so let's get started um i think i'd like to start today with some information from you i will of course be talking a little bit about anxiety but i'd like to hear from you what are some things that your kids are most concerned about or some things that you're most concerned about so um we know that anxiety is a natural part of life but when these when the emotions and concerns related to anxiety become too difficult for a child they will definitely need your help and this would be true for teens
as well so let's say a few things about how the brain works and what how anxiety functions in the brain and why anxiety and adhd travel so closely together so research has shown that in the general population of children and teens up to the age of 17 the anxiety rates are about seven percent this is before kovitz so it could be different now for kids with adhd the anxiety rates are closer to 34 for adults with adhd and the the the statistics are actually similar in terms of the seven or whateve
r percent um 50 of adults with adhd have anxiety so anxiety is something that's happening to all of us to many of us much of the time and those are people who have a full diagnosis that doesn't mean people who have tendencies toward anxiety so i'm hoping that you can hear me um if you can't hear me please let me know so let's talk a little bit about the brain so the brain as we know is a very interesting organ with an organism and what happens is that um there are different parts of the brain th
ere's the physiological brain in the back and that uh that keep that's our are basically our blood pressure and our br you know heart rate and you know keeps us alive uh then there's the middle part of the brain the emotional brain it's also called the mammalian brain and in this part of the brain is where the limbic system lives and inside the limbic system which has a lot to do with managing feelings is a very two small organs ones in the right side left side of the brain one's on the right ca
lled the amygdala and these are almond shaped organs and what they do is they help they manage fight flight and freeze so then we have the prefrontal cortex which is the thinking brain and so what happens is and this part of our brain is where our executive functioning skills are and it manages the rest of the brain and in people with adhd there can be a delay of up to three years in the connectivity between this part of the brain and the rest of the brain which is why we say that kids with adhd
mature more slowly sometimes up to three years behind when we have strong feelings we have when people with adhd have strong feelings uh one of the executive functions that's so important it has to do with emotional control emotional regulation and often that's weaker in people with adhd it's also fundamentally linked to working memory which is something many people with adhd struggle with so how does this relate to anxiety how it relates to anxiety is that it's it because people with adhd ofte
n struggle with emotional regulation when they have feelings they're very intense and they um what happens is is that the amygdala is more likely to sort of come out from the middle part of the brain you know i like to think of the brain as like a tesla um in the back is the engine that's our physiological brain in the in the in the back seat of the car is the um you know is where the emotional brain lives and in the front seat with that computer making sure we go to all the right places is our
thinking brain and and in episodes of of strong emotion fight flight or freeze the amygdala comes out from the the the back seat it elbows our thinking brain over to the passenger seat and it starts directing and driving the car that is us and it's a very erratic kind of driving and so we have to do is to get the emotional brain back in line and we do that with breathing because we have to control the physiological response we do that with language we talking to ourselves or being able to talk a
bout what's going on so um and for people with adhd it's a lot harder to manage that process so let's look at what some of you are saying about some of your concerns okay thank you dawn i mean lisa dawn uh hi susan hi eva uh hi jennifer so anxiety in your teen looks like insomnia oh i know that one oh great megan i'm glad uh kate my seven-year-old has extreme existential anxiety about death well actually that's pretty typical um uh for a seven-year-old a lot of seven-year-olds can be afraid abou
t things like fires and death and that's part of development a human development um the extreme part maybe not so much school and grades is a source of anxiety mine is really the difficulty of social anxiety and making friends despite given opportunities therapies etc my youngest hasn't done social skills classes and i'm thinking of finding one for him age 15 i have two neurodivergent kids that's a great idea uh what your 15 year old might also like to do um which i found very helpful for a bunc
h of my clients who struggle with social anxiety actually are improvisational acting classes um they're fun there are all kinds of like theater games and there's no pressure uh to perform um and it doesn't feel like you're going to work sometimes groups can feel stigmatizing but improvisational theater can be fun i have a number of clients who've really thrived tanya my son 9 is worried about time on a daily basis there are not enough hours in the day for him to do everything he would like to do
when he spends his days worrying about everything i try to explain to him that spending time worrying about not having time is actually taking time away from the things he would like to do but it doesn't help you know one thing that i think would be helpful if for your son when no i'm sorry tonya is actually to sit down and have him to get all his worries out in one 15-minute setting okay you're worried let's get all the worries out all i want you to do for the next 15 minutes is worry worry wo
rry worry worry and i'm going to bet that that's going to be very hard for him to do because he'll get some worries out and then he'll change the subject or he'll do something else and then he'll circle back and what you want is to try to get him to get them all out so that way he can see that actually all the time that he's using for worrying like if he got all his worries out in 15 minutes and where he came up at another point in the day he can say it's not your time right now your time is at
3 p.m or 3 p.m and 7 p.m you have two special times and that's when you can come out so right now i forgot about it just something to play with uh we call that a a a strategic intervention something that's different than expected dede my 12 year old son's anxiety comes across as anger dede this happens a lot for kids and partially that's because that fight flight fear is sort of mixed up um we they end that anger is also the gatekeeper for all kinds of emotions particularly for young men um and
boys um it's okay to be angry it's less okay in the culture of toxic masculinity to be scared to be vulnerable to be sensitive and so that that may be the gatekeeper and i might want to talk with him about that and say okay well so i see the anger i hear what you're telling me i'm curious what's behind the anger what's underneath it because usually anger's just the gatekeeper there's something else that it's guarding yes there's always a recording available um lacy or lacy anxiety in my nine-yea
r-old son looks like shutting down or appearing lazy while in a school setting he expresses his anxiety with his words at a home setting oh that's good i'm glad he talks about it when he is shutting down in school could his teacher send him on an errand could his teacher send him to a place where he feels safe to regroup so that he can come back into the setting is there a cozy corner in the classroom can he get a drink of water if he's shutting down is he aware that he's shutting down and if he
is could he raise his hand or have some sort of signal with the teacher um so that he could um you know sort of pivot um and uh settle and start again one of the things that we have to think about is that um when we're anxious anxiety anxiety is a physiological response to worried thinking and so we have to treat the physiology of the anxiety and the way we're going to do that really is through settling our body down and for some people settling your body down can be dancing for some people it
can be going for a run for some people and for many people it's just paying attention to breathing to slowing yourself down and the way that we're going to do that is by teaching some breathing tools and i've talked about these tools before we can teach alternate nostril breathing you know from yoga where you breathe in and breathe out from the same nostril and then breathe in and breathe out you could teach what i call triangle breathing breathe in for four one two three four breathe out hold f
or four one two three four and breathe out for six one two three four five six sometimes we might wanna ask our kids to smell a beautiful rose or um blow out the candle or you know smell a cup of hot chocolate and cool it down so we want to have some tools that they can access and if and if your kids can't can read you could write those down if your kids need do better with pictures you can get some pictures of that but we want to have them um access their breathing and and you learn to use that
because it's always available wherever you are basel i've had anxiety since childhood school anxiety not recovered from the school anxiety i'm sorry to hear that basel and maybe the school anxiety has transformed into some kind of adult anxiety that happens tina manifest is staying in the room all the time hi jessica now of course yes patty you will so of course a jennifer i want to get back to insomnia in a minute so you know we're living in a very anxious time we are in an age of anxiety righ
t now every day where that that anxiety has to do with a war in europe that anxiety has to do with uh covet that anxiety has to do with um if you live in the united states and in other countries all kinds of political changes or conservatism that might be threatening certain people's rights and and liberalism that might be threatening other people's sense of self so there's a lot of turmoil everywhere and so when we live in this this you know sort of crucible of anxiety we are not a relaxed we a
re stressed and our kids themselves are stressed you know kids are coming out of covet in school having missed two years two crucial years of development of social skills academic skills um behavioral skills and so there are higher levels of anxiety across the board now jennifer you're asking about anxiety and insomnia and uh what you know a lot of times it's hard to fall asleep a lot of times people tell themselves they can't sleep and then they don't fall asleep sometimes they wake up in the m
iddle of the night they find it hard to go back to sleep because their mind is going and so um you know i think with a teen who struggles with insomnia i'd like to get a little more information from you on the type of insomnia and then we can maybe brainstorm some possible solutions thank you hi masha hi marcia excuse me uh marcia our 12 year old's visible anxiety is focused around peers and not fitting in she still has daily nightmares we're not sure what those are about that's interesting i wo
nder if something's happened in her world that has frightened her and made this so much worse i also wonder if she's witnessed someone who's been excluded or teased and is afraid of that happening to her um you know i'm kind of curious about what you know the content of the nightmares you know there's one theory of dreams um uh you know where you are all parts of your dream um and sometimes it's helpful to think about that um that you know um you know what part of your dream is manifesting here
and sometimes it's interesting to think about you know you as a dreamer what what is happening and could you go if you were to go back into that scary dream how would it resolve what would you do to resolve it we call that dreaming the dream forward and maybe she could draw that maybe she could talk it or maybe you could close your eyes and say okay let's go back to that scary place this is during an awake moment and see what would come next what is what's an option like how could we restore wha
t's happening to our heroine michelle how many of these kids have difficulty to control anger do regular anger management skills work for this population michelle a lot of kids with adhd struggle with anger a lot of adults with adhd struggle with anger and that has to do with the flooding that's occurring for with emotional dysregulation and that amygdala hijack um regular and management skills can work of course but also a kind of needs to come from an understanding that um there are some biolo
gical uh limitations that are in play and how um and what we could do that with the physiology to make some changes um okay yes so we often see that anger d hi i find that just validating a child's feeling can help oh yes i'm gonna support you on that one um i don't agree taking things away as punishment but implementing incentives looking at tv time ipads xboxes as privileges that can be earned dee you're speaking to the converted over here thank you i love that i'm really glad you shared that
cheryl my 15 year old son has social anxiety was my 15 year old social anxiety not son daughter and she doesn't want to do anything and still struggles in school so social anxiety you know that can be something that we can come back and talk about because it's very specific and it's different than general anxiety so general anxiety has to do with you know insomnia or worry about grades or not making friends or you know death or um illness and things like that social and we treat that in one part
icular way and social anxiety is different and i just want to say um that social anxiety um the social anxiety has to do with a core a deficient a core sense of deficiency i'm not you know okay i'm not good enough um i i don't you know i have a limited belief about who i am general anxiety has to do with a sense of will things be okay i don't have control over them and that's making me anxious i can't predict what's going to happen and it doesn't come with a cored sense of deficiency the way soc
ial anxiety does it comes from a discomfort with insecurity i'm uncomfortable because i don't know how things are going to work out and and that's where we have to work with kids and i'll talk about that in a minute jennifer my son's adhd and anxiety contribute to procrastination oh yes procrastination is a form of anxiety particularly for people with adhd whether it's perfectionism or avoidance or productive procrastination michelle my second board had insomnia as an elementary student it's a t
ough behavior to change i have insomnia too and adhd yeah i'm also not the best sleeper in the world um tammy my daughter's anxiety also comes out in anger but she is also afraid of being judged or rejected by peers which has happened a lot since her diagnosis and now she has gravitated to a bad group of kids because they accept her so this happens unfortunately more often than i would like to say so um because kids are can be so cruel to each other because kids um value some sort of you know im
aginary sameness that doesn't exist right we are neurodiverse as a human population we we all have cognitive strengths and challenges um which is different than being neurodivergent neurodiverse is the umbrella underneath we have neurotypical and neurodivergent but that means that as a pop as a as humans we are nor diverse just like there's gender diversity and ethnic diversity racial diversity etc so the fear of being judged is pulling her towards kids who actually already have outward issues w
ho won't judge her um but they'll accept her um as someone who's different um and i think that uh one of the things that is is is frustrating for i imagine is frustrating for you is how to get her to make better choices with her friends um particularly because these kids are are not helping her you know grow and flourish in a way that you would like um i i i would encourage maybe her to get some counseling if you can do that because um this fear of being judged or rejected may have some roots in
in a reality you know i think people with adhd and kids with adhd live with a thousand little paper cuts of of complex trauma and so there just may not be a single incident but there may be a lot of little things that happen along the way and since so many particularly girls with adhd also have rejection sensitivity dysphoria or sensitive uh sort of very sensitive or fragile in some ways she may be masking that with her anger well there are so many comments this is great dede when my son was an
xious at 12 he was also angry and violent i looked a lot at trauma-informed parenting practice and this really helped for him yes so trauma-informed parenting practice means that instead of asking uh why is my child acting this way we're asking the question what's happened in my child's life that is leading them to behave this way cheryl where why does my adhd kid not sleep well she goes to bed early wakes up at least once or twice a night and sometimes stays up the rest of the night i give her
melatonin is this common uh yes it is common some people find melatonin can be helpful but i'm not a prescriber so i i can't give advice on that i know um that a lot what what i do know is that adh there are two neurotransmitters that are in that are involved in adhd in our brains one is dopamine and one is norepinephrine and norepinephrine actually really does operate in areas of the brain that have to do with a sleep wake cycle so a lot of people with adhd struggle with sleeping and sleeping w
ell okay where's the information about the adult group mentioned sorry can anyone share a link yes i will share those links for you one more time here we go okay here is the adult group that's starting next thursday susan tried mindfulness class before cove and i just felt very frustrated and a failure before i knew about i had adhd so yes some mindfulness classes unfortunately can make you feel bad about yourself because it's like well you know my mind is drifting is that anybody else's mind dr
ifting your mind is going to drift you know what i love about jack cornfield and tara brock is they say your mind is like a puppy it's going to wander and what you want to do is just gently bring it back not yell at yourself why are you wandering or you're a bad puppy but just gently bring your bring your mind back to where to what you were doing before and treat it with compassion and kindness yep my mind wanders i'm going to bring it back and come back to my breath and my mind's going to wande
r again and i'm going to come back to my breath jessica washing the face with cold water helps or cold water rinse in the shower helps regulate the nervous system and i recently heard of holding ice cubes too what whatever works for you jessica says i teach my clients self-check what are you feeling what are you thinking what are you doing what do you need wonderful elle marie stokes says my six-year-old is extremely afraid to be alone not even going to the bathroom alone cannot leave a room and
leave him there i'm wondering what the um the scary the scary what he what he's afraid of and what are those scary voices saying to him that's going to happen when he is alone because one of the things about anxiety that we want to understand particularly this type of anxiety is that the anxiety is going to say blah blah blah and you can't handle it so therefore because you can't handle it the worst is going to occur and instead what we want to do is to teach kids how to talk back to the worry
monster and so with a six-year-old i would definitely want to like name the weary monster draw the weary monster and come up with some ways that you can put your arm around your son and take out your invisible sword and say okay mr worry monster you can take a step back because we've got this we know what to say we know what to do when this happens that would be i think helpful because he's afraid of something bad happening we want to understand what that bad thing is and then we want to teach h
im how to manage it as parents what we often want to do is reassure our children that everything's going to be okay and they'll be okay and that is a short-term solution but it doesn't build any long-term skills and it actually weakens their ability in the long term to soothe themselves we want to change their relationship to the anxiety process rather than trying to solve each problem as it rears its head because you're going to play whack-a-mole every day all day if you do that so we want to n
otice when does the fear come up what does the fear say what is the goal of the fear and how can we talk back to that fear how can we say you know what i'm afraid to go to the bathroom by myself but mom is on the other side of the door so i'm going to try it i'm going to hold on to my courage and i'm going to try it and see what happens let's see danny as an adhd adult who was not diagnosed until later in life and now has an adhd child a lot of my anxiety comes from dealing with my son's school
i feel like i'm not only fighting for him but for the child i was who never got the supports i needed it's hard not to get emotional when i'm constantly oops having to push back against the school thank you danny so much for sharing this you know as adults we all have um our invisible backpack of our school experiences our family of origin experiences that we bring with us to parenting our children and particularly to walking into their school and so it makes sense to me that you get a lot of an
xiety from dealing with your school with your son's school because you probably had issues in school where no one advocated for you in the way that you would have liked you didn't feel understood uh in in the way that would have been helpful so i think um uh you know richard schwartz has done some such amazing work in his internal family systems uh books and workshops and trainings and what he would say is that that part of you that's anxious is it's a part of you it's a it's a it's a it's a it
was a protector it came out to protect you from various events in your childhood but it may not be serving you anymore um it might be motivating you to do well for your own child but it may not be serving you in the things that it's telling you about yourself so what way can you work with that part maybe thank it for trying to help you and let it know that you've got this or ask it some questions what is it afraid of um what would you you know what would um what would it have liked someone to do
for you that you could now do for your child and in doing so for your child you then are healing yourself hi michelle my 10 year old has always had massive anxiety about something happening to me his general anxiety is high anyway either way gets angry or runs off so he's afraid he loves you and he's afraid that something could happen to you and he doesn't know what he would do if that occurred so what i would try to do is to come up with some kind of plan if something happens to me or if i'm n
ot feeling well this is what we're gonna do and this is how you'll be taken care of but i'm not planning to go anywhere anytime soon and it's hard to trust that so we're just gonna have to take a chance and and see what happens and that's the hardest part about dealing with anxiety anxiety wants certainty anxiety wants security and there isn't security and certainty in this world there isn't so we want to be able to have strategies to use in situations where we're feeling uncomfortable jennifer
her insomnia occurs both at bedtime and in the middle of the night and then other times in the early morning she's on seroquel and melatonin this affects her ability to get to first or even second period she doesn't right so um jennifer i would really encourage you to speak to your prescriber about this because she may be taking too much of one thing and not enough of another or she may be taking the medication too late at night which is affecting her ability to get up yes charmaine jessica then
i teach the thoughts tracker what is the trigger what is the feeling name and feel it what does this remind me of what do you need right now self-regulation tools what can i do uh differently next time i'm triggered to reprogram the brain and i hope that this helps someone thank you so much for sharing that that's really lovely i appreciate your doing that it's very kind of you okay let's see dana is worrying about being on time or being on time schedule general anxiety yes it is yes it is so t
he the there are different types of anxiety there's you know stranger anxiety when with babies and separation anxiety and we'll see this with kids for example the person whose son won't go to the bathroom by himself um then we'll see specific types of anxiety or what are called phobias and those are like i'm afraid of thunderstorms i'm afraid of um getting on a plane um then we'll see um uh social anxiety uh is a particular type of anxiety general anxiety and there are different types of things
that are anxious related but they're not you know they're not diagnosed under the anxiety umbrella such as perfectionism um and then there's ocd uh obsessive-compulsive disorder which is its own category but related to the anxiety and then there's post-traumatic stress disorder which is its own category but also related to anxiety okay for social anxiety an excellent workbook the shyness and social anxiety workbook for teens yes that is an excellent resource thank you so much for sharing that um
maybe she doesn't feel as if she has choices for friends yeah so um that's an interesting response to something that came up earlier that's true maybe she doesn't feel like she has choices so she's choosing these people um and i'm curious what has happened to people with whom she was friendly at a different time before a diagnosis and do you have family friends who have kids her age where you could socialize as families to help rekindle those relationships jessica anxiety craves control certain
ty and comfort so i learned this is why we feel anxious our subconscious mind wants to keep us safe um and uh and secure and life to be predictable so when it's not this can trigger anxiety absolutely um thank you for posting the ideas about sleep cheryl how do you build executive functioning skills in kids organizational skills are severely lacking homework gets lost any things get misplaced all the time any suggestions yes i'm happy to talk about organizational skills um and executive function
ing skills in general we touch on numer and numerous of facebook lives and there are many uh wonderful webinars uh in the ad in the attitude library that i would encourage you to check out but essentially building executive functioning skills takes time patience practice and then time patience practice repetition direct instruction and patience and time and practice and i would encourage you when you're working on t building executive functioning skills in your kids to pick one thing that you wa
nt to work on because what happens is as parents we see a lot of different areas that need improvement in growth and we try to work on all of those and that just creates anxiety for us and anxiety in our kids and it doesn't perpetuate a sense of success and we want them to feel a sense of success uh let's see okay thank you it's probably except that these kids now gotten her in trouble with the law and have convinced her that street drugs will help better than anything else right so that sounds
really really tough tammy and um you know kids are smart and so uh and they're curious and these kids are telling her that street drugs will help her what about doing some information searches together um there's probably something on tic tac i know there are some psychiatrists on tick tock who are giving good information about adhd whether it's ned hallowell or someone else um maybe watch a couple of the videos in attitude do some research because actually street drugs do not help more than any
thing else because they don't target the specific neurotransmitters that medication for adhd targets they just medicate the whole brain they drug the brain and that's different thank you helen what do you do when you worry too much what to do when you worry too much by don huber oh it's a great book thank you so much for putting that up there it is wonderful um what are the best additions to an iep for an adhd child i'm going to leave that to annie thank you annie jessica is procrastination a fo
rm of anxiety i would say procrastination is definitely a type of it's a manifestation of anxiety but it's not like it's not if you go into the diagnostic and statistic manual dsm it doesn't say procrastination under anxiety um but like it does you know separation anxiety or social anxiety or you know ocd um and so i think it's but it is definitely related and i think i've talked about this in some webinars before but it is related oh maria i'm so sorry ugh what happened do you want to share can
we support you in any way dana if picking to focus on one executive functioning skill how long a time would you take for weeks months or a year um well my first response is as long as it takes but my second response is try something for three months because we want to get into a new habit and a new routine and then when there's progress on that when that habit is happening more often than it's not then you're ready for something else there was an article this week in the wall street journal abo
ut adderall do you know why some clinicians are stopping it in patients um i think adderall is a very complicated medication it has a lot of side effects it also is very addicting and so um i i'm actually not uh i mean i know it helps people i think that vyvanse which is the uh a form of adderall that is a kind of cleaner delivery system uh it can be a better um a better a better choice for many people but i can't answer that question hello just did a facebook revenue through attitude mag about
addiction in some adhd people great thank you thank you for sharing that all right so let me go back to i have to scroll through something so hold on a second okay so i want to go back to what are some practical tools for helping kids learn how to manage their anxiety so the first thing that we want to do is lower your anxiety manage your own concerns first kids have incredible radar and they can pick up when their parents are stressed or anxious and it increases their own distress conscious or
unconscious um and you know we know that there's a there's that that where depression there's a genetic component to depression you know can it can there's all there's a there's a predisposition so if you are an anxious parent or you have an anxious family you know there's a high likelihood that you yourself will be anxious so the first step is we want to lower your own anxiety discuss your concerns with a partner or a friend or a counselor write these down and then strategize responses or to do
action items by creating what i call an anxiety decelerator plan and so for this will help you feel like you have a little bit more control because you have a strategy you have something to do so for example if you're worried because your child isn't doing well in school and needs more academic support your your action on the plan would be to contact the school to set up a meeting here's the here's the fear what's the related action the second thing that we want to do are help our kids identify
their worries okay a lot of times kids feel like they are their worries we feel like we are our worries and we want to put distance between our worries and our um perceptions of ourselves so we can't help kids turn down the frequency or intensity of their anxiety unless we know what's causing it and so worried thinking and environmental triggers can set off children and teens so we want to kind of stop this and have a weekly or a check-in as a family to talk about you know what what's uncomfort
able or what's uncertain for them write these down pick one fear together that you would like to address and when you're able to when you are when your child feels like he or she is able to regularly turn the volume down on that and that worry then you can change to something else but that's what we're trying to teach them not to eradicate the anxiety because it's not going to happen it's how we're wired as humans it has helped us survive and yes you may not live in a jungle with a tiger that's
going to chase you but what's happened is that our thoughts are now become tigers that are chasing us and so we have to learn how to talk back to our thoughts and turn down the noise in our minds we want to change the relationship to anxiety so think like sherlock holmes and investigate anxiety like a puzzle when where how does it show up what are its triggers when worry arrives say to your kids hmm that seems like worry hmm what could you do to size it down many kids feel very powerless about a
nxiety and benefit from redefining it as something that's separate from who they are stay neutral and compassionate without fixing this is a really hard one although you must intervene in situations of bullying violence or academic failure risky behaviors most of the time your team needs your support in thinking through responses to tricky situations not solving them so kids of anxious parents are more likely to be anxious themselves so monitor and manage your own reactions and then help your ki
ds figure out what their alternatives are start small to build confidence anxiety is great at erasing memories of past successes which is compounded for kids with adhd and their working memory challenges so choose a goal that's in reach and work on taking a small step first what would your child or teen want to do if anxiety wasn't there help them recall a time when they took a risk and they succeeded then discuss those strategies with them um and how those strategies of taking that risk can app
ly to their current situation offer them some language like hmm i'm willing to feel unsure i can grab onto my courage and try this okay we have some comments here i'm an artist and i thought working for an art school would be perfect but the boss [Music] let's see the boss was not an artist my executive functioning skills my executive functioning deficiencies were not acceptable for a type a boss that wouldn't give accommodations ugh that just really doesn't feel right to me and i don't know if
you can contact if you live in the united states but the uh americans with disabilities act should provide you with some accommodations i'm just saying you have rights here michelle as a soccer referee with add i can't allow my mind to wander as a puppy and rein it back in no i'm talking about when you're meditating not during the day when you're meditating i would have missed an entire play foul balls etc as an msw um i do believe meds have their place used with caution and only if they truly m
ake a difference beyond reffing i can let my mind wander and that's where my creativity comes from great i'm sorry if there was some misunderstanding i was talking about when you're meditating to let the puppy wander and bring it back not necessarily when you're coaching soccer jessica yes our thoughts are real and the stories and beliefs so real but is it true mostly not also i learned that 80 percent of our thoughts are negative is this true yes actually i think it might be higher but that it'
s up there thank you michelle while my daughter recently graduated from an art school and you are correct that the admins are not artists artists are simply very special and unique people yes who need support to deal with a lot of administrative stuff that's tough so finally i want to leave you with an idea which is can you help your kids opt for curiosity instead of anxiety can you help them say i wonder about rather than i'm worried about kids often feel a distinct lack of control in their liv
es which fuels their anxiety particularly those who are neurodivergent so we want to try to shift away from how anxiety and worry are shutting kids down and predicting negative outcomes and to the how how curiosity can open them up and offer them possibilities focus on building resilience resilience is the antidote to anxiety when your kids identify strengths and and can know who care and know people who care about them and can develop an interest they feel more confident so find ways to connect
on things that matter to them like a favorite community computer game or funny youtube video because nurturing your connection with them will improve their willingness to work with you in tackling their anxiety so here's the free downloadable again on parenting neurodivergent teens with anxiety thank you so much for joining me today um thank you thank you lynn for correcting that and thank you jessica oh thank you that's so sweet um and i want to wish those of you who are um in the united state
s and celebrate mother's day on sunday a wonderful mother's day free of worries give yourself a give check your worries into the worry motel when you wake up in the morning write them down and and let them and then you can get back to them the next day uh so thank you i want to say um i really want to just honor our mothers who are watching and and those of us who are mothers and daughters i want to honor us as well because if you aren't a mother you certainly have one and um you've hopefully be
nefited and grown from that experience positively and maybe not so positively but you've grown so thank you have a wonderful weekend and i'll see you in two weeks
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