FEELING MOTIVATED | in my 30s ft. @ashleybchoi

in my 30s in my 30s Ashley tooy W Ashley and I are both the same age were different by 3 days maybe I need to start dressing my age what what does that me thinking that to I know I know it's silly do I look way too comfortable right now I think I am it's fine my socks that's like a moment all right happy New Year everyone happy New Year this is the first video going up on my channel so I want 2024 yes so I wanted to introduce what this new series is I talked to you about it but it's called in my

30s I plan on discussing a specific topic with a friend who's in who's also in their 30s and to kickart our very first episode we have Ashley choyo hello this is Ashley Choy Ashley B Choy on Instagram on YouTube Tik Tok that's it Twitter Ashley B CH no it's lcore asley Ashley introduce yourself I'm Ashley I'm I'm I I have been Jones friend/ hubby since 2016 um 2016 yeah it's not 2015 2016 oh I didn't know that I'm really bad with years though Ashley's very specific with like oh yeah we did this

activity in 2017 I'm like I don't remember no I have pretty bad memory too but I don't know like with ears you're pretty good with ears yeah cuz I think I connected to like another memory from that year but anyways um yeah so I've known Joan for a long time now I used to be in a K-pop girl group called Ladies Code we debuted in 2013 and now I'm the host of a radio/tv show at adang and I also do dive Studios podcast called get real and I have a YouTube channel too and an Instagram channel do a l

ot of work on Instagram yes you do so Ashley pretty much does everything she really does you name it she's probably done it before like I didn't even know you acted before and you you were casually talking about being in a drama and I was like I didn't know you did that no but that was like just my company just used me as a little extra it was it wasn't my will was like hey you want to be in the drama as an extra I was like okay I didn't know how much work and waiting it would be but I mean it w

as a good experience yeah you got that experience down and that could be like a good two two truths and One Lie kind of thing right when you're like drinking with your friends true I've been in a drama before mhm yeah and just like you know that's good idea okay I'll do that from now on doesn't this feel very official with these mics I know it's kind of nice though right reporting to you live this this was my dream guys okay so it's already the end of February oh my God I thought you going to sa

y it's already the end of the video no I was like what no 30 minutes 30 minutes for for the series oh cuz it's 30s Yeah in our 30s oh my God you and the YouTube duration times always since like 2022 yeah 2020 oh my during oh right 2020 it's cuz 2020 to 2023 doesn't really count because those are the co years right it was a blur but yes it's the end of February and originally I planned on filming an episode about New Year's resolution as the first episode but due to my lack of motivation and proc

rastination I didn't get around filming that let's talk about our motivation or lack of motiv motivation you go first I feel like I used to be more motivated than now I think in my 20s I worked really really hard so in my 30s I'm just kind of reaping the benefits of that and just kind of chilling right so like even for this Channel and starting this series I was like very motivated at the end of last year and I was like next year is going to be like a transformation on my YouTube channel I'm goi

ng to film way more and that's why I planned on filming this series but then when the year came around I just didn't feel like motivated enough and I was like oh I might have to scrap this entire video idea there's pressure to upload and then there's also pressure to make like better content right like you have to constantly show like an improved upgraded part of your um self or your content so I feel like doing the same thing over and over again it's like I feel kind of like okay do I start nee

d to like put out Conta content that's fitting for my age like there's that pressure too yeah cuz like vlogging just doing showing my everyday lifestyle may be fun but at the same time I'm like am I not like am I not progressing like am I just staying still like that's life though right I kind of relate to what you said because I've uploaded like hundreds of videos on my channel and I just like don't know what to film and there was a point in my life where I was like oh I need to like go to a di

fferent country just so that I could get different like new content yeah new content I was like I need to change my hair color my hair I need to cut my hair oh my God during Co we were changing our hair so much your iconic blue turquoise hair yes absolutely like I just felt like there was something I needed to do to make the Vlog look different and I think last year or end of 2022 there was like a turning point in in my life where I was like I need to take a break on this and I'm still kind of t

aking a break on the Vlogs but I've been vlogging here and there on like Tik Tok or Instagram reals but I don't think I could go back to vlogging for YouTube just yet because I don't feel like my life has changed I mean girl you used to upload a video every day I I don't think it can compare I can't do that anymore though I can't compare to you like no but no no but I can't do that anymore I mean but you shouldn't I mean you shouldn't have to you already did that for one whole year 365 videos I

know and maybe it's like you're feeling less motivated cuz it's kind of like you're burnt out no for sure and that's like one of the questions we got asked a lot burnout talk about burnout in your 30s how to cope with it how do you deal with this was my favorite one how do you deal with burnout in the realm of content creation that's like a moment how do you feel well I mean um you know how I started adulting Series in like when Co started 2020 2020 so um during those two years there were no eve

nts there was nothing really going on no traveling so that's I think that's how I was able to focus on vlogging and um you know I had fun with it cuz it was my first time as well in 2023 when things started to get better and Brands had more events going on in real life I think I started transitioning a little more to Instagram like focusing on Instagram content right so thankfully as I was getting burnt out from vlogging and doing adulting series I kind of transitioned over to Instagram so that

kind of helped because it wasn't it's not the same like vlogging and filming everything it's just pictures or like reals which is like short form content so that helped a bit and you're great at Instagram content I feel like okay that's thing is Ashley and I are both the same age we're different by 3 days November 6th November 9th but she feels more young in her Instagram post no but you know these days I'm starting to think like oh my God maybe I need to start creating content my maybe I need t

o start dressing my age what that start thinking that to I know I know it's silly but I'm like do I have to start acting more like poised and graceful and like you know because I don't know I do see other creators around our age and they're um working with like bigger brand names because they're a little more mature they're not like I know what you mean though you know what I mean they dress a little more elegantly and here I am like and they're younger than us some of them are younger than us a

nd they're working with like you know big designer Brands which is great good for them but I don't know I know so it's always like do I need a dress a little more like age appropriate like but what does that mean how are we supposed to dress in our 30s it's it's really it depends on the person right yeah yeah and yeah the conclusion I've come to is like I'm just going to I'm just going to dress the way I want to like I I just need to be myself because even if I dress like that I'm not going to f

eel like myself yeah no and I'm going to start acting weird like I would be like hello hi like how can I help you I know me and it's not I'm not like that for sure yeah wait what what what what got us here we were talking about bur burnout and then Instagram oh yeah Instagram content creation oh yeah but you're you're doing such a good job like I look at her Instagram post and I'm always like how does she think to do this and like the whole concept of photo dump kind of scares me sometimes becau

se I'm like do I upload like five different outfit pictures or five outfit pictures with the same outfit outfit but like different poses do I add a selfie in there but she like has like this whole like formula and I actually saw Tik toks of like Carousel formulas about like yeah there's like food picture selfie picture with somebody and then a scene like a scenario and like a video so I I look at those Tik toks and I'm like and I go Ashley's doing the right thing but here I am being like I don't

even know I don't even know how to come up with the caption and Christine subini was like on you always just like black heart for your captions but I literally can't think of one how do I think of like a clever jenz thing to say but you you do such a good job no I girl oh my gosh those captions take forever oh my gosh like you want to sound cool but you don't want to sound like you try too hard you don't want to sound like you're trying to be too jenzy cuz people are going to be like okay what

are you doing auntie and like oh it's so hard Auntie no literally she so good hey 32 is still young no there's this one person that always comments a 32e auntie dresses so cute and I'm like is that a dis or I think it's like a backhanded compliment oh that like I've never seen a 32-year-old auntie so cute well you haven't seen that many 32y olds wait till you meet our friends we're all like just kind of living it up to be honest um dude we still didn't really like answer the first question girl

how do you deal with burnout I started YouTube in 2012 is so I've been on this for like over 10 years I would say and seeing how much change there has been in social media so like it was just YouTube for me then and then Instagram was for fun and then now there's Tik Tok and like there's just like a lot of things so I think inevitably I got burned out and my way of coping with that was just don't do it I just like took a break or I would if I took a break on one social media I was consistent on

another MH so I just try not to pressure myself too much it got to me at one point but I was like you know what whatever no but sometimes you just need to like cold turkey stop everything cuz one day you're going to get that motivation to start again like okay that's I think today it's time to get back into it instead of trying to force yourself to like why am I not feeling motivated I need to do something and like forcing yourself to do it burnout is inevitable no matter what profession you're

in I feel like all my friends in the states who have like 9 to-5 jobs or they're business owners or I don't know there's going to be burned out no matter what so the best thing to do is give yourself a break or a vacation in between because there's like I don't know motivation no wait what is it there's inspiration that comes after you treat yourself or give yourself a break I feel like right yeah and when I had a burnout from YouTube like I didn't watch other YouTube content creators and Vlogs

because it was a constant reminder to get back into it when I did didn't have the like desire to so after not watching videos and after not thinking about it for a while kind of just get the urge to start doing it again if you enjoy doing it like if it's yeah I'm with you on that too I actually haven't watched YouTube in a very long time like your Tokyo Vlog like brought me back onto YouTube I really just did not watch YouTube um I feel like I I'm just like on um Tik Tok or Netflix yeah so you'r

e just focusing on Tik Tok right now right now I mean I can't even say focused because I haven't even posted a Tik Tok in like 5 days right and that's like long in terms of Tik Tok algorithm time exactly no for sure um so I don't I guess that we I think we answered burnout yeah yeah I think there really isn't much to say yeah just yeah yeah just just listen to your heart do you want to pick a next question a lot of people are anxious about being in their 30s yeah how do you feel about that were

you anxious going into okay 30s being anxious about turning 30 I can understand but I do also get a lot of questions like what would you say to your 23 year-old self like what do you have any advice for 18year olds and I mean I'm I'm grateful that they're asking me for help but at the same time I'm I'm trying I'm thinking to myself when I was 18 or 23 I don't think I thought about like oh my gosh like what am I doing with my life like really yeah I was like I'm still young I'm going to enjoy lif

e I'm I'm going to speak for the people because when I was 18 I was stressed about going into my 20s and in my 20s early 20s I was like am I doing like something meaningful with my life like what am I going to end up doing for the rest of my life really yeah but back then we didn't have social media so there were less people to compare myself to so I think everyone was just focused on their own you know path and for me I was I didn't think about okay am I getting left behind like am I oh my gosh

really see this is why it's nice to have two different perspectives because I was a stressed one-year-old so I'm like why are they stressing out already why did why were you stressing out already no I get that though because for me towards the end of my senior year A lot of my friends and classmates they all got like really nice jobs right and so for me I was too busy comparing myself to their opportunities even though we were studying different things now I look back and I'm like oh I think I

went into I know I went into the right field but at the moment I'm like do I need to go into business do I need to like start looking into like consulting jobs because that's where a lot of my friends went and so I was extremely stressed and compare I I compared myself a lot to um friends then so for me moving to Korea was kind of like an escape I kind of wanted a break from that corporate life because I did work jobs when I was living in the Bay area for a bit too and then I was like oh I'm so

burned out I kind of want a fresh start a fresh scenario so I originally planned on moving here for one year and it became I'm going into my 10th year now wow yeah I was extremely stressed my early 20s and so personally if I were to answer the question of what would I I say to Young 18-year-old Joan and young 23 25-year-old Joan dang what would I say I I mean right now knowing knowing the result I'll be like okay you're going to be okay but in the moment I just I don't know just say I would just

say have fun and explore make mistakes 20s is all about that and you know you you're learning and you're trying to find your identity and of course it's going to be hard and you're going to feel lost but feel like no one's going to say like oh my God you're in your 20s you should be you know figuring out what you're going to do with your life by now it's like okay they'll say that in your 30s so yeah have fun like just do whatever you want try all the things you want to try right so what was th

e question if you look back at your 20s are you proud of where you are at now yeah I think I am because in my 20s it was it it seemed like there was no hope like I didn't know what I was going to do with my life and I didn't know what was going to happen yeah um in my 20s I thought I would move back to us after my contract was over I thought I would get married and just like settle down and have kids because I was like what else can I do like you know all that I don't have like a diploma like a

college diploma I I don't think I could get into anything new I mean that's what I thought I was like all I know how to do is just being being a star it's true though being in the K-pop group and I was like what am I going to do after maybe teach English yeah but I would have never thought that you know these opportunities would come my way like um doing the podcast and being able to start YouTube and then thankfully having people be interested in my life and interested in my journey um you don'

t give yourself enough credit though for how interesting how interesting you are like I know do I say this in every single video like every time I talk to Ashley I'm always like I don't know how you went through your experiences cuz I could not have become a K-pop Idol because knowing my personality I would have been angry you never know but if you got started early you know you kind of get brainwashed but also like I like don't think I could have handled it cuz I can't have like a boss oh yeah

you that you have to say yes to for everything like oh [ __ ] what did my camera stop recording there it did what were we talking about I've been doing YouTu for this long and I still forget memory cards to the studio it's it can't be helped it can't be helped there too many things okay high five back to it all right so where were we I don't even know I think we kind of needed that break in between we were just like rambling another question guys being in my 30s I need my heat pack on my menstru

ation days okay I can't live without it you needed it in your 20s Ashley what are you talking about in your 30s menstrual cycle you always she has like four hu packs one in each pocket one on her back taped to her back well you know what's crazy this winter I really didn't need heat packs that much cuz it wasn't that cold true in my 30s kind of like your hot pack thing yeah I used to never have like period cramps and I used to never blame anything on my period but now I get a hangover I was like

I'm on my period I'm going to be on my period or sometimes I have like cramps that I used to never have um and also like I feel like the week before my period I don't want to do anything and that's usually the time I need to film stuff oh you know what I mean and you feel so ugly like you hate yourself everything you do is like what the [ __ ] yeah no I know and when you snap out of it it's usually at the end of the period or the week after your period you're just like back to life motivated an

d so you have like a list of things you want to shoot and when it's time to shoot it's like back to feeling ugly again yeah it's so funny cuz like right before period I'm like [ __ ] like I hate my life I hate myself right after period I'm like in the mirror like oh yeah I look good like seen her do it that range is crazy it really is it's the hormones so we only have like one week of normal life yeah maybe like 4 days because what is it it's it's you you're on your period And then after period

it's like you're kind of okay and then you're ovulating right right in the middle and then you're preparing to be on your period for a week and then you're on your period so I think it's like two four days you're just like I'm my best self right now okay we we'll we'll just answer the main question main topic how do you stay motivated in your 30s how do you deal with procrastination or how far ahead do you plan for honestly I just kind of accept it like I I think I've just accepted that oh this

is how I know I'm an adult now like I have responsibilities and I can't let people down so I got to just work and I can't be a baby about it I can't cry about it anymore um and also I think family has to do with it too um I feel very happy when I'm able to like provide for my family or like buy something for them so that kind of serves as a motivation too and I don't want to have to lean on them anymore cuz they gave me so much like they were always providing for me in my 20s cuz you know I didn

't have like a regular job um so now now I just want to be able to give back to them and also like take them on vacations and holidays um so when I'm really feeling like I don't want to do anything I think about like okay I need to I need to I need to you know like do nice things for my parents yeah and then that helps yeah that's a good motivation yeah I'm with you on that M are you more afraid of taking risks now or are you more bold taking risks I wouldn't mind taking a risk like in my 30s M

like I think that idea excites me but I just don't know what that is going to be yet I think I need like a little bit of like a transformation during this decade so might be taking a risk soon or later I don't know never thought about it we'll see we'll see another question or questions that I got asked a lot about was being single in your 30s do you feel more or less pressured to find a romantic life partner as you get older can you see yourself being married in your 30s being single in your 30

s romantic relationships and so on so this is all going to be up on her channel so that wraps up the Q&A portion of feeling motivated hopefully this was helpful I'm like trying to think did we give any like substantial useful answers but we say this every time like there is no answer there is no answer and we're still trying to figure it out too no yeah absolutely adulting is going to be forever forever and ever all right to wrap up this series I wanted to ask because this is a monthly episode a

monthly favorite from this month but yeah okay but yeah but um but since like we didn't film this in January you can also talk about your January favores okay shall we go get it do we have to go get it oh you don't have it okay all right go all right um I've been living in these sweats these jogger sweat pants from Glo yes it's like this charcoal gray colored and the quality is super like it's thick um and it holds the shape well so it's really cute when you wear it with like a crop top oh yes

and just like sneakers it's casual but it makes it look it's like elevated casual cuz it's not just like uh sweat it's kind of like nice sweats and it's comfortable and I've been living in those so I wanted to talk about them should I go next yeah um there's this lip product from hourglass that I have been obsessed with I'm wearing it today but this is a little bit too far what is it like it's um let me go bring it lipstick let me go bring gloss you guys can still hear me you tell me about it no

I took a picture of it no I didn't I sent you a link oh it's this one did I actually don't even know what it's called it's in the shade entice but it's a very pretty glossy color I don't know if they can see my lips yeah it's like a really pretty it's a really pretty color that I've been wearing like often so there's a favorite okay well let me go get let me go get a lip product too then it's fun because you can literally talk in any I know this is so cool my Lippy I've been enjoying are these

this is from dear doia and it's the sheer do lipstick in Claudia and then I have this o glossy lip gloss wow you Ed lot of right now M oh lippies are fun I love lippies can never have too much and it's different like every month like your favorite Lippy changes by month um and then last one is sunny hes cute gentle monster mhm from their jelly collection so cute oh yes we went together we did and we're going together again next month oh yeah oh this is cute Dada it's in Dada this is also availab

le in like different colors oh yeah I did dry January that was a favorite oh that was amazing I don't want to lose to alcohol so I needed to prove to all my friends because they're like Joan you're an alcoholic and I'm like I'm not I don't get hangovers unless I'm on my period good job yeah so there there's that oh big favorite Taylor Swift oh yeah we're so sad you couldn't go with us insane I had major fomo I know but cried one day maybe we'll go to a different country for that this year I know

just want to experience her concert cuz I know how insane it is yeah she's like so good life was it better than you expected yeah and the thing is I watched a lot of Tik Tok videos of like the concert but it like doesn't matter if you watched it there or not oh my gosh oh my gosh did you cry I did cry I feel like I'm interviewing right here I know I did cry I cried the moment I heard her sing lover that do you know that song yes I was actually listening to it today today it it was part of a pla

ylist oh okay cute yeah so that that song made me cry Enchanted made me cry and then all too well made me cry because that's a that's a good one the swifties must be so jealous right now dang all right I think I think that's good how do you feel about this are you excited for the audio yes I'm just really excited to hear how my voice will sound in this mic yeah all right thank you guys for watching and uh stay tuned on her Channel we don't know when it will come out just don't do any special edi

ts just chop chop chop yeah for this one I don't have to do too many yeah yeah I'll I'll I'll get to it yeah we'll do it so watch Ashley's video for all the stuff about relationships because that is going to be that's going to be I'm going to I'm going to have so much fun I don't know if I'm ready thanks for watching guys thanks for watching belated but Happy New Year's it's not that related cuz yeah so I that's I also feel guilty about this because I'm like oh yeah New Year's resolution starts

on Lunar New Year yeah January is a trial month you know it trial month okay trial month [Music] bye m