Why people hide their true capabilities around Narcissists

hello I'm Dar again today's topic is the first in a three-part series looking at why people who have been raised in narcissistic families have narcissistic Partners or are maybe in workplaces or communities dominated by narcissistic people often end up suppressing or hiding their true capabilities their skills talents even their achievements so in this video I'm going to look at high and why people end up hiding certain aspects of themselves how they end up losing their voice next time I'm going

to look at the long-term effects of when people suppress their capabilities lastly I'm going to look at what happens when they begin to find their voice whenever they begin to shine so if you find this topic to be interesting please consider subscribing but just to remind you a narcissist is not just someone who can be difficult to get along with or is selfish from time to time a common characteristics of narcissism include an inflated sense of superiority and a huge sense of entitlement there

is a constant need for validation and admiration from others they can be very disagreeable and highly resistant or highly sensitive to criticism there is also a lack of empathy for other people and these characteristics would be long-term and pervasive not just once in a while so to begin with in a relationship or an environment or indeed any kind of long-term exposure to narcissistic behavior a process of conditioning often begins where people can begin to play Down skills and their talents chi

ldren in narcissistic families May suppress their true feelings hide their true talents out of fear of perhaps outshining The Golden Child this might bring negative reactions from the narcissistic parents and The Golden Child instead they learn to praise and celebrate others in adulthood they may even fear success in relationships if someone has a particular skill or Talent now that could well be something the narcissistic person was impressed by it first they may have been quite encouraging but

after a while they might begin to ridicule criticize even just ignore it sooner or later someone can maybe stop sharing good news about themselves hide any of their achievements their talents they can find it difficult to speak up or speak out when they have to because some narcissistic people they tend to stifle others through constant criticism anger outrage confusion or low mood and those around them can come to dread those reaction so become reluctant to do or say anything that causes conte

ntion they also learn not to question or answer back because when they do they're often met with anger circular reasoning nonsensical logic sometimes even tears when they try to reach out they seems like they never seem to get anywhere so after a while they stop trying to reason stop trying to get through to them eventually people feel as if their opinions thoughts feelings their needs don't matter they are conditioned to believe believe it feels easier not to argue or not to question even not t

o ask for anything when in reality can lead to longer term problems but they understand why people can become overly cautious and guarded about their true selves around narcissistic people remember narcissists have an inflated sense of superiority they don't do humility well so they struggle when others know something they don't or are more accomplished in some area than they are when their sense of superiority is challenged this can lead them to be highly critical and judgmental they belittle a

nd devalue other people's accomplishments and ideas they dismiss other people's success as luck or accuse them of cheating at something to attack their integrity other people's success never really has anything to do with skill or hard work and long-term exposure to this kind of behavior can lead people to play down or hide any knowledge or Talent they may have for instance if asked something by a narcissistic person after a while they might claim they don't know the answer even when they do jus

t to avoid some kind of contention criticism or interrogation next narcissistic people have a strong desire for admiration they don't like to share the spotlight with others and they can feel uncomfortable when others excel at something or if they think someone outshines them somehow this brings out both jealousy and competitiveness in them now it's not necessarily that they increase their efforts quite commonly they exaggerate their own accomplishments while dismissing those of others if someon

e succeeds where they feel they may claim it's due to them being at some kind of unfair disadvantage or perhaps they were treated unfairly and in some cases they may even engage in sabotage just so that someone else doesn't receive any kind of positive attention another key component of narcissism is being envious of others but also believing others are envious of them now due to their sense of entitlement and superiority I would add they believe others should be envious of them this Envy often

contributes to their low self-esteem narcissistic Envy can be quite corrosive they see someone with something they don't have so they don't want them having it either they see someone do something they can't they don't want them being able to do it either if someone has admirable qualities they don't have rather than feel inspired to be more like that they'll find a way to problematize those qualities until the person stops displaying them sometimes it's like they only feel good about themselves

if they feel better than others even those closest to them so some people in narcissistic relationships and environments might fear triggering Envy jealousy or competition so choose to downplay their abilities just to avoid conflict and this can lead them to lose confidence in themselves and their own abilities moving on narcissist IC people often seek to dominate and control those around them someone displaying a level of intelligence or skill may be seen as a challenge to their Authority and

this could lead to a backlash again narcissistic people believe they are superior to others they are the alpha so they could fear a shift in the balance of power if someone is recognized for something and they're not now there are times when people in narcissistic relationships can't even feel uncomfortable if someone else Praises them or mentions their achievements in front of the narcissistic person because that narcissist might behave as if they're pleased at the time but later on they show t

heir displeasure even their vindictiveness when there's no one else around now another reason why some people may hide their talents or their resources is not necessarily out of fear of criticism but rather to avoid being exploited narcissistic people have a huge sense of entitlement and they can be quite parasitical they expect others to do things for them or give them things just because they believe they deserve them so as much as a narcissistic person might minimize or ridicule someone's ski

lls and talents they can exploit those talents for their own gain it's not uncommon especially in workplaces or Community settings where they get others to utilize their skills and then they claim the credit so some people may hide their abilities to prevent being taken advantage of or being manipulated by The Narcissist in their lives who just see them as a resource to be exploited and lastly the reason why people can feel as if they lose their voice in a narcissistic relationship is because th

ey are continually shut down they are talked over laughed at ignored insulted or threatened narcissistic people have a very fragile sense of self that is easily bruised they don't want to hear anything they would consider to be negative about themselves they might experience what's known as a narcissistic wound so they reject anything that might challenge that sense of self anything that could be considered as criticism even when it's something constructive or helpful after a while people can't

feel so ground down they stop speaking up so to summarize people in narcissistic relationships and environments tend to hide and suppress their qualities and achievements for a variety of reasons but it usually comes down to trying to avoid the negative reactions they bring up now unless it's publicly or unless there's something in it for them narcissistic people generally don't celebrate other people's success even those closest to them they can be incredibly envious regardless of the topic the

y always know more about it than you or know someone who knows more about it than you and after a while people can feel so ground down they Fe ignorance of certain things rather than engage in a conversation which always ends up them being judged insulted confused or frustrated they come to believe it's easier for them to say or do nothing that might elicit a negative response from from a narcissistic person when in reality it only keeps it going it only feeds them they keep good news to themsel

ves even something as simple as just having a good day can bring about a negative reaction so they learn to keep it quiet and eventually through a process of constant criticism gaslighting and pointless arguments people begin to doubt their own reality now in the short term playing down talents may feel easier but in the long term the cost well that's something I'm going to discuss in the next video so that's a brief outline of why some people may hide even suppress their true skills knowledge q

ualities in narcissistic relationships but if there's anything I've missed please feel free to use the comment section as always there are some interesting conversations start from these videos but if you find this topic to be interesting please consider subscribing and until next time thanks for watching