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Timestamps:
00:00 internal conflict can ruin your life
01:10 what are inner conflicts
02:15 notice how you feel
03:00 do you know your reactions when feeling in conflict?
04:44 know your boundaries
05:45 saying "no" is your birthright
06:45 you are your own guide - trust in that
08:00 your truth/ their truth
08:45 no more excuses
13:00 you will change over time
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welcome to another video hello hello I hope
you're doing well today we are going to look into inner conflicts and how they actually
can really ruin your life and I really mean this quite literally right this is quite uh um
this is a video I want to make it a little bit light but it's also some kind of hey people
take action uh and I don't mean action in the outside world I mean inner action start to
start to uh expand a little bit more in your uh Consciousness and start to dive into hey thi
s
is actually not me right this is not how I want to be seen this is not how I want to show up but
I'm showing up that way because I don't know any different and so you know giving yourself some
kind kind of okay that's that's that let's see what we can do so what is an inner conflict um
an inner conflict is when we say something for example but we don't really mean it we are kind
of wearing a mask we are kind of trying to do something that we don't really feel we do this
for so many reaso
ns right often times for social reasons because we do want to stay connected to
some kind of person or we have the feeling that we need to uh stay a certain way because this is
the work environment this is how you behave this is how you do blah blah blah all the structures
right and while maybe that has all its place what I want to what I really want to dive into is
before we start to act before we start to uh start to create right start to be out there and
everywhere and woo right uh how a
bout we start to get a little bit more here how about we
start to okay now this thing happened right that's really not how I want to that's not
what I like I feel unappreciated I feel not enough I feel crap about myself and actually
this is not my normal State this is not how I'm usually feeling right usually I'm quite
happy usually I'm uh quite peaceful but this really bothers me this is really something
off the root right you can sense it when you start to having those little Peak moments
uh those Peak moments where you you just want to you know throw something right break something
when you get upset when you're getting angry this person just stepped over me stepped uh over
my boundary and I told her or him that this is not okay but then we are not showing up
that way we're actually quiet maybe you do the other way around but you're not heard or uh
something in that way where you are not feeling internally it's not sitting right something feels
off internally so the outsi
de circumstance might be crazy right might be totally off but you're
not peaceful inside of you either because you're trying to somewhat control something that you
cannot really control and you're are trying to um show up a certain way because this is how you
do it maybe it's also because you have always done so right you have always followed that kind of
path and this is just what you try to continue whatever it is this inner conflict is going to
is going to Nag on you over and over again
and until you see hey actually I never really stood
up for myself right I was never really I was never really uh pushing people back saying hey
this is not okay this is not how I want to be treated now there are certain ways on how to say
things like this because I wouldn't say Hey you crossed my boundary I wouldn't say that right
I would I would say it's somewhere different um I would never say that because I feel like if
you're starting in like that um I think it often times comes across
wrong and so you know you need
to know my boundary if you don't know my boundary then something is wrong and and it's important
to laugh at this moment too because you see uh you you may have screwed up you you might right
I mean hello this is life why not right why not um but sometimes it's time to grow up just a bit
more right like one little layer you know like one little layer more and growing up I don't mean
you have to be serious I mean what about taking responsibilities for me lettin
g that person speak
the way to me what about me not really caring that much what that person's saying um rather about
hey I'm protecting myself and my own peace and my own space and I'm doing that in XY set right
understanding what your values are here like how do you want to be treated and actually are you
following your own script right are you following um that script of hey I'm actually treating myself
nicely well in that case are you actually um having enough sleep are you actually eat
ing well
enough are you actually doing the sports that are good for you are you moving your body you know
are you actually doing a lot of self-care that actually uh um underlines your statement here
because if it doesn't then it's kind of like well you are not really following that and the way
how people perceive you is exactly that you're not following what you're saying you're not following
your own instructions if we are not following our own instructions then um people will just fall in
into our into our space and interestingly enough as soon as we start to uh have our space ready and
set and we are actually doing those things that we or the way how we want to be treated interestingly
enough is that when we start to really have that cleaned and and uh look into the mirror and we
really say hey you know what I know I deserve more and I will give it to myself because I know
that is going to return over and over again not only from myself but also from others because I'm
al
lowing themsel to do the same you see I allow people to speak up the way how they want to be
because I'm doing this for myself too I allow you to have your own mind of of um of things right
your own hey this is my truth this is the way how I want to go but I also accept that my might
look really totally different and you see because you have your own and I have my own how about
maybe we meet somewhere and I don't mean I need to compromise in in that very very big way but I
mean how about we
put both together and then have a new truth overall right how about we start to
be more open more flexible in what is our truth you see our internal conflict or when we have this
internal conflict has oftentimes not so much to do with the other person the other people around
us it's really much about hey I feel not treated really nicely I have the feeling this or that but
the thing is is you can say to a person hey uh I don't feel I don't feel you're treating me good
I feel you're doing th
is and this you see if that person is not acknowledging what you're saying he
not hearing you is not uh listening to you is not giving you the time to actually reflect or to to
get together sometimes you also just have to be in the power and and say okay well maybe I need to go
then you know maybe I need to leave you don't need to repair everything you don't need to run away
all the time but sometimes a cut is required to feel good again about yourself because you're all
the time uh not not
looking at your own stopping points right you're crossing over because you're
feeling well that person didn't know any better uh this person didn't do this or that or you know
making excuses for someone else um while you're not looking at your own uh inner World here that
screams and says Hey listen I'm done I don't want this anymore I cannot do this anymore I don't want
to go anymore here I don't want to see I don't know my family every single week and be reminded
of this or that so maybe
you have to make a plan accordingly to say okay um I don't know I need a
time out like I I need to I need to really rethink our relationship I need to reconsider where I want
to go in life being yourself is difficult in that sense that when you start to change people may not
like it and it's not about them liking you it's about receiving the acceptance for being who you
are right for me it's about respect yes but it's also about I respect you you respect me for being
who I am not being or
wearing a mask what does it help me if I receive your respect or your approval
or whatever um what what does that mean if I'm not myself well zero has zero value not not 1% what
does that help right if I cannot show up as May then we are in Conflict but like bigger one that's
not helping me right that's not really helpful for me so I'm trying to I'm trying to navigate easily
with more ease sharing people hey this is who I am giving them time to adjust if it's your work
sit situation your wo
rk environment speak up for yourself you want a salary raise well why do
you need a salary raise and and what for and why do you think that you deserve it you know
and if you feel like oh well I worked already here like five years and whatsoever then this is
already a reaction that you may want to look into it was just a question right so it's interesting
how people start to really feel attacked while it wasn't an attack really so what you feel is
the trigger to that because you never felt
maybe valued you never felt really good enough and while
me asking a question like this you were always well why not you know what I mean so looking into
those parts and not just ignoring it and start to really um dive deep dive deep to see who you are
and you know this might change a lot and that's okay you don't need to um uh pretend that you
are not changing over time well of course you are right of course you are you're growing up uh um
more and more right if you're at your 30s you're g
rowing up more and more and uh you start to see
the world differently then with with 20 then with uh I don't know 40 now you're 50 you see things
differently and it's important to allow yourself to be different and to show up different and
to have another um uh way of doing things right well with that said uh let me know in the comment
section what is it that you really want to hear more I'm really curious about that what is it
that you need in your life the most what is it that you really
have troubles with let me know
in the comments and with that said thanks and
Comments
💛 Journaling while having an inner conflict is very helpful. Write your emotions down to see with your eyes what bothers you. Many other episodes show you then how you can release them & detach. To be aware of them is 1st step.
Timestamps: 00:00 internal conflict can ruin your life 01:10 what are inner conflicts 02:15 notice how you feel 03:00 do you know your reactions when feeling in conflict? 04:44 know your boundaries 05:45 saying "no" is your birthright 06:45 you are your own guide - trust in that 08:00 your truth/ their truth 08:45 no more excuses 13:00 you will change over time