When it comes to gender equality in politics, Rwanda regularly tops international league tables. But for some in this tiny African country, gender equality is not just a public matter but a private one too. The traditional sexual practice of Kunyaza has a reputation for facilitating female orgasms and ejaculation.
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We follow Vestine Dusabe, a well-known radio host and sexologist living in Rwanda whose late night show advises people on how to practice kunyaza and to improve sexual life for both men and women.
While exploring the intimate world of female pleasure, we also hear about another traditional practice, which is often spoken about alongside kunyaza: gukuna, otherwise known as labia elongation. Vestine, like many others, have encouraged girls as young as nine to elongate their labia in order to prepare them for marriage and enhance their own and their future husband’s sexual pleasure. But now the practice is receiving a backlash. Some Rwandan feminists and medical professionals argue that gukuna should be seen as a detrimental health issue, not a cultural one.
There's advice and limited support for women concerned about labia elongation provided in Rwanda by medics and NGOs, such as Health Development Initiative.
WHO does not explicitly mention labial elongation as a form of female genital mutilation. It periodically reviews the typology and classification of certain practices and the next review is envisioned for 2020-2021.
In this documentary, we look at competing attitudes when it comes to female sexual pleasure and explore the collision zone between individual rights and preserving cultural practices.
Director, producer: Kayleen Devlin and Lily Freeston
Cinematography: Sebastian Rabas
Edit: Owen Keane
Narrator: Victoria Uwonkunda
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Hello. Hello. Is this on the radio? Yes My problem is I finish early even though I
still want sex. You’re just the kind of person we want to
hear from. Hello. Rwanda has become a world leader when it comes
to promoting gender equality in politics, education, and, for some, even sexual pleasure. Ladies, if you haven’t already, stop right
there and get into your bedroom. I'm a married woman with three children. I’m
a sexologist and I live here in Rwanda. Hello Vestine. Hello I have a girlfriend an
d she can’t do kunyaza. Bring her to us! Kunyaza is an ancient and secretive sexual
practice originating from this tiny country. It’s said to encourage female ejaculation
and orgasms, and although it’s not openly discussed, it is well-known. The technique involves a man rhythmically
and continuously striking the clitoris and labia with his erect penis. I don’t think people talk enough about female
pleasure. In the past people were shy to talk about
it, but today talk about it in public no proble
m. Do you know how to do kunyaza? Tell me how you do kunyaza so I know you’re not doing it the wrong way… So you’ve just done kunyaza already? Vestine presents a well-known
radio show in Rwanda about relationships, marriage and sex. Female pleasure. It's very important because
we all deserve to be happy. Kunyaza I believe anyone can can do that. Even white
people as well. To a woman it's so enjoyable when the water
is coming out. you feel like you're in heaven. You feel something that you never
felt before. In our culture marriage is all about that.
It's all about in bed. Let’s read some text messages and we’ll
be back after the break. Now we are travelling to the village, Nyakiname,
to find out how the villagers make love, if they know how to prepare themselves, for making love if you know how to romance and all that. That's what we are going to do. Not all the Rwandan women are free to talk
about sex. But there's this group of women. Most of them they lost their husbands after
the ge
nocide 1994. Because they don't have their husbands they are open. So let’s talk about something - can every
woman make water? Yes all women can make water if a man does
it right. If I have sex with a man and he doesn’t
make me squirt, I would throw him under the bed. But whilst kunyaza is associated with pleasing
women, it is often practiced alongside gukuna, which is the controversial act of stretching
a woman’s labia. Kunyaza and Gukuna can be practiced separately,
but are both linked to sexu
al pleasure. In Rwanda, many girls are encouraged by their
elders to start pulling their labia as they begin puberty, sometimes as young as 10 years old. To have gukuna is extra pleasure for a man. But to be honest, when a man is touching them
you feel so much pleasure, I swear. Why do women do gukuna? It’s and old Rwandan culture. How do you know that you’ve finished pulling
your labia? Can't you tell by their growth and from
their size? People tell me that you measure them on the middle finger
. Historically, before people wore underwear,
labia elongation was practiced in Rwanda because it was believed to prevent infection and increase
modesty by concealing the vagina. Today women are told that elongating their
labia will prepare them for marriage, increasing their partner’s sexual pleasure, as well
as their own. Kigali-based gynaecologist Dr Magnifique disagrees... I feel a bit nervous discussing about these things. But yeah, my mother comes from a very
conservative cultural backgrou
nd. And the good thing is that she doesn't understand
English. If she hears me talking about, it would be like my son is gone. Saying that labia elongation increases pleasure
from the scientific point, I feel like pleasure would come more from
a hormonal change. There are no scientific proven benefits for
labia elongation. And the other thing is the reversibility - let’s
say you’ve done it when you're 10 and you get to be twenty and you’re like I no longer
need this. If you want to reverse it, y
ou have to go through a surgical procedure. Juliette Karitanyi is an activist, and she’s
worried about the impact gukuna has on young girls. So among my generation, and my boyfriend doesn't
believe in gukuna because they feel like it's an old practice. For children, we shouldn't even discuss about
it. The reason why in our culture, they were doing it at that early age it's because our
grandmothers used to get married at 12/14. But now 14 years old need to be in school. For me, it's violation of
their innocence. We are in another generation. Juliette lives in Kigali, and is part of a
feminist group who discuss everything from gender based violence and rape to labia elongation
and sexual pleasure. Of course, you know, you meet some men who
are who who are very blunt about it. So if you're going to tell me some stuff about
pulling or doing whatever, I'm going to ask you some questions that will make you uncomfortable.
Right. Like, how well-endowed are you? But in our society, a woman who
elongated her
labia they consider you - now you’re a full woman, you are wife material. I don't really agree with people said on culture
saying, oh, this is our culture. Yes, our culture is a huge thing. Actually. But if something is harmful, if something
created inequality if something hurt someone, I don't see why we cling to
it for the sake of culture. But while some Rwandans are rejecting what
they see as harmful traditions, for others, it’s not always easy to let go of cultural
practices th
at have existed for hundreds of years. Vestine’s daughter, Princess, is getting
ready for her bridal shower. It’s a day that first happens before you
get married where your aunties, your grandma, your mum, your friends and sisters, give
you advice and give a gift to use when you are already married. I’m a girl right now
but the day is coming where I’ll be a woman. Before I started on radio, they were shy
to talk about sex, even though if the woman did not enjoy sex, she could not be open and
tel
l her husband. Say, sweetheart, what you are doing, I didn't enjoy it. She was so shy
because our culture teaches that a woman is supposed to be quiet and respect your husband. That's what I hate. That's why I keep teaching
people. A marriage is for two people. Pleasure. I also have to enjoy it. This my life. This
my body. As someone who appears to be an empowered
business woman, passionate about female sexual pleasure, does Vestine agree that practices
like labia elongation can be harmful to gi
rls and women? My mission. I want all the married couples
to be happy. But It's a part of our culture. When you get
married, you have to do something, to please your men. I don't want our culture to oppress us. But some culture you have to follow. What
else can you do?
Comments
I like how you showed both sides of the coin here. That's how journalism should be done. Well done.
Very open and informative program. Beautiful Rwanda, beautiful Africa.
These type of shows/programs are needed in South Asia as well. Keep up the good work
Walai I love African with their different cultures beautiful land with a nice people.. All the way from South Sudan Juba I wish to see this video again.. Good Job n well done BBC eye of African countries big love
Its really excellent to know that peace has finally returned to Rwanda. Rwanda is really such a beautiful country and has a booming economy with a 7% GDP Growth Rate. Ms. Vestine Dusabe is a really gorgeous woman.
My greatest respects to Mrs.Juliett. Namaste from India. Respect all women as sex is not meant for humiliation. 🇮🇳
I am happy to see these people living in peace ultimately. I still remember when I was a teenager and getting the news about the genocide going on in this beautiful country. May God bless this country and the people.
Firsts of all, how wonderful to see Rwanda in peace " Don' t ever let any foreign nation divide you again, whether from Africa itself, Europe, Asia, or North America" But when a cultural practice is proven to hurt society , then that practice should be abandon by the people.
Over 2 million views and counting! I'm glad to take part in this documentary, Kunyaza to the world
I have been to Rwanda 🇷🇼 it’s beautiful
I’m moving to Rwanda…. This is paradise!
Refreshing in hear normal talk about pleasure for both sexes in Africa. Most are countries have men totally donates subject,that should be normal. Well done.
Loving this one thanks for sharing very information blessed love to all knowledge is power hopefully everyone pays attention keep up the good work 🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿🇯🇲🇯🇲🇯🇲
A standing ovation from me for the gynecologist's name: DR. MAGNIFIQUE!
Its a culture that has come down in tradition the sexual awareness the women potray in the interview is just top notch! Now i understand why most selling point of any ugandan woman you meet is she is mixed blood of a Rwandese and ....(tongue in cheek) Thou personally i do believe sexual pleasure is always subjective in that its not inherent but rather depends on the person, with or without" pulling" i believe a woman can still achieve reach the zenith of sexual pleasure, all it takes is an open minded woman who can speak and a man ready to listen!
Africa culture is so rich of knowledge
Eventhough I don't agree with the tradition of stretching the labia. It's refreshing to know the concept of African women openly discussing about pleasearing themselves as well as their partners. African nations should smarten up and follow the shining example of Ruwanda by forgiving each other and March forward to free up our people from the shackles of colonialism mentality.
Wow I just heard Roberto song (amalula) in the background... proudly Zambian❤
We need part 2
Respected BBC, 1. There was a time so many people killed 2. There was a time floods carried dead bodies and people drank the same water in front of bodies 3. There was a time land was thirsty and no rain 4. There was a time when mutiny created tremendous and heinous crimes 5. There was a time people left their died beloved bodies on edge of road to survive and has no access to problems It gives Good feeling to see people have reach to mental satisfaction level May God Rest all those Departed Souls in Peace