LEAKED: Advanced Social Skills Training (How To Improve Your Communication & Increase Your Status!)

what value do you have what value do you have to offer what are your features and benefits okay this is something we rarely ask ourselves we're always very aware of what we want what we want to get out of a situation out of a person but wait a minute what are you offering what value are you offering this will cause beyonce trauma or different subconscious things this will cause a lot of self-sabotage okay if you're say looking for a relationship and you're going up to someone and you know all th

e things you want out of a partner but if you don't know what that partner is getting from you or you think your partner is getting very little or your partner's getting negative value there is still a part of you that one is going to be very unsure very doubtful and a part of you is probably going to ruin it because you don't want that partner to get screwed over by being with pathetic little you and it's important to sit down and be like okay what am i bringing to the table so at the end of a

free tour it's a free event and at the end i'll mention for example um transformation mastery live or i'll mention like the mentoring or something like that and uh i'll sell people on it if it was a product that i didn't believe in if i didn't know exactly how this would benefit people i would not be able to be as ballsy or dominating with my sale i wouldn't be able to be like okay are you interested stand up get to the back i wouldn't be able to call someone out like at the free tube like why a

re you not going to the back tell me exactly why go would i be able to do that if i didn't know exactly that this was going to help people and i knew it at a core [ __ ] no i'd be extremely unsure like i guess go to the back maybe you'll get some out of it actually no not really and we do this with ourselves it's like what exactly are you offering to people when it comes to your romantic relationships your friendships to the world to your job every aspect to you what are your features and benefi

ts what value do you have the bigger the list the better this is something i'd recommend writing down even after this event sit down and really write it all out what value do i have another good question is what are you proud of in your life what are you proud of what are you proud of in your life what are you proud of about you this is when people have trouble answering sometimes it's like oh i don't really know on a surface level an easy challenge is start writing down your wins even on a day-

to-day basis what are your successes you all know your failures what about the opposite where are you winning okay and you want to if you have trouble with this hijack your ras your focus okay we have a selective focus if it's always towards failure failure failure failure you're gonna have to proactively be like okay every day i'm gonna challenge myself to write down 10 wins you go to bed what are 10 successes that day if you're like oh i don't know then either lower the bar or start switching

up your life because if you don't believe deep down inside like this is the foundation of self-esteem writing that momentum of wins is gonna be very hard what is unique about you that's another one what is um scarce about you scarcity equals value what's something that only you have that no one else has even in terms of say an event like this what's unique about me i've coached a [ __ ] ton of people nowadays less people do that people do all this high ticket skype coaching they get 10 clients a

year me traveling around it's like tens of thousands that is scarce that has value media scandal no one goes through that that is scarce that is value okay so ask yourself that what are all those things you got going for you then the second question okay those are the features how does this benefit others yeah what's unique to you what's something that only you've experienced but then part two is how does this help others you need to know exactly how it benefits others and you need to know how

to speak in a way where you talk about the benefits take an event like this okay say i came up to you you knew nothing about this okay you just know about me and there might be some value like oh he's coached a lot of people but you don't know anything about this event or this type of work if i came up to you i'm like hey so um it's this really cool event where we do a meditation and uh we reflect on things going on inside you wanna come i mean it's like okay cool but why well say i said it supe

r assertively say i'm like yo so this event is this awesome meditation and um we do this really depth audit on how you think and the things that are running you you're like okay cool but how does it help me here it's a little skewed because you know you've seen a lot of videos but what am i saying in all the videos here's what we do we do this meditation and this and how does this help you self-sabotage inner fulfillment take this example in your life you ever encounter this you ever experienced

this look at this did i clearly illustrate how you will benefit from this if i didn't do that and i just talked about what it was it wouldn't be as captivating and you need to add that who are you and then how does this help someone and you must explain it to them don't just assume that they know or that they will make the connect the dots and it changes depending on who you're talking to okay beyond that in the way you communicate there are four levels of communication okay one what you say tw

o how you say it three your intention and four you could say your vibe or uh self-esteem whatever the [ __ ] you want to call it your vibration okay whenever i'm talking whether it's an event like this whether it's one-on-one whether it's with a friend whatever it is i'm always aware of these four layers okay these three you can control them in the moment this is just your general vibe that comes from letting go and working on yourself okay now what do people always focus on the surface one what

you say right and we think that all the value is in what we say but that's not true the deeper you go the more valuable this is the least valuable thing what you say okay it doesn't matter don't worry so much about the words communicate enough so people get it but people always must more in tune with the sub communications how you say it for example okay say we're uh i mean a fun exercise we we can do is um say we're selling this pen say there's an ad you see on on youtube to sell this pen and

say i give him a script that he memorizes where it's super on point with features and benefits which is still necessary but say it's super on point the words are calculated there's been tests with audience to which words they respond to and it's like a 10 out of 10 script but he delivers it in a 50 you know 5 out of 10 delivery there's a little bit of uncertainty but the words are perfect and say i go on and i'm like a 5 out of 10 script but 10 out of 10 delivery you'll be much more likely to bu

y from me so whenever you're even talking to someone this is a big reason throughout these years when it comes to socializing like i don't really run out of things to say because i'm not too worried about what i say i'm more focused on this and i'm even more focused on that okay so what you say is only a little bit of the data how you say it sub communications are you being loud are you being expressive are you is your tonality going up is it going down what about your body language stuff like t

hat that is more important even deeper your intention is more important what's your intention for example offering value or taking value right i can say something assertive like hey um where's the uh where's the seminar where's the seminar hey where's the seminar there still like some news i suppose hey where's the seminar hey where's the seminar where's the seminar it's a different intent even a question you can offer value with a question the intention is good vibes like hey uh where's the sem

inar where's the seminar it's subtle it's kind of like the i joke in star wars it's like these are not the droids you're searching for it's like what what are you communicating or things like you love me i am awesome these are layers you must become aware of and this is just your general um um again self-esteem vibe whatever you want to call it okay whenever you're talking to someone if you're seeing they're not getting reeled in don't go here first don't be like oh i gotta switch up what i'm sa

ying per se what's my intention is it taking giving how am i saying it and then what am i saying this is important too authenticity is always stay real to you okay express you do you relatability is making sure it connects with whoever you're talking to and whenever you're communicating with someone aim for the middle okay be authentic and relatable often to see without relatability is you going crazy it's like me pouring water all over myself here i'm like it's authentic but i'll be like what t

he [ __ ] it's not appropriate to the context so that's the crazy authenticity side relatability but not authentic is the people pleaser they say yes when they mean no they say no and they mean yes find the middle ground always be aware of the relatability side and authenticity authenticity is okay am i being my compromising you know that internally relatability it means getting out of just the world of me me me me and looking around are people connecting are they resonating with it i look alway

s for like pressure on pressure off um if it's too much you'll see them kind of like retreating and then you've got to slow it down okay oh let's slow it down to find the middle ground if it's like they're too bored you got to amp it up to find the middle ground pressure on pressure off volume loud quiet first round push off eye contact pressure on pressure off in a conversation people are like but you must always hold eye contact no that's creepy as [ __ ] that's too much pressure it's on off c

lose far and then you combine them you can do um pressure on with the eyes while like leaning back so that we're like loud like a in a tonality like going down like hey but saying something takes the pressure off or uh you you know pressure on with the words like i hate you but pressure off in the tonality like i hate you you know i love you it's like a push but yeah you can combine it like that so i'm aware of this and then whenever you're talking to someone be very aware of how much comfort an

d value you have if it's very hard to find the relatable because sometimes this is really small depending on who you're talking to aim for this so what does this mean the more value you have the more you'll be able to say and get away with so for example if you look at a rock star because that person has a lot of value in the eyes of many they can wear say crazy things and it's okay it's relatable because they are a rock star they have a lot of value if um there's a boss at work and an employee

the boss will be able to say jokes that are more out there and get away with it versus the employees saying those same exact jokes because there's value comfort also plays a role this is where time whoever said time the use of time comes into play but not just time it's just how how long you know someone how well you know someone for example if you meet someone new and say you're like oh i really like this person um they might be i might get in a relationship with them i heard julian say that i

must always be authentic and be real i don't want to put on a front so let me tell this person who i just met about all the things that happened to me during my childhood is that going to work no so you'd be authentic but it's totally not relatable but guess what say you spend a lot of time with that person you start dating it's like a few months in because there's more comfort now this expands and it becomes relatable to start sharing that okay this is a key model this is these are the models t

hat i use when it comes to socializing okay features benefits beyond that the four layers and then going deeper okay authenticity relatability pressure on pressure off comfort value okay if you want to do a test here too in terms of just um how to say rolling with the punches not being so focused on what you say um i'll i'll test you here okay imagine you're so we're gonna talk about this pen okay i'm interviewing you can hold your pen i'm interviewing you on this pen you're the creator of this

pen i'm a journalist you're the creator the ceo of the company who made the pen okay so tell me um where did the idea come to make this pattern where'd it come from why are you hesitating i thought you're the ceo yes where do you come from it came from me sitting at home i think you're confusing the story i'm talking about the the dream you had you talked about this in a recent interview the dream of the forest yeah the dream was like to allow every person in the world no but tell me about the f

orest stream can you please sell it for our audience the one you talked about yesterday in the other interview so tell me about the z factor about this pen that makes it so unique what's the z factor the z vector is like the defect is actually like the shape of this pattern that's the x factor i'm talking about the z factor so what's the x the x factor is like the color of paint why did you call it x factor and z factor this is just how it is okay what do you say about the criticism about the th

e z factor there's a lot of criticism in the news right now what's your response what's your defense the criticism you know i i actually you know people out there they just don't know what they actually want what is the criticism can you elaborate on what they're saying so the criticism is like they they want to have like a pen which is like you know which is um have like a specific form not like this one why did you fire your uh cfo recently yeah i'll pause it here okay so so notice it's like a

ll these things like there's still some resistance where it's like you're not just rolling with it rolling with it it's too much thinking on what you're saying okay tell me about the pen why did you fire the cfo he wasn't able to see the beauty that's why you fired the cfo was the cfo performing his job finances and you fired him just because of the beauty is that what you're saying to the audience the pen okay tell me about how you you mentioned this in a lot of previous interviews how your chi

ldhood influenced the invention of the z well i twig love to play in my childhood um what is the z twig why did you call it the z twig it's a very interesting name what does it mean what is it what is the z twig i don't get it i mean you're not supposed to get it it's just magical no i think you're confusing it the the z twig is a clear it's from this previous interview you gave it's a clear feature in the pen it's itself precisely like it's given to you you don't have to think about it too much

okay you're the ceo now what response do you have to all the criticism about your personal life what response do you have to the criticism everyone's criticizing your personal life can you elaborate on that all the affairs well it's been clearly proven many women have come out including your wife who recently divorced you can you give more details on the divorce please you talked about it in an interview yesterday can you repeat what you said then at least yes you did with the other company i s

aw it in the newspaper okay so it hits also on that improvisation skill it's like okay because like that okay um tell me about the divorce okay well it's gonna take a long time not your first divorce the recent one please you're only together for two months it was an impromptu marriage what are you saying a long time coming how did you meet it was during the first marriage so it kind of was an escape rebound you mentioned in an interview she was the inspiration for the z twig yeah it's actually

the shape of her why why did you the curves here look at them okay it wasn't that curvy white a twig okay i like it i like it okay so good so again you should be able to roll with this roll with this okay so we're gonna do we're going to do a few exercises here okay this one you can do at home but to get in touch with the um one sub communications and two the intention okay so there's two more actually when you're at home you can do this in front of the mirror with the sub communications try to

loosen up um your facial expressions so for example when a lot of people i'm like okay what does happy look like what does smiling look like they're like like that's all they can do what does angry look like you know yeah well no they can't do more than that like that's their facial expression like this is angry like if you can't like verbalize it like you do this without talking like if you had to communicate anger without talking how would you do it you know like there's this or massive wait s

hould we do it more massive massive you want to stretch the range a lot of us were way too stuck like it's like we have botox when we don't like we can't do [ __ ] like so much of my communication of course i'm talking but there's tons going on in the facial expressions okay so that's a good exercise to do at home like just pick different emotions and do it without talking expand your smile can you smile more can you like unlock your face basically and to get more in touch with this intention la

yer because this is can sound a little um hard to grasp because it's very pre-verbal it's ask yourself if you can't for this one move your face and you can't talk how can you communicate say that you're angry you can't make the facial expression so you have to be a neutral face be how to communicate to someone you're mad yeah even through the eyes it's like best you can with the ice but you can't do like so just like neutral but communicating it that layer yes that is the layer of intention does

that make sense okay so words is like blah blah blah blah blah this exercise here in the mirror it's like it's unlocking the sub communications in your face okay while you're talking and then the third layer you're also aware of is yeah the more psychic intention like offering value i am awesome it's like how would you communicate i am awesome without talking or moving it's like it taps into this kind of like yes pre-verbal layer we all have you could say a habitual state we reside in most of t

he time for you two for example you're right here okay and grief again you'll tend to oscillate a bit but what we tend to do and this is the big mistakes i talked about this yesterday at the free tour is we aim too high you know you're here or you might even be like again between the two where it's like you're you're feeling this grief there's tense to a bit of apathy and it's like you don't want to experience anger but you want to experience love you're like and every time you kind of hit this

you go right back down back down so we aim too high we fail and oftentimes we just stay stuck now we will experience pockets of other states so you might be in grief and you'll experience a little bit of purpose a little bit of courage a little bit of love but then you just find your way back to what you know okay now biggest key just aim for the next level up wherever you're at aim for one up then one up then one up for someone in apathy who's very cut off from feeling or the the general theme

there's just withdrawn it's kind of you've given up okay in terms of feeling it looks like you before we got to you it looks like you yesterday basically you know just very robotic up in your head um you have a little bit of that too okay just kind of like withdrawing in that refusal to feel when you're in the state there's massive resistance to feeling some kind of grief all the time you're in this state for a reason there was something that was too much to handle at some point in time you just

closed yourself off to yourself you can't get there until you go through what it is you're closed off to in terms of apathy what this also means is allowing yourself to do or to do basically whatever you can to establish some hope because in the state it feels like there is no hope one thing that will give you hope that is counter intuitive and that the mainstream will promote is become a victim if you're an apathy being a victim is moving up it's great advice right like if you for example stop

feeling like a victim and just start feeling worse and worse worse you'd go down to apathy like what's the point i'll never find love i'll never find a girl et cetera et cetera and then like you move down so from down here going up saying hey it's not your fault it's you know it's that person's just like this kind of like instead of like what's the point whatever it's ah poor me i would but this thing and then the general theme is always feeling sorry for yourself whatever happens to you whatev

er adversity is thrown to you it always links to i take responsibility a bit poor little me crying so on and so forth that's what you resort to as well it's like put some confrontation instead of like boundary there's that pull towards feeling sorry for yourself people have that when they get rejected as well it's like you go out you say hi to someone rejected and you're just crushed it's like you play a video game and like you fail instead of being like oh it's like okay let's try again same ev

ents but people at different levels okay now when you're in victimhood this is when you're you have to hear like that harsh talk where it's like okay for you it's stopped being a little [ __ ] for you it's time to get [ __ ] mad time to experience that anger you refused to experience back then and to be clear here it does also mean that sometimes back then experience that anger was too much it doesn't mean you had to experience back then and this is very key um you'll see people talk about this

when it comes to trauma with animals so for example if there's a threat the animal will go into like this you know fight-or-flight state is it time for the animal to experience like fear or feel sorry for itself [ __ ] no it's time to survive for you at that point if you might have experienced the anger it's like you would have done stuff you might regret it might have ruined your life so it's time to survive but the key is once you've survived now it's time to experience it what we do is we jus

t keep living in the survival okay so in grief it's take responsibility oh but then that's scary good put yourself in scary situations or get mad don't forgive think of all those people who screwed you over doesn't that make you mad don't you want to do something about it don't you want to prove them wrong that's you got to tap into once you're in anger however now you got to start forgiving if you say forgive them here oh it's just more poor me but here moving up crying is good here it just kin

d of fuels it here it's time to forgive okay courage is when you finally start taking some action and you're just kind of fumbling around there tends to be a lot of procrastination focusing on the wrong things putting things off so on and so forth it's kind of it's more of a neutral state desire is like your ego kicks in it's like oh i can do this what are people gonna think so on and so forth um this is the person who tends to be a little bit more try-hard um always trying to like one-up others

always trying to look cool so on and so forth purpose is when you let go of this and you discover okay instead of just doing things always for approval for others i kind of discovered that innate drive what do i actually feel inspired to do and then love is more of the state of acceptance abundance so on and so forth okay but this tends to be the model all of you can find one area you reside in the most and then you all have different pockets this is julian and if you're someone who has social

anxiety you fear putting yourself out there or you procrastinate you put things off you come up with excuses or you're lost and you have no purpose in life then pay very close attention because this scale of transformation is what has helped me change the lives of thousands of people around the world now i want to help you identify exactly where you're at and give you customized feedback and action steps to get you moving up fast don't be one of the people who just dabbles around in the dark try

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