he's already signed the paperwork we're not fighting I'm not I don't have it in me
I don't so I said I'm not going to tell you not to have certain p
eople in your home but I am going to
tell you that I'm just barely kind of discovering exactly what the lies are in regards to Legion so
if you feel comfortable having him in your home then do it I said but I am going forward with this
divorce and once the divorce is final I will have nothing to do with him DN and I said and I'm so
sorry you know that he lied to you um and kind of pull at your heart strains in regards to a baby I
said there is no baby so she said so y'all really getting div
Force I said and I a want to cuss to
the older ladies but I said yes ma'am we are we are um and so we get off the phone um also during
this time legion would call me every now and then Legion had no idea I've spoken to his ex-wife I've
spoken to his brother I've spoken to his female cousin yeah had no idea I have now if we want to
go through real quick and talk about what we can confirm we can confirm that um there is no sister
we already knew there was no baby there was no um VP job again
he was he was a temp and apparently
he was making decent money so what I believe and this is just what I think off of putting pieces
together I think that he made enough money to pay the household bills because it wasn't as if the
household bills were so expensive he made enough money to live on his own um but instead of him
living on his own he's living with me so we can also confirm that when he told me that he was
paying his car off and he called the dealership and paid his car off we c
an confirm that that's
a lie that story will come up later on so pretty much at this point the only thing I know to be
true his name his date of birth the secondary Social Security number that was on my background
check um and that he has two brothers and the parents are deceased at this point in time of July
2021 that is all I can that's all that I was able to confirm that to be true so later on Legion
calls me he calls me because he wants some money he want he just needs a little bit of m
oney to
hold him over till payday and so he we're on the phone the call again I was recording all my calls
at the time we're on the phone and I and I finally kind of confronted him number one about having a
twin that's when he tells me you know I I I don't know why I lied but I don't really talk about him
number two I asked him about I asked him why did he get fired from the condimate company his story
is that he got fired because he had helped a truck driver and he was not supposed to I kn
ow it's a
lie y'all don't even have to tell me I know it's a lie um number three I asked him why did you
tell your aunt that we had a baby he claims he never told her that and that she's old and she
know what she was talking about so then I asked him if he was ever in trouble where he's been
arrested and he said yeah I've been arrested as a juvenile but my father had my recording sponge
I said were you ever arrested as an adult he said no I never arrested as an adult I said you never
went
to weekend jail he said no I don't even know what that is so he doesn't know what weekend
jail is that's that's his story and so he was still he was still standing by the lies he told
me so finally I just asked him and this is where I let me just say it I asked him why the hell did
you even marry me like why why did you even marry me because you easily could have just stayed d or
been the boyfriend or just moved on moved on with your life like you didn't have to marry me you
didn't have to
pull me in into a marriage and make me think that this is what you wanted this
is what he said to me on that phone call he said I had to marry you and I was like no you didn't
he said yes I did he said I knew full well from day one that there was no way you were going to
stay my girlfriend for longer than a year he said I knew it he said I knew in order to keep you I
was going to have to marry you y'all my jaw hit the ground I could not believe he said that he
said it's so matter of fact an
d I was like that is the most f up fan you could ever say what part
44 who the [ __ ] did I marry the videos that you saw earlier were filmed earlier today um and
yes I'm aware it was brought to my attention um I had to make a decision whether or not to
finish keep my word or stop disappear I mean disappear what is that yeah is that who is that so does that show like 4D chess you
know what I mean like is he so is you know what I'm saying or is that like an emotional
like you would have stay
ed with me unless I did this because I do try to emotionally
trap people it still could be the same thing he could be a one or he could just be
really sick and this was his way of keeping his comfort cuz lots of people who are very
toxic do the same thing and it is because of trauma it's not really like an introspection
issue H thank you Monkey D Trevy for saying my hair looks cute thanks interesting
yeah he does sound very ill to me huh um okay let's finish so first of all let me say
this
it is not easy telling this story it is it's entertaining I know it's on viral um but it is not
easy telling the story yeah I made a decision to tell the story I made a decision to share my story
but I went through in hopes that it helps just one person Yeah but I be remiss if I didn't tell you
all it is not easy telling this story to relive it to face certain things out loud that I had to face
internally just want to say that so I I will push forward to finish but today got to me the toll
of
this got to me today so I know that you all are like we're waiting on the next part we're waiting
next part I appreciate that I get it because if I was in those shoes I would be waiting to and be
like where is it so I understand that um but the toll was real today all right so with that being
said um we are still in July 2021 um I talked to the brother Chris I talked to the aunt I talked to
um all these people and now was the time where I again I saw the receipts for the weekend jail typ
e
thing um so I went ahead and did a search for his criminal history I ran his criminal history I
did that on my own at home um with my money so this was not I think someone had asked if I did
anything with my job no I did not I know I know better um so I ran a criminal history or I paid
for a criminal background report for him to say that he appreciates law enforcement so much it
was obviously a lie because the criminal history showed that he had been arrested for criminal
trespassing he
had been arrested for like suspended license um suspended registration but
the big thing was impersonating an officer if you don't know anything about impersonating an officer
it is a felony period point blank as sure was from bhead it is a felony so seeing that seeing what
court it was in um I did another open Rec request for the incident report I wanted to know exactly
what the circumstances were especially given the fact that I worked in law enforcement at the
time what were the circumst
ances as to how he was arrested for impersonating an officer
yeah so I did open record request I got um the incident report and I'm tired of saying my
jaw hit the floor but on this one my jaw hit the [ __ ] floor I respect law enforcement again I I
was working in an agency um with a lot of great men and women basically what the incident report
I'm paraphrasing it because I don't have it sit in front of me basically what the incident report
shows is that he pretended to be an officer using a
badge I later found out it was the badge that
his dad had as a former correction officer same last thing so he was pretending to be um a police
officer at an apartment complex on the south side of Atlanta and proceeded to tell people that
he was an investigator and he was looking for drugs he also proceeded to try to uh pat down
someone and then also proceeded to try to go into a woman's apartment and do a search this is
in the incident report so naturally the woman who he was trying to ge
t into apartment to do a search
happened to either work with or worked at a local police department so she just simply called her
co-workers or called her home boys whatever and so he was subsequently arrested and subsequently
was charged um and found guilty that is what I found in his criminal record report it is fair to
note had I known that he had a criminal history we never would have even finished date number one
some things I'm just not going to get involved with if I know from from t
he rip um so should
we do background checks on our partners before marrying them now of course because I came
into a foreign company country I supplied a background check so my partner obviously I had
to do an FBI background check by the way so my partner has seen my FBI background check like if
that's you know that's kind of interesting it's very boring there's nothing on it you know um but
I had to get an FBI background check fingerprints and everything to come into Croatia to you know
d
o all my paperwork so I mean obviously like I said there's nothing on mine um but what do you
guys like what do you guys think do you think we should be doing background checks do you think
that should become like a part of normal you know what I mean a normal dating proc like what do you
guys think that's not like very common but should it be the new common you know I dated a guy I told
you guys I didn't know he was a felon and then one of his kids go you know my dad's a felon right
and I
was like what the [ __ ] you're a felon like I was literally dating this dude and I had
no idea he was a felon cuz I didn't think to ask and he didn't volunteer it so many people do
not volunteer information they you maybe you should volunteer that you know what I mean what
does this mean again we've been going over what's the LIE what can you confirm I can't confirm that
there was no way that this man ever had a passport to take me to London when he claimed that he was
Voting in the electi
on there's no way that he did because he tried to tell me that he was still a um
a registered voter in California and that he did it online I knew it was a lie but again at this
point in July I'm able to confirm that yeah you never had a passport you never heard it the small
things that mean something to me he never did it he wasn't eligible to so now I know that not only
have you yes been arrested now what happened as a juven I don't care but you have been arrested you
have done some sort
of time and now it explains why you knew your way around the county so well if
you go back to the previous videos I had mentioned that I was wondering how do you know your way
around here and the story was his sister used to live in this County and he would come visit when
he would fly in from California when he would go see his parents in Augusta that was the story so
that explains the criminal history um damn and I'm also going to take you guys back and remind
you when I had to go in for
my polygraph and how the polygrapher had asked me have you do you know
anyone that is polygraphs are admiss admissible in court AR admissible in court right like they
don't matter like they're not they're only some they they don't that you have relationships with
and remember I said to him my husband and I are strange I honestly don't know fast forward to okay
this is why mm says speaking of meeting family always meet the family before marriage you know
how I said that and I know a lot of p
eople be up here in their trauma so hear me again one of the
things I learned the hard way in my life was to meet the family and wonder why my partner wasn't
getting along with their family because this is the behavior I know a lot of people I say why you
cut off your parents why' you cut off your family you are more likely to be in my opinion probably
not in your right sense of mind if you're not in contact with your family cuz the people I date
are mostly family people I usually date peop
le who have good relationships with family and
friends guys because they don't come from that dysfunctional of a background because in order to
not talk to your parents the people who gave birth to you or adopted you you would have had to be
severely [ __ ] by your parents like which means you are severely [ __ ] okay so and I usually date
people in the same level of [ __ ] as I am okay I don't I usually am attracted to equal levels of
[ __ ] okay so we have complimentary knowledge of each
other's backgrounds so dating somebody
I dated people who are more [ __ ] than I was and it showed and it showed in them as individuals
and that was one of my biggest mistakes it really was because I didn't know how to handle it and
I didn't understand it at all so you're I'm just telling you right now with peace and love it
is not normal for me to think of you not having a relationship with your family especially not
people that are like I'm going to cut my grandma off because she's like o
ld school it's like girl
I don't know what girl you're in girl but I'm not cutting my grandma off because she's a homophobe
girl my grandma my grandpa was married 19 he was born in 19 like 17 he's dead now they're all dead
now but my grandparents are like 100 years old I'm sorry they're a little homophobic bro [ __ ]
go old yell yourself stop talking to my grandma cuz she's homophobic girl so anyways the point
is is like there's something wrong with you you know what I mean but also you're
allowed to have
boundaries it could be within reason that you're not talking to your parents but also kind of weird
you know what I mean kind of weird but also you do you you should date someone who's similar it's
like people who come from divorced families that also is a huge thing like not that you're wrong
for coming from a divorced family you probably should be with someone who comes from a divorced
family but like that sets a lot of [ __ ] trauma into your brain bro it totally shows in
kids
Studies have shown it you know what I mean so I needed somebody who's been like whose parents are
still together and I did I found somebody whose parents are still together I tried to date people
with divorced parents bro I just we couldn't understand each other I'm not saying it's bad
I'm just saying we couldn't understand each other why where I find out that yes in fact on top of
everything I was married to a convicted felon had no idea no idea whatsoever and it's nothing but
the g
race of God that I was able that I was honest with the PO grapher and telling him look I I don't
know what's in this man's background to say that I have no idea who I married is an understatement it
is a complete understatement it's fair to say well you only knew him for like two and a half weeks
before you quarantined with him that's fair and I can understand that and I take responsibility
for that but in the big scheme of things I had no idea the creature that I was sleeping next to
every
night no idea let's go ultraviolet says my father tried to kill me I haven't spoken to him in
s years and I'm more healed than ever girl that's an anomaly girl stay away from that man girl
obviously welcome steuart James to the memberships let's go thank you bro appreciate you all right
part 45 who the [ __ ] did I marry so we are now end of July August time frame during this time um
Legion basically disappeared remember I'm still waiting on the final divorce degree to come I'm
actually wa
iting for the 30 days to be up so I can file the divorce settlement form so I'm waiting
on that on those 30 days to be up I'm playing nice with him I'm being cordial I have done uncovered
all kinds of stuff but just in case he was going act to fool I was trying to be cordial so I had
spoken to him on like a Monday and I was trying to get a hold of him for something but I'm the
one that initiated a phone call in the coming days never heard from him never heard from him at
all he wasn't his p
hone was um was dead um it was going straight to voicemail and I genuinely was
worried a few days turned into a week by the time I hadn't heard from him in a week because I knew
he was not living anywhere but his car that I knew that so this is what happened y'all um I first
reached out on Facebook remember even though he has told me that he had all these siblings we know
he didn't have all these siblings but remember I told y'all I had met the brother in Augusta and I
have met the brother
in Baltimore these are people met the brother in Baltimore talk to on FaceTime
the brother in Augusta I've actually physically met hug shake hands all that um so I reached
out to on Facebook to people that I remember him talking about all the time the friend Omar the
brother in Augusta the brother in Baltimore um another cousin in Augusta I was doing a search for
these people's names just like hey have you heard from Legion the brother and Augusta told me no I
haven't heard from him I've be
en trying to reach him um but the phone's going straight to voicemail
I knew he was living in his car so my brain was doing everything it could not to go on the deep
end I reached out on Facebook to the brother in Baltimore and I said you know hey it's gave him
my name and I said um have you heard from Legion now mind you the brother and Baltimore and him
have talked talked on speaker phone I guess it's important that I make that distinction they have
okay guys again I just want to repeat i
f you're not talking to your parents and you don't have
a relationship them relationship to them you are that means you are I'm going to my n divergency
I'm going to categorize you as a certain level of dysfunction to not have a relationship with
your Offspring and your parents means you're in a bubble of dysfunction that is at a level in
which you cannot match that relationship ship of that's the red flag do you get what I'm saying
if your your relationship with your parent is so dysfuncti
onal you can't talk to them that means
your relationship is a red flag which I think you should agree with me here in the terms because
you're not talking to your parents so obviously there was a red flag yes which is the red flag yes
like do you get what I'm saying the fact that you won't talk to your parents is the red flag because
there was a red flag your parents are so dis functional you don't talk to them which means they
are either the red flag or you're the red flag but either way t
here's a red flag cuz there's probably
trauma here that is either a a something someone can handle or something someone needs to heal
from before they can be healthy right talked to on speaker phone so I know that they have talked
at least in 2020 and since most people don't go to therapy and most people don't hear from their
trauma most people repeat Cycles even if they stop talking to their parents to him again according
to they talk all the time but heard them on the phone in 2020 so I s
aid have you talked to him the
brother from Baltimore informs me no I a't talk to him he owes me money so I ain't got nothing
to say to him and I said wait a second like he was telling that y Brothers he was like man he's
like a brother but I don't [ __ ] with I don't f with him because he owes me money so they had not
spoken this is now July 221 they had not spoken in well over six months so all the phone calls
this is what it means guys all the phone calls that he had with a brother in Ba
ltimore in 2021
were not real yeah of course then I reached out to the the the Omar guy and I and I remember
the story was that he he and him known each other's years since California work together
at the cond company I reached out to Omar and said you know have you heard from Legion by any
chance explained who I was he responds with and I'll never forget it he responds okay I'm sorry
I love this conversation hold on Lucy says just because you're in a bubble of dysfunction doesn't
mean you
aren't a healthy-minded person you just need to grow differently yes but satistics show
Breaking generational curses are less likely to happen unless you have the introspective work
to do it right so I agree but that's why it's so commendable when you can break that trauma because
statistically you won't that's why my work is pred ated on the individual breaking that cycle cuz
I think it's possible but most people aren't going to do it right Discord says um I don't think
wait wait no no no
Discord says hold on um I don't think I get it because I think ghosting is kind of
okay too I don't think you owe people your time I agree you don't owe people your time but again
you guys if you grew up in a home where you're not having a connection to the people that gave
birth to you that just means something went like you're either sociopaths you're not connecting to
the familiar tribe you're born into or something deviated in terms of expectation of behavior
right so again it's not li
ke it's not like something like we're talking about babies who if
parents love them and give them all the love and care they need unless they are severely [ __ ]
up are more likely to bond with their parents and create generational joy and bonds now now even
if your parents [ __ ] up to the point where you feel disconnected right because something would
have to go wrong usually or and it doesn't mean you're a bad person right you could just be a
two good people that don't want to get along
but that's very weird like in so many ways that's
a very unique perspective from a species that like tribe is a tribe right so it's so fine parents
disown their kids kids disown their families bubbles disown people all the time it's very weird
that is a level of of of like dysfunction as well these Asian I saw comments like Asian families
that disown their kids yeah they're dysfunctional like they're dysfunctional you know what I mean
those those families that disown their children for marr
ying the wrong person you're dysfunctional
and that's just your level of dysfunction there's something wrong with you that you would birth
a baby not connect to The Offspring and then kick them out because they didn't adhere to a
cultural construct yeah dysfunctional with no I have not heard from him I have absolutely no
contact with him whatsoever we are not friends and I would appreciate if you do not reach out to
me again about him the stories I was told was that this dude is supposedly
his best friend shocking
moment so they had not spoken in years they're not cool he does not fool with them okay went on
to the next person a female cousin I have met she said no um I have not heard from him why would I
hear from him we don't really talk like I think she was genuinely weirded out by the fact that
I'm reaching out to her out of the blue asking hey by Jans have you talked to my to be ex-husband
so what I discovered in because he ended up being gone for two weeks what I discov
ered in those two
weeks let me be very clear with the St I'm getting ready to make I called I reached out to every
person I know who apparently has had some form of relationship with him either he said that they
were friends they talked on the phone he said they hung out um the brother in Baltimore I was told
have been to the house while I was at work brother in Baltimore said no that that never happened I've
never been to your house all these people knew that Legion was a liar and I think
that they all
felt bad with the exception of Omar guy felt bad that I was kind of just discovering what they've
known for years in those two weeks I found out every single person I reached out to not a single
one of them gave a [ __ ] if that man was dead or alive yeah yeah yeah now I will tell you something um I think that's understandable but also
incredibly devastating in some ways now also very different from my lived experience
and some capacity uh for the person that I you know again
like it's different when you
relate this to your life but imagine this is your child imagine this is your sibling it's
incredibly devastating bro it's so devastating it's so interesting like I'm fascinated by
this and this is why I say I do have like a deep love for people because I know that so
much of what they're going through is like an external battle with their their biology
and with their processing with their brains like their relationship they're having
like my heart does go out t
o him I feel really mortified for this man's existence you
know it is it's like I feel mortified for his existence yeah [ __ ] Amber says I agree to an
extent Briny from a minute to go isn't there another isn't there also a level of dysfunction
in staying with your abusive tribe yes absolutely 100% yes it's very contextual but yes there is now
I decided to take the dysfunction in my own tribe and offer them therapy tools and most of them
took it and it actually is like really really great a
nd most of my family made the decision
to try their best to understand each other even though we're very different so the dysfunction
levels have gone way down and it's made a huge difference there's still levels of dysfunction of
course CU everyone's dysfunctional on a spectrum but the good news is that I've seen it work in my
own family and in other people's family you can repair damage but first you have to want to I Des
I'm a borderline girl I desperately want to keep my tribe together
now with that said my parents
also raised incredibly independent children so all of us live our very different lives but stay
very connected so we're on family apps we're on chat things we mail each other packages we meet
up for dinners whatever people are going to fly out to Croatia to see me and yet because our
differences are so there like so distinct but we love each other so much we Tred to keep the
dysfunction minimal by inter in with each other in a respectful but distant manner even
though
it's very close emotionally it's like we don't we're not neighbors but we'll visit because it's
fun and we love spending time together but we're very different we all believe in different things
some believe in God some don't some are gay some are homophobic but we love each other so much
and I just want the best for my family but yeah the levels of dysfunction are definitely there you
know but we're not again our level of dysfunction is very specific you know I call it middle level
dysfunction you know not too bad not too great just in the middle you know so it's much more
workable it's harder when you have a very high level of dysfunction it's even harder parents who
abuse you parents who try to kill you parents who grape you that level of dysfunction is the hardest
story you know it's very difficult you know what I mean Jay says I think that's great Bry but can't
you see how not everyone can stay connected when there is no connection to begin with yes and I'm
call
ing that dysfunctional right I'm understanding guys all of your perspectives are valid I'm
just putting a name to it and I'm categorizing it because I like to categorize everything so
your level of dysfunction in relation to your level of connection to the Consciousness was too
much to allow a bond to occur dysfunction right so now you're Offspring whether you have kids or
family have less of a tribe that's biological and more of a tribe that's probably chosen right
which leads to probably
levels of dysfunction if your kids are not growing up connected to their
grandparents aunties or uncles and therefore are going to grow up with an Mis like a not knowing
their family tree so when school projects come up and they say who's my auntie and uncle and you
say well our family was dysfunctional and I didn't like them so you don't have a connection to these
people there's a reason people go on 23 and me looking for family there's a reason adopted kids
want to know who their bio pare
nts are there's something inherent in the humans as a species to
biologically seek out some sort of genetic like um connection closeness with her genetic like
connection so again I all your perspectives are extremely valid okay I think all humans have a
level of dysfunction on a spectrum and I'm simply categorizing you because that's how my brain likes
to process human beings what category are you in and where do you fit into right all of them have
the attitude some even said it no I haven'
t heard from him I don't care to hear from him it was as
if it was for me it was such a sad moment because I discovered this man has no friends [ __ ]
whatever he has said I'm now able to prove it he has no friends there is nobody who was concerned
they have not heard or seen him in over two weeks some people months one guy years none of them
were concerned yeah so basically what I'm saying is that I discovered he had burned Bridges with
everyone yep burn Bridges with family burn Bridges wi
th yeah I know I know people like this I do and
it is devastating and my heart goes out to them it is very difficult so is it a one or is it mental
health and that is what my work is still trying to figure out my work I'm trying to figure out for
myself okay is this person categorized this mental health and then if so what is it because if it
doesn't have a name I need a name and if it's not I'm going to put it in the subcategory I call ones
because they are neither helpful to themselves or
their communities lots of people with mental
health are plenty helpful to their communities or for themselves not at the same time usually
and then can get better pretty significantly with the right amount of intervention why do these
people regardless of intervention not improve that is the question friends burn Bridges with
fake Brothers fake sisters fake aunties uncles everything he had burned Bridges with everyone
and for me that was more telling than anything else yes I knew he was a
liar um yes I knew he
had made stuff up yeah y says they're probably thinking you're blaming them for not wanting
to be around dysfunctional or abusive families absolutely not have boundaries say it out loud I'm
open but I have boundaries your mental health and your joy is the most important thing is the most
important thing ever okay you are I'm not blaming you I don't even believe in blaming people I don't
even believe in blame I think blame is connected to shame which is connected to a c
onstruct I don't
believe in girl okay I am not shaming you I am not blaming you it is incredibly valid to even have
bound boundaries from very good people people who never hurt you in the first place I'm just letting
you know I am not blaming you I I was genuinely surprised to discover nobody gave a [ __ ] about
this man yeah no one yeah yeah I never met every single family member but the fact that he was
living in his car the fact that he wasn't bathing and was um just had disappeared was
shocking to me
so where was he for those two weeks glad you asked he had checked himself into a behavioral hospital
in Augusta why not to get help no this is July in Georgia it's hot it's never to get help as hell
it's sweaty it's damp it's humid it's everything he checked himself into a hospital so he could
stop sleeping in his car for two weeks when he checked himself in they took his phone and that's
why no one was able to get hold of him and by no one I mean me he checked himself into a
hospital
so that he could have a bed for a couple of weeks that's the type of human being that I was dealing
with yeah yeah part 46 who the [ __ ] did I marry so after the whole missing an action tobac where
um he disappeared for a couple of weeks um K says do you think adopted kids would still seek out
their biof family if they were adopted from Young and didn't know and if they look like they're
they belong to that family uh fam so no reason to question it um it's you know I don't think
that's often the case I think that they don't often need that but some people say they feel I've
read a lot of stories about adopted kids because I think it's interesting some do say that they
intuitionally know something is wrong or different or like off if they feel like they're being lied
to so I'm not sure it's them seeking out their biop parent so much as them noticing that they
feel like off with the people that raised them um but I'm not sure you know it would be interesting
to see
and again I think chosen family is really valid you know but I think we are a biological
species like evolved over millions of years so I think there are just inherent connections that
we can't deny Legion started calling and texting me telling me that he was ready to come home yes
you heard that correct so apparently someone had told him that legally he did not have to leave
the house and I kicked him out because it was a maral home and he had just as much right to be
there as I did so he
started harassing Jay says what's even more terrifying about the story she
strikes me as an introspective and aware enough person to pick up on these things yet she didn't
I yep it sounds like she learned her lesson and she's looking for it now but yeah I think that's
what I mean like I do think like being smart or intelligent is not the same thing as being
introspective and I think that's the problem uh they're different and sometimes you're like
smartness can block your introspection some
times your introspection like isn't as deep rooted
as you think it is sometimes your extrospection understanding other people isn't as like deeply
understood this is why I say like no matter how good you are in something no matter how smart you
are you're still going to probably [ __ ] fall for something or misunderstand something because you
don't know as much as you think you do none of us do none of us know as much as we think we know
and that's really scary and calling the [ __ ] out of
me he was calling I mean 30 times in one
hour he was he was Facebook messenger calling me let me be clear Facebook messenger calling me
yep he was calling me so much he was messaging me saying I'm coming home I'm going to get some
money and drive up from Augusta you have to let me in the house um it's not fair what you're
doing all this other [ __ ] I mean it was it was nonstop he would start calling at 7 o'clock in
the morning he would not stop calling until 10 o' at night he was calling
so much leaving messages
like I said just straight up harassing me so I reached out to attorney friends I reached out
to local law enforcement local law enforcement informed me well technically he's right because
he is still legally your husband our divorce had not been finalized at this point oh the paperwork
had been sent in I was just waiting on the judge to give me her signature but it hadn't happened
yet so the the local for did tell me if he comes back our officers would would have to
let him in
the house you don't have to stay there they gave me different options I mean I was I was trying
everything in the book cuz he is saying I'm coming back to the house I told him do not come you are
not welcome I'm not letting you in the house again the locks have been changed the code had been
changed so I told him if you come to this house step foot on this property I'm calling the police
and get you arrested for trespassing you should know about that he was adamant he was adaman
t that
he was allowed back in the home he didn't know the conversations I had with local law enforcement
but somebody was in his ear telling him no you can go home because she's not allow to kick you
out okay so I didn't know when he was scheduled to come because he was trying to get the money
for the gas to get back to Clinton County I tried everything I could basically what my options were
were simple let him in a home and I can stay in a home put him in a room um just have no dealings
w
ith him but again I don't want to be on the same roof with him this is what the local police told
me I could have an officer go room to room and let his body cam film the room to see the condition
of the house and if Legion showed up I would leave the house I can go to a family memb home and stay
there this is literally in August right before my lease is up so I was already moving I had already
secured another home um did exactly what I said I was going to do move in County so I just needed
a
couple of weeks before I vacated the home so the other op was you know again have the officer film
The home with the body camera that way it shows what the condition of the home is at the time
that he moved in so if anything gets messed up I can sue him Jesus what am I going to sue him
for but nevertheless um or the third option is I can stay there with him make life miserable no
so my plan was the option of have them film The home I was not staying in the same house with
him I didn't ca
re also there was no guarantee and I told I told the officer this look if yall
allow him to stay in this house I telling you by tomorrow morning every utility in this house will
be off he will have no running water he will have no air condition this place will feel like a sauna
officer kind of chuckled and was like again ma'am I mean this is one of those domestic situations
he is allowed in the home damn okay so again I had no idea when he was coming I was on pins and
needles every day I'm
seeing the phone ring like I said about 30 times every hour I'm seeing the
messages I'm saying this I had reached out to a police captain I had reached out to the chief of
police I was trying to get all kinds of help like it ain't what you know is who you know so he
eventually tells me I'm going to be there on Wednesday this is just an example I'm G be there
on Wednesday I had been calling the police uh excuse me police captain who was really gracious
really kind and was trying to help me b
ecause I was likeo I just I just need two weeks and I'm
out of this house and we already knew he legally could not go to the new house I was trying to
see if I can move in early to the new place the landlord was like like I really can't let you
so I felt like I was running out of options he's saying he's coming he's saying he's coming he's
ading he's coming I guess somebody felt sorry and gave him some gas money so he could drive
from Augusta up to GL County so the day before all this goes
down the police captain called me
and he informs me he informs me that they ran his name through uh gcic which is a database that
law enforcement agencies use come turns out he has a warrant for his arrest so the police captain
says this changes everything if he shows up to the house don't do anything call us I have I will
I will have officers to your home and they will simply arrest him so I know that this is a short
part but I'm going to dedicate the next part to what what happened when h
e showed up to my house
oh my God oh my God part 47 who the [ __ ] did I marry so here's what happened this was mid August
um went to work went to work as usual it actually happened on a Friday I had to look at the dates it
happened on a Friday went to work um still he was calling me texting me messaging me that he was
on his way and so I was bit on pins and needles all day I was dreading going home and that was
a horrible feeling to dread to go home so um he had called me and said that he
was at the house
in the driveway I guess he had to use the restro so he decided to go to the Walmart up the street
to go use the bathroom I wasn't answering phone calls I wasn't answering text messages I simply
called the police captain I said hey he's saying he's at the house the police captain himself drove
by the house but I believe he drove by the house when Legion went to Walmart to use the bathroom so
at least Captain was like I don't see anyone there but again if when you get home if
he is there
do not engage call us okay no problem like you want be so I go home I'm on the phone with both my
mother and my aunt on a three-way call um they're both like oh my God oh my God you know what do we
need to do um I drive into my subdivision what he did not know was that he had backed into the
driveway up against the garage normally I park my car in the garage but what he didn't know was
was that at the time I was driving a fleet car so I wasn't even in my normal car and I know t
hat
he was waiting to see my car the Nissan Ultima that he helped get um pull in to the subdivision
and then pull in towards my town home that didn't happen because I'm in a different car he didn't
recognize it so when I turned onto my street as sure as it is hot in Georgia in the summer that
man was sitting in the driveway in his for tours okay so I live not at the time not far from a CAC
so when you go straight down you just turn around and CAC to come back up so that's exactly what I
di
d I went to the corner turned off so that I can see the house but he would not have been able to
see me I went ahead and call 911 I was very calm told him exactly what the captain told me to say
I was like my name is the address is I need um police here because my ex-husband is here he's not
supposed to be here um and I feel feel as though I in danger she said okay she you know again regular
phone call she said we're dispatching police do your home soon as I hang up I then call the police
c
aptain he immediately answers the phone he says we just got the call I'm sending for officers
away okay good get off the phone call my mom and my aunt back because they were both like call us
back um call them back on threeway I continue to sit there until I see four officers four cars
pull in and stop just in front of my house so then I ease up he gets out the car I guess trying
to see what's going on I explain to the officer that walks to my window I say you know this is
what's going on I
was trying to sound extra law enforcement smart I was like check in through GC
you'll find that he has a warn out for his arrest for a violation of probation and the officer kind
of smirked cuz she was like we know we we already uh check GC the captain call this so I was like
okay um so anyway uh they tell me to sit in the car they go up to the window of the car and get
you know ask him to step out of the car he does when he when he stepped out the car I was like
oh my God I hadn't seen hi
m since the end of June when I met him at the UPS store and he look bad
then he was still in the same clothes when I told you guys when I met him he was like a size 3x what
got out of the car was easily a medium or large damn easily that is and it makes sense because you
know he probably wasn't eating except for somebody gave him $6 for chicken nuggets but what got out
of the car was some was something I didn't even recognize so he gets out of the car they arrest
him um there was no inciden
t or anything like that he he was arrested peacefully they put him
in the backseat my neighbors are all looking like what is going on um and so the officer comes up
to me and she said you know he's asking to speak to you do you want to speak to him I said yeah
so she walks with me keep in mind she's wearing a body cam so she walks with me to the window
they put the window down and I looking at him I was like I told you not to come and he said I
just wanted to get my stuff I just wanted to g
et the TV I said what TV the TV that you gave me in
the divorce and he was like yeah yeah that TV and I say I said it's mine you gave it to me I have a
[ __ ] text messages proving that you gave me the TV and I'm trying not to scream because the neers
are all watching um he's like I know I know I just I just need it I just need my stuff I'm sorry I'll
never bother you again I'm sorry and so get this man into a facility that's what I mean like in
an ideal compassionate world this man would b
e given a space an option but then he's probably
just getting a homeless like that's what I mean like like this isn't a person like this isn't
you and me guys this is not you and me this is a category of person who's like deeply suffering
like deeply suffering cuz like you and me like we don't we cannot there's always a spectrum to
suffering this is a deep like I just I wish we were a place to give this man a safe space but
also if he ultimately made the decision that's the problem is like
you can't force people it's
like what's more Humane you know what I mean to imprison him in a psych word where they torture
you or to like you know in an Ideal World maybe there'd be like I like acres and Acres of
like like you remember that that commune video we watched the other day where like all
the people kind of lived in the commune that was abandoned maybe we'd put all these people
in like an abandoned commune and then they can like do whatever they want but they're not
going to hur
t other people or themselves you know I'm exhausted humanity is exhausting I
look at the officer and I was like you have me out here with four [ __ ] police cars you
have embarrassed me to no end you have made a fool of me and you got the audacity to now be
like I'm sorry I'm sorry I'm like [ __ ] you're sorry so the officer was kind of like okay I said
I never want to see you again he's like you won't you won't I'm sorry I'm sorry I'm so sorry like
what if he just needs the right cocktail
of drugs to like stabilize the chemistry hisry and like
his brain what if he has a brain tumor right like I was watching this um psychologist talk
about his nephew all a sudden exhibiting like violent action and it was unlike him and he said
it just came out of nowhere they examined it and they had he had a brain tumor once they took
it out he was back to normal I feel like if we really cared about Humanity everyone would have
mandatory brain tumor scans and scans for cancer and we'd be lik
e actually making sure people are
where they need to be but we don't give [ __ ] and so here we are so I walk off the officer is
like um going through the the stuff that was in his wallet they took it out and put it on the roof
of the car so that's I'm sorry the stuff that was in his pants like his wallet his keys they put
it on the roof of the car when they had him get out the car and so she's just like um you know I
said did you catch all that on body cam she said yeah I said he gave me t
he TV and she said yeah
she's like we're gonna take him in and um we'll get we'll have somebody look at him because
in her words she said he's definitely having a mental episode right now in the backseat and I
just drugged and I was just like my I just said oh a mental episode see just want to be done with
him I just just want to be done I just want to be done and so she was like I understand I totally
get it so his car is in my driveway the keys and everything are um they took it with them
because
I guess since it was on him they took it with him for processing at the jail um Amber says at some
point we stop saving an animal um we try stop we stop trying to save an animal when do we stop
trying to save humans that can't be saved well the Dilemma is that Humanity isn't actually at the
point where they've exhausted all their resources and saving people so that's also a big part of it
is like we have even begun to try to help this man nowhere in this story did anyone help a man
in
his condition they only helped him the way they would help people without his condition now the
question is does he have a condition I would say definitely so I don't think he's a one I think he
has a condition right I wouldn't classify him as a one i' classify him as he has a condition but
then what is the condition now we can say ones or people with possible conditions that are un
um like not documented or resolved and therefore neglected by Society right but this doesn't feel
like h
e could even make a choice if he wanted to in the first place you know and so a part of
me doesn't believe like you know we just do not have the knowledge about the we do not know we are
willing to put children in prison at 12 years old for being violent without without ever considering
their environment or what's possibly happening in their brains like we are not prepared as a species
yet to really know things so we're doing our best and I do think I'm slightly contributing in my
own littl
e bubble way to like asking ourselves like do we even know do we even really know what's
going on cuz in my past life it would be really easy for me to hate this person but this is just
like a mentally ill person to me so I'm like oh that sucks that doesn't mean he can't be held
accountable but it also makes sense why people like this often end up homeless which is why the
homeless issue is a mental health issue because you and I most people are pretty good at not being
homeless and if you
get to homelessness status real homelessness status it means something went
severely wrong in your ability just to maintain minimum wage work and that's interesting right
I think that's what how that works because I didn't see the wallet or the keys afterwards
so so at this point four officers leave I go into the house everything's peaceful and calm a
few minutes later I go outside to check the mail what's in the mail but a letter from the court
I open it up I go into the house cuz again it
's hot I had my wig on my my head is all sweaty and
stuff I'm just angry and um just angry that that raised my blood pressure so I go in the house I
sit on the steps inside the house and I open up the mail from the judge and it's my final divorce
decree and I'm smiling right now but y'all when I got that divorce decree sitting on the stairs
I broke down into ugly Oprah tears I broke down it was as if a huge a year worth of weight came
off with me I broke down and I mean I wailed I broke dow
n I broke down so I broke down so bad
next part all right part 48 who the [ __ ] did I marry so after I finished breaking down WIP
my tears and his car is still in the driveway I couldn't park in the driveway so I called
the car company I had called The Car Company once before um when he went missing for those two
weeks to ask them if they maybe had a tracker on the car and could track it and the nice gentleman
informed me that the tracker had not been giving a signal off for about 5 months
so he wouldn't
really give me details on the but obviously the car had not um the car payment was not being made
on that car it had not been made on that car for quite some time so I you know he and I split in
June but apparently the car payment wasn't made long before June can't speak to that he still had
the car so um called the car company I told them understand that yall looking for this for tours
and the lady said yes you know or you can make a payment I said no y can come get it here
's the
address what one do you want to get and she said I can have a driver come get it tomorrow morning
I said no problem that car will be ready for you to get it tomorrow morning um and so the car was
repossessed out of my driveway the next morning Saturday the driver was there about 7 oock in
the morning he had the master key for the car cranked it up drove it put it on the tow truck and
left here's what that now means when Legion left my house in June he left with two bags of clothes
e
verything else was in my house at the end of July or towards the end of July everything that he had
left in my house had been donated to the domestic violence shelter which means that the only thing
that Legion had were the clothes that he had taken with him in the car when he got arrested in my
driveway all of his clothes were still in the car and when the car got repossessed Saturday morning
all of the clothes were in there which means that when he went to jail whenever he got out he
only
got out with keys to a car he no longer had a wallet with probably no money in it and the
clothes that were on his back everything else was gone MH now now we can fast forward what happened
around August 29th so I was sched to move August 31st remember I'm moving up to cob County we have
been checking the court documents he had a court date scheduled for around August 29th or August
30th I don't remember the exact date the court time was supposed to be around 9:00 in the morning
my mom was
watching the court F the court filings online and according to her because I missed it
um they showed him on the screen because this was still during Zoom they showed him on the screen
and then he was ushered out of out of the Court into like a back area and an attorney spoke on his
behalf between the time that he had been arrested and the time of the court date I had never in my
life slept so good truthfully never slept so good I was officially divorced I had no ties to him
there was noth
ing in the house of his that that EXC me there was nothing of his that was still in
the house I felt free so um when the court date happened my mom told me what she saw on the zoom
I was confused is he getting out is he having to serve time what's going on I called the court to
tried to speak to his attorney um and his attorney had a horrible attitude and was like why are you
calling me and I informed him I said look I'm a bit afraid of this man so can you please just
tell me if he is being
released or is he going to be kept um or if he is going to be sentenced to
a longer jail term he said no he's not being he's not being kept in the longer jail term because
the probation the warrant had expired so when the police arrested him yes it was a arrest but
the warrant had expired so I believe the warrant had expired like six months earlier but of course
it wasn't put in the system which means that if the court date is August 29th he's going to be
released August 29th or August 30t
h I'm moving August 31st so my mom was just like please just
spend the night at your aunt's house like just spend the night at your aunt's house then go back
to the house during the day the movers will be there and then just move so that's exactly what
I did because there was concern that he would get out of jail angry and catch a uber with no money
and come back to the house either for retaliation or because he's just in a [ __ ] manic mode and
so that's where he went um I really want take
any chances it's just that simple I did not want to
take any chances I knew that at that point legally the laws on my side y'all are divorced you have
no reason to be at this home I knew that's what the police would say but I was 100% sure because
truthfully speaking I did not know this man we can make all the jokes we want I did not know this
man I thought I knew him but you never really know a pathological liar so needless to say he got
released August 30th I went to my aun's house for t
he night August 31st I went back to the house the
movers were there they packed me up and we yeah do you think anyone knows the core of this man cuz
I'll say with the people people in my life there was definitely a core part of them that I felt
like I knew and I do know I would bet a million dollars that I understand the core consciousness
of those people that I think about personally but I this man's a little tougher do you think anybody
ever saw this man his like realness not all of him b
ut the essence of his Consciousness like I
like she said you never really know anyone who's a pathological liar I don't think that's true I
don't actually think that's true I think you just can't see it unless you love or unconditionally
like witness a Consciousness like I unconditionally like I would say there's like I
would say there is a core there is a real person you know but with this case it would be much
harder for me to understand a core part that's why I said it felt like somethin
g more but maybe this
is like incredibly uneducated and without tools person you know what I mean because the people I'm
thinking about were much more privileged they had a lot of access to education and stuff so they
were very well spoken had were very well-rounded you know Discord says I want to hear from the
Twin yeah that'd be interesting H Rock says yeah the people I know with NPD I could see the core of
them and it's honestly really sad I'll always hold compassion for people who suffe
r from it yeah
for sure bro M mhm interesting yeah the family members of the people that I'm thinking about
never could abandon those people they have never abandoned them like they haven't abandoned like
these people you know how his siblings are like we don't care if he dies that is not the relationship
the family members of the people that I'm thinking about treated their people two separate families
they're both males the people that I'm thinking about and they're and so it's interestin
g like
when I think about them the categories of people that they are their families like do love them
so that was never the issue but these people are like we don't care if he dies that's interesting
that's interesting we got out of there so quick I think they packed me up in about two hours I
honestly told them there's extra money in this if you guys can get me packed up meaning loaded
up onto the truck CU everything was packed but I explained to them this is a domestic situation
I need
you guys to move quickly when I moved out of that house on August 31st anything that Legion
touched I got rid of I sold the furniture I sold dining room tables I donated plates glasses I
when I tell you I moved out and I started over I completely purged my life completely started
over I mean I didn't I was not willing to take a single item into my new home that reminded me of
him from the dishes in the kitchen to the towels in the linen closet when I tell you Amazon and
Ross were my best fr
iends I mean they were my best friends because I could not fathom moving
into a new home a new space with anything that reminded me of him I sold the bed got a new bed um
if he had bought me clothes I got rid of them if he bought me shoes and purses okay I kind of kept
the heels but um everything else I got rid of so I completely purged my life completely started over
from the bottom in terms of just the move um I I could not take any piece of him with me could not
yeah yeah Fair part 49 wh
o the [ __ ] did I marry so after the whole I moved and um I started over
basically completely started over so there was a period of time where different people had reached
out to me um people who knew him apparently he was still trying to find a couch to sleep on and
so one guy in particular had reached out to me because I guess Legion had asked him if he could
come and stay with him and his family um because he was homeless and had nowhere to go so he had
lied and told the guy because aga
in he's a liar so he had lied and told the guy that you know I
had kicked him out or divorced um I had taken all his money and so that's why he's homeless so
the gentlem simply was reaching out to me on Facebook to confirm what is actually true and he
and I talked because he ended up calling me he and I talked for a while very respectful really
nice guy um very compassionate and so I told him I was like I said we divorced so I have nothing
to do with him I said I wouldn't bring him in my ho
use with my family for year but that's just me
um and so the guy was like lady you know he say lady but he was like lady you dodged a bullet he
was like I know you may not see it now my sister but you dodged a bullet you dodge the bullet big
time and so you know just in talking to him he was very encouraging like it sounds like you got
a get head on your shoulders it sounds like you a good woman and no he was not flirting at all he
was like it sounds like you're a good woman and I really ho
pe this does not mess you up like don't
let him mess you up don't let him like diminish Your Shine kind of thing and I appreciate that I
did because at that time again had moved into my new place 2021 was the worst year I ever had I'm
not saying that so that 2024 can be like hold my beer um but 2021 was a dark year started out
married end of the year divorc end of the year with Co and divorce um and that period of time
that August September time I felt like I was just walking around like a
numb woman I didn't know if
I was coming or going I didn't know what I was I didn't know what to do yeah because I felt like I
had just been through hell and it was a period of time where I had to sit down and I had to really
really deal with some stuff that I just simply was not ready to deal with things that I I had to come
to grips with that I really wasn't ready to come to grips with so fast forward all this time get
to December 2021 yes this is the story does end um get to December 202
1 I am out sick with Co I'm
not at work I get a phone call from my cooworker telling me that Legion has called our job looking
for me and was trying to get information to um trying to get information on how to reach me yes I
had already changed my number again I had already moved but he knew where I worked so apparently
he got called trying to find me and the person that answer the phone was like we're not going
to give you that information so he said well can you ask her to give me a call
I'm just trying to
get a hold of her so I can get my stuff the stuff he's talking about are those tote bags from July
so he was calling calling calling um and it was it was a problem he was trying to reach out to me
on Facebook he was trying to reach out to family members on Facebook trying to get me to call him
so that he could make arrangements to come get his St the Devil is a Lie so my friend Tracy who
came to my rescue again um my my friend Tracy was like okay here's what you're going
to do she said
you're going to send him a message and you were going to say these exact words I sent him a text
message she said and she told me you're G to send a text message because it's G be time stamped and
basically the text message says I do not have your stuff I did not have your stuff um I have nothing
that belongs to you if you continue to you were disrupting um the work of my job by calling and
asking for me we have cont with each I will s you aop of the divorce decree that shows
whatever is
in your possession you own and whatever is in my possession I own if you contact me directly or
indirectly ever again I will get a restraining order on you now for those of you who are watching
this in 2024 and you're probably like wow she dramatic please understand that what I just said
I meant I mean that if you ever try to contact me directly or indirectly I will get a restraining
order I have it in writing I've always had it in writing and if I need to rewrite again in 2024
I will because the the boundaries still stand and that ladies and gentlemen is the last time I
had any contact whatsoever with my pathologically lying ex-husband damn part 50 who the [ __ ] did I
marry so the aftermath there's some realizations I had to come to um after the divorce and everything
had passed I'm so annoyed that it sounds like she's covering the mic with her hand one Legion
never loved me he never left me damn he doesn't love himself so I know he didn't love me number
two h
e didn't even like me he watched me get excited about things that he knew I was not going
to get and not even just The Possession stuff like of course we know I was I was excited to be the
woman whose husband is like I'm taking my wife to London I was excited to be the woman whose husband
was like yeah I bought my wife a brand new BMW X5 you have to understand all the jokes that we make
about the BMW it was the time and effort that he spent in taking me to dealerships and being
sure to put
me in the car and test drive the car and you know oh I can I can see you in this I
like this for you it seem safe it was the it was the effort to really make me believe that he was
going to get this just just for him to [ __ ] with me the effort in taking me to all these homes
to see my face light up as a woman who grew up on welfare to be able to walk into these four and
five bedroom homes knowing that he didn't have any money to buy it imagine if he had just been honest
and said hey I lik
e get my free time to go to open houses and just see how other people live imagine
if he had just said that versus wasting not only my time but wasting the time of the realtor who
did nothing wrong there's a level of Cruelty to my ex-husband that I had never experienced before
and God knows I pray I never experience it again that's the word that I that comes to mind when I
think of him he is cruel to and it wasn't just me he did it to the exwife so do I trust no no I
trust the people who we
re in my life before if we were friends or we were in a relationship or
whatever and I knew you before him um I trust you explicitly but if you're somebody I just met
I don't trust you I don't there's no point in me getting on here and saying and making it seem
like oh I'm so strong I'm so brave I struggle big time because on one hand I want to like someone
on the other hand I'm immediately thinking what if it's a repeat and I'm going be honest with
y'all I can't go through that again I can
't um every single thing in our relationship was a
lie it took me a while to realize every single day this man lied to me every single day he lied
to me every conversation he had was a lie I will never know how much he lies to me I'll never know
I and I make my peace with it I will never know how deep it really truly goes I only know what I
experienced and I only know what God allowed me to see but I'm willing to bet that there's a lot
I still don't know when people say oh you touched a bul
let like you just and I've read I've read a
lot of the comments on this and people have sent me a lot of the comments and so I need to make
one thing very clear I am fully aware I dodge the bullet I am so grateful to my God that I did not
have that man's child I'm sorry that offend some of you but it's the truth I'm grateful that we
didn't buy a house and I'm not financially tied to him in any way shape or form but I'm also grateful
for the fact that there are things about my ex-husband tha
t I discovered in terms of how he is
when it comes to other women and I'm grateful that God has kept me and protected me that's all I'm
saying so when I started out making this series and I and I made the decision to tell my story
my my motive was I just want to help one person if there's a woman out there who's like God you
know I want to be married and I met this guy and something don't seem right but you know maybe it's
not that bad my advice is honey just go ahead and do your research b
ecause I can honestly tell you
being single sucks okay in my opinion sometimes it sucks but being married to the wrong person is a
type of hell no one should have to go through what i what do I always say what do I always say being
single might suck though I don't think it does at a certain point right though I understand it sucks
in a in a way being married to the wrong person is is worse going through a divorce doing let me
tell you never done it but I've seen it enough I've had to experi
ence a lot firsthand I had to
touch the stove a lot in my life one mistake I learned by observation was not to marry the wrong
person that is the one lesson I explicitly learned Growing Up by just observing other people I've
never seen so much [ __ ] pain than listening to people go through divorces or listening to people
say they married the wrong person it's not that you should be so afraid that you never marry again
it's that you're so understanding of who you are as a Consciousness that
you know nope nope not
you not you not you not you and I it sounds like she really came to understand more of herself at
this point right you should not have to be married to someone that does not like you you should not
have to be married to someone that doesn't even love you and I know what that is like I know what
it's like to be told hey babe you know I love you and yet I swear I think that man sat back in
the recliner with his WWE Championship Roman Reigns belt and laughed his ass off
at me every
day like damn she really believe it I do I really do think that um that's the problem he's probably
just severely mentally ill he probably was never laughing at you that's the one thing like I doubt
I don't even think he was thinking about that I don't I don't think he was mocking her in her
his head I don't think you end up homeless and not showering I don't think you end up up mentally
ill the way that he mentally ill seeming the way he presents I don't think he was thinking
look I'm
getting one up on her I just don't I think he was probably lost in the delusion of his own story in
order to maintain some sort of like relationship with somebody who could care for him ultimately
and it's it's not good it's very bad but my radar was broken because I am an intelligent woman
and I know that I know better and I still sometimes ask myself how the [ __ ] did you
let this happen how did you let this be your story just a reminder that non-mentally ill people
who do this
to you with intention are different than people who do it because they're sick right
it's a values difference people who have the values that say it's okay to treat you this way
are different than people who have mental illness right like that's different okay Nia stop spoiling
okay because at the time I wanted it to be my turn and I and I hoped it was my turn and when people
say well what do you mean by that I just meant we all see it whether it's social media real life
we all see where t
he woman she been through some stuff and she finally met someone who appreciates
loves and respects her and it is a beautiful thing I had hoped that when I met him it was my turn
for that and instead instead of being obedient I wanted to be right and I wanted to do what I
wanted to do and the cost of that decision was Heavy the toll of reliving this whole scenario
was Heavy it it was I'm almost surprised at how hard it was to actually finish this playlist not
because I could remember stuff
I probably remember way more details than what I actually put out but
it's just the fact that it's like I'm reminding myself how did you let this happen so therapy
is real therapy helps yes ma'am black helps too um and yes I will one day get to London I will Ari
says he was just getting narcissistic Supply if it is narcissistic Supply it's mental health so he's
not just doing it because he quote knows better he's mentally ill and he's dis his perception of
reality is distorted because of hi
s Disorder so that's what I mean I'm again I'm doing that thing
where I'm being very specific because again it's not it's meant to actually describe like why
Mental Health Care is so important especially for the victims because she thinks it's personal
and it might be vindictive and slightly personal feeling but it's really still about them every
time you hurt somebody it's not about them it's about you that's why I say when you want to hurt
people like oh I hate them that's about you that
means you're a hateful person that's about you how
can you say I am not a hateful person but I hate these people what do you think hate is that's why
good people can be hateful people cuz it's about you bro get my dark blue bmwx5 kak interior um I
believe I will get those things just got to get them a different route so thank you all for being
on the playlist of who the [ __ ] did I marry I promise I will go live and I will let you all
know when I go live so that we can have a wine night fu
ll of question and answers thank you
for watching let's go okay so this is 50 Parts apparently there's an update okay there is an
update let's go try to find that really fast let's okay let's see okay let me see here um actually I think
this oh no the structure should work okay so um the question is I don't want to watch all these
okay 51 hi I am rysa Tissa I am the creator of the who the [ __ ] did I marry series that has been
all over Tik Tok I do realize that this Series has gone complet
ely viral but I'm happy to see
that people are having conversations about it I'm happy to see that people are watching it
but more importantly I'm happy to see that it is helping someone even if it is just one person
that was the purpose of putting this video series up to tell my story and to tell it detailed and
in order with that being said I do have a public service announcement the series who the [ __ ]
did I marry is not something that you have to sit down and hold your phone and watch
I did it
the way I did it so that way you actually can listen to it as an audio book chapter by chapter
in order so if you see this and you're like oh my God I'm not doing 50 Parts don't worry simply go
to my page click on the playlist and it will play in order for you we did that you can listen to
all the times I made bad decisions you can see you can clearly listen to The Good the Bad the
Ugly the embarrassing but most importantly the Redemption and the Forgiveness that I'm trying
and l
earning to give myself all in all do not be dismayed by the fact that it's 50 parts think
of it as an audio book that's how it was done okay girl am I going to get details that's how it
was recorded do whatever you need to do in your daily lives and just play it in the background
and if you still feel like this was way too long she dragged it out okay I love that but like
that's not what I'm looking for um I'm not seeing anything who the [ __ ] did I marry new update
today is Monday Februar
y 26 2024 earlier today legion's older brother Chris reached out to
my friend Tracy trip an attorney here in metro Atlanta he called her firm to ask how he can get
in contact with me Tracy being the friend that she is oh Bobby Johnson with the Super Chat thank
you so much I appreciate it thank you for being here guys basically had the attitude of I don't
know you you going to have to verify remember trust but verify Chris did exactly that on the
phone he verified cuz I was on speaker phone
when she called me that he was in fact the older
brother I felt comfortable I called him from my personal phone I called him at 2:16 p.m. Eastern
Standard Time he and I spoke and there were two things that he asked for me to clear up here it
is number one legion's mother passed away first his father passed away a few years later it was
at the father's funeral that Legion brought his ex-wife and apparently there was an altercation
of some kind between Legion and his older brother they have n
ot seen each other since the father's
funeral the information that I initially gave in my 50p part series was that they have not
seen each other since the mother's funeral so I want to clarify they have not seen each
other since the father's funeral okay secondly Chris wanted me to also let you all know that
their parents though they are passed away the parents did everything they could to get Legion
psychiatric help at one point they were taking him to different therapists and psychologist
s he's
been diagnosed as a kid with both bipolar and schizophrenia yo someone pay me to [ __ ] [ __ ]
all you [ __ ] who doubted me [ __ ] doubt every [ __ ] all you who doubted me [ __ ] it was
in schizophrenia britty it doesn't sound like schizophrenia I'm sorry it's not funny it's I
read so many books okay mantis with the Super Chat thank you so much well done for smashing this
out thank you guys so [Laughter] much [ __ ] all of you who doubted me bro like this stream if
you doubted me
okay [ __ ] I'm so good at my job bro oh I'm so good at my job so good at my
[ __ ] job bro I knew it bro [ __ ] all of you I thought he reminded me of Kanye a bit [ __ ] I
thought he reminded me of Kanye a bit [ __ ] and I was like I'm [ __ ] good at my job [ __ ]
all you who doubted me [ __ ] I did not know this Chris informed me today Monday February 26th
during that phone call that their father came out of retirement to help pay for the medications and
as Legion got older he refused to
take them did not know that that sucks I say all this to say
that Chris gave me permission to go ahead and relay this message to everyone to clear up some
things that were said in the 50p part series D he also had a message for me he said we support you
the family is not mad at you we've known how he is for years you can expose that [ __ ] so thank
you Chris I told him I would make this video to clarify exactly what he said and he told me that
if you or any friends know the family personall
y up in Philly Chris has a message for you the
captain is loose apparently you all should know what that means if you know the family I say
all this to say again I take responsibility and be accountable for the series that I put out
that 50 part series D so if I said something that was incorrect I have no issue making sure
that I correct it as best I can however let me be very clear ladies and gentlemen I know what
my ex-husband put me through I cannot speak for anyone else I can only speak
on my experience
I realize that this story sounds absolutely outrageous but it's true I filmed it the way I
did for a reason because it's true I gave you details because it's true and I stand on that
you all have a wonderful day you too and last but not least to Chris and Tracy I thank you
talk see you guys soon what a queen bro what a [ __ ] Queen she's so good okay Colleen says I
still think he's a one because he won't take the help now this is where my work is specifically
specific in
the categorization okay many people with bipolar and schizophrenia get help I dated
a woman in schizophrenia I know plenty of people bipolar many people with schizophrenia or bipolar
are perfectly functional they're therapists their parents they're somebody's loved one they are they
are very functional the question is is the reason he never allowed people to help him his inability
to introspect therefore he's a one or did his mental illness because of its severity keep him
from getting the
help he needed if his parents were for real and genuinely tried to get him help
then I would say a one this is why I say a one has got to be somebody whose actions is because of
their lack of desire to introspect not because of their mental illness so it is very possible that
he is a one regardless of having schizophrenia and bipolar right like I said we know plenty of
people who have schizophrenia and bipolar who get help and are very functional parts of society
and good people in their fa
mily and they're not like they're not denying the need for help
because they want they've introspected enough to need to get better so they're twos plenty of twos
get the help they need okay so is he a one and at the this point because she has clarified that the
parents tried their best to get a mental Medical intervention I would say yes K he did not eat
the cupcake so if you guys are new to my content think about ones as a man or a person Starving
in the desert and somebody approaches the
m and says here's a cupcake you can have it and they go
no and I go what and they go I'm starving and I'm hungry but I'm not going to eat that cupcake
not going to do it you're like but just here I just gave you a cupcake like eat the cupcake
but they will not under any circumstance eat the cupcake that's a one cuz a two no matter how many
how mentally ill they're going to eat the [ __ ] cupcake they're going to introspect enough to
know oh yeah I need to eat that cupcake a baby is a two a
baby would eat the [ __ ] out of that
cupcake right one is a person who can't introspect enough to eat the cupcake now this is important
a two is doing the best with what they can so if you're a human being who's developmentally
challenged in any way way that would keep you from what you think of as eating the cupcake
that doesn't count they have to be able to make the choice to say no to the cupcake it can't be
somebody who's being impacted by their development mental health or sort of a q
uote outside part of
their Consciousness that is uh keeping them from eating the cupcake if that if that's happening
they're two or above right Chrissy says uh let me see wait with both though it feels like when
when you have twoo serious diagnosis like it's that cards are stacked against you wait did I
miss part of the conversation I mean um maybe that that's the thing he could still be a a
person just suffering from mental health he could be but people also have those problems
and get be
tter that's why people don't believe people who are functional they'll say there's no
way you actually have like both or all of these mental illnesses and you're functional but with
the right family and the right resources you can be quite functional so the Dilemma is again is
it that's the problem when I say object objective T truth outside of our perceptions and biases
right there is a bias to say his mental health is the reason there's a bias to say he made the
choice that's coming from
our internal Clockwork of what we think humans do and why they do it the
question is which one is actually accurate and is it something else and that's why I spend my whole
life being curious about people and why they do things which is also why come off as somebody
who's like judgmental and very open-minded and likes everyone and hates everyone because I
feel like all these things are true at once right so like what is it and I am going to be I
would just I'm so fascinated this is what mak
es me this is what keeps me up at night like why
would a person do that what is it but I know I just don't have all the objective knowledge in
the like the world I don't even have like we we are just understanding so much about people that's
why when people write people off oh they're just a PDF file bro if only it was that easy oh they're
just a racist oh if only it was that easy bro oh they're just a man oh they're just a this if
only it was that easy bro I mean yes it can be that easy bu
t it's probably not it's probably not
that they're quote just a something it's probably more than that and that's what I want to know is
what's the more than that you know what's funny recently with the Hassan stuff I noticed a really
funny feedback which was like Britney like why why are you doing like the opinion that's different
from like everyone else's and I'm like well cuz everyone else I think missed something but also
that is my job my job is to say hm so the world is doing this are
they correct because we know the
majority is dumb as [ __ ] so okay the majority of people are doing this is that correct do they get
it right this time or do they probably [ __ ] up again like a mob usually does you know uh Shy Boy
with the Super Chat great stream thank you so much I appreciate that thank you so much Abby says I
actually I'm actually so shook that I did turn out to be schizophrenia not NPD I mean it could
still be NPD you can have all of these things late on but NPD is ve
ry difficult to get diagnosed are
you guys you guys are saying Legion has a video response what is it how do I find it what what is
it does anyone know what it's called or here I'll start googling it Legion oh my God my dyslexia
cannot read this word le Legion Legion response to Risa Risa which one oh which which one my
exact Finance is not your business she knew for a fact I had money because again I bought
dinner I did everything because I heard in the story where she said that we quarant
ined to
first of all the fact that he came came out and named himself ridiculous together during the
pandemic and I need to clear that up was the chase loan the approval of the $700,000 was that a real
thing I never I never went to my bank and and and needed to get approved for aone getting up every
morning talking to your brother who was on the phone um was the proof of funds ever issued to
the two accounts I let her know about I had five all together but she had access to them she was
ab
le to go to the bank buy what she wanted when she wanted to buy it excruciating paint she did
admit to me then when she was pregnant that was was the other gentleman's kid not mine it were
all signs but I I ignored him cuz she was my wife and I'm just saying she trying to work
hard you start taking care of somebody who don't appreciate it and then you end up with a
recent this was a girl please man you got your significant other and I don't care what y'all been
talking about whatever h i i
put out I even got an argu my significant other this morning about
some that don't even some is that don't even matter trying not to cuss so he does look like a
thumb and and you know what I I I talk to her uh and apologized for my part of and she had a bit
of a smug attitude but this ain't why I made the video I mean I was in an interview today and the
lady had a real smug attitude about talking to me like being having to talk to me as her boss
was like I think we bringing this guy on and
I want you talk to him she had a smug attitude like
you know she better than me because you know when she asked me when am I working I'm working at
a temporary agency right now you know but that that's all water on the bridge I ain't going
to let her block my blessing but again don't be so smug if somebody trying to apologize for
they wrong and you wrong accept their apology and go apologize that's number one two don't be
so smug it's it always gets rubbed in your face I used to be that guy
I used to be a very I used
to be real smug at times about certain situations and it got rubbed in my face big time about 10
years ago so I don't I learned this lesson but I felt like you know somebody need to hear it and
if you want to get at me get at me on my page and say hey man what what I happy to explain the
situation for you and tell you exactly what I'm talking about but for real don't be so smug
don't be such a a-hole really it's too much of that going on now if we all treat each
other a
little better it'll get a little better Jesus where y'all excuse me man I'm trying to find a
parking space my own job man pulling in hand I can't even I know everybody Ain backing one time
hell no okay we love that our players so Jerome nope and we went to marriage Council didn't work
and we broke up but uh my message to her is please stop lying to these people and you can tell them
the real reason I left you you cheated I C you in the house with Bradley and who Bradley we went to
marriage counsel and didn't work and we broke up you can okay but like the brother already came
out and like you know what I mean like if you don't know something about somebody you dating
ask stop trying to Google them or trying to find out stuff um and if they tell you right now you
know it ain't necessar none of your business maybe you should just leave it alone everything ain't
your business all the time about everybody every detail their personal life when you first meet
is not your bu
siness it takes time and years to get to know somebody that way sometimes please
allow the process to be the process and don't try to just dive in cuz what you can do is end
up putting your foot in your mouth and looking real stupid at the end of the day for saying
something making a comment about something you don't even know so again allow a relationship
to progress allow a person to tell you in their own time don't go digging because you never
know what you might find and then no no no n
o no hold on am I still here am I back am I back
am I back am I back am I back am I back wait am I back okay it's my router it's my router
it's [ __ ] 500 a.m. here [ __ ] you guys oh my God it's my router thank you guys for being
here I really do appreciate it okay we're back it's my router it's my [ __ ] router hi oh
my God I can't believe it's 5:00 a.m. it's my [ __ ] router I I changed the router we
changed the router time to 5 a.m. thinking I'm never going to be streaming at 5:00 a.m.
I'm here now girl okay we get the vibes from this guy right The Vibes are really clear okay
I feel like he's the most typical expectation of what we thought is he not exactly what we
thought he would be like in a way you know he's fat again so that kind of helps he looks like
he's got some weight on him so that's good you know look when you're in a relationship that's
healthy it will be the easiest thing you ever do it will be the easiest thing that you ever do
this was not an easy relatio
nship okay and that that's what it is okay wishing him the best in
all of his healing mental health is real don't be a one eat the cupcake don't be a one eat the
cupcake okay eat the cupcake I believe in your ability to eat the cupcake guys eat it every time
when someone hands you a tool take it thank you thank you seriously for being here I know was a
long stream I think it was worth it Abby thank you so much for the Super Chat thank you for
staying up till 5:00 a.m. you said hope you get
plenty of sleep me too I'll be back tomorrow for
stream thank you guys for being here I really do appreciate it um I'm probably just going to
leave this stream up if I'm being real with you I'll go back and put time stamps for all the
parts um probably tomorrow at some point but I'm I'm just going to keep this stream up maybe I'll
make a thumbnail for it but there's no reason for me to clip a freaking 9 hour stream um with that
said thank you for being here I do appreciate it and that's it
that's all I have to say that's
it guys there's nothing else to say humans are going to human shout out to her wishing him the
best life is hard especially when you're a one all right I'll talk to you guys soon here's some
Elvin on our way out we need some cleansing some [Music] cleansing [Music] [Music] for
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Shout out to Reesa!!! UCV4vOEEG8DXZyLSl5P9lLmg/AvE-ZfhduIrp2w_GwonACAUCV4vOEEG8DXZyLSl5P9lLmg/QOhOZKmzMPeP_9EPgPKNGA Start of the actual review: 26:20
Brittany is the only steamer that can make a 9 hour live stream so engaging
Girl your hair looks extra cute in this stream! I even used your hair as a reference when drawing while watching this stream ^.^ i wish we could share photos on the comment section
LMAO the end about the schizophrenia after this whole ass 9 hour journey was the best part
this stream was an absolute wild ride. you are a TROOPER!!! i hope reesa continues to heal and that legion gets the help he so obviously needs. UCV4vOEEG8DXZyLSl5P9lLmg/AvE-ZfhduIrp2w_GwonACAUCV4vOEEG8DXZyLSl5P9lLmg/QOhOZKmzMPeP_9EPgPKNGAUCV4vOEEG8DXZyLSl5P9lLmg/2mBlY-WnJviN_9EP276F8AcUCV4vOEEG8DXZyLSl5P9lLmg/inmLY5LzJaaI_9EPiN6yKAUCV4vOEEG8DXZyLSl5P9lLmg/WyjdZJXkHIfhx_APxpWB0AE
This stream was great! the conversations in the chat were so interesting and fun! Love the community you’ve cultivated and so glad to be a part of it. Thanks for the crazy long stream and staying up so late! Appreciate you And the community so much <3
I gotta be honest, you need to be verifying/looking into a guy before you even go on a first date (literally no judgement to Reesa, nobody would expect a human to be that depraved). But you gotta do a little google search 😭 like for your safety
This stream gave me so many ideas that it induced my hyperfocus. As a result, I paused for an hour to write out my perspective on the neurodivergent spectrum and its intersections with mental illness and trauma. Here is my snack metaphor, based in part on my degree in psychology/forensic psych and integrating personal growth and many many other different lenses/bubbles. I can conceptualize the ND spectrum as if an ice cream parlour. For distinction, neurotypical brains come from a separate pretzel shop. At the ice cream display, all of the flavors represent thought disorders: ASD might be mint flavor, OCD might be chocolate chip, ADHD pistachio, and so forth. One person might have one scoop (diagnosis), or several scoops of different flavors (multiple diagnoses). Toppings like cookies and sprinkles represent individual symptoms. For example, someone might have mint ice cream (ASD cluster of symptoms) but add pistachios on top (one or two symptoms from the ADHD cluster). However, that person wouldn't necessarily qualify for an ADHD diagnosis because they do not have a scoop of the pistachio ice cream, only the nuts. Likewise, someone with pistachio ice cream could add a mint flavor topping. Schizoid symptoms can be represented by adding malt flavor. Personality disorders can be represented by ice cream milkshakes. Someone with scoops of mint and chocolate chip (ASD and OCD) might go through a blender (developmental trauma), resulting in a milkshake. The original ice cream flavors and toppings are still there, but they have been shaken up and cannot revert back. The change of state from solid to liquid represents the personality disorder. Ice cream and milkshakes can be enjoyed even in a world suited to the taste of salty pretzels. We are all delicious mall foodcourt snacks. Perhaps being a ND advocate/social worker is like offering bite-sized samples to others. I'm a mint and pistachio cone with various toppings, and many of my taste-test offers are ignored. Sometimes I'm told that I should shut up and get a pretzel instead. It's hot outside of the parlor, so I can melt if I don't take care of myself. But when I get to share a snack with someone and they at least try an ice cream sample, the vibes are immaculate ✨ ETA My alternative weeb Kingdom Hearts perspective: Re-reading this reveals that actually I am just Roxas trying to get his friends to share sea ice cream together. However this metaphor works less because it's only one flavor of ice cream that apparently doesn't taste very good irl. Still, it was promising enough to warrant a whole rhythm game synced to "It's a Small World After All"🍨 The true ones get it.
I just found out that Legion is now a relationship coach. The audacity!
Regarding the "how did she not know people can lie" in this age of cronically online. She does give us the air of someone who is online, but not deeply so. I also could see her being the first person to go to loved ones with concerns about who they're letting into their life, and not seeing the glowing sign that says "look internally too and take your advice!" I think covîd was the storm that allowed that man into her life and wedged him in. Some people need the people around them to remind them of how aware they are, and it took them away. I'm three and half hours in, and I'm going to suspect his mask fell away quickest when social isolated and lockdowns heavily subsides. I feel that's why she was documenting things so early because subconsciously, it was her way of trying to have that person in front of her, pointing out that she does, in fact, see red flags.
The craziest thing about this entire story is that it was all for nothing. He wasn’t trying for her money, there was no ‘goal’. It was just straight up abuse for the sake of abuse
It's a different feeling to see you at 5 am still streaming 💪, unfortunately I couldn't be there on the stream but see you on the next one ❤❤
I ALWAYS TRUST MY INTUITION. This will be my day! Appreciate you Brittany 🎉
“This is so long, who the hell has time to watch this whole 9 hour video” Me. I do.
When I saw that you were covering this I immediately got excited! So ready for your reactions LETS GO!
You’re very good at the turning signal click 😂
I spent 3 days watching this entire stream, what a journey!
this story feels like a car crash that's so fascinatingly horrible you can't look away. "only" 2 hours in I'm HOOKED
Thanks for posting this Brittany. I really enjoyed watching it during work yesterday and today.
During this video my heartbeat was of someone watching a thriller because I WAS SO INVESTED!!! She could definitely be a audio storyteller!! And you really dissected the story down and added your input which made it even more entertaining!